Posted by LibraLovesHimOk love!
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
Posted by GemitatiSo I dont know how I feel about this? Admire or not, I guess I can respect her decision though. I dont know myself whether I could sacrifice my desire for a family for a man...although I guess if I could not see myself ever being with another it could happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimOk love!
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
I told this story before.
I had a young lady customer who was dating a very wealthy man for 7 years when I've met her.
Everyone advised her to dump him and move on.
She was listening and keep dating him.
3 more years past and on 10 years anniversary he proposed!
When she came to us and showed the rock he gave her as an engagement ring - all 'advisers' shit their pants!
She said he needed to make sure it's HIM she wants and not his wealth!
So she put herself into being with him - marriage or just for love because she was willing to sacrifice family and no kids for him - one and only! And luckily he was smart enough to realize - she loved him because she was getting older and risking not to have kids FOR HIM!
It's all depends on how strong your feelings are for that particular person!
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Posted by nanobyteThats a real double whammy. This is very sad 😢
I feel like it should happen organically, and if you find your self issuing ultimatums and setting deadlines in the relationship, they are probably not the right person for you, period. It makes someone look pathetic 😢
I have a cap friend, who years ago said, "if he doesn't propose to me by summer of 2017, I am DONE!" This is concerning a pisces man. He didn't propose yet lol.
You can't force a man to commit, he either wants to or he doesn't! Don't try to force him. He will resent you for it, and it will push him away.
I think all you can do is be upfront when first meeting someone, and tell them where you see yourself in x amount of time, and what expectations you have of a person you are looking to get serious with. If you both are on the same page, and that time goes by and it still hasn't happened, then that is a different story. You can remind them that's what you wanted, and have the conversation about if they still feel the same way and want the things you want or if you should terminate the relationship, and seek someone with wants/needs more fitting to your own.
People change though as they feel their biological clock ticks away. I met a woman who, her and her husband decided a long time before that they didn't want kids. She couldn't have them. He was fine with it at first, but later realized that he DID want kids, so he dumped her. It was really sad.
Posted by LibraLovesHimExactly! Unfortunately I know another woman who married a man just because she was 29 and wanted kids so badly and no one was there!Posted by GemitatiSo I dont know how I feel about this? Admire or not, I guess I can respect her decision though. I dont know myself whether I could sacrifice my desire for a family for a man...although I guess if I could not see myself ever being with another it could happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimOk love!
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
I told this story before.
I had a young lady customer who was dating a very wealthy man for 7 years when I've met her.
Everyone advised her to dump him and move on.
She was listening and keep dating him.
3 more years past and on 10 years anniversary he proposed!
When she came to us and showed the rock he gave her as an engagement ring - all 'advisers' shit their pants!
She said he needed to make sure it's HIM she wants and not his wealth!
So she put herself into being with him - marriage or just for love because she was willing to sacrifice family and no kids for him - one and only! And luckily he was smart enough to realize - she loved him because she was getting older and risking not to have kids FOR HIM!
It's all depends on how strong your feelings are for that particular person!
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Posted by GemitatiDefinately sounds like settling. I have been engaged twice but didn't go through with it...neither felt like the one, I felt like I was fooling myself. The second one would have been a great provider/father but not good for marriage. I am very happy in my relationship now and can see a future with him, I didnt get that before. Who knows what will happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimExactly! Unfortunately I know another woman who married a man just because she was 29 and wanted kids so badly and no one was there!Posted by GemitatiSo I dont know how I feel about this? Admire or not, I guess I can respect her decision though. I dont know myself whether I could sacrifice my desire for a family for a man...although I guess if I could not see myself ever being with another it could happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimOk love!
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
I told this story before.
I had a young lady customer who was dating a very wealthy man for 7 years when I've met her.
Everyone advised her to dump him and move on.
She was listening and keep dating him.
3 more years past and on 10 years anniversary he proposed!
When she came to us and showed the rock he gave her as an engagement ring - all 'advisers' shit their pants!
She said he needed to make sure it's HIM she wants and not his wealth!
So she put herself into being with him - marriage or just for love because she was willing to sacrifice family and no kids for him - one and only! And luckily he was smart enough to realize - she loved him because she was getting older and risking not to have kids FOR HIM!
It's all depends on how strong your feelings are for that particular person!
Now he took kids away and she is a mother of 3 with one left tonight for and 2 older want none of her at all!
Man is a sick bastard!
Just pray! Though she is devoted Catholic - doesn't work for her yet! But I am sure God will reward her somehow for all the suffering.
We are just a specs in Universe!
What dO YOU want to do?
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Posted by LibraLovesHimJust wake up and ask God to make it happen!Posted by GemitatiDefinately sounds like settling. I have been engaged twice but didn't go through with it...neither felt like the one, I felt like I was fooling myself. The second one would have been a great provider/father but not good for marriage. I am very happy in my relationship now and can see a future with him, I didnt get that before. Who knows what will happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimExactly! Unfortunately I know another woman who married a man just because she was 29 and wanted kids so badly and no one was there!Posted by GemitatiSo I dont know how I feel about this? Admire or not, I guess I can respect her decision though. I dont know myself whether I could sacrifice my desire for a family for a man...although I guess if I could not see myself ever being with another it could happen.Posted by LibraLovesHimOk love!
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
I told this story before.
I had a young lady customer who was dating a very wealthy man for 7 years when I've met her.
Everyone advised her to dump him and move on.
She was listening and keep dating him.
3 more years past and on 10 years anniversary he proposed!
When she came to us and showed the rock he gave her as an engagement ring - all 'advisers' shit their pants!
She said he needed to make sure it's HIM she wants and not his wealth!
So she put herself into being with him - marriage or just for love because she was willing to sacrifice family and no kids for him - one and only! And luckily he was smart enough to realize - she loved him because she was getting older and risking not to have kids FOR HIM!
It's all depends on how strong your feelings are for that particular person!
Now he took kids away and she is a mother of 3 with one left tonight for and 2 older want none of her at all!
Man is a sick bastard!
Just pray! Though she is devoted Catholic - doesn't work for her yet! But I am sure God will reward her somehow for all the suffering.
We are just a specs in Universe!
What dO YOU want to do?
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Posted by nanobyte
I have a cap friend, who years ago said, "if he doesn't propose to me by summer of 2017, I am DONE!" This is concerning a pisces man. He didn't propose yet lol.
Posted by LibraLovesHimI'm a serious person. I need to know that the relationship WILL eventually end in marriage. Once I know that, I'm good with waiting as I'm not ready to be married right now (too many things up in the air that I don't want to plan a wedding.) It's amazing how easy it is to tell whether or not the man and I are on the same page. I'm not into "Let's just have fun and see where it goes."
Whats your thoughts on putting a deadline if you are expecting a commitment ie marriage? Is it wrong? Do you just live out the relationship with no regard to the future or do you need to know where it is headed so as not to waste time and perhaps find someone who IS looking for marriage?? Have you ever done this? Experiences?
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