@hellosaggy
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FYI - It's not easy dating
How to Navigate Casual Dating and Maintain Boundaries
Casual dating involves clear communication, setting boundaries, and managing expenses. Be honest about your intentions and keep track of interactions to prevent misunderstandings. Respect personal space and avoid emotional attachment. Understanding these principles helps maintain healthy, honest casual relationships without confusion or complications.
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Fuck boy....
You need to tell these girls you only want sex. That way they won’t waste their time getting attached to you.
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.
So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!
You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters
I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!
You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters
I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.
I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.
Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!
You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters
I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.
I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.
I assume you're meeting these women through online dating. Are you specific on your profile that you are looking only for casual? If not then you are setting yourself up for failure.
All these hoes out here and you can't find one on the same page as you? Then you're doing it wrong.
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yeah, most of them, I just scroll through my messages.... well....in my profile I say NSA/FWB and casual... but I tend to only reply to the ones I'm interested in, I don't reach out first, so they should have read mine, I only go up there when I get about 10 notifications. I don't really care what they say in their profile, bc they should read mine.
not to mention... I don't really want a ho .. I can't be friends with hoes...I don't have sex with every girl I date, or assume sex is going to happen on first date.
Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!
You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters
I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.
I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.
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Well then nevermind! Thought you were looking for the one to build a life with together! 🙂
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship
Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!
You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters
I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.
I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.
I assume you're meeting these women through online dating. Are you specific on your profile that you are looking only for casual? If not then you are setting yourself up for failure.
All these hoes out here and you can't find one on the same page as you? Then you're doing it wrong.
yeah, most of them, I just scroll through my messages.... well....in my profile I say NSA/FWB... but I tend to only reply to the ones I'm interested in, I don't reach out first, so they should have read mine, I only go up there when I get about 10 notifications. I don't really care what they say in their profile, bc they should read mine.
This where you fail. I get it, you're going primarily by physical. But you're not doing it smart. You let the women do the choosing. Already a mistake you should be browsing profiles and picking the ones you like. You are missing out in even better choices because most women don't message first. Then you don't read the profile to screen what it is they are actually looking for. Any woman who states relationship should be immediately eliminated.
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Yeah... I probably should put more effort into it. I put in my headline *please read profile before messaging me* ... so I figure they read it and decide they are willing to be what I want. I go through and like profiles of women I find attractive, I don't read I just scroll through pictures so I know who I liked when I get a message.
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship
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yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.
I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship 🙂 *I'm classy*
hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship
yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.
I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship 🙂 *I'm classy*
hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.
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Duh!!! Its almost christmas!! I bet some of them expect a gift 😂😂 man you keep yourself busy!
Posted by hellosaggy
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.****
Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
*******
There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.
1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.
2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit
3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.
4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....
5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.
6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.
*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂
7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)
that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.
what a fulfilling life you lead 🙂
seriously, you wrote: " I date purely out of boredom"
mutables are always seeking out others to fulfill their boredom, because they lack inner resources to not get bored
yes, as you said, take a break from dating for 1 year and try to connect with people you meet organically..... you will be surprised how good it is 🙂
you are a successful man, earn good money, and you are spending it to be with total strangers who you are not even interested to talking to after a date or two? how sad is that?
this type of online dating is killing your soul
PS. but the good thing is, you can always brag about it 🙂
Edit: PS. Dont flatter yourself too much, these girls text everybody else as well, not only you.... they call everybody else honey and send out multiple texts of good morning and good night 🙂 but you feel this yourself, thats why you are not really interested and they are not really interested in you
You are not dating but playing woman... you don’t Have an intention on actually having a relationship. So why are you calling it dating basically you want everything on your terms... just want to have sex. You brag about how much you spend and the amount of woman you see at the same time. Any woman would be stupid to date you.
By not saying or stating your intention you are deceiving women into actually thinking you may care. When in reality you are treating them like objects. This is what is wrong with the world... right here...
Piscesmoon
Do not say dating is not easy because u are not dating them if you only consider it sex.
