Body count

Does it matter to you men how many guys a woman has slept with?...

There's not alot of guys on here. So I'll speak for myself. Yeah it kinda matters to me..but more importantly it's how many you've been with and how quickly you're able to move on to find another, or how many times you were closed to marriage and it didn't work out.

Or even married for a short time? And sometimes I like to know why you broke up in the first place.

I have asked that question alot actually when I meet people online?

You two are assholes. The OP asked for a guy's opinion and you think what you have to say is any sort of valid answer? You aren't men, nor do you think like them.

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What Rocky said!

Every guy is different... Some guys like an experienced woman others want a girl with very little... You have to decide what type of girl you want to be... If you want to attract the type of guy that likes an experienced woman or you want a guy that does not like a woman that has been around the block. There are even guys out there that will share... Now that is not the usual but I have heard of it.

I personally don't mind if a woman has been with a guy but if they want to go around open to the world then for get it. I personally think that some girls go wild after then been with a guy... There girl friends will often give them a hard time if they have only been with one man... In this area you should decide what you want to do and be... any which way just make sure you are safe. I am far from a saint but I am not slut... I don't personally sleep with someone unless I have been dating and are exclusive for a few months.

The more you sleep around the more likely you could catch something. I have a female friend that lost her virginity to a guy and got an genital warts... she said she just wanted to be ready for her first serious boy friend. Well guess what now her real boyfriend will have to be ok with genital warts too.

PM

Years back I had a bf who stopped counting at 200. He knew it was a bit of double standard, but he wouldn't accept more than around 20 for his girl.

If I was a guy I wouldn't want an experienced girl, it would be golden to find a good girl who's body count was like 3 lol

(I'm not trying to argue here on this post, I'm just starting a conversation, and someone body' count is important to know when dating someone, you want to know where they have been and how MANY times soooooo this person doesn't sound sketchy and doesn't have an STD) *just my opinion & my morals*

I don't want any arguing back and forth here I just want people to state their personal morals when it comes to wifing a girl who's been around the block or not wifing up a girl who's been around the block because she's been around the block lol. I'm just curious what you belive in. And rocky roadicecream, she can comment on here if she wants to, don't be rude.

Posted by piscesmoon2
Every guy is different... Some guys like an experienced woman others want a girl with very little... You have to decide what type of girl you want to be... If you want to attract the type of guy that likes an experienced woman or you want a guy that does not like a woman that has been around the block. There are even guys out there that will share... Now that is not the usual but I have heard of it.

I personally don't mind if a woman has been with a guy but if they want to go around open to the world then for get it. I personally think that some girls go wild after then been with a guy... There girl friends will often give them a hard time if they have only been with one man... In this area you should decide what you want to do and be... any which way just make sure you are safe. I am far from a saint but I am not slut... I don't personally sleep with someone unless I have been dating and are exclusive for a few months.

The more you sleep around the more likely you could catch something. I have a female friend that lost her virginity to a guy and got an genital warts... she said she just wanted to be ready for her first serious boy friend. Well guess what now her real boyfriend will have to be ok with genital warts too.

PM

+2!! Well said be who you want to attract. You want a guy with morals? Be a girl with morals 🙂

Basically what I meant was would a guy consider wifing up a girl who was a slut in her past, or is still now. Personally, I wouldn't. I guess it's just how you were raised or your personal beliefs...? I don't know

I've only read the OP ......


I've slept with so many people that I don't know if I even remember any longer .... over 200? give or take 25 perhaps.

I don't even get why people ask questions like this because it's makes the insinuation that a man is in charge of a woman's life choices, and what he approves of.

that's utter bullshit to even have this frame of mind.

All of these indiscretions happened before my current marriage .... he knows where the door is. I won't tolerate this kind of bullshit.

You are who you are because of what you did, what you learned, it brought you here to where I like you ... so what the difference does it make?

Why ask these kinds of fucking questions.

