Our birth charts are compatible but......

Honestly, it doesn't seem he likes you in the same way. Just because there's good compatibilty doesn't mean it automatically transfers into good feelings or wanting a relationship.

Maybe it's too compatible to be interesting chemistry-wise. —

Maybe he likes somebody else. —

Maybe he hasn't noticed you like that. —

Astrology isn't everything. It's not written in stone.

Posted by truecap
Astrology isn't everything. It's not written in stone.

I didn't say it was everything or that is was written in stone.

But this is a forum about astrology, no? So I thinks it makes sense to ask questions pertaining to it. If you don't have the answers to my questions, don't answer.

Even if you had the most amazing astrological aspects known to man, sexual chemistry and compatibility are something entirely different. If you have to do more than flirt to catch a man's eye, he's prolly just not that into you. And even if you were able to chase after him and get him for awhile, you won't keep him. Men need to lead. That's what I honestly believe. You should save yourself for a man who will really dig you for you. The more you allow yourself to get worked up over a relationship that's happening only in your mind, the longer you will drag out your own pain. Tiziani has some deep insights into what could be underling your own obsession here. And look, most of us have been there...but it's not real. It's only happening in your mind.

Posted by tiziani
Astrology as applied to relationships can get very boring and redundant but the best way I've seen it's use described was here

We are all looking for unconditional love. Most of us never got
it. When we fall in love we think, 'Now, finally, here is someone
who will give me the (unconditional) love I've always wanted.'
So we marry. Then it starts---because we're not programmed for
love. Instead, we are programmed to duplicate our parents'
relationship. Because of this programming, even if we found
someone who loved us unconditionally, we would have to push them
away.

How can we attract what we are not programmed to receive? We
can't---until we take a conscious look at what we are programmed
to attract. Only then can we change our lives.

A relationship chart can tell you compatibility percentage but what it can't decide for you is if you actually like things to be 100 percent compatible. Maybe some like 70/30, maybe others like the bad romance of 5/95. It's really in the eye of the beholder.

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Thank you, this is the most perfect explanation.

Can you elaborate more on the " because of this programming if we found someone who loved us unconditionally, we would have to push them away"? Why would someone push away? Especially if they've seen greats examples of unconditional love, including their parents.

At the end of the day 6 months is more than enough time to notice somebody and make a move.
Sure, you can play games and get him for a short time or a lifetime if you are really good at mind tricks. The thing is... Do you really want to "get" him by playing games?

CappyChino, I sincerely apologize if my post came across as judging you. What I'm really saying is those sexual compatibility charts mean nothing if the man doesn't approach you for a date. Seriously. Your looking for answers to why he didn't approach you in the wrong place. When you develop romantic feelings for a person, crush on them, you tend to obsess about them. At least that's how I act when I'm moved that way. They tend to consume my thoughts. That part is me. Maybe it's not you. But you do like this man and it sounds like he's not reciprocating. Ergo, unrequited. It really stinks to like someone whose not that into you but it sounds like that's the case here, regardless of what some report says. If a mans interested and single enough, he'll ask you out. Of course, you can ask him out too but you have to be able to hang with a) rejection or b) he does like you but he's got a woman in his life and he's open to dogging her. Save your good heart for a man whose willing to put in the work. That's the moral of my message to you. Namaste.

Posted by Cappychino

The problem is he doesn't really seem into me, or interested in me enough. I have given subtle hints to let him know I'm interested, but he doesn't seem to be budging.

I didn't read past this because that ^^^^^^^^^^ is the writing on the wall.

There's "but" and there's the mere fact that this thread is in existence, which means like every other insecure female who can't love herself enough due to low self esteem .... you are going to cut off your nose to spite your face away.

Which means you will deserve every single bit of pain and suffering that ensues .... which also means, you won't be pitied.

