virgo guy doesnt care if i have a boyfriend?....

i told my virguy that i couldnt stay to hang out i had to pick up a friend from the train station...he said who ur bf? i said no and he quickly fills in 'its none of my business if u r' WHAT THE HECK DOES THAT MEAN—?? we've been seein eachother very casually for about 3 monthes and to hear him say that was like a slap...i mean i know HES not my boyfriend but to say he doesnt care if i have one doesnt have to be made so clear....HELP!

it's self-preservation thing/ sneaky thing. Because if you say yes it's your boyfriend you're picking up then he plays it off as he didn't really care. If you say no, then he has an answer without letting you know he's into you. How do i know this I do it all the time. I'll ask a question that's important to me but i don't want to let the other perosn know it's important to me. Also the "it's none of my business if you are" sounds like it was just added in at the last minute, like an after thought that he may have offnded you with the question.

The deal with Virgos is we analyze everything even as it's coming out of our mouth and then there's not rewind or erase button.

"it's none of my business if you are" has been said to me in regards to money by a scorpio male. I found it to be humorous.

Being a virgo female: I like being told what things are, things clearly defined. I like to just get to the point. Ergo if you like the guy or what to know what is meant then why not go directly to the source and ask "hey what did you mean?".
Miscommunication and conjecture sucks.
Others can give you speculation and theorize why something is so but we don't really know because we are NOT that guy.

thx everyone but u see in 3 monthes we've only hung out five times.....im not exactly in the position to ask him to explain to me what he means evertime im gettn a mixed message...he seems like the type that would just get turned off by that....additionally, im not unhappy in my position i somewhat enjoy the game to an extent but a bit of insight from other virgos helps a little so thanks everyone who responded!

OMG everyone, today was an absolute breakthrough w/virgo boy!!!! i've never had such an awesome unexpectadly fabulous night in my whole life!!! he's exceeded my expectations ten fold tonite just wanted to let u all know that!! im not expecting to speak to him for a few days , so i'll keep everyone posted in case ur c`urious to see how a booty call may possibly turn into something a little more deep....!

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I think this virgo is somewhat interested in you!! Just like dissolved said, they are trying to fish out things about you, without really giving themselves away...

They test the waters first before any drastic decisions take place (even if it consists of just asking you out for coffee - which for them, would most problably be a drastic decision)

The best way to handle them, don't take them seriously!! Take it as a compliment that "I like you, but need to know more about you!"

goddddd im such a screwup!!! i drunk txt him and i think now he thnks im a loooooooooooooser ..... i just wanna disappear! do they remember stupid stuff like that for a long time?

he knows i only do that when i drink so im worried he's gonna think i have a drink problem or somethn.....i saw him thurs.nite and we had a good nite and then i go buggn him the very nxt day...i feel like layin low for a few days, i don't think ican talk to him for a while im pretty embarrased.......IF he does call and i dont pik up will that be bad?

Virgo!!!Run while you still have the chance... you've been warned...they are like so crazy!

At least the men are

last time i did it i txt him the nxt mrning sayin sorry bout that and to scratch whatever i said...he nxt time he called i pretended like it never happened and he didnt say anything about it either,,,..but now this is the 2nd time i do it and i didnt txt him anything the next day so now i just feel like a nerd....when he calls me should i say sorry bout the txt again or act like it didn't happen?

Even better...act like you never met

Seriously.

""goddddd im such a screwup!!! i drunk txt him and i think now he thnks im a loooooooooooooser ..... i just wanna disappear! do they remember stupid stuff like that for a long time?""

HAha... in my drunkenness I called my Virguy and said some off the wall stuff, and even added an i love you in the mix... somehow my being in that state of mind,and my dingyness and i guess the too soon i love u that night helped begin a relationship...anyway point is leave the drinks alone.

really? how did it / is it going? when u would do that did it take him a few days to respond?

It only happened once... he wouldnt let the i love you go and made me say it again and again and again... i ended up leaving him after a year of constant petty arguments...

i'm sure youre in good standing as far as the cookyness goes... though i'm not sure what you text him...

BTW the thing about them either wanting their woman to be the virgin princess or the whore one extreme or the other but not both is soooo true... i played the virgin (well at the time i was so i really had no choice)......anyway do pick your role and stick with it another one thought me to be his whore(was respectful and never referred 2 me that way you could just tell) which is only a good role to tease you'll get annoyed in the long run ....
I seem to be virgo magnet and i really hate it :O

don't beat yourself up too much over it... what you're worrying about is probably not a big deal to him unless you make it one

ya ur probably rite but i still feel like a nerd....i want so bad to see him buti havent talkd to him since last thurs. which is fine, i need to get over feeln dum .... i accidentally left my watch at his place too last thurs. and he hasnt said anything.... hes probably scared to ask the wrong girl if they left their watch UGHHH

Hello, everyone ! I have been reading the forums on virgo men for awhile now and decided to actively participate to maybe get some feedback from some virgo men.
I have been seeing a virgo male (8/24 birtth date) for 2 1/2 years now and we have taken it very slow because of the fact that he has had some serious issue taking place over that time. Two weeks ago he finally opened up his emotions and told me how he felt about me because he thought I was interested in someone else.I told him that I wanted to be in a relationship with someone who would love me and what to spend more time with me but did not want to control me and he said ,"how do you know that isn't me". I stated that he never told me he loved me. i asked if he did and he said, I love you but I don't know if I am in love with you because I have never allowed myself to be in love before. He is 40years old and had some relationships but none that he opened up too. He has told me that he has confided more in me then anyone else because he trust me.We had a really good talk and ever since he has called me like twice in 2 weeks and now when I try to call him he does not return my calls (which is unusual). I even emailed him and told him how how hurt I was that one minute he opens up and the next minute he acts as if I don't exist. He read the email but has never responded.Do any of you have any thoughts on what might be going on in his virgo head. I am a virgo woman and i can't figure it out. Any advice I will appreciate!!

Hi,leokitten ! Thanks for answering my post but let me clear up some things. First , I do have direction, I have a great career and I do socializ alot with my friends when I am not working. I have not just sat around because in the beginning I was not looking to settle down with anyone,again. I like who I am as a person and we had talks before on where we wanted this to go but because we are both really into our work we would spend time together then not see eachother for a week or so but have phone contact. He opened up alot in those two years and was always honest about not ever being in love before.He told me the 6 year relationship he had been in a few years back he had never told her he loved her. He would always tell me he had deep feelings for me and did not want to loose me.He always sayed he has always had difficulty expressing his emotions.I am the type of person who does not have a difficult time expressing my emotions.I also would rather him not say he loves me if he really doesn't know.I am just confused on why he would finally show emotion and tell me that he does not want me to date others and does not want to loose me and then eventually cut contact. I know he will eventually call again and I know that for me it will be too late because i consider his not returning my calls or email a sign of disrespect. I have not ever experienced anyone like this before and wanted to see if there were any other virgo men who might understand his push pull ways.I am not sitting around crying or waisting my life waiting for him to call,I don't understand his actions especially since he had every opportunity during the 2 years to stop seeing me.