The Master Vanishing Act explained

Dear Virgos and all other signs out there,

I have posted a thread on a dissapearing guy on "Ok Virgo Men" a few days ago. I have since been browsing the topics here, and it seems that yes - virgos pull back and forth. BUT. Do you virgos ever do it AFTER you told someone you loved them and asked THEM for a commited relationship? Lets all pull together and pick this one out - whilst there is a lot written here about Virgos doing a runner, there really is no thorough discussion about why they do it. Particualrly, AFTER "declaring their feelings".

Because they are all chicken-shits, at heart . . afraid of themselves, of failure, of others seeing through to their soul that they are wussy's.

Ok, that's all the tearing apart I can muster today.

Some people making commitments in fear of losing their significant others and declaring their love and affections in hasty way, but when they pull off their rosy glasses they will find it ?wasn't a big deal after all?. Making excuses and ?..Disappear?!


It has nothing to do with the Virgos, I don't know about this disappearing act and many Virgos I know they don't know it either...

Of course, it could be some other type of apples in the bunch? who knows? but most Virgos are loyal to the one they are in love with in total honesty and devotions..

i beg to differ to the loyalty of VIRGO MEN. nuf said.

Not unless I am looking to end things. Then only if the gal is vulnerable and I want to let her down gradually. More often then not, it is cleaner to just end things.

P-Angel - I've been reading quite a few of your posts. Got to say while you are thoughtful, you are also hurting yourself with all this negativity. You are wise enough to know you attract what you see, think, and believe. Anger/frustration is leading you to see and acknowlege the negative. Frankly, I find the predicament you are in to be truly sad.

Almost all people who are discriminating have gone hot/cold with someone in the past. It usually comes from uncertainty about that person, not about ourselves. Yeah - some are afraid of being hurt. Those who are fearful will never show that passionate side. Frankly, I know plenty of passionate Virgos - men and women, about life, relationship, issues.

I would urge you to think about how you would approach dating - how many people do you know come across as truly authentic when you first meet them? There is usually the ceremonial dog and pony show, the games, all that crap. If someone doesn't play, it takes a while even then to trust and believe that someone is truly genuine.

So as you can see, if a Virgo is just playing around, he wouldn't even care to do the hot and cold. But if the Virgo think things have the potential to goto the next level, yeah, he's gonna take his time to figure things out. As for your problem that all your virgo wants is sex, well, that happens with a lot of men, not just your virguy. Time to move on and find yourself another man who isn't so fixated on being a wussy get some pu****.

And once again?

Most of the negative thread in this forum been made by either kids (trolling) or from (drama Queens) very few questions are interesting to study?

hurting yourself with all this negativity

Tazman?

I?ve said the same almost a year ago,?.!

i don't know it either why i disappear because i care less for the person.

if someone's beeen chasing me for years and has been trying to pursue me, but i really don't have feelings for them or they are not actually my type. i don't give a d*mn about it. i cut them off. you'll be lucky if you hear it from me that i don't like you.

sometimes i cut them off for reasons that i may be falling for them or the other way around and the feelings are not mutual.

STILL I AM AWARE of it (intentional) that i made a choice to cut everything off and live my life all by myself. (i don't need to impress anybody here, i've been there done that. i have to admit i am one of these people who disappear) why? because i am a woman -- go ahead, get me lucky you if you get me.

People are different, it is their life and their choices? no body has a right to force anybody to do what ever they are expecting of so called lover.!

If you stay, then you stay? if you wanted other wise.. then so be it..!!

My point is? Most Virgos never declare LOVE to anyone unless they are sure of it (I mean sure of themselves and understanding the responsibilities).

If you are not sure what you want then most probably you will go on your way..!!

This has nothing to do with insecurities/ immature acts and all these stupid insults to the Virgo race?

You don't want.. then you don't want?!

If you stay, then you stay? if you wanted other wise.. then so be it..!!

this is not applicable in all cases. some "think" their partners or their potential partners doesn't want to be with them/doesn't want them.

i wonder if these people have tried asking why? but most cases they take the word from it, afraid to compromise, waiting for the other one to take ownership. what if the other person hates you and you love the person? will you just let it die because you think the person hates you even if you love them? earn it back. that's what relationships is about. compromise. negotiation. as good as it gets.

Most Virgos never declare LOVE to anyone unless they are sure of it (I mean sure of themselves and understanding the responsibilities).

TRUE. can you explain to me what LOVE is then, when the one you LOVE is not with you?

afraid to compromise

Well?

In my case I am not afraid of it, I hate compromising, I would say sorry if I was being jerk and insensitive but compromising hell?.. NO?!! no negotiations neither?! These are tools for manipulators and I am not a politicians..!!

I'll do pay % 300 attentions to my life partner and her needs or what ever I can manage to do..! compromising is an insult to my efforts/love/attentions and intelligence..!!

can you explain to me what LOVE is then

Nobody can? love is personal and if you talk about it you'll defaming it..

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it's sad that there is so much people refuse to consider. "the disappearing act" has been attributed to astro signs with no regard for the hardwiring in all of us. we want so and so to act a certain way, or respond to us how WE want them to respond,. that doesn't work. if you have love inside you and a person who inspired more love inside you moves on, is there less love inside of you? the path is to love more and better with each new experience of loving.

to each is own.

"hate compromising"

reason why divorce/breakup/drama/lopsided-attitude is highly rampant.

I'll do pay % 300 attentions to my life partner and her needs or what ever I can manage to do..! compromising is an insult to my efforts/love/attentions and intelligence..!!


how can you pay attention to your partners' needs/wants without compromising?

isn't that adjusting MEANS compromising?

Probably?!

