Ok so I met this taurus guy a little over 3 weeks ago. we met at the mall, we texted sometimes but not very much and he would call but only stay on the phone for a few minutes. we are both very busy people, i go to work and school and he has two jobs and is in college also. And our schedules are opposite frpm each other the days I'm free he's busy and the days he's free I'm busy. One day he got tired of it and and made plans for us on a friday and said there is no canceling this time. we hung out that friday and had a great time he took me out to eat and to Dave n Busters then home (no sex). We had very little contact after that for a couple of days, i was hanging out with my friends so i didn't text back a few times and when i would, he would call me a stranger which was confusing cuts he doesn't text me back all the time either. He showed up at my house one night after i got home from school he really wanted to see me, we talked and kissed then i told him i had to get up in the morning for school, he acted like he didn't want to leave and said he wanted to be my boyfriend. i said we r too busy for each other and i thought it was too early, i wanted to get to know him more. He said he knows we will be together someday and he thinks he will fall in love with me and i will fall in love with him. I smiled and we kissed A LOT lol. Then he left, still no sex. A couple of days later, i asked him to when we were gunna hang out again. He said he was about to leave work early and go to the library and do some homework then he will come see me afterwards. I said okay and the whole day went by and he didn't contact me. I texted him to see what was going on but he didn't text back or answer the phone then thats when i sent the text"I think we may be too busy for each other, we should just stop trying". he didn't text back. The next day i went to work and thought about him all day, i was really upset that he didn't say anything back. When i got off, i felt really bad and decided I wanted to go visit him at his job to apologize, on my way there he texted me, "hey this is my new number since u tried to cut me off". I text back, "u r a pain in the ass". he texted back "what wow ok". i didn't text back because i was already almost at his job to see him. he didn't know though i wanted it to be a surprise. When i got there he was really happy to see me. When he got off we hung out at a restaurant (this was the day before valentines day). He seemed very tired from w
He seemed very tired from work but he was very happy to be with me. when we left the restaurant we sat in his car and talked and kissed and talked and kissed some more. thats when i started to realize i really like this guy because I'm not even a kisser i hate kissing but with him i love it. he said he had to get up in the morning so i told him to hone and get some sleep, it was already midnight. He said he didn't want to leave. and said he was really sorry for how busy he is and wish he had more time. he said he really wants to be in a relationship with me but i denied it again because we still don't have time for each other. he said he couldn't wait until summer so we can spend more time together. He said he wanted to take me out valentines day, and had the whole thing planned, comes the day of, i barely hear from him all day. he finally called me and said he was still at work. then he texted and said "i guess i am too busy for you, but i like you alottttt, i wanna quit my job". I text him back " y thats stupid, your priorities comes first work and school, I'm not a priority and i don't expect to be your priority". He didn't text back. So i decided to show up at his job again to wish him a happy valentines day cus i didn't want him to feel bad about us not being able to hang out. I got there and he wasn't there. So now I'm super confused and i texted him and asked him where he was, he said "I left bae, why didn't u tell me you were coming". The leo inside of me went into straight combat mode and immediately thought the worst. i texted back "oh wow I thought u had to work late tonight i guess that was a lie and have fun with who ever your hanging out with tonight, and delete my number good bye". He didn't text back. Now that its the next day and I'm thinking about how i handled that situation i feel really bad. I really think i hurt his feelings, he's not the type to explain things when he's upset and i think that explains why he didn't text back. he probably left work after i sent him that texts he felt bad and was probably gunna surprise me later. but i guess i screwed that. I automatically thought the worst, people did me so wrong in the passed and i can't see that anyone is different, thats why i won't make a official relationship with him, i want to be sure first, my trust is at a zero. but i guess i lost him forever now. SMH, i really messed this one up. i really liked him. 😢 What should i do now? Should apolygize or just let it go?
Yeah..you probably screwed up royally...You need to put your insecurities on ice. That was so NOT necessary. Seem like you had a really nice thing going, but I don't know now. Taurus men are really fittified when it comes to their feeling and emotions. Hopefully, if he had already gotten to the stage where he likes you enough to overlook your outburst, you may still have a chance, but it's not all about you and the quicker you realize that with a Taurus guy, the better of you will be..PLUS...trust me, when he's really into you, he will definitely make it ALL ABOUT YOU. You won't have to squirm for his attention. After awhile, he will suffocate you with it..lol. Good Luck!!
He told you that he wanted to be with you despite his schedule & other options with women. When someone wants that from you, that means that they're not really interested in casually seeing you or being a part-time fix with you.
In other words, if you don't want it, don't come round here. You're acting like the girl who screams 'no sex' but then shows up at his house in thong with no top. You're not wrong for wanting to be single, but if you want to be single then you need to stay away from folks who want more than the occasional "I like you but by the way I'm too busy for you" situationships.
You're not in the wrong for not being ready for a relationship. I'm glad that you own your issues. But 1st off, play fair. It is unfair & untrue to say, "He needs to prove himself 1st. I need to be sure first." His purpose isn't to convince you to let the past go. His purpose isn't to work like a dog for you only to then get put on the backburner when it's his turn to see you run hurdles and prove yourself to him!
Don't forget that the other person needs you to prove yourself too! This isn't your show! There is nothing he can say or do that will mend your baggage, so don't subconsciously or ever verbally give him such an unfair and unrealistic task/job.
If the tables were turned, he'd get all kind of hell. He may be busy but he's also the kind of man that won't let anything stop him when he wants something. If you can't give him what he wants, that's FINE, but quit with the hot/cold bullshit & let him go so that he can meet someone that won't make him pay for her work schedule or past baggage.
Life is too short to make someone 'wait' on you. Life is too short for 'situationships.' If you can't hang, let him go. If you can, be consistent & work on your OWN issues w/o expectations that he oughta help you unpack.
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We had very little contact after that for a couple of days, i was hanging out with my friends so i didn't text back a few times and when i would, he would call me a stranger which was confusing cuts he doesn't text me back all the time either.
He showed up at my house one night after i got home from school he really wanted to see me, we talked and kissed then i told him i had to get up in the morning for school, he acted like he didn't want to leave and said he wanted to be my boyfriend. i said we r too busy for each other and i thought it was too early, i wanted to get to know him more. He said he knows we will be together someday and he thinks he will fall in love with me and i will fall in love with him. I smiled and we kissed A LOT lol. Then he left, still no sex.
A couple of days later, i asked him to when we were gunna hang out again. He said he was about to leave work early and go to the library and do some homework then he will come see me afterwards. I said okay and the whole day went by and he didn't contact me. I texted him to see what was going on but he didn't text back or answer the phone then thats when i sent the text"I think we may be too busy for each other, we should just stop trying". he didn't text back. The next day i went to work and thought about him all day, i was really upset that he didn't say anything back. When i got off, i felt really bad and decided I wanted to go visit him at his job to apologize, on my way there he texted me, "hey this is my new number since u tried to cut me off". I text back, "u r a pain in the ass". he texted back "what wow ok". i didn't text back because i was already almost at his job to see him. he didn't know though i wanted it to be a surprise.
When i got there he was really happy to see me. When he got off we hung out at a restaurant (this was the day before valentines day). He seemed very tired from w