@saweetz1988
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Aqua, can a sense of lost trigger your true feelings?
Can a Sense of Loss Reveal True Feelings
Feeling a sense of loss can often highlight genuine emotions you may have been unaware of. It may indicate true feelings or emotional attachment that surface when faced with separation or threat. Recognizing these feelings involves introspection and understanding your emotional responses, helping you distinguish between ego and authentic connection.
*eye roll"
And lol 😄 😄 😄 😄
I've heard this is a thing as well, even from other Aquas. The loss can range from "almost losing a person" to "the person has moved on and found another partner"
Posted by Undine
*eye roll"And lol 😄 😄 😄 😄
I think my Aqua moon is similar.. maybe sometimes we forget our emotion until they r not there anymore or that I am losing them... long story short, my Aqua is showing that at the moment and seems to be very confused bout his own feelings which in turned confused me lol... missing me, doesn't want to let go, showing how much he cares, and when I was there giving love he was so normal about it....😢... arhhhh what a confusing world we live in..... lol...
Posted by Chuckcem
I've heard this is a thing as well, even from other Aquas. The loss can range from "almost losing a person" to "the person has moved on and found another partner"
Yeah I think it's a thing, you are so amazing at this stuff plz help me shed some lights ... aquas placements prob have it worst since they sometimes forget people love them and spend too much time focusing on other things... it's just really sad...
1. Yes
2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
1. Yes2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
How long since she left did u realise the lost?
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
1. Yes2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
How long since she left did u realise the lost?
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And how long did it take for you to move on?
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
1. Yes2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
How long since she left did u realise the lost?
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2 years later.
I think I went mad thinking about her around that time.
Posted by saweetz1988
Have you ever almost lost a person (to someone else) or something... only to realise you actually have strong feelings for him/her...? And what did you do?.. is it true feelings or an ego thing? .. or were you too emotionally detached to realise what you had? Lol
uh no.
if I want to be with you, I will.
but other than that....
if im not interested in you, that you give me NO happiness.
I will cut you off.
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this maybe the coldness....
i'm cold this way.
you will be deadsville to me.
and ohhh boy there's ALOT of men out there that are willing to make you happy.
so you better make a girl happy or else...
deadsville.
soo...what's that magic word HAPPY.
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😆 😛
but true...
and my man makes me happy sooooo...heehee.
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
1. Yes2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
How long since she left did u realise the lost?
2 years later.
I think I went mad thinking about her around that time.
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2 years later ? Holly molly ..!!! Why did it take you so long— What's your moon?
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Thank you for your explanation, he said he missed me and had feelings for me and that it was only me thinking it was just sex between us. I don't know he came back around different. I was more cold and detached and to be honest coz I felt like he didn't care about me as much and my feelings faded over time and I think it got to the point where when we had sex it wasn't the same anymore (after one month of us apart) he sensed all these and extremely upset about it.... coz he was looking forward to seeing me after I was away... though I came back.. different.. 😢 .. I'm not sure what to do at this point whether I will feel the same or because my tank was so empty it didn't have much to give to him anymore.. ?... also, I think I will need him to fight for me.. show me if he truly does have feelings for me you know though I don't know considering Aqua don't really chase and all so he may just let me go...and that will just prove to me he never felt much for me in the first place.. he might try to repair the relationship if he truly does care and that is honestly what I'm hoping for.....
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Not really, no. As an Air sign myself, I have huge problems in expressing my feelings myself. I made my poor Aqua man come back in tears to me because I rejected him for nothing. They do feel deeply. His state itself hurt my heart to the point I got sick due to low immunity. Once connected, they are stable. Please do not play with them!
Also, I'm worried once he gets me back hooked in again, would he again take me for granted? will Aqua then realise and appreciate what he has infront or him before it's too late?
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Not really, no. As an Air sign myself, I have huge problems in expressing my feelings myself. I made my poor Aqua man come back in tears to me because I rejected him for nothing. They do feel deeply. His state itself hurt my heart to the point I got sick due to low immunity. Once connected, they are stable. Please do not play with them!
You're situation is different as he was already emotionally invested in you. In the beginning stages Aquas hardly become emotional, unless hes pushed to that point. If an Aqua doesn't feel for you then the above is what usually happens.
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That's my point. Everybody in here expect miracles to happen from Aquas in early stages. None really goes beyond, I haven't, yet. I sense him, but this is because of me. He reads me, but this is because he is sensitive. We are best friends and able to be vulnerable towards each other.
I have never felt a deeper connection to anyone than this Aqua. And I mean it. He is a true friend, a man, a protector, he even imprinted my house over my unaware male cat (so cute). Aquas are really protective, house men, he in particular is an excellent cook! I actually need to remind him that this IS my house unless he fully commits, lol!
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Not really, no. As an Air sign myself, I have huge problems in expressing my feelings myself. I made my poor Aqua man come back in tears to me because I rejected him for nothing. They do feel deeply. His state itself hurt my heart to the point I got sick due to low immunity. Once connected, they are stable. Please do not play with them!
You're situation is different as he was already emotionally invested in you. In the beginning stages Aquas hardly become emotional, unless hes pushed to that point. If an Aqua doesn't feel for you then the above is what usually happens.
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not true at all.. we are just reallllllly good at hiding it or keeping it to ourselves.
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Not really, no. As an Air sign myself, I have huge problems in expressing my feelings myself. I made my poor Aqua man come back in tears to me because I rejected him for nothing. They do feel deeply. His state itself hurt my heart to the point I got sick due to low immunity. Once connected, they are stable. Please do not play with them!
