Me and my husband have been living seperately from each other since last week. I am currently staying with my grandfather until I can save up enough money to leave. I just found a job close to my grandfather's and working part-time at the moment. Before I came to my grandfather's I was staying with my husband, mother in-law and my husband's eight other siblings. I ended up leaving my mother in-laws because I did not feel comfortable or welcome. Me and my husband are newlyweds and have only been married a month and have been together four months all together so I only knew his family for a month before we got married. My main issue is with my husband's mother and grandmother they automatically decided that they weren't going to accept me from the first day I met them. They like to talk, gossip and say nasty; rude things behind back when I am not around and stir up unnecessary problems between me and my husband almost like they're trying to sabotage our marriage. My mother in-law told my husband to divorce me. The day before I left my mother in-laws I tried to calmly and politely confront my mother in-law about her intruding in our marriage and talking about me behind my back and before I knew it she got loud with me and pointed her finger towards my face. My husband did not take up for me and joined in with his mother and I feel like when it comes between me and my mother in-laws I can't ever win. My husband is still at his mom's and is upset I won't come back. He said his mom invited me to come back to live with her but I'm not sure if she has good intentions I don't know her that well. I told my husband I do not feel comfortable going back to his mom's I told him how I felt and he just seems to ignore and undermind my feelings like he doesn't care. Me and my husband can't agree on anything. I want us to live independently as a married couple but it seems like he's not so motivated to move out and seems afraid to leave his mom's place and move out on his own. He is disabled and receives SSI 750.00 a month his mom and grandma get a portion of it his grandmother is also his payee and controls his money. My husband has a disability where he can't stand or walk for more than four hours which makes it hard for him to find work. I've been living on my own since age 19 and now I'm 22 and I only ended up in this situation because I was in between jobs at the time we got married. But it's different for my husband he is 25 and hasn't lived on his own yet and I believe there is something keeping him there at his mom's. I remember him saying that he feared moving out and losing his SSI and putting his grandmother in jeapordy since she is his payee? It's frustrating because it seems like we're not on the same page and going in different directions. I don't know where our marriage is going to go if we can't even agree on living arrangements. I just want us to live independently as a married couple and have our own space and privacy to do what we want.
