Posted by ninjutsu
Depends on the person in question. Very disturbing thought that someone could be rebounding like a pingpong forevermore based on the loss of their very first love some 20 odd years prior, but it's no doubt the case for some unfortunate individuals. So yes, this sort of rebound is the proper meaning of serial monogamy, yeah? I used to think I was a serial monogamist, but in each relationship I got into it hoping it would last, and I don't tend to bounce from one to the other and certainly do not feel the need to be in a relationship. When I broke up with the big kahuna (in terms of how serious that relationship was), I didn't get over him for yearrrrs and remained alone. I wouldn't want to be with someone who just slid from one relationship to another, I find that quite off-putting... It's like they have no sense of self and need constantly to borrow one from someone else.
Posted by P-Angel
Interesting question ..... most likely the person who rebounds every relationship onto another, does so with everything in their life. Just a constant changing to greener pastures, and never any solid foundations to build on.
A rebound relationship is healthy, so long as the person realizes what they are doing, comprehends that it's not real love. Probably only a half a percent of the adult population has the capability of being that real with themselves .... but, still, so long as they don't put all their eggs in the basket, I think it's healthy.
Often times, when people are stuck in a relationship (which of course, they aren't stuck, but, they don't know that) .... it's uncertainty that keeps them there, the fear of what is going to happen to them, how are they going to find the emotional strength to push forward.
And a person on the other side who wants them (even fractionally) is enough, in most cases, for that person to finally let go of the bad relationship. Is this rebound going anywhere? NO .... but, it serves its purpose in helping a trapped person to better themselves, so the purpose it serves is valuable.