New Year's Eve Confusing

"What gives?"

Oblivion . . . the starter isn't the only player . . if one participates, they are just as guilty.

Oblivion to the self seems to be most people's problem. I'm thankful that I know that I AM . . wake up, sleepers.

lol,


sometimes, i just want to fly off into the universe where everybody isn't so dumb certainly there souls can grasp other than just what feeling wells up at the moment

chaos

sweetheart, the day before when he was moving . . he pissed you off because he was being demanding . . it was your choice to then spend new years with him, eventhough you've been in here yelling about how much you hate him because he's a virgo . . so, here you are with him on new years, both of you doing things to tick each other off and then you expect someone in here to have sympathy for you?

You play . . you get burned.

I don't know how much more I can take . . we as humans are retarding rather rapidly.

You're welcome, Shaka, I do what I can to wake the sleepers up.

is this the kind of man you want to invest all your energy, emotions, your whole life with who can't give you any commitment at all?

who's playing who? nobody is playing the game right.

if there is someone who's playing this game right, then they should have ended up having the one they want.

If you're broken up with him, then who the hell cares?

Whether he's confused, or you are . . it doesn't matter if you're not a couple.

Geeeeez

So we can evolve . . . I care about mankind and I want us to evolve. So, I do what I can to wake people up . . but, it's tiring.

If I didn't even give a crap, like you said, I wouldn't even be here.

But, for the fact that I am here, everyday, trying to get people to realize that it's upon theirselve and to theirselves that the answer lies . . is my mission.

Why do you think I'm here? To make YOU Feel bad? That's what everybody thinks. Thier egos are so huge that they think everything is about them. I don't even know you and couldn't care a less about the shell in which your soul lives . . but, I do care about the evolution of our souls.

Our race is retarding rapidly, because we can't see beyond our material world and it's to our souls destruction.

That is the ONLY reason I'm here, trying to get people to look INSIDE themselves, that is the only way to make it.

it's a deal-breaker. you have to set plans and goals for yourself. you're the defined product and he has to close the deal. that is if both of you want to move the "thing" you have to the next level.

but if "both" of you enjoy hurting or using other people even hurting yourselves, playing games, committing half of your time with each other then the ball will be rolling down the hill.

he doesn't want to commit to you then you have all the freedom to do whatever you want. date whomever you want.

dump that mr. uncommitted man in your life or be brave enough to ask him to commit. your call.

sweetheart, you asked and I answered. Now, if I had answered the way you WANTED me to, your response would have been completely different because then you would be able to use that shield of protection and wrap it around you so you could remain blind to the fact that YOU participated in playing with him.

That is the truth, call it judgeing, call it whatever you want . . but, for the fact that you were there and allowing your feelings to interfere with the night IS particiapting. If you were actually just being there, trying to enjoy and had no intentions of playing with him and his antics, then when he asked what the text was about, you would have lied, or blew him off . . but, you didn't. YOu made sure that he was told about someone hitting on you to piss him off.

sweetheart, YOU are responsible for your own actions. If you find that playing with feelings is not a good thing to do . . . then why play yourself?

Stand by yourself and your own principals. Apply to your life what you believe to be right.

Choices . . . to hang with him or around him . . is a choice.

You make it sound like you have no option except to become miserable in your own despair over a man to whom you care about, but, he plays games with you to the point where you are confused.

Choose to non-conform with the dreariness of existence, reach for something higher.

It's a choice . . .

Reminds me of high school shit . . enjoy !!!!!

I'm not playing games with him. Do I like him well, yes but, I know he is going through an emotional rollercoaster about his ex and I don't want to be in the middle of that. Him and I have already talked about that and we decided it was best to be just friends. I'm just confused of why he gets jealous and upset over me doing my own thing. We both hang around the same group of friends and the same places so, I can't avoid him and he is a good guy but, just really confused emotionally. I rather be his friend right now than date him because of what he is going through but, I'm not going to pass up dating someone else if they come along. For some reason I feel bad because it feels like I'm hurting him but, what do you do? Do you just put your life on hold because it makes someone feel uncomfortable? I think "No" but, I want to find a way that it doesn't hurt him. I know he cares about me. He has told me that and that he wasn't able to give himself all to me so, he needed to back away and now we are just friends which, I agree. I see him so screwed up over his ex and he bounces back and forth day to day about his feelings for her. She has moved on but, he hasn't.


what is this thing you guys are doing? you guys are not talking about anything real. isn't this a game or a serious relationship? what do you think? until when are you going to do this with him? you know the answers to all your questions. your confusions. why is he having a roller coaster ride with his emotions? isn't that so humiliating? not being sure if he loves you or not? you love him yes you do. but is he in love with you? you're not sure right? so where is this leading to? there's no problem with you neither him. blame it on yourself, blame it on him. where does it lead to?

both of you do not deserve to have a worthy and fulfilling relationship.