Wake the fuck up and realize that the only person who can decide for you ... is you. What someone likes or doesn't like has no bearing on your self worth.


so wtf?

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

.... wifing a girl ....

wow, you have zero standards for yourself as an equal to men.

Why can't you respond to a question (or don't) calmly and intelligently without insulting someone else's personal morals? ^

How is it, that most times this question is being discussed it is almost assumed that people who have slept with a lot of people all have STDs and if you have slept with just a few, you don't - you can have sex with one person in your entire life and get an STD. You can have slept with 200 people without ever having had an STD(like my ex. He always wore a condom but went and got himself tested every three months anyway, just to be on the safe side. I saw the records.)

If you want to know if a person has an STD, you don't ask them how many people they slept with, you get them tested - simple as that.

Id prefer a yes or no answer to this question because all this bs is starting to become irrelevant and biased

For those who caught feelings, you read the question wrong

Just because you sleep with numerous of guys, it doesn't mean that you have experience. You could have a low count and still have experience. Smh. Don't give people excuses for being a hoe.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Id prefer a yes or no answer to this question because all this bs is starting to become irrelevant and biased

Yes. Men wife women who has slept with multiple partners.

Tizani .....NO ONE said anything like this lol—?

"These idea that someone's worth should be entirely between their legs is what's fake. It's no proof of character."

^^^
exaggeration much.... awkward laugh.

Posted by Gemi9

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Does it matter to you men how many guys a woman has slept with?...

Like guys will ever know the truth!
Or who does count really?

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Theyll know the truth when they expect a tight fit only to find a grand canyon

Posted by Weeds

Theyll know the truth when they expect a tight fit only to find a grand canyon

You are obviously clueless to the workings of the female anatomy.

what are you? a 12 yo ? Let's hope you're not female.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Weeds

Theyll know the truth when they expect a tight fit only to find a grand canyon

You are obviously clueless to the workings of the female anatomy.

what are you? a 12 yo ? Let's hope you're not female.

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I suggest you dust off your chapped lips. and come back to this topic when.you have experience.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

If I was a guy I wouldn't want an experienced girl, it would be golden to find a good girl who's body count was like 3 lol

wtf?


The goodness of a person doesn't have anything to do with their sex life. How ignorant you care for intimacy and base your value system on territory, and possessiveness.

You sound very immature.

Oh, I get it .. school's out and like last year, all the children are going to come to dxp and pretend to be grown ups again.

P "ANGEL"



im starting to get the feeling from you that you were a drunken hoe in high school and college and you, lets say, had your fair share of fun, with the entire football team.... why else would you be getting so offended? Lol, i kid, i kid.

1) my intial question was a yes or no question, if you didnt like it, YOU ARE WELCOME TO LEAVE 🙂
2) my response in which you quoted above stems from my extremely conservative arabic background, in which we were brought up as children to only share yourself with individuals who are especially close to you. I'm very sorry that my traditional ways offend you. If I could rebirth my parents to come from America, instead of the conservative middle east, and be much more open and scandalous, as you are, I would probably not consider it... plot twist! I bet ya I had ya thinking I was going to say I would have them american, but nope. I personally take huge pride in my traditional beliefs when it comes to sex.

Call me childish all you want, im sorry that i am different from you.

My intentions were never to offend anyone at all, truly. Im also sorry that my OPINIONS have offended you, and that you are simply not mature enough to express yourself without you bringing me, my upbringing, and beliefs down, while you state your beliefs.

Good day Sir.

Meh, different strokes for different folks.
It all comes down to finding the person who meets your needs and accepts you.

Forget what the world thinks.

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Posted by piscesmoon2
Every guy is different... Some guys like an experienced woman others want a girl with very little... You have to decide what type of girl you want to be... If you want to attract the type of guy that likes an experienced woman or you want a guy that does not like a woman that has been around the block. There are even guys out there that will share... Now that is not the usual but I have heard of it.

