Libra man fell for Libra woman, but now she's cold?!

Not to long ago I started talking to her, I had known her from friends of friends when we were in school but we never talked because she was "hung" on a guy who mistreated her. I never really saw any interest in finding out more about her until recently. I've been away for several years. Im also accross the country now because of my job. I found her on Facebook so I struck up a conversation, one thing leads to another and I find myself amazed by how much I had been missing out on! I'm simply head over heels for this girl. Being a Libra I do tend to fall easily but with her it was as if someone tied a 10 ton boulder to my ankle and pushed it off mt. Vesuvius! We have so much I common, the way we think, act, feel and even our body language. She's everything I've wanted because she understands me so well and I assume that she's telling me everything I want to hear. At first we both started off blunt with each other, we agreed that we both wanted a serious relationship because we were tired of giving our time and affection to all the wrong people. We talk for weeks unable to meet and hold each other but we make due with what we can. We are both reserved for the fear of being hurt, but seemingly enough I'm falling way faster than she is...to the point where she has told me twice to slow down. This makes me start overthinking, as always I fear of being hurt or rejected so I ask if she's sure and this and that. She reassures me that if she didn't she wouldn't waste both our time, that she would have ended it if she wasn't interested. I'm the first to dive in and say the "L" word....she responds with silence... then with the question "are you sure?" I obviously say yes and begin to describe all her qualities and how I know its not lust because we haven't seen each other other than pictures. Eventually I ask her to be my girlfriend and she quickly said yes, but not before teasing me with some humor. Everything is going beautifully, until one day for some erratic reason I feel really insecure and at the first sign of her absence I jump to the conclusion that she is avoiding me. This goes on for a whole weekend and on the last day I finally blurt out my frustration. She continued to tell me she "adores" me but that she can't attend to me as often as I'd like. Somehow I always manage to do something to ruin my chances is all my previous relationships. That appears to be the one this time. Ever since then we had a deep lengthy discussion about how I really need to slow down, she continued to tell me that I need to cut back on all the "L" word things I constantly remind her of. Thinking Libra women love to be put on a pedestal I do it constantly telling her how lucky I am and how happy she makes me. After that conversation I've noticed her "avoiding me" to where she used to call me and text me every opportunity, now I've noticed her on social media for hours and then reply to a text with simple replies. She is being cold and seems to be pushing me away. Why?

She dose all the calling, texting...well I send good morning text first and only text again when she replies...nothing like back to back text TheLibraMudra

You're being full on, don't compliment her too much to the point it loses its value. Try going deeper and not being so open all the time maybe a little mystery will help !

I wish i had an answer to your question but i find myself in a similar situation only vice versa as im a libra woman falling for a libra man...What youre doing towards her i only wish this libra man were showing towards me, dont get me wrong we've already established we have feelings for one another its like when hes hot im cold then it flops to when im hot hes cold, all i know is i see this post is a several months old, hope it worked out for you. If any updates i would be pleased to know :-)

My apologies it had said this forum was 10 months old lol i now see that is not the case

Posted by mindofalibra
You're being full on, don't compliment her too much to the point it loses its value. Try going deeper and not being so open all the time maybe a little mystery will help !

Posted by poeticlibra1007
I wish i had an answer to your question but i find myself in a similar situation only vice versa as im a libra woman falling for a libra man...What youre doing towards her i only wish this libra man were showing towards me, dont get me wrong we've already established we have feelings for one another its like when hes hot im cold then it flops to when im hot hes cold, all i know is i see this post is a several months old, hope it worked out for you. If any updates i would be pleased to know :-)

Posted by tiziani
Don't be a slave to attention.

And make plans to see her, with her agreement and commitment.

Posted by tiziani
Don't be a slave to attention.

And make plans to see her, with her agreement and commitment.

Posted by JohnnyRD

Posted by poeticlibra1007
I wish i had an answer to your question but i find myself in a similar situation only vice versa as im a libra woman falling for a libra man...What youre doing towards her i only wish this libra man were showing towards me, dont get me wrong we've already established we have feelings for one another its like when hes hot im cold then it flops to when im hot hes cold, all i know is i see this post is a several months old, hope it worked out for you. If any updates i would be pleased to know :-)

yeah I have no clue how to read her. I'm usually pretty good at it but she's just throwing me for a loop! I'm really into astrology because of my mom, she's a Libra as well and growing up she opens my mind to a lot showing me how to look at things from all directions so I've gotten pretty good at it but her....I just don't get. She's literally everything I've wanted in a woman, and I've almost tried all the signs....not proud of it but I've been married twice....and divorced twice. I have a baby girl with my last ex, and she is an Aries. She's been giving me a hard time with seeing her since I'm military I'm only here because of my job. My plans were to go back home but she won't have it so looks like I'm gana be staying here. The amazing thing about my Libra is that she is totally fine with my past and my daughter! She's even offered to help me financially to help fight for my daughter, and this was all on her own. She sees how hard I've been struggling with that, to the point where I've been drinking and smoking a lot more....and she wants it to stop. I have by no means the intention to let her slip through my fingers! She's amazing and I think I want her in my life for a while! I'm just frustrated because I feel like I'm dodging hints left and right....maybe I ruined it and I'm just in denial....could that be it?

