Posted by pheonics247He's a Taurus
@libragirl445 What's his sign?
Posted by whatthecrabYes, and only God knows why. I wish I wasn't.
Because youre still emotionally attached to him.
Posted by whatthecrabYou're right. Do you have any advice on finding the answer or insight on what it might be?Posted by Libragirl445You probably know why too. You just dont realize yet that you have the answer.Posted by whatthecrabYes, and only God knows why. I wish I wasn't.
Because youre still emotionally attached to him.click to expand
Posted by Libragirl445Honey, I'm in the same boat...sort of. It's hard to remove those feelings of love from your mind. You hold onto hope because it's easier than seeing reality. Hope is what keeps us going. I'm holding unto hope as well. What I can say is good job on keeping up NC for 3 months straight! That's an accomplishment within itself. 🙂
My ex hasn't initiated contact and neither have I for 3 months. Since we've broken up he's been messing with other women and just stringing them along. Two different women already. One of them was a mutual friend. Why do I still miss him and hold on to hope that he will realize he made the wrong choice? Why do I still wish he would reach out? I feel like a mess.
Posted by Chelsey07It really sucks and it's so confusing! You're so right. I've always been hopeful especially when it comes to things that I really want. Thank you so much, it definitely wasn't easy. He dumped me and for a few weeks after I was a mess. Sending emotional texts, trying to reconcile, still hanging out with him. I felt worthless and rejected bc I was the only one trying to initiate contact so I finally was embarrassed enough to stop & save some of my pride. But what hurts worse is he hasn't messaged me at all since.Posted by Libragirl445Honey, I'm in the same boat...sort of. It's hard to remove those feelings of love from your mind. You hold onto hope because it's easier than seeing reality. Hope is what keeps us going. I'm holding unto hope as well. What I can say is good job on keeping up NC for 3 months straight! That's an accomplishment within itself. 🙂
My ex hasn't initiated contact and neither have I for 3 months. Since we've broken up he's been messing with other women and just stringing them along. Two different women already. One of them was a mutual friend. Why do I still miss him and hold on to hope that he will realize he made the wrong choice? Why do I still wish he would reach out? I feel like a mess.click to expand
Posted by narayanaThank you so much! I want to stop hoping. I've been dodging my thoughts of him by doing exactly what you mentioned and it definitely helps. You're totally right because I've been in this situation & the ex has come back, but by the time they do I've usually moved on and the attachment has dissapeared. And that's true, but he treated me amazingly when we were together and sometimes I feel guilty, like maybe he's treating them so badly bc of the mess we turned out to be. He isn't good enough for me though you're right. I will!!
Convincing yourself that you need to get him out of your life is a must. Stop hoping. I know it's not easy, but eventually you will get tired of waiting for something that may never happen and you'll just have to move on. Even if he decides to contact you again, it's highly unlikely that everything's going to be amazing again. It's actually better to cut him off completely. Instead of holding on to all the good memories, think of all the reasons you don't want him back in your life, be honest to yourself and don't ignore the obvious - he's messing with others' feelings, why would you even consider him good enough for you?
Stay strong & good luck! 🙂
Posted by Libragirl445I know it is. I went through the exact same things: not eating, sleeping too much, crying until I was sick, the works. What I can say is that you're braver than me. I never begged or pleaded with my ex because I have way too much pride. We're both stubborn as a mule so that pretty much added to it as well.Posted by Chelsey07It really sucks and it's so confusing! You're so right. I've always been hopeful especially when it comes to things that I really want. Thank you so much, it definitely wasn't easy. He dumped me and for a few weeks after I was a mess. Sending emotional texts, trying to reconcile, still hanging out with him. I felt worthless and rejected bc I was the only one trying to initiate contact so I finally was embarrassed enough to stop & save some of my pride. But what hurts worse is he hasn't messaged me at all since.Posted by Libragirl445Honey, I'm in the same boat...sort of. It's hard to remove those feelings of love from your mind. You hold onto hope because it's easier than seeing reality. Hope is what keeps us going. I'm holding unto hope as well. What I can say is good job on keeping up NC for 3 months straight! That's an accomplishment within itself. 🙂
My ex hasn't initiated contact and neither have I for 3 months. Since we've broken up he's been messing with other women and just stringing them along. Two different women already. One of them was a mutual friend. Why do I still miss him and hold on to hope that he will realize he made the wrong choice? Why do I still wish he would reach out? I feel like a mess.click to expand
Posted by pheonics247It was a messy but cordial ending. There was no betrayal or cheating. I was frustrated by his distance (due to my actions because of my suspicions and paranoia) and I initiated a break up that I didn't really want. After talking things out he decided he wanted to stick to it. He wanted to go back to just dating instead of being exclusive but I said no because he is stubborn. He felt like he was more invested than I was and that he'd get hurt. He also told me after we calmed down & talked everything out that he didn't want a relationship anymore bc he was tired of the effort and "trying to be perfect for me". He said he cared about me and didn't want me getting caught in the middle of his confusion. It was really hard on both of us and he even broke down and cried a couple of times in front of me, which shocked me because he's always been composed and very manly.