I personally don't mind if a woman has been with a guy but if they want to go around open to the world then for get it. I personally think that some girls go wild after then been with a guy... There girl friends will often give them a hard time if they have only been with one man... In this area you should decide what you want to do and be... any which way just make sure you are safe. I am far from a saint but I am not slut... I don't personally sleep with someone unless I have been dating and are exclusive for a few months.

The more you sleep around the more likely you could catch something. I have a female friend that lost her virginity to a guy and got an genital warts... she said she just wanted to be ready for her first serious boy friend. Well guess what now her real boyfriend will have to be ok with genital warts too.

PM

+2!! Well said be who you want to attract. You want a guy with morals? Be a girl with morals 🙂

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Thank you... awww I feel like someone understand me a little more...

PM

Posted by Arielle83
Doesn't your number just naturally go up the older you get, the amount of times you've been single and how social you are?


so if you want to avoid your number going up, stay with the man you lost your virginity to and don't leave the house, EVER!

Don't break up with him either, because you don't want your number going up..


Remember that anna faris movie? well thats what I'm thinking of


If a man is intimidated about a number, he's probably lacking in some way either anatomically or experience wise.

Attract the kinda person you want... no judgements.

PM

this topic makes me lol. very lol worthy. 😄

my husband knew i was married before and with an ex before him. so duh, no virgin of course. lol

what about the topic, if a girl likes their guys experienced? most definitely!!!

Posted by Kodak375

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Does it matter to you men how many guys a woman has slept with?...

Yes. Ok let me say this is coming from a 20 year old kid who still has alot of maturing and growing to do. I'm a serious dater, as in looking for qualities of long term relationship/marriage material. No I don't plan to marry anytime soon, but the qualities I look for are the same ones I have. If the person I am dating have over 10 sexual partners (mind you I don't date older women, it just never works out) then I would definitely back off because deep down I know her mentality or qualities she seeks might not line up with mine. I pefer the less sexual partners, the better. I like people who hold their sexuality to a certain value, not all over the place. Again, Im 20. Next year I might change, my values and thought process on dating could change. But at this time, it definitely matters.

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Posted by wecarealot
I don't think the question of how many sexual partners a person has had is all that matters. People can be slutty or prudish for reasons that are completely innocent or for reasons such as low self-esteem, negative views of the opposite sex, etc. It's not enough to just consider the number or to disregard it. A person's sexuality (and I don't just mean their sexual preference) doesn't NECESSARILY speak to their character but it absolutely can. There are just other things to consider besides The Number.

A number can say SO much about a person but I'm too lazy to type it all. Use your imagination.

I'm sorry but for those who believe not sharing almost everything with your partner is ideal, yikes......

Every friendship that I have had where we were completely honest with one another have been fantastic.

But everyone is different 🙂 some people aren't as open

Posted by LillyBlossom
I was taught in speech class to never begin an opinion with "I'm sorry but..."

Oh good you remembered something from school

Posted by seraph

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Does it matter to you men how many guys a woman has slept with?...

I have no interest in digging into such things.

Someone's unalterable, unreachable past is none of my business, unless they make it mine of their own volition.

If she has problems with boundaries and discretion, it'll manifest anyway in due course.

What needs to be seen will be seen.

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i was thinking about that. I never asked my husband how many he had. I jsut don't care.

my first husband told me boldly how many and honestly, it didnt really make me love him less, i was just more concerned he would KEEP IT IN his pants!! to forget the past, but if he can't keep it in his britches, there's nothing one can do. *shrug*

I think it is obvious with how they treat the subject. I have met girls who have only been with a few guys but where really good in bed because they had alot of sex. It is not the amount of partners that makes some good at pleasing someone. It there willingness to not be selfish. In fact the most attractive woman I was with was the worst in bed. I honestly think it was because she ended up just laying there at times... expecting the man to do everything. I can understand that she was attractive... in every way. Amazing body, still the nicest boobs I have ever seen/felt, beautiful face, teeth, and much much more. She was not giving at all... Even weirder I found out later that she would just like let me start having sex with her a few times if she was not in the mood and just like lay there. I would stop and be like whats wrong... she would just say she had a lot on her mind. I think it was because we where not office but I was not dating anyone but her. She soon started following me to see where I went and what I did which was stupid... Later our sex life improved quite a bit... but she would still just want to be fucked... or made love to... never trying to do anything other then where nice under ware.

