Baggage

What are some examples of what you guys consider BAGGAGE?

There's a new show on the "Game network" called "Baggage" that is hosted by Jerry Springer. The show is actually interesting, considering that are soooo many other different types of "baggage" someone can carry other than just the typical nagging ex or controlling baby mama/daddy drama.

Some guy on the show considered the fact that he used to live in a cult as "baggage." Another guy considered the fact that he once sued his ex girlfriend's mom as "baggage." 1 woman considered the fact that she strips naked at parties on the weekends as "baggage" while another lady considered the fact that she once posted a naked pic of her ex boyfriend on a gay porn site as "baggage." Point is, there are so many other things outside of the cliche "typical" that are also considered as baggage OR atleast the things someone has done/been through that might make/break whether or not someone has a chance with me!

Have you guys ever encountered someone who has weird/untypical baggage?

Baggage is anything that will interfere with how we interact. I don't care if you sued your ex in-laws unless it is an ongoing lawsuit. We've all been through stuff, we've all had to deal with crap and get past it. If you aren't past it, it is baggage, no matter what "it" is.

As to the list above showing baggage,
1. I have 2 kids.
2. No money problems, good career.
3. My family isn't overbearing, their are actually really cool.
4. No medical issues.
5. You got me there, I smoke.
6. No pets, I'm indifferent on them.
7. I do own my own home, car, and all my crap too.

By that list I'd seem okay. But if you think smoking is the biggest baggage I'd come with right now... not even close.

When I think of baggage I think more internal stuff.

I consider baggage as that which has not ended and been dealt with. I use to date a politician. For a long time, I considered that baggage because I felt I had to be perfect and could not live the life I wanted or behave in anyway that was unsavory. Once I got over him, I got over the baggage.

If you are holding onto something that doesn't allow you to pursue the life you want, I consider that baggage. Trying to think if anyone I know has some weird baggage ... can't right now.

Posted by QLIbraMale
he'd cut his hair an keep it in bag for fear birds use it for nest and he'd get headaches lol.

That is a superstition; my great grandmother was from the South and was the first to tell us that; among other strange things.

Everyone has baggage. The question is, how much shit are you willing to put up with?

1. A man with 2+ kids with different women who does NOT have a good relationship with the mother. It's 1 thing to have your 1st child with the 1st mother & realize things didn't work out, BUT it always sends up a red flag to me when a man who continually keeps having children can't seem to pick the RIGHT women to knock up. After all, I wouldn't want to be the 3rd or 4th "baby mama" he's telling his new fling that he doesn't get along with either.

2. Bad credit score. I'm talking about the kinds of people who have delinquent accounts with everyone! Banks, IRS, stores, taxes, etc. If you owe THAT much to the point where we wouldn't be able to take out a loan for a house or car or for our children to go to college, that's a problem! We all make bad financial decisions, BUT I don't want to get with you & end up suffering all b/c you couldn't keep it under control last year

3. I agree with the over-bearing in laws one. Family/friends & their opinions ARE important, BUT the only 2 people who should be running and/or having a huge impact in the relationship are me & my man. Not me, my man AND his mother all b/c she's his "mother." In laws, friends & outsiders have to know their place & if my man doesn't understand that concept, things will only go downhill.

4. Ex's that aren't over him yet. A man can swear up & down that HE's actually over her, BUT if she's not AND if she's continually making efforts to make sure that he doesn't find happiness with someone else, I won't AND don't have time to compete, nor do I have time for someone who couldn't completely finish 1 thing before he started another. If he still wants to maintain some kind of friendship with a woman he KNOWS isn't over him yet, then I'd rather fall back & let them figure things out. They just WON'T do it at my expense or on MY time

5. If he JUST got out of a relationship. Nuff' said. Even if a relationship ends on good or mutual terms, I don't want to come in his life & try to show him how good of a catch I am at a time when most people are either heartbroken OR need their space for awhile. And anyone who can get over someone they loved in 2 days is someone I'd seriously have to question. I'd rather meet/have him when he's FULLY got his ex AND the relationship out of his system. 2 people breaking up doesn't mean that the love in that relationship broke too.

Baggage that is INTERNAL is the WORST kind of baggage b/c it takes the longest to get rid of & is NOT something I can control or get him to change no matter how hard I try. We can all fix our financial problems eventually or get rid of some old habits.

BUT if someone has been internally holding on to something for a long time, there's no reason for me to believe that me simply showing up in his life will automatically cause the baggage to disappear. The way I see it...if he's still making the DECISION to allow his internal baggage to negatively influence or hold him back by the time he meets me, that's probably an indication that he has NO plans on letting it go. And hey, I get that some things are easier said than done BUT I'll tell you what! It won't be done at my expense OR on MY time.

I'm not THAT arrogant that I believe me simply showing up in someone's life will cause them to get some common sense & get rid of old ties that are negatively consuming them or holding them back in life. If they hadn't learned to fix or let go of internal baggage BEFORE they met me, I'd be an extremely arrogant person to expect for things to change just b/c I show up.

haha, i love that show. jerry springer will host anything these days.

Posted by ellessque
even with all my crazy baggage....I couldn't deal with the hair in the ziploc bag or used q-tips in your pocketbook *eek*

LOL

What about someone who brings their own silverware to restaurants?
Or someone who still sleeps on superman sheets?! lol

You guys oughta watch the show! There are some other crazy things people consider "baggage." 2 days ago, a man's "baggage" was that his parents thought he was gay & that he hadn't ever been in a relationship for longer than 2 months! Eeek!

Hm...I never considered most of the crap said as baggage. I always thought of baggage as emotional wounds carried over from previous relationships (or from anything really) that may still affect you.

@Shadows: I know me too. I always thought of "baggage" as some kind of emotional connection with an ex or something crazy like that.

BUT if you think about it, baggage can be really ANYTHING a person did/does or is still holding onto something that could indicate some issues psychologically within that person. For instance, it didn't seem like much of a big deal when the lady claimed her "Baggage" was that she brought her own silverware to restaruants but when they really broke it down, it's clear that the lady has an OCD problem among other things. No diff. than the guy who slept with his ex's twin sister. It may not be something he plans on doing in the future BUT atleast it shows what he's capable of & how scandalous his mind has been before. And hey, those ARE some of the things people have to consider when dating someone

The craziest ones I've heard on the show:
1. 1 man claimed his "baggage" to be that he required all of his girlfriends to have 3-somes
2. 1 lady's "baggage" was that she bought all of her underwear from the dollar store
3. 1 man's "baggage" was that his homeless sister lives/sleeps outside on his porch!
4. 1 lady's "baggage" was that she's been dumped b/c of her hygeiene before
5. 1 guy says he wears tights in public
6. 1 lady owes $ 80,000 in back taxes
7. 1 guy still lives with his parents (even though he's in his mid forties)
8. 1 guy sued his ex girlfriend's mom!
9. 1 lady never has sex on Sundays!

I mean I've heard/seen it all!

Well I can answer this one but Im a bit jaded from my last experience..... he had baggage alright....

7 kids and a wife.... (he forget to tell me about them)

NOW THATS BAGGAGE!!!

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Well I can answer this one but Im a bit jaded from my last experience..... he had baggage alright....

7 kids and a wife.... (he forget to tell me about them)

NOW THATS BAGGAGE!!!

AGREED!!!!

Damn Leo. And for emphasis...DAYUMN!!!!!!!!

Hahaha!! Yeah... I know right!!!!! Thats what I thought too!