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dofacc
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Posted by scorpdiva
Msg: "There's no such thing as the perfect soulmate". If you meet someone and you think they're perfect, you better run in the other direction Cos your soulmate is the person that pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit".




No, absolutely wrong. In this direction lays anger,destruction, pain, and suffering. Pushing all my buttons, pissing me off regularly was what ended my long, long marriage. As to facing my shit, you don't have to grind my face in it to make me recognize it. Instead, maybe you could even try to think of a way to help me handle it.

If you keep poking someone in the ass with a sharp stick, and they start to act like a bear with a sore ass, maybe you are the reason for that behavior, and maybe you should stop tormenting that poor bear!!!!
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Posted by Lena828
Someone who's not afraid to challenges and push me yesss!! How boring if he lets me walk all over him. So long as he's not emotionally/verbally abusive or puts me down, makes me feel like shit etc. That is so not okay.




That is more along the lines of what I get from this is someone who can challenge me and is not a push over, of course pissing your partner off on the regular is crazy who can deal with that but please let me know when I am being a bitch, being unfair cause I will do the same.
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Not true

If the quote above means "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is," THAT I agree with. 9 times out of 10, something that seems a little too perfect usually isn't.

However, the quote above, if heard by the wrong people, may be taken literally & may persade people to be too pessimistic in love.

On 1 hand, it's quite natural to be a little pessimistic/skeptical if everything seems to be perfect. BUT then again if 2 people are together for long enough, SOME kind of flaw/fault will come. If you're assuming someone is "perfect" after only knowing them for a month, it's not fair to assume that they must be hiding something or be skeptical.

On the other hand, so many people ask for "good things" to come to them, but yet when they finally do get those things, they run. Not b/c the person they've met has evil intentions, but b/c people are programmed to expect the worst even when the person in front of them has done no wrong or hasn't warranted any reason for suspicion

If you have a good thing, embrace it. Don't try to find flaws in it. Be careful what you wish for. If you want to find your "soulmate" be prepared that all their flaws may not come out in the beginning, BUT also expect for them to be a good rendition to your life. After all, that's why they're your "soulmate" to begin with
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Plus, most people aren't educated on the origins of what a "soulmate" really is...

Who started the rumor that finding your soulmate meant finding someone who won't ever piss you off or hurt you?

Humans are humans. We all have flaws. We all make mistakes. We all have the ability/power to hurt or disappoint others. People don't stop being humans whether they link up with their "soulmates" or not.

There is no such thing as a perfect person therefore it's silly to assume that there's such a thing as a perfect soulmate
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My perfect partner wouldn't be a "perfect woman"... just the perfect one for me. No one is perfect, not me, not you, not that dream person you have your eye on. That's why wedding vows say for better and worse, no one said it's gonna be easy let alone perfect. I still disagree with the idea that a soulmate should piss you off all the time though, I couldn't be around someone like that... why bother?
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Posted by OnTheOtherHand
My perfect partner wouldn't be a "perfect woman"... just the perfect one for me. No one is perfect, not me, not you, not that dream person you have your eye on. That's why wedding vows say for better and worse, no one said it's gonna be easy let alone perfect. I still disagree with the idea that a soulmate should piss you off all the time though, I couldn't be around someone like that... why bother?

I agree!

My L says I'm very perfect for him, but I'm still waiting to see how much of it is true, or just an illusion.
A soulmate should piss you off sometimes; harmony all the time isn't perfection, but compatibility and temperaments must match or else there will be misery.

Liking them for who they *are* is very important, and not misconstruing it for what they do.