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I dont think you ruined it for some reason i believe she was feeling you then something happen for her to just all of sudden keep her feelings for u under wraps, usually for me ( cant speak for us all) if i start being into a guy and he reciprocates but then does or says something to where i feel he could possibly change his mind ill put on this "go with the flow" mood and even if he does and says things like the "L" word or sum i would take it lighthearted all because of something previous he said or did that cautioned my feelings....its crazy cause i can sit here with a clear mind and give my opinion but yet when it comes to the libra i like its like "deer in the headlights" :-) i think sometimes we become wrapped up in someone so much to where we forget to see anything objectively, so question when you guys do talk is she short or??

Posted by sagiluv
You sounds like a sweet libra in love, i know that libras need a lot of time and space. You can try talking to her and explain your feelings and let her know that you respect her needs & agree to begin giving her the space she needs maybe with time she will appreciate the space and come back to you. Good luck

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Posted by JohnnyRD

Posted by poeticlibra1007
I wish i had an answer to your question but i find myself in a similar situation only vice versa as im a libra woman falling for a libra man...What youre doing towards her i only wish this libra man were showing towards me, dont get me wrong we've already established we have feelings for one another its like when hes hot im cold then it flops to when im hot hes cold, all i know is i see this post is a several months old, hope it worked out for you. If any updates i would be pleased to know :-)

yeah I have no clue how to read her. I'm usually pretty good at it but she's just throwing me for a loop! I'm really into astrology because of my mom, she's a Libra as well and growing up she opens my mind to a lot showing me how to look at things from all directions so I've gotten pretty good at it but her....I just don't get. She's literally everything I've wanted in a woman, and I've almost tried all the signs....not proud of it but I've been married twice....and divorced twice. I have a baby girl with my last ex, and she is an Aries. She's been giving me a hard time with seeing her since I'm military I'm only here because of my job. My plans were to go back home but she won't have it so looks like I'm gana be staying here. The amazing thing about my Libra is that she is totally fine with my past and my daughter! She's even offered to help me financially to help fight for my daughter, and this was all on her own. She sees how hard I've been struggling with that, to the point where I've been drinking and smoking a lot more....and she wants it to stop. I have by no means the intention to let her slip through my fingers! She's amazing and I think I want her in my life for a while! I'm just frustrated because I feel like I'm dodging hints left and right....maybe I ruined it and I'm just in denial....could that be it?

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I dont think you ruined it for some reason i believe she was feeling you then something happen for her to just all of sudden keep her feelings for u under wraps, usually for me ( cant speak for us all) if i start being into a guy and he reciprocates but then does or says something to where i feel he could possibly change his mind ill put on this "go with the flow" mood and even if he does and says things like the "L" word or sum i would take it lighthearted all because of something previous he said or did that cautioned my feelings....its crazy cause i can sit here with a clear mind and give my opinion but yet when it comes to the libra i like its like "deer in the headlights" :-) i think sometimes we become wrapped up in someone so much to where we forget to see anything objectively, so question when

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Posted by JohnnyRD

Posted by sagiluv
You sounds like a sweet libra in love, i know that libras need a lot of time and space. You can try talking to her and explain your feelings and let her know that you respect her needs & agree to begin giving her the space she needs maybe with time she will appreciate the space and come back to you. Good luck

yeah some do, for me it happened so quick though. Its just like she kept saying all the right things as if reading a script I wrote of her to say lol. We have talked about our relationship a couple times and we have both said we wouldn't be ok with a "break" we both agree that if a couple needs one then there probably isn't enough to keep each other together for the long run so even tho I can give her space she still wants me to keep the relationship going. I just don't know how much space to give her without actually losing her. Another thing that makes it worse is that its that time of the month so it makes it even harder to read her and give her what she wants because she's even agreed that she's extra difficult and moody. I still have hope through all this because 1. I don't wana lose her and am willing to fight for this because other than my daughter, she's the best thing that has ever happened to me and 2. because even though she's been distant and cold, when we talk I still manage to make her laugh even though she's in a bad mood Š so I know I make her happy its just her insecurity that's tough to beat. She was in a long relationship where the guy changed her whole lifestyle and even affected her relationship with family and he still treated her wrong. She has had relationships since then but not very long ones because of several things....one NOT being her commitment because she was even trying to get pregnant in the 7-9 months she was with him....so idk what changed....I wish she would treat me and talk to be the way she did with him. She was in my shoes now that I really think about it. Large display of affection and everything! Its just frustrating!

Be patient. Breathe. Take time to take care of you. Stay busy. Allow her to have her space. She will come around when she's ready. Let her be ready.... Too much smuthering will make her run!!! She already knows how you feel about her, she just needs space. Let her come back on her own. Have a good day!

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hey, been awhile since i lastly gave my advice, wanted to know how did things turn out with your libra love and yourself? Would love to hear the updates