As she has grown up she has tried to get back with me a number of times. I always told her that her beauty was a curse in the way that guys would always hit on her... Honest I would leave her alone for like 5 mins and they would hit on her... I did not care as much but what worried me is she seemed to worry about money and wanting a life style to much. She thought because she was attractive she was entitled. I am good friends with her but would never date or sleep with her again. She become a stripper after about a year more in collage because she never studied or applied herself. Need less to say I was not with her when she made that choice. She said she wanted to be in business and finance... but was really bad with money and still is. She now tries to date older men with money... or someone she thinks may have money later on. She does not tell them she is a stripper normally until later in the relationship and nor that she has genital warts. She did not seem to understand that men with alot of money that treat a woman like and object will simply buy a number of woman's time. I am extremely happy that I stopped dating and dated her before she went though all of that. I can tell you though I think it was not a waste of my

I can tell you though I think it was not a waste of my time but I should have ended it sooner.

Oddly enough my first real gf that lasted 5 years but ended up cheating on me... Just before I was going to buy a ring and pop the question. Said every man she was with felt like she was a porn star. Honestly there have been a few other women close to that connection I had with her and almost as good in bed but not nearly. Yet I know her number was not high... although she seemed to head in a slut phase after that for about 5 years... and improved her number to well over 15 by the the time she was 25. She said she felt powerful that men wanted her like that she said it felt liberating... Which is odd because I found out she would play guys trying to make them jealous I think that is selfish and controlling not liberating. Oddly enough I had a psychic come up to me in a park and tell me she would brake my heart because she was a whore in her past live and will always have an issues in this area of her life. Honestly it was a bummer but it is what it is.

I think it is the connection and openness to what each other like... From there a little bit of stamina for both sides never hurt anyone.

I can also say that this war on woman or woman feeling liberated by having more sex with different men has only hurt them more... As people that are smart don't do this because it distracts them from there life and one day wake up say I am 27 and need to marry a man and have kids. Then the next guy they see that seems like they have a good job they marry... and try to be on there best behavior. This war on woman to me is such crap which again is why marriage has plunged in numbers and divorce is up. A man has very little to gain from marriage... If you divorce more then likely they get alot of shit for you and if you lucky you don't have to continue with payments. If you have kids they poison them agains you... and you end up paying for some other dudes beer that is a looser. Sure not all the time... but if your a good guy that is how it works out. A lot of men have kids with loosers... and then you have to put up the asshole and all the drama after... you will end up paying for some of the cost because she normally did not stay with them for financial issue and because they had kids so young they never went to college and made something out of themselves.

Now if a woman does not want to have kids and be married then be as liberated as you w

liberated as you want sexually... and yes actually it is weird but alot of women like a guy that has been with alot of women because it shows they are commodity. In reality again the number does not matter for how good someone is in bed... It is there willingness to be giving...

It is like poetic justice the way I see it... every year a girl gets older then 27 she become less attractive statistically... google it if you don't believe me. So if a woman wants to get it out of there system a little I understand but when a girl number is like say 20 or 25 men... It means she is sleeping with men 2 every six months about between the 20 and 30. How well do they know them... how easy is it for a guy to get in there pants. I can understand about 1 a year... and even then that is a little much. I hold myself to the same accountability... I have had 2 one night stands... one really young and the second after a bad break up. The second was with a friend kinda not a one night stand and tried to do the fwb.