@libragirl445 did it end badly? Who broke it off? I ask all this because it will be insightful in attempting to help you. I've been in a similar position not very long ago. I was more miserable than you could imagine, but what helps me to move on is to lose all value for my ex, it's cruel but that's the only way. If it's over its over, and you haven't lost aby Better than what awaits you. And I, being a Scorpio go very hardcore on the emotions, moving on is a herculean task. Only when you convince yourself that you haven't lost something that you can't ever find again, and value yourself more than anybody you've lost, is when you'll be in the road to end the misery.
Him, a Taurus, they dont embrace change that easy, unless his rising sign is a Sagittarius or Aquarius, they do however, interact a lot with the opposite sex and are sort of appealing, they enjoy the attention and are super stubborn. If he has made up his mind that it's over. Then it's over.
Posted by pheonics247His moon is in Taurus.
@libragirl445 did it end badly? Who broke it off? I ask all this because it will be insightful in attempting to help you. I've been in a similar position not very long ago. I was more miserable than you could imagine, but what helps me to move on is to lose all value for my ex, it's cruel but that's the only way. If it's over its over, and you haven't lost aby Better than what awaits you. And I, being a Scorpio go very hardcore on the emotions, moving on is a herculean task. Only when you convince yourself that you haven't lost something that you can't ever find again, and value yourself more than anybody you've lost, is when you'll be in the road to end the misery.
Him, a Taurus, they dont embrace change that easy, unless his rising sign is a Sagittarius or Aquarius, they do however, interact a lot with the opposite sex and are sort of appealing, they enjoy the attention and are super stubborn. If he has made up his mind that it's over. Then it's over.
Posted by pheonics247Totally agree with everything you've said. I saw it as a loss for a while at first, but I realized it really isn't. He gave up on me and I would've never given up on him. As exasperated as I was with the relationship I cared too much to turn my back, he saw that and I guess thought I'd just always eventually come back. That's why he got bitter towards me after about a month into NC when I removed him from everything. He realized I wasn't going to be there to stroke his ego or keep "paying" for my mistake. Sometimes it felt like he was trying to punish me by dumping me especially when he started messing with someone I knew after. Trust me I did everything I could to reconcile and while he never rejected me he wasn't willing to work things out which is sad.
@libragirl445 admittedly you lost somebody who loved you, but you have to understand that if it ended, even if it ended by a huge mistake you made, it still ended, if both if you were stronger, it wouldn't have ended, it ended because it was needed. You needed this space to realise why things went wrong and how. And where you were wrong and him. He won't forget about you but if he really isn't coming back its because he's given up and he's sticking to it.
Posted by pheonics247You're right and I'm a huge believer that everything happens for a reason. Little things he's done like leaving my pictures up and posting things he knows I'll notice makes me think he still hasn't forgotten me. But I don't think I can wait
@libragirl445 admittedly you lost somebody who loved you, but you have to understand that if it ended, even if it ended by a huge mistake you made, it still ended, if both if you were stronger, it wouldn't have ended, it ended because it was needed. You needed this space to realise why things went wrong and how. And where you were wrong and him. He won't forget about you but if he really isn't coming back its because he's given up and he's sticking to it.
Posted by Libragirl445Why should you wait? Sometimes good things end, so that other good things can enter our lives. Maybe this had to happen for you to get a handle on yourself in relationships so that when you fall in love again, its even better.Posted by pheonics247You're right and I'm a huge believer that everything happens for a reason. Little things he's done like leaving my pictures up and posting things he knows I'll notice makes me think he still hasn't forgotten me. But I don't think I can wait
@libragirl445 admittedly you lost somebody who loved you, but you have to understand that if it ended, even if it ended by a huge mistake you made, it still ended, if both if you were stronger, it wouldn't have ended, it ended because it was needed. You needed this space to realise why things went wrong and how. And where you were wrong and him. He won't forget about you but if he really isn't coming back its because he's given up and he's sticking to it.click to expand
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