Advice please and thanks lol

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Libralady1985
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8 Years

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Long time reader but today is the first time I've made my own posts....

Any help is appreciated very much!! Please take a moment to let you know what my reality currently looks like.....



This is the first Aquariuan I have ever dated and let me tell you, when they disappear it can be so mentally exhausting for me, being a Libra woman who natural disects everything lol

I have been seeing my guy for 8 months and for 90% if our 'relationship' it's been upward and positive.... He tends to disappear approximately every 6 weeks it's like clock work. Even though I expect it, that doesn't make it easier lol. Everytime he pulls away, he pulls away more fierce than the time before...mind you he comes back even stronger than before as well...

Everytime that happens, because it's more distant than previously I am sent into this world of thought about what on earth is going on. His silence is like a screaming in my ear lol. Don't get me wrong I'm cool with giving space, everyone needs that now and then, but when I'm ignored, affection completely shuts down and I'm treated like a complete stranger it makes me start to feel like he's second guessing things. He's there in a place of disappearring, yet again.... I usually wait through it and carry on with life. But this time decided to seek a forum and see if anyone has advice.



2 weeks ago, we were both in ecstasty with where our relationship was going. We really do make a good team. He has told me he loves me for months, but this time we was stating he is my man, I'm his girl, we will grow old together, we are meant for each other etc. Deep stuff coming from a man who doesn't play games. A few days after, I casually called myself his girlfriend and it has been a downward spiral since. We had our first argument over it, how dare I label us ( lol settle down babe) . I remained respectful but he was rude, trying to provoke it worse. He ignored me for a few days after, but would still tell me he loves me and say good morning, so that was nice....

I dealt with the ignoring me part the best I could.... It's been a week since our fight and the distance is still very apparent. He won't tell me he loves me anymore which is heartbreaking, but he is open for having casual conversation with me... Like he wants to communicate but heaven forbid anything with emotions be brought up. I don't really know what advice anyone can give me but maybe they have been through something similar...

I want him to come back to me, of course in his own terms but if incantation give that a little shove I'd like to. We are too good together for a bit of commitment fear to sabatoge everything. He's never pushed me away so hard.

Please help ??