Strictly fwb is not easy because girls don’t want to be used for sex. They just sometimes think that if they give it up, it might turn into a relationship. They are not being smart and it’s easy to take advantage of them. You’re better off being more distant than bitching about this. It’s degrading.
Don't really understand what you are complaining about following the thread title.
It's really up to you what you do and how. But why complaining about spending lots of money when you do it out of your own will? If you don't take them to your place it's because you don't want to. If you pay for the dinner it's because you just want to use them. No harm intention in saying this, I'm just stating a fact. As long as you are comfortable being used as well!
Two advices: you should pay more attention to whom you are taking on a date. 90% of the women never text first. You're missing a lot of great people if you don't initiate. It takes an effort but it'll come with rewards. And read their profiles please. What's the point of wanting them to read yours and in return you don't give a fuck about theirs? You'll find that you'll never take out some of them. Maybe because they are actually looking for a relationship, because they are boring or simply because they are lunatics. Second, imho you are wasting your time and money with people that you don't give a shit about. People that you don't want to see more after a third or fourth fuck (if they are lucky). So much waste for a nice dinner and a fuck? Don't you have friends to take out on dinners?
It really is your life and your choices but you don't even seem happy about it. What's the point then? What do you want?
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship
yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.
I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship 🙂 *I'm classy*
hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.
Duh!!! Its almost christmas!! I bet some of them expect a gift 😂😂 man you keep yourself busy!
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Pffft. A few had nerve to inquire about a gift.
Posted by hellosaggy
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.****
Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
*******
There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.
1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.
2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit
3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.
4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....
5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.
6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.
*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂
7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)
that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.
what a fulfilling life you lead 🙂
seriously, you wrote: " I date purely out of boredom"
mutables are always seeking out others to fulfill their boredom, because they lack inner resources to not get bored
yes, as you said, take a break from dating for 1 year and try to connect with people you meet organically..... you will be surprised how good it is 🙂
you are a successful man, earn good money, and you are spending it to be with total strangers who you are not even interested to talking to after a date or two? how sad is that?
this type of online dating is killing your soul
PS. but the good thing is, you can always brag about it 🙂
Edit: PS. Dont flatter yourself too much, these girls text everybody else as well, not only you.... they call everybody else honey and send out multiple texts of good morning and good night 🙂 but you feel this yourself, thats why you are not really interested and they are not really interested in you
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Don’t tell me what I feel lmao. Some random on the Internet that has never met me lol.
Leave how I feel to me. I said I was bored and I meant it. My soul isn’t drained and maybe that’s your terrible interpretation.
I was merely explaining the life of a dater isn’t easy. There is a lot to balance.... more than being just in a monogamous relationship. It’s not just an easy out or for “fuck boys”. Lots of moving parts.
Idgaf if they are into me or not. Just that we get along and it’s fun. Very few ppl I actually do care if that’s true. Truth is I’m leaving and just like Company when I want it.
I don’t feel to wake up next to someone and take on their baggage. I got my own stuff to deal with and goals to accomplish.
Oh I don’t like hookers... paying by the hour for a random isn’t really fun.
Now if I got a decent block rate 🤔
I always say casually date. I don’t take advantage of anyone.
So... if someone needs assistance or I feel to be nice to them outside of sex I’m wrong? I think that’s pretty selfish. I only end things if I see them getting too close or if when talking I ask if they have any suitors. I don’t want them to miss out on something when there isn’t going to be nothing between us other than what it is.
Posted by hellosaggy
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.****
Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
*******
There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.
1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.
2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit
3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.
4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....
5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.
6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.
*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂
7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)
that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.
Poor Saggy 🥱 ("Le bragger").
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I for one at least can appreciate your honesty, candor and well, at least you are a classy fucker
I actually like the dinner and drinks part. Who doesn’t like company for a good meal. I get to learn about a new person I find attractive and I don’t expect anything from it. I like engaging with strangers. Testing my intuition, humor, and passing time. Not to mention I reiterate my plans on relocating during our time together. I’m really honest about what I’m doing Bc I honestly have no reason to lie to a stranger. Very rare I stop hearing from someone and it’s normally because they want something more substantial.
Does it normally lead to flirting, sexting... yeah it does. I just enjoy the experience.
