boyfriends checking out other girls. Thoughts?

Just wondering what is everyone else's opinion on men who check out other women when they are in a commited relationship?

I personally believe that it's natural and okay, as long as it doesnt go anywhere beyond a "glance" or two.

My virgo does it occasionally, but i know for a fact he would never cheat on me or follow through, it still makes me a bit jealous but i just let it go.

If I trust him, it won't bother me at all. If I don't trust him, all hell will break loose. Then I'll realize I don't trust him, have a meltdown or two, and finally break up with him.

I am a girl but even I check out beautiful girls (and I am straight lol) I understand guys check out beautiful girls... or even just average girls lol not trying to make excuses for them. At all lol But I think it happens lol With my recent ex (who was fiercely loyal to me and very gentleman like 🙂), glancing other girls very quickly happened once or twice (or it could've been more than that, but I might have been too distracted to notice it lol), I thought it was rather cute and funny lol and right away teased him about it - ohhhh, you just glanced at the girl who passed by us. Yeah, I understand, she has such nice legs lol. My guy was like 'argh, no! I did not!' I said 'yes, you did lol 😛 It's okay, I've got eyes and I recognize beauty when I see it, so it's natural for you to notice it, too! lol'

I don't think it's a big deal unless my guy constantly checks out other girls and tries to make some real attempts. After all, I sometimes can't help admiring good looking guys even (though) when I am in a relationship and with my guy. But it's just checking out, nothing much, nothing more than that, really. Just like me drooling over a nice pair of shoes or a new bag or something, or some luxurious piece of chocolate... I may love pretty shoes, dresses, bags and delicious chocolates, but I love my guy in a different way... does it make sense? I hope it does!

But I understand everyone's different and each to their own. It's all about compatibility, I guess. With my exes, I was okay with it and they were, too, so we were fine on that matter. If you're not okay with it, then tell your s/o that it bothers you and if s/he understands your point and tries to compromise, then it's great. If not, well, bad - either might try more or break up, eventually...

Posted by xMoonMan
I'm going to play devil's advocate...

Now, woman say they don't "check out" other guys, even when they're in a relationship, I think this is a little disingenuous, it's just that they are more discreet about it than men are and don't always openly admit to it.
The other side to this is that women more often are checking out other women, their perceived competition, checking their style , their look or whatever.

It's ok to look at the menu, as long as you eat at home 😈

Lol yes, I check out girls because they're beautiful and yes, might-be-competitors (but I know I'm better for my guy lol). I admit I check out good looking, hot guys... as I wrote up in my previous reply, but it's just checking out, nothing more or less.

Agree on 'It's ok to look at the menu, as long as you eat at home.' It sounds like you would be quite compatible with me lol

It all depends on how much self worth you have I think. If your happy in your relationship and believe in your worth and the fact that you are both right for each other what does it matter if someone throws a glance. I agree with Poisson. Id rather know about who my guy thinks looks hot and it be open and honest then a guy telling me he never checks out girls (thats like a guy saying he doesn't watch porn! lol - very rarely true) and then being a sneaky mf behind your back.

My bf and I both check out ppl an can both be a little flirty but we love each other very much and we both know, trust and respect each other enough that small things like that don't turn into a big issue.

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory
If you're in a relationship with someone, why bother looking at someone of the opposite sex in that way?

Can you seriously sit there and give me one justifiable reason as to why you would be checking them out? To me it just sounds like you cannot control the most primal instincts of wanting to hump nearly everything that moves. It's more evolved I suppose, in that you're just humping them or wanting to hump them through your eyes.

Hahahahaha, sorry. I just feel it's wrong, and see no reason why it should be acceptable. Prove me wrong I guess, or try that is.

I agree...when I am into someone I only have eyes for that person...its not even a self control thing tho, I just dont see other men in that way when I am smitten.

I also believe there is a difference between checking someone out and simply just looking at them....i live in NYC I look at and see people all the time...w/o checking them out.

Posted by Poisson
LOL men checking out other women is not an indication of cheating. The sneakiest fucks know not to scope out potentials in front of their girls.

^^^^^a thousand times over

Noticing and checking out are two different things. Natural to notice, not to stare all bug eyed, tongue hanging out and drooling.

I don't check out guys whether in a relationship or not, not normal for me. I notice people. Never once in my life have I viewed or thought of a stranger from a sexual standpoint (or even a movie star *shrugs*). I have to be connected to consider someone sexually. Not sure I've ever even thought to myself "he's good looking". I just don't think like that. Although, I have thought to myself "eww, that's scary"... those are the one's I pawn off on my friends: "Look it's your new boy/girlfriend" 🙂

I look at other guys so it's only natural that they will look at other girls. There's a noticeable line when flirting takes place and it's easy to spot and while I think it is a natural thing to do I wouldn't walk around with blinkers on!

Posted by Poisson
LOL men checking out other women is not an indication of cheating. The sneakiest fucks know not to scope out potentials in front of their girls.

+1

Posted by size zero superhero


being in a relationship doesn't mean you're forbidden from acknowledging fe/male beauty unrelated to your s/o. guess what, both are still ~allowed~ to notice when other people are attractive. assuming the commitment is worthwhile, that won't be enough to throw either of you off-course.

that rule works both ways. not about to get butthurt either. being committed doesn't deem one blind to outside persuasion. fact of life.

a distinguishing factor is; you/they do not make a big deal, throw it in each others' faces or betray the current relationship upon attraction in such a scenario.

^^^This.

Whoever says they don't is fucking lying.

We all think about people we would like to fuck. Girl or boy. It's a matter of not acting on it or doing it in front of your partner cause like hey thats sort of rude but I mean it happens.

We all watch porn too.

The Scorp does it and it drives me crazy. He makes the crudest comments about other women. He doesn't do it in public so much that I've noticed, but when we watch TV or look on FB or instagram, he will make comments and it annoys me.

Posted by Sag89
Whoever says they don't is fucking lying.

We all think about people we would like to fuck. Girl or boy. It's a matter of not acting on it or doing it in front of your partner cause like hey thats sort of rude but I mean it happens.

We all watch porn too.

This is not true. I have never thought of someone in "fucking" terms nor have I ever considered porn to be alluring in the least.

I say whatever your style is...JUST DONT BE HYPOCRITICAL. Thats a huge turn-off!!!

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Boa rant is supposed to say blatant.

Lol! What's going on with the wacky typos IS? They're hilarious.

lol ya ya..