My Taurus has disappeared..?

Im a cappy girl thats been dating a Taurus guy for a little over a month now. Everything has been so amazing with him. If we have an issue we always discuss it without anger and solve things. Our feelings for each other are deep, and he's already said that he loves me (cappy girl hasnt gotten there yet :p).We have talked every single night since we've been together,and he always replies to texts. The last time I talked to him was Wednesday night. After we talked we didnt talk all day Thursday, so i sent him a text around 10pm and never got a reply. I figured he was at work or asleep or something so didnt think much of it.

Then the next day I still hadnt heard from him and he was supposed to come over to visit, so I called him and still no answer. I waited about 4 hours and sent him a text to contact me. Its now Saturday and I still have not heard from my boy. I was starting to get worried, that maybe something had happened to him, but I logged on myspace and it says he has been online. I'm SO confused as to why he wouldnt e-mail me ...maybe if something happened to his phone,seeing as to how he was supposed to show up over here. I hate assuming so I've been giving him the benefit of the doubt, but honestly i dont know what to do. I can go a day without talking, but three?? Im starting to feel like he's avoiding me...well because i have nothing else to go on. I hate feeling like Im bothering him with calls, and texts, but I dont want to lose him. Someone help me with the Taurus!!

Ya and thats some of the "issues" ive had. Because being a cappy and taking my time, I told him it was too soon for all of that. And thats when we had a talk about all of this. He pretty much told me that he's not pressuring me into saying it back and all of that, but that " he can't help the way he feels". He's had discussiongs with me on why I am being "distant" and we've talked it all out, so I cant imagine why he wouldnt at least tell me he needs a break or something. Its not like him not to let me know whats going on...

I'm deff taking your advice though and backing off until he decides to make a move. My question is...if this continues..like if I dont heard from him for a couple more days...am I to assume its over...do I tell him...do I just move on without ever talking to him again?...Im so confused...

Thank you buttercupSG, I really do like him.

I just can't even wrap my head around it honestly. I go back to our convorsation,and I dont remember saying anything offensive..it was a good convo...

I've told a few of my friends about the situation and they're all just like " oh hes a player,move on".

Is it just me who feels like someone has to be completely inhuman to tell a girl that he loves her,talks to her on the phone every night, tells her that she can trust him with anything, and then just stops contact for no reason just like that?

And thanks I think I will post it in the other forum.

No this isn't internet relationship..it just turned long distance.

He finally replied to an e-mail I sent him. His excuse was that he felt bad for not being able to come see me because something "bad" happened, and figured I wouldn't want to talk to him. WHICH MAKES NO SENSE. I told him to call me after work, so we'll see how this goes :/

Haha buttercup, that made me laugh cause that was what I was thinking when I read the e-mail, like wtf? lol

So he called me last night and we talked about what happened. He said that he was at a party and someone put something in his drink, and that there was so much of it he had to go to the hospital. He claims he doesnt remember anything that happened for the next two days after and when he saw that I hadn't called or text him after the first day he figured I was done with him, and that he felt like he wasnt "good enough" for me anymore ( he knows i dont drink or do drugs). I kept asking him how that was even logical to think, but he says whatever he was on fucked his head up and that he cant explain why he thought that, but that he was starting to feel ok today (the day we were talking).

I can't know anything for sure..he talked in detail about the situation ( told me the prescription he was on and what the bottle said, what doctors said, mom kept calling to check up on him ect ect) so it didn't sound like he was making it up...Im deffinitely going to keep my gaurd up though until I feel like he is trustworthy again.

At least I know that if this happens again ,I'll know what to do.
What a confusing week...

Ya when I was talking to him I kind of thought the same thing, that he let someone do it...or at least had knowledge of it. He'll sometimes text me and be like " I had a few drinks, dont judge me" kinda thing. So I figured when he said someone put it in his drink, that it was his cover for being embarassed or something. He said the doctors said it was like a few drops away from being ODed, which is why he was out of it.

Anyways, I just wanted to say thanks to both of you for your input on the situation! You guys have helped me a lot. While I havent decided to write him off, if this ever happens again I wont have a problem hesitating to do so. The whole thing is confusing as shit to me. And I plan on getting to the bottom of it since I'll be seeing him next week.

He's on the run hiding out trying to keep out of the spot light,

Can you elaboarte a bit as to why you think that James tate?

He dumped you and is now in hiding. He's a coward should have just told you sorry not what I am looking for in a relationship.

Shes 19 it says the real world is hard hope she gets over it and moves on.

If he still hadnt contacted me I'd assume that as well, but hes back to calling me everynight so I'm not seeing your point yet..

I may be young, but this is not my first time in a relationship. Ive been through worse than simply being ignored for a couple of days, but thanks for the concern, I know I'll be fine with whatever happens.

And Ingivgorate_Me, I do accept the truth when there is validity behind it. So if your telling me that my bf has dumped me and is in hiding, yet keeps calling me everynight, is the truth of the situation, then I need a little more insight into your thoughts as to why that is.

I'LL tell you we wine we dine we get to know you. Then we decide where the relationship is going. After a point in the relationship people must decide where it goes from there. Three options
#1 break it off but do it clean, If you need somethime alone then you say up front Man to woman are you interested in going forward with this relationship? If you need the time to think it tell her tell him.
#2 Man to woman I thionk we need to talk about moving our relationship to another level are you ready for that.
#3 Man to woman I don't think our relationship will work out in the long term.
Talk about it.

I have been rejected by women no big deal I would rather they tell me than just keepessing around. I can respect a woman that tells me she isn't interested but cant a woman or woman who is to big a coward to look me in the eye and say sorry but this isn't for me.

Good luck
Tate

excuse the typo's

WHAT PART OF HE SHOULD TELL YOU DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND?

Yep. Man up. Or woman up. "Are we together, or not?" No games, no head trips.