The ones that challenge me, like the Cap, make me curious... because it makes me delve deeper than I normally have to. I find most women I spend time with good people.
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.
Posted by hellosaggy
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.
the meal comments are sarcastic 🙂
you maybe have good intentions but a terrible way to execute it..... see, with what wackos are you ending up? is this really satisfy you? more quality less quantity, if you know what I mean 🙂
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship
yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.
I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship 🙂 *I'm classy*
hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.
Duh!!! Its almost christmas!! I bet some of them expect a gift 😂😂 man you keep yourself busy!
Pffft. A few had nerve to inquire about a gift.
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HAAHAAA I KNEW IT
Posted by hellosaggy
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.I was being 100% sarcastic.
Guys who offer to pay for my meals usually want something from me. Either to try and get laid or they want me to be their one and only. So I don't want to lead them on by accepting a meal, especially a pricier one. I recently had someone buy me a xmas gift out of left, it really threw me off. I'm gonna give them $ for it because I like it though, lol. And I feel weird giving it back. I did let them know of how I felt too.
Except for nachos. I find that I can get away scot-free with those.
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dont confuse him even more 🙂
Posted by hellosaggy
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.I was being 100% sarcastic.
Guys who offer to pay for my meals usually want something from me. Either to try and get laid or they want me to be their one and only. So I don't want to lead them on by accepting a meal, especially a pricier one. I recently had someone buy me a xmas gift out of left, it really threw me off. I'm gonna give them $ for it because I like it though, lol. And I feel weird giving it back. I did let them know of how I felt too.
Except for nachos. I find that I can get away scot-free with those.
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I’ll buy you nachos any day of week 🤗 unless you putting lobster or filet on it. Then we gotta talk lol
Posted by hellosaggy
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.I was being 100% sarcastic.
Guys who offer to pay for my meals usually want something from me. Either to try and get laid or they want me to be their one and only. So I don't want to lead them on by accepting a meal, especially a pricier one. I recently had someone buy me a xmas gift out of left, it really threw me off. I'm gonna give them $ for it because I like it though, lol. And I feel weird giving it back. I did let them know of how I felt too.
Except for nachos. I find that I can get away scot-free with those.
dont confuse him even more 🙂
Stop giving me away. We women must stick together.
I'm on a roll today.
🙂
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its not an even match tho, be fair on him 🙂
saggy were giving some good advice on other threads, he exposed himself quite a bit with this post (maybe unintentionally)
people who are hung up on their exes or somebody they really want, tend to do stupid things....
Posted by hellosaggy
See you have the women that jump in and say free meal! Shouldn’t be about that.I was being 100% sarcastic.
Guys who offer to pay for my meals usually want something from me. Either to try and get laid or they want me to be their one and only. So I don't want to lead them on by accepting a meal, especially a pricier one. I recently had someone buy me a xmas gift out of left, it really threw me off. I'm gonna give them $ for it because I like it though, lol. And I feel weird giving it back. I did let them know of how I felt too.
Except for nachos. I find that I can get away scot-free with those.
I’ll buy you nachos any day of week 🤗 unless you putting lobster or filet on it. Then we gotta talk lol
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omg you reminded me of when me and my ex husband got wasted on vacation in the Yucatan and then got lobster pizza which was the bomb - if you ever get to Isle Hobox try the lobster pizza at the place on the corner
What more goals do you need to accomplish if your already 34 years old🤔
Why haven't you accomplished said goals by middle age. I date guys my age at 24 who Are accomplished in somethings
$ 1500 per month for dates and hotel rooms and there’s nothing to guarantee you actually get sex.
You should just start seeing escorts if your really moving soon, don’t want a commitment, and have issues with clingy women. Seriously it would simplify your life and you would prolly break even or even save money.
Curious why you don’t want a gf? Or at the very least a fwb.
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?
Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
I hope your making 6 figures +.
Spending 20k a year on dating seems a bit extravagant. But that’s just me 🤷♀️
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
... which is why he doesnt take em back to his house.
no furniture, empty protein shake bottles, mattress on the floor... smh
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Fixed 😂😂😂
Don’t be scared off op. We are just having fun.