But my favour is uncompromised relationship.. when mutual understandings are around.

Hence my efforts?.!

And I don't even expect the same from my partner..!

Exactly what Brahn said

i wonder until when will you not expect anything from your partner when there is no compromise.

heck i'm not convinced with your point of views.

goodluck!

how can you pay attention to your partners' needs/wants without compromising?

its called devotions? devotions is not like being doormat however..!!

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MUTUAL UNDERSTANDINGS = COMPROMISE = NEGOTIATE is ALL but just THE SAME.

MUTUAL UNDERSTANDINGS = COMPROMISE = NEGOTIATE = DEVOTIONS is ALL but just THE SAME.

so what's the next word?

Ahhh

Expectations makes you suffering?! That's why I don't expect anything? from anyone.. okay.. I expect a kiss from my kids when they are around..

But if I don't get it then no big deal? life goes on..

and if you EXPECT something that is not MET doesn't it mean you have to TALK about it and see from thereon if it can be MET?


or suffer from your tantrums.

These adversities belongs to clingy people, when you put your mind on this wisdom that says life goes on with or without you, then you'll b freed from your ghost closet and live a happier life?!!

I've been saying this zillion times on this board and other boards?!!

These adversities belongs to clingy people, when you put your mind on this wisdom that says life goes on with or without you, then you'll b freed from your ghost closet and live a happier life?!!


then you don't love the person and it's ok to lose them because living without them is what will make you happy. i don't see it as being clingy at all.

yes it's been said over and over again gazillion times

reason why it's been just the same relationship right after another.

and if you EXPECT something that is not MET doesn't it mean you have to TALK about it and see from thereon if it can be MET?

Listen please?!

You'll have only one choice?only one.. which means you can not control other people but yourself? those people that singing on the same tune as yours are rare individuals to your own tune..!!

If you can charm those individuals to your own need? it will be wonderful, but if you can not.. would you bend your need to satisfy their life standards..??

Flexibilities are good.. but at some point..! Would you break yourself because of compromising..?? deal with..?? because of your needs..?? or fears..??

then you don't love the person and it's ok to lose them because living without them is what will make you happy. i don't see it as being clingy at all.

I do love that person?. But I do love myself more? if it is what you asking.

It need to be me around that makes the person I love lovable? isn't it..??

Brahn...

you drunk.??

lol

Listen please?!

You'll have only one choice?only one.. which means you can not control other people but yourself? those people that singing on the same tune as yours are rare individuals to your own tune..!!

If you can charm those individuals to your own need? it will be wonderful, but if you can not.. would you bend your need to satisfy their life standards..??

Flexibilities are good.. but at some point..! Would you break yourself because of compromising..?? deal with..?? because of your needs..?? or fears..??

yes i am listening but we think not just the same. i find your perception negative, destructive and a pessimistic approach in a particular problem.

would you bend your need to satisfy their life standards..??

yes, because you LOVE

Flexibilities are good.. but at some point..! Would you break yourself because of compromising..?? deal with..?? because of your needs..?? or fears..??

yes, because you LOVE. you are not breaking yourself. but you are breaking yourself with all these IFS, BUTS, ANDS.

I do love that person?. But I do love myself more? if it is what you asking.

if you love yourself more, are you happy now without them? you love the person right?

It need to be me around that makes the person I love lovable? isn't it..??

what?

i find your perception negative, destructive and a pessimistic approach in a particular problem.


And how is that..?? care to elaborate..??

If a relationship makes me unhappy and stressed all the time, how would compromising attitude save me from this ordeals..??

Am I destructive and pessimistic to the subjects that hurting me..??

Hello?? me is important here, me and my feelings..!! would you stay in a relationship that hurting you..??

So Vgurl, if you are in love with someone and they asked you to rob a bank for them. If you decline, does that mean that you don't love them?

what do you think? can you think of something more logical to compare with?

i will stay in a relationship even if it hurts because i love the person, i love myself and the person love me even if they are hurting me.

that's what love is about after all. that's what you call LOYALTY.

So Vgurl, if you are in love with someone and they asked you to rob a bank for them. If you decline, does that mean that you don't love them?

Choice is yours..!

It takes two hands to clap? and they must be in tune and synchronised with each other? or else it wont be a clap?

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So Vgurl, if you are in love with someone and they asked you to rob a bank for them. If you decline, does that mean that you don't love them?

first of all i wouldn't choose someone and even fall in love with this kind of person who will put me in danger. would you?

Like Brahn said?

Adjustments..! When the left hand recognise the right hand.. to make a clap?!


But what if you are aware of the hole thing.. and make the clap without adjustments..?? Automated actions based on previous experiences..!!

That's the whole thing?.. no compromising?!

why will i compromise if i don't love the person?

first of all i wouldn't choose someone and even fall in love with this kind of person who will put me in danger. would you?

Good? now we are talking..!

Falling in love with a person that your intuitions says negative about it..!!

Again? would you stay and compromising..??

"no compromising"

tell it to the people in IRAQ

why will i compromise if i don't love the person?

Then, what is your business with this person..??

tell it to the people in IRAQ

huh..??

first of all i wouldn't choose someone and even fall in love with this kind of person who will put me in danger. would you?

Good? now we are talking..!

no we're not.

Falling in love with a person that your intuitions says negative about it..!!

then this needs compromise to let your negative intuitions come to bloom into a positive one.

Again? would you stay and compromising..??


compromising has different stages. if i love someone i will compromise but if not HELL NO!

why will i compromise if i don't love the person?

Then, what is your business with this person..??

who said i have business with them?

nothing

I DISAPPEAR!!

Well?

Good luck with your thesis about compromising..!