Posted by djbuck1
It's not the approach I would take.
Your concern is legitimate, but there could be other reasons besides another woman. You wouldn't believe it on the basis of what goes on here on DXP, but some people do have scruples about entering into a sexual relationship, and there are some threshhold issues to resolve, first.
Most couples have "the sex talk" by three months which basically goes into the "when" and matters such as commitment and exclusivity. I think that is the talk you need to have.
Just be honest and direct. Tell him this is the level you want to take the relationship to, and ask him how he feels about it. What happens next and where you go with the talk depends on his answers and both of your wants and needs.
Posted by Amandus
He could be a demisexual like me. Though demisexuality comes in different shades it is clear to us that the level of connection it takes for sexual desire to be inspired is dependent largely on how close the relationship is rather than the initial attraction. This is not an active restraining of sexual desire.