You're situation is different as he was already emotionally invested in you. In the beginning stages Aquas hardly become emotional, unless hes pushed to that point. If an Aqua doesn't feel for you then the above is what usually happens.
That's my point. Everybody in here expect miracles to happen from Aquas in early stages. None really goes beyond, I haven't, yet. I sense him, but this is because of me. He reads me, but this is because he is sensitive. We are best friends and able to be vulnerable towards each other.
I know. Most of the women and men on DXP want things rushed with an Aqua. They don't take the time to just sit back and relax. They don't realize that waiting is part of the subconscious test. They need to know you have sticking power. Aquas don't do short flings, when it comes to relationships. If they commit, they expect to commit for the long run.
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yes to this.. guess i should have kept reading but i still disagree with your first post tbh. But maybe the men are different than us females. *shrug*
Aquas can bewitch a soulless stone, if they want to. But they rarely do this. If they are not interested, they burn bridges. If they do, they may pursue you, or they may allow you to do it. But the final choice is always theirs. Courtship is long and confusing. A positive result is rare.
Posted by Chuckcem
I've heard this is a thing as well, even from other Aquas. The loss can range from "almost losing a person" to "the person has moved on and found another partner"
Me. I'm too indecisive or too slow to make up my mind. Also, looking for a partner who connects with me in mind body and soul but sometimes one is still building up. For me it has been hard to break up with someone, so before dating someone I have to confirm I'm sure about him.
Posted by saweetz1988
Also, I'm worried once he gets me back hooked in again, would he again take me for granted? will Aqua then realise and appreciate what he has infront or him before it's too late?
Always expect that at some point or points, he will revert back to baseline.
But by then you'll recognize that his feelings didn't change, he just went back to his default position which is outwardly neutral.
During those times, you will *know* how he feels, not *feel* it.
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
1. Yes2. Spent several weeks searching for her private info and sent an email. Never got any response.
3. I moved on and I'm done with wasting my time on things which will never happen.
How long since she left did u realise the lost?
2 years later.
I think I went mad thinking about her around that time.
2 years later ? Holly molly ..!!! Why did it take you so long— What's your moon?
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Aries in 12th.
I basically realized it a little too late. To be honest, I highly doubt I'll ever see her again.
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
Not really, no. As an Air sign myself, I have huge problems in expressing my feelings myself. I made my poor Aqua man come back in tears to me because I rejected him for nothing. They do feel deeply. His state itself hurt my heart to the point I got sick due to low immunity. Once connected, they are stable. Please do not play with them!
You're situation is different as he was already emotionally invested in you. In the beginning stages Aquas hardly become emotional, unless hes pushed to that point. If an Aqua doesn't feel for you then the above is what usually happens.
not true at all.. we are just reallllllly good at hiding it or keeping it to ourselves.
Keep lying to yourself
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LOL, i'm lying to myself? when i know myself very well.. okay you don't know me so *shrug*
I have not gone back to get revenge or any of the things you discribed, tbh that sounds more scorpio than Aqua... But i do have more sag energy, so maybe that is why i don't relate to what you wrote. Seems some of the other Aquas do or might.. i just don't.
Posted by imbatgirl14
Aquas have a tendency to realize their true feelings for a person, too late. Because they are emotionally detached, a sudden loss, sends them into shock. Losing control over the outcome or being completely winded consumes their psyche. They can't cope well.This is when they will try and get you back or repair the relationship. This control to want to stay in 'friendly' terms is what makes all majority of Aquas come back weeks/months/years later. But, don't mistake it as them trying to get back together with you unless they say so. Many people have this misconception that if an Aqua returns, it's because they have deep feelings. Not necessarily true. They mostly come back for selfish reasons to placate their emotions, as they feel guilty how things ended.
The upside to this is, if an Aqua has feelings for you, they'll let you know. They're very straightforward and blunt to the point of disbelief.
This makes a lot sense.
Posted by saweetz1988
Have you ever almost lost a person (to someone else) or something... only to realise you actually have strong feelings for him/her...? And what did you do?.. is it true feelings or an ego thing? .. or were you too emotionally detached to realise what you had? Lol
Should've thought about that before being born an Air Sign. Good Luck 🙂
1) I got extremely sad when my previous relationship ended. The breakup came out of nowhere and I got dropped just like that like a hot potato.
2) I shut myself inside the house and thought I would be able to cry it all out. Couldn't cry.
3) Thought for a while and realized it was all an ego thing.
4) Dissecting the whole thing and analyzed it over. Conclusion: a narrow escape. We were so imcompatible in every possible way. It was better that it ended right there and then, instead of having more of my life wasted.
5) Move on and happily marching forward. Phew, narrow escape...how lucky I was
6) He asked a mutual friend to ask me out and I said 'no'. I'd already moved on at that point.
not always but yes it can.
Posted by saweetz1988
Have you ever almost lost a person (to someone else) or something... only to realise you actually have strong feelings for him/her...? And what did you do?.. is it true feelings or an ego thing? .. or were you too emotionally detached to realise what you had? LolI have lost. And then realized it, I let it go. Theres always different fish in the sea. When I was younger I might have cared more, now I could be in love with some one and let them be happy with someone else. Just don't care.
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Sigh
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Have you ever almost lost a person (to someone else) or something... only to realise you actually have strong feelings for him/her...? And what did you do?.. is it true feelings or an ego thing? .. or were you too emotionally detached to realise what you had? Lol