Reminds me of high school butter . . enjoy !!!!!

LOL

otei

"to explain to me why"

do you not have a self?

why? because you are still there, playing high shcool with him, that's why he's still there playing it back.

why must someone explain? does yourself not know?

friendship.

we're just friends, ok....

LOL

can i just ask if you do this to all your guy friends? is he doing this to all his gal friends? if that's what you call friendship?

i don't understand.

lol, like that is suppose to make some kind of difference.

You have a long way to go in knowing yourself, and others.

For instance, name calling only has an adverse reaction with children. Yet, you felt compelled to do so, as if by doing so, it would counter-act something you did, or something.

Ok, is this what you were looking for, something like: Oh that asshole, how dare him treat you that way. Who does he think he is.

Does that make you feel better? Isn't the truth that you're still sitting back with hurt feelings? How does that help you?

The only way to help you is to tell you to help yourself.

If that makes me a bitch, so be it . . I'm a bitch.

I will gladly take that role, if it helps in people looking inside theirself for the answer, to look inside at what actions they did, how they participated in the conclusion.

I'll be a bitch all day long, everyday . . if it helps people to realize who they are.

friendship is puppy love.

LOL

Vgurl: I disagree. I have alot of male friends that are definately not puppy love but, I do care about all of them and they are "just friends"

Well, I have errands to run.....

"I do know myself very well, thank you"
"I am looking for understanding of someone that I know and I wanted opinions on it"

Ah, that's not entirely the truth . . you want opinions so long as they coincide with your expectations . . if they are opposed, then that makes the opinion not wanted. So, you see, you actually don't know yourself as well as you think you do.

You said you wanted opinions on it . . . well . . . lol

Do you honestly believe that in this life, you are only going to get the bright side? Is there not darker sides? If you only look at one side of a situation than how can one make an accurate assessment?

Oh, I get it . . you don't want honesty, just ego strokes.

And still, mankind cannot get past their ego . . we are doomed.

Go run your errands . . perhaps at the store you can find someone who will wash you with sparkles and tell you that you are mature and beautiful and all the things you want to hear, while saying that he's an ass, who is confused and treats you badly by making demands.

Oh yes, there are plenty of people who will lie to you.

Vgurl: I disagree. I have alot of male friends that are definately not puppy love but, I do care about all of them and they are "just friends"

to the point of using people to make them jealous?

Go run your errands . . perhaps at the store you can find someone who will wash you with sparkles and tell you that you are mature and beautiful and all the things you want to hear, while saying that he's an ass, who is confused and treats you badly by making demands.

Oh yes, there are plenty of people who will lie to you.



P-Angel, you're so funny! 😛

humbling . . to get past our ego's we must be humbled, we must accept err

people think they are giving off good karma simply because they are sweet to each other, but, the invisible forces know our hearts . . if it's false, then the energy emmitted is dark, no matter how nice a person is to another

if a person has a large ego, they deserve being put-down, for the sake of mankinds survival

that's all it is . . just ego

However, Shaka, I know you don't believe it and it's your choice to believe whatever you want, but, I don't believe that I am higher than anyone else in this world.

Your attitude towards me is a grudge from months ago and I realize this, that's why normally, I just shrug you off when you speak to me.

For real, my aim is mankind . . you believe as you will. I care about our future, about our evolution in the next race . . if that makes me appear as though I think higher of myself, then so be it . . how you feel about me, doesn't change my focus or concern.

Because, Shaka, I see visions. They aren't in your eyesight, there are in mine, so there's no way to prove anything.

LIke I siad, perhaps I am seen that way and so be it . . but, that's not gonna stop me from being the way I am. I am me, and I'm ok with that.