Posted by Este8
CappyChino, I sincerely apologize if my post came across as judging you. What I'm really saying is those sexual compatibility charts mean nothing if the man doesn't approach you for a date. Seriously. Your looking for answers to why he didn't approach you in the wrong place. When you develop romantic feelings for a person, crush on them, you tend to obsess about them. At least that's how I act when I'm moved that way. They tend to consume my thoughts. That part is me. Maybe it's not you. But you do like this man and it sounds like he's not reciprocating. Ergo, unrequited. It really stinks to like someone whose not that into you but it sounds like that's the case here, regardless of what some report says. If a mans interested and single enough, he'll ask you out. Of course, you can ask him out too but you have to be able to hang with a) rejection or b) he does like you but he's got a woman in his life and he's open to dogging her. Save your good heart for a man whose willing to put in the work. That's the moral of my message to you. Namaste.

Thank you for explaining.

I agree six months is long enough. I told him last night that I like him and I'm really not interested in talking to him anymore because I get the sense that he doesn't like me the same way. He said that he just wants to be single and is playing the field. I told him I'm not that kind of girl, and he said he figured. He likes me though, it's just he's young and just want hook ups. Maybe I was in denial, but I got the sense he was a player. That's fine, but I told him I can't talk to him again. I'm heartbroken, but I will live. I do deserve someone who'd appreciate me.

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Posted by Cappychino

The problem is he doesn't really seem into me, or interested in me enough. I have given subtle hints to let him know I'm interested, but he doesn't seem to be budging.

I didn't read past this because that ^^^^^^^^^^ is the writing on the wall.

There's "but" and there's the mere fact that this thread is in existence, which means like every other insecure female who can't love herself enough due to low self esteem .... you are going to cut off your nose to spite your face away.

Which means you will deserve every single bit of pain and suffering that ensues .... which also means, you won't be pitied.

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What? You sound ignorant. How can you call someone insecure and say they don't love their self just based off one sentence? You don't know me. You are too old to be that simpleminded. Then you say I deserve pain because I like a guy and he doesn't was me in the same way? Well how about you just go play in traffic, thanks.

Thank all you guys for you responses. Why are some scorpios players? Why do some like to sleep around?

Tiziani your post comes into mind even more. Sometimes people don't want "perfect", and you can't accept what you're not conditioned for.

Este8 thank you for apologizing and sorry if I came off as defensive. I forgot to say that in my previous post. Also, please excuse my typos everyone.

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Posted by Este8
CappyChino, I sincerely apologize if my post came across as judging you. What I'm really saying is those sexual compatibility charts mean nothing if the man doesn't approach you for a date. Seriously. Your looking for answers to why he didn't approach you in the wrong place. When you develop romantic feelings for a person, crush on them, you tend to obsess about them. At least that's how I act when I'm moved that way. They tend to consume my thoughts. That part is me. Maybe it's not you. But you do like this man and it sounds like he's not reciprocating. Ergo, unrequited. It really stinks to like someone whose not that into you but it sounds like that's the case here, regardless of what some report says. If a mans interested and single enough, he'll ask you out. Of course, you can ask him out too but you have to be able to hang with a) rejection or b) he does like you but he's got a woman in his life and he's open to dogging her. Save your good heart for a man whose willing to put in the work. That's the moral of my message to you. Namaste.

Thank you for explaining.

I agree six months is long enough. I told him last night that I like him and I'm really not interested in talking to him anymore because I get the sense that he doesn't like me the same way. He said that he just wants to be single and is playing the field. I told him I'm not that kind of girl, and he said he figured. He likes me though, it's just he's young and just want hook ups. Maybe I was in denial, but I got the sense he was a player. That's fine, but I told him I can't talk to him again. I'm heartbroken, but I will live. I do deserve someone who'd appreciate me.

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I'm sorry this didn't pan out for you. At least you know: he's a player. Most men won't be that honest with you. You were right to walk and right to put the boundaries of "no contact." I've been disappointed in the love game too. I've also had crushes on guys who did not return the feelings. Just stay busy. Go out with friends. Be kind to yourself. Don't settle for the crumbs because you are worthy of love. Head bumps, Este

Posted by Cappychino
Este8 thank you for apologizing and sorry if I came off as defensive. I forgot to say that in my previous post. Also, please excuse my typos everyone.

No worries, Cappychino. You were hurting. I know that and that's why I responded with compassion because I've been where you are now. And it sucks getting disappointed and feeling like a fool. But you are stronger than you realize. You'll be fine. Just give it time.