The bottom line I want to be with someone that does not treat sex like pissing on a tree because I don't. I don't believe people should have sex unless there is more then animalistic feelings. Or it shows that they are not very enlightened or aware... basically they are acting purely on there needs. That is why it matters to me. Actually sometimes they are insecure and just want to be liked so they think by fucking alot of guys they will like them... or become popular. They just because easy and men like them for that.

Again some guys like girls that are slutty... some guys want to be with girls like this and even will share... So again you do what you want... I would also think that girls should want a guy that is not a complete slut either though because if they have a large count... then honestly it would not take much for a girl to get him in bed. Also if you start asking how long his relationships where and his number is abnormally high... he could have been dating alot more then one girl or cheating as well

PM

Note: first girl of 5 year I broke her cherry... so it was every other guy after thought she was porn star in bed... lol We had a great sex life. I again practicing with someone you are comfortable and in love with helps. Nothing wrong with being slutty for your man just don't be a slut in life... or that is my view on it.

Again do what you want... but that is what I look for in a woman.

PM

Posted by femmefatale
My bad, PM. I didn't mean to break up your posts like that :]

No worries it was really long...

I like what you had to say though and it is all just our personal views... there is no right or wrong. But simply what works for us.

Believe me we all have normally mad a mistake or to. I will say i think other countries think about sex much different then Americans.

PM

It's not the number that matters to men, it's if he pleased her better than you can. I'm 19 and have been with 1 woman, my girl is 21 and I'm not sure what her count is but I'm sure it's more than 4 less than 20. I struggled VERY intensely to accept it on my own (I never told her about it because I didn't want to show any insecurities), I just took personal time on my own to get over it, and accept it, and just realize that as long as her count isn't rising, she doesn't give me something, and she's pleased by me, I'm good.

At the same time, thoughts do come up about it, and the thought of another man on top of her dominating her is what puts anger in my heart, I don't even want to meet any of the men who have been with her, especially the one who sexually assaulted her. With that being said if I do meet them, I have to realize that she is an amazing woman, and that if they lost her and I have her, then obviously she must want me for more than just sex, and has something with me that she didn't get from them.

So the number doesn't matter, as much as the thought of another man's penis in her mouth, his balls slapping against her butt, his sperm laying on her body, that makes me angry. Whether is was 1 or 100, still the idea of another man inside of her is a source of anger for me, however still, she's with me now, not him or them, and half of them were meaningless one night stands anyway, they didn't even get a call back.

I just don't even understand why people are so stupid about theirselves.


One side cries, and gets hurt ... very disillusioned because they feel used.

Then turns around and engages in and approves of .. training their thoughts to base value/worth on it.



The ignorance is utterly staggering.

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Posted by AquaWillis
It's not the number that matters to men, it's if he pleased her better than you can. I'm 19 and have been with 1 woman, my girl is 21 and I'm not sure what her count is but I'm sure it's more than 4 less than 20. I struggled VERY intensely to accept it on my own (I never told her about it because I didn't want to show any insecurities), I just took personal time on my own to get over it, and accept it, and just realize that as long as her count isn't rising, she doesn't give me something, and she's pleased by me, I'm good.

At the same time, thoughts do come up about it, and the thought of another man on top of her dominating her is what puts anger in my heart, I don't even want to meet any of the men who have been with her, especially the one who sexually assaulted her. With that being said if I do meet them, I have to realize that she is an amazing woman, and that if they lost her and I have her, then obviously she must want me for more than just sex, and has something with me that she didn't get from them.

So the number doesn't matter, as much as the thought of another man's penis in her mouth, his balls slapping against her butt, his sperm laying on her body, that makes me angry. Whether is was 1 or 100, still the idea of another man inside of her is a source of anger for me, however still, she's with me now, not him or them, and half of them were meaningless one night stands anyway, they didn't even get a call back.