CarryOnAmanda
@CarryOnAmanda
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Such a mess
Keeping you around as an option. When someone wants you, they make an effort. Just think how you feel when you want -- care for someone... Do you ignore them? Do you make them wonder? No. Don't settle for anything less.
I know I should stay away but it's so difficult.
He called me last night and was so nice it's making me worry that I got rid too quickly and listened too much to my friends and that his circumstances are very unique.
Do you think maybe going slow as friends might help. I just don't know if I could bear knowing that he was with someone else. Yet he says things like I'd only be at work, with my son or at my mums.
Why are aqua men so hard to understand— He said he was secretive because in his work place people stir things up and like to get people in to trouble which he's seen too much of. Do you think I am just being paranoid?
So confused x
He called me last night and was so nice it's making me worry that I got rid too quickly and listened too much to my friends and that his circumstances are very unique.
Do you think maybe going slow as friends might help. I just don't know if I could bear knowing that he was with someone else. Yet he says things like I'd only be at work, with my son or at my mums.
Why are aqua men so hard to understand— He said he was secretive because in his work place people stir things up and like to get people in to trouble which he's seen too much of. Do you think I am just being paranoid?
So confused x
Posted by starlover
I was with one that was a compulsive liar...found out he had been gambling all our money away..we lost our house eventually and i came out with nothing..just my clothes
The other one was a huge commitment phobe and kept pulling me then pushing me away..i felt unsafe with him too
I am friends with neither of them...i wouldnt let female friends treat me that way, so why should i let males?
Sorry to hear about that gambling situation Star. That is indeed a terrible addiction. You probably didn't see it coming.
He's just a player and I wouldn't necessarily pin it down to him being an Aquarius.
This man isn't even a real friend let alone a real boyfriend. He goes off the radar for no good reason and won't FB friend you. Then you find pictures of him with his arm around another girl on his FB. You're hooked for now and he's playing on your feelings. Make no mistake about this. He knows he's not treating you right but he also knows you're hooked on him and so will take him back no matter what marlarkey he says. This guy's a player and first rate jerk. You do have one advantage over him potentially. He might well find out when he does to the well one more time, that you're fed up and he can't play his games anymore. If you cut the chord now and refuse to respond to any more emails, you get to play the player and leave with some dignity. Look at Selena Gomez & Justin Bieber and ask yourself what good it did her to give that cheating a-hole another chance. Be smarter than that. Cut bait & swim, knowing he'll regret you more when you're gone. Then you'll find someone good and won't give this loser a second thought.
goes to the well, I meant to say....
Let him find that well dry to the bone next time he takes a drink. Never know where that dirty lying mouth has been. 🙂
Let him find that well dry to the bone next time he takes a drink. Never know where that dirty lying mouth has been. 🙂
One more thing... Check out this website. You need to read this. It might not help now but next time around.....This should be required reading for all young women.
30 Signs That Someone Isn't Interested or Only Half Heartedly Interested
When someone's genuinely interested in you, they consistently demonstrate their interest and leave you in no doubt about it. They and the relationship are not ambiguous, they??re not afraid to make plans and follow through on them, and more importantly, they treat you with care, trust, respect, and eventually love consistently. They don't burn up their energies resisting you and you don't burn up your time and energy making excuses for them and seeing meaning where there is no meaning.
When someone is not interested, it doesn't mean that they won't stick around for the fringe benefits, especially if it becomes apparent that regardless of how poorly they behave, that you will still be there.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/30-signs-that-someone-isnt-interested-or-is-half-heartedly-interested-in-you-how-to-avoid-being-a-passing-time-candidate/
30 Signs That Someone Isn't Interested or Only Half Heartedly Interested
When someone's genuinely interested in you, they consistently demonstrate their interest and leave you in no doubt about it. They and the relationship are not ambiguous, they??re not afraid to make plans and follow through on them, and more importantly, they treat you with care, trust, respect, and eventually love consistently. They don't burn up their energies resisting you and you don't burn up your time and energy making excuses for them and seeing meaning where there is no meaning.
When someone is not interested, it doesn't mean that they won't stick around for the fringe benefits, especially if it becomes apparent that regardless of how poorly they behave, that you will still be there.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/30-signs-that-someone-isnt-interested-or-is-half-heartedly-interested-in-you-how-to-avoid-being-a-passing-time-candidate/
He's playing you. Manipulating you. Giving you the minimum. Telling you what you want to hear on the rare occasions that he suddenly remembers that you exist & wants more benefits from you.
When you saw the pic of his arms wrapped around another girl, you weren't imagining things. It was exactly what it looked like. Unless that woman was his mother, sister, child or family member, she was a woman he was being intimate with, hence the reason the pose was so intimate.
Stop questioning your own intuition. It's never steered you wrong. And if it has, know that other people are most likely to not have your best interest at heart vs. your intuition. You know what you need to do.
Of course it's easier said than done. It always is. But that doesn't justify going back to someone whose actions clearly reflect how he feels (or doesn't feel) about you.
You know how this story will play out. You've seen this before. Girl gets all the signals & red flags that a man isn't right for her & isn't being genuine/honest, but yet she continues to go back to him anyways against her better judgement. She knows he's not the 1 for her, but she keeps trying to rationalize his actions. She doesn't want to accept that she once again picked the wrong guy, so she'd rather hold on to a piece of him by wanting to settle for being his "friend" instead of facing her pride, ego & sense of rejection that hurts her & is hard to endure.