Seriously tho, please share your secret. How can you afford to spend 20k a year on dating as a black man in America?? You can get a job working for trump telling people, see it’s not that bad out there...just look at me and how I’m killing it *shows receipts of hotel rooms in the last 30 days*
Posted by LadyNeptune
Don’t be scared off op. We are just having fun.Seriously tho, please share your secret. How can you afford to spend 20k a year on dating as a black man in America?? You can get a job working for trump telling people, see it’s not that bad out there...just look at me and how I’m killing it *shows receipts of hotel rooms in the last 30 days*
yeah but if he is working for Trump and they are Trump hotels then ... LMFAO the shade in this thread is killing me LOL
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
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lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
Posted by LadyNeptune
Don’t be scared off op. We are just having fun.Seriously tho, please share your secret. How can you afford to spend 20k a year on dating as a black man in America?? You can get a job working for trump telling people, see it’s not that bad out there...just look at me and how I’m killing it *shows receipts of hotel rooms in the last 30 days*
yeah but if he is working for Trump and they are Trump hotels then ... LMFAO the shade in this thread is killing me LOL
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Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
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Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.
Seriously share your secrets 🙏
I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
It’s jokes. If you’re going to be this shameless you’re going to need some broad shoulders.
Hes a 34 year old man who rates women sexually. Not a sweet generous lover. Surely you could find a better cause to defend??
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I actually think he's being totally serious LOL
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.
Seriously share your secrets 🙏
I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.
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Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it
Op if your on a 1099 save your dinner and hotel receipts and write them off on your taxes as a ‘business expense’. This is what I do. With lots of other stuff too 😂
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Op if your on a 1099 save your dinner and hotel receipts and write them off on your taxes as a ‘business expense’. This is what I do. With lots of other stuff too 😂
YES!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Op if your on a 1099 save your dinner and hotel receipts and write them off on your taxes as a ‘business expense’. This is what I do. With lots of other stuff too 😂
Trump it !
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
It’s jokes. If you’re going to be this shameless you’re going to need some broad shoulders.
Hes a 34 year old man who rates women sexually. Not a sweet generous lover. Surely you could find a better cause to defend??
I actually think he's being totally serious LOL
agreed, and i think he is also a bit autistic.
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lol - Sags are gregarious, love the party and the attention blah blah - I think he's totally serious and totally honest and upfront with where he's at and what he's NOT looking for - if he can find women who just want to have the good time with him and get it on - why would he not do that ?
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.
I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.
sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.
Where do you meet them, on a dating site?
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.
Seriously share your secrets 🙏
I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.
Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it
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How long ago was that?
I think prices must’ve increased exponentially or dc is just awesomely cheap.
Posted by Koniuchaa
What do you do for a living that you can spend that much just on dating?Takes women out to 4 Star Michelin resteraunts...lives in a studio 😂
Also $ 200 for dinner but $ 100 hotel??
“You wanna stop at the Motel 6 babby?”
lol does anybody read ? he uses Priceline - I've gotten 5 star hotels for $ 50 - where is your astrology - Sag guys can be very sweet and generous - personal experience as well - ya'll need to just let this man have his piece - and eat it too LOL
Damn what hotels are these?? Motel 6 is minimum $ 100+ on Priceline...Expedia...hotels.com...etc etc.
Seriously share your secrets 🙏
I’m always booking weekend getaways and can never find rooms that cheap.
Me my ex husband used to get 5 star hotels in dc all the time for like $ 50-60 bucks - go to the website and work it
How long ago was that?
I think prices must’ve increased exponentially or dc is just awesomely cheap.
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It was with 5-6 years - if the website is the same as it was, you ask for a 4-5 star hotel in the area where you are going and put in the price you are willing to pay (start low and go up from there) - we were very surprised to find that yes, 4 and 5 star hotels (if they have empty rooms available) will take your $ 50 just the same. If they come back with nothing, go up to $ 60 and so on but keep the 4 and 5 star hotels checked and that is what you will get.
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I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.
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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
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There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.
1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.
2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit
3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I—) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.
4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....
5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.
6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.
*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex. 🙂
7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)
that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.