I am on a more evolved level than most others, because I've been shown that this is so. If you haven't been shown . . then, I'm sorry.

Ah, Shaka . . I'm sorry you're gonna be left behind.

Really? You really didn't get your sign, your message?

That's too bad . . well, I got mine . . so, I'm happy. 🙂

Shaka, I'm not gonna argue with you because you know damn well that I was inferring that I dont' think I'm better than another, where as the evolution of my soul is not my ego . . you are Virgo . . don't make your kind look stupid like this.

You know what I meant . . go argue with someone else. I'm not dumb enough to fall, look for another foe.

Way to go P-Angel.........you got that bucket of icy cold water all over this post!

Yeah . . .

Cheers !!

i have been similarly drenched..........and to be truthful........it was just what i needed.

you wouldnt behave the way you do with him if you wanted to remain just friends....whatever text messages you receive are none of his business surely? what time you get home..........none of his business?

not unless you WANT it to be his business.

and if that's the case............you are playing with EACHOTHER.

i agree, that this is a great place to get things off your chest that you wouldnt want exposed in your neighbourhood.......but you sound as if you have already made your judgements about his behaviour......and you are maintaining the status quo by participating at all.

there ya have it, roxijam. ya said everything right. i feel for ya, p-angel


sweethearts.......if you go back through p's comments and read through the spit....she's actually making a fair point.

i concur.



stages of truth: opposed then denied then becomes evident

and if that's the case............you are playing with EACHOTHER.


i think this is called "friendship" LOL

you know what's good thing about "friendship" those platonic or casual fling kinda stuff?

men can have sex without getting committed to any women. it's like why buy a cow when you can get free milk?


i wonder where are the men to prove that the ladies here are right? they're not here wasting their time on dxp! LOL

that's ok. that's part of growing up. :p


vgurl......thanx........you, at least read me!!

someday, hopefully someday people will see things our way LOL (talk about ego) heheh

Hail to our ego's !!!!

This is so much fun.

Guess that makes me a bitch, lol

You'd be surprised to know that Ive never had a physical fight with anyobdy ever. That pretty much sums up my intentions now I think.


wOw

sweethearts - i understand your confusion and hurt.... on the one hand he wants to 'just be friends' yet he has his tongue down someone else's throat -- why can't it be yours? is he 'just friends' with the 22 year old? if not, what is his relationship?
just sex, just someone to get over the ex?

come on.... if i were you i say 'what have you got to lose——' nothing, right?

so, call him, text him or email him and ASK HIM -- say what the f are you doing with the 22 year old if you really like me and have fun with me but just want to be friends? ASK and ye shall be given the ANSWER -- and if he doesn't give you a straight answer then YES he is just playing with you and you can tell him to stop jerking you around....

don't be available, tell him your texts are none of his biz.... etc....

then he'll probably come around.....

there ya go, someone told you what move to do next in the game.

Sorry, lindawin, didn't mean to offend you . .

P- you didn't offend me at all.... i just skipped over the last few pages of this thread, i'm not into all that.... i just like to get to the heart of the matter...

okey dokey, cause I like you and didn't want to tick you off.

"Isnt it lovely? what double standards whores we all are"

Hell yeah, where would the world be without us,lol

Night, Shaka sweet dreams, from this dumb fish, lol

Well good, Sweetheart, I'm glad you gained something . . that was the aim.

Amen . . .

I believe that most people erroneously think that because of the Virgo silence, it means a weakness and so, people try to play them . . . mistake, big time.

Thier silence doesn't represent being dim-witted, quite the contrary.

This V-man was on top of the situation and had control . . . sweethearts problem was that she wasn't in control, but, thought she was . . .lol, and tried to manipulate it since she was in charge.

Virgo's don't work that way . . in the future . . careful how you tread because they are very keen and will recognize insincerity immediately.

It has nothing to to with control and I was not trying to manipulate anything or anyone. My only question basically was why did he act the way he did when we already settled it that we are only friends and I am content with that but, I realized that I got caught up with trying to explain myself to certain people



because you are being manipulated by him and allow him to do it to you. if you guys are just friends why act like more than friends, don't confuse yourself with his actions or behavior if the truth is that it doesn't really mean anything to you.