----> Guy notices this weakness in her & plays on it like a fiddle. He has his escapades with other women, lies about, & once he's disposed of them, he comes back to the original woman & says sweet nothings in her ear, only to then go back to the same ole crap that pushed her away in the 1st place. This guy will never change, as made apparent by his continuous inconsistency, dishonesty & fickleness, but the girl refuses to accept that & uses the "It's difficult to let go" line to justify why she's waiting on him.
When you saw the pic of his arms wrapped around another girl, you weren't imagining things. It was exactly what it looked like. Unless that woman was his mother, sister, child or family member, she was a woman he was being intimate with, hence the reason the pose was so intimate.
Stop questioning your own intuition. It's never steered you wrong. And if it has, know that other people are most likely to not have your best interest at heart vs. your intuition. You know what you need to do.
Of course it's easier said than done. It always is. But that doesn't justify going back to someone whose actions clearly reflect how he feels (or doesn't feel) about you.
You know how this story will play out. You've seen this before. Girl gets all the signals & red flags that a man isn't right for her & isn't being genuine/honest, but yet she continues to go back to him anyways against her better judgement. She knows he's not the 1 for her, but she keeps trying to rationalize his actions. She doesn't want to accept that she once again picked the wrong guy, so she'd rather hold on to a piece of him by wanting to settle for being his "friend" instead of facing her pride, ego & sense of rejection that hurts her & is hard to endure.
----> Guy notices this weakness in her & plays on it like a fiddle. He has his escapades with other women, lies about, & once he's disposed of them, he comes back to the original woman & says sweet nothings in her ear, only to then go back to the same ole crap that pushed her away in the 1st place. This guy will never change, as made apparent by his continuous inconsistency, dishonesty & fickleness, but the girl refuses to accept that & uses the "It's difficult to let go" line to justify why she's waiting on him.
Eventually, girl gets drained, used up & runs out of fuel. Only then will she realize that she should've listened to her gut & cut him off a long time ago. Now she feels stupid, feels used & can't believe how weak-minded she was to continue putting up with the very thing she swore to herself and him that she didn't deserve.
She goes outside & seeks advice, hoping to find the 1 person who will say what she wants to hear & convince her that his actions are simply just an "Aquarian thing," as if astrological ties to a certain behavior suddenly excuses/justifies bullsh***t.
1 day she finally decides to put her intelligence to some good use, puts on her big girl panties, sucks it up & moves on b/c she's more focused now on pleasing/loving herself as opposed to some half-azzed man who was selfish & only thinking of himself from the beginning.
You know how the story ends. It doesn't have to end this way though. You don't have to be the typical hard-headed girl in this situation. You don't have to be the girl that regrets the NOW when she looks back in hindsight 20/20. Suck it up, put your big girl panties on, go find a distraction, & prove to yourself that you deserve better by way of leaving his azz. He's shown you who he is. Believe it!!
You think facing the hard truth & the pain that comes with it is too much to bare. Little do you realize that you're already going through & SURVIVING all of the hard emotions you're so afraid that you can't overcome if you walk away. You're already going through the motions. It's already over. The only thing worse than entertaining someone for 6 months, is entertaining them for 6 months & 1 day. Move on. It will NOT get better. He will NOT change. If you refuse to accept that, then prepare for how this story always ends.
She goes outside & seeks advice, hoping to find the 1 person who will say what she wants to hear & convince her that his actions are simply just an "Aquarian thing," as if astrological ties to a certain behavior suddenly excuses/justifies bullsh***t.
1 day she finally decides to put her intelligence to some good use, puts on her big girl panties, sucks it up & moves on b/c she's more focused now on pleasing/loving herself as opposed to some half-azzed man who was selfish & only thinking of himself from the beginning.
You know how the story ends. It doesn't have to end this way though. You don't have to be the typical hard-headed girl in this situation. You don't have to be the girl that regrets the NOW when she looks back in hindsight 20/20. Suck it up, put your big girl panties on, go find a distraction, & prove to yourself that you deserve better by way of leaving his azz. He's shown you who he is. Believe it!!
You think facing the hard truth & the pain that comes with it is too much to bare. Little do you realize that you're already going through & SURVIVING all of the hard emotions you're so afraid that you can't overcome if you walk away. You're already going through the motions. It's already over. The only thing worse than entertaining someone for 6 months, is entertaining them for 6 months & 1 day. Move on. It will NOT get better. He will NOT change. If you refuse to accept that, then prepare for how this story always ends.
Posted by CarryOnAmanda
I know I should stay away but it's so difficult.
Why are aqua men so hard to understand—
So confused x
I understand him quite well with what you shared here and have no confusion at all. The problem is you don't. That's not his fault.
Posted by krysrenee7
Eventually, girl gets drained, used up & runs out of fuel. Only then will she realize that she should've listened to her gut & cut him off a long time ago. Now she feels stupid, feels used & can't believe how weak-minded she was to continue putting up with the very thing she swore to herself and him that she didn't deserve.
She's not at that point yet. She's choosing to allow him to do this to her.
CHOICES..and not taking responsibility for those choices, then crying victim. Don't need five paragraphs to sum that up.
Posted by CarryOnAmanda
Does anyone have a clue what is that all about.
Yes, I have a clue. Why don't you?
You're another desperate female, with insecurities so large that it will render you being a complete fool and saying you love a man who treats you less than you deserve because that's what those women do.
Posted by CarryOnAmanda
I know I'm in love with him
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Annnnndddddddd there it is
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