Deal Breakers?

What are your deal breakers starting off in dating?

This is different than turn offs yes it is...

1. Physical abuse, emotional, or verbal abuse of any kind..Trust me I ask these questions especially on the online dating sites...

I had some guy tell me he hit his women and went to jail because she throw out his weed down the toilet..I asked him why.. he said he can't function with out it everyday..

2. Cocaine/heroine/meth/pill poppers.. I can't be around it. I have an addictive personality already. Once I start something I tend to focus too much on it. Like dxp, shopping online, or smoking cigs.

3. Too many kids from past relationships. Either from different women.. Or. Yes it was from one women... I dated a Sagittarius male for a few off and on type thing. He has 5 kids and the youngest was five years old..And it was really hard to give each other time.. cause I was busy with school and work but when I wasn't , he couldn't spend time with me because he spent it with his kids.

4. No goals... please have a job.. You don't have to have a degree but have a stable financial income. Because in the long run two incomes are better than one... and if it doesn't work out between us.. we both have a back up plan..

1. Abuse. Yes this would be a deal breaker. If she's beating up her past boyfriends, she'll kill me. I can be a jerk sometimes. It's all fun and games in the beginning, then someone loses an eye...

2. I'm glad to see you didn't lump pot in there. Drugs are bad m'kay. The average user of the ones you listed, I tend to find annoying. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone out their mind on pills, ugh. Don't like them. However, I have had many joyous cannibus fueled discussions.

3. How many kids is too many? I have two. I couldn't say anything if a met a woman and she had a few. Those little bastards add up quick and are expensive huh. I think this is the biggest reason I'm kind putting dating on hold for a while. The little free time I have belongs to my kids.

4. This point interests me a great deal. What does this mean exactly? When a woman says she wants a man with goals? You follow it up by saying have a job and your own cash, is that all it is? You just ain't looking for the guy content in his one bedroom working minimum wage?

What about a guy who makes good money, has a stable job, house, car, all the normal stuff...but has no further goals. He doesn't want or need much and already has excess? Does he still need to strive for more simply so a woman can still say he has ambition?

When a woman says to have goals and dreams, does she really want a man who thinks he will change/conquer the world, or is she simply saying she doesn't want to take care of a broke loser?

If people are content in minimum wage jobs and have their own place, car, money, and support yourself and me.. then I would be happy. But what if the women is the breadwinner.. what do you think you could contribute to the relationship with out money and then even'. If two people had. Minimum wage job with a 1200 in mortgage, 500-1000 for bills, and kid are in the picture...I think it would be okay. But we would have no extra money to travel also..

If you act weird on weed I won't tolerate. I am talking about being mean and nasty and can't handle it when your around your kids and other people.

I've worked ever since I was a kid. The idea of someone else being my bread winner is completely foreign to me. I've joked that it would be cool to be a stay at home dad, but don't think I could really do it.

I'm curious about a woman's want for a man to have goals and ambition and what that truly means.

I have no big goals or ambition haha. I've pretty much done the things I want. I found the things I enjoy and I do them. I have a pretty boring life but I'm having fun. I make as much money in a day now as I made in a week many years ago. I've been married (twice), I'd try it again. I've got great kids and a lot of years to go, but no real plans. I'll do lots of stuff, I just don't know what it is yet. Hell, I petted a living breathing lion two years ago, I never planned for that but it was awesome.

Why is this bad?

And I act weird whether I'm smoking pot or not, I don't think that'll ever change. But yeah, outta control stones are obnoxious too. I don't like angry people in general, but see it much more frequently with drunks than potheads.

Oh, and I have a degree. That wasn't planned either. I was working at an auto shop then woke up one morning and was 22, married, and had two kids. So, I went to college and found a career where I could make some bank.

That's cool.

My deal breakers are

1. Abuse - yes it all comes in different forms and somehow the older and mature I get the more I spot these at men I date at first date or two. and how a man treats animals is also a big factor to me, if he cant be kind to animals then its a red flag.

2. Drugs/Gambling - its a big deal breaker for me in a sense that I can get addicted easily although I know I will never be with an addict and a gambler (as stinger in money as I am) its not a life style I would want for the man I am dating its just not worth the time.

3. Kids, Exe's- I am reserved to 2. I have one child. and too many kids like 3 going up is too much straining for me. Its nto that I dont like kids (well kids are like magnets to me) its just that I take kids very seriously in a sense that they are responsibility and having more than 2 kids is just way too much responsibility. It would make it hard to make time with kids, work and me time.

4. Goals/ Ambitious - I have high respect for men who continue to better themselves, financially, intellectually and emotionally. I am no distinct do's and dont's in this field. If you are financially stable, its fine by me but you have to have something of a hobby or you are passionate about that you continue to find new ways or I will get bored with you. I am a person with an insatiable thirst to learning new things everyday and I would want a mate that can understand that drive.

5. Habits and Manners - im a very organized, overly detailed neat freak. well not OCD but I wouldnt date a man that is slob. I can see pretenses even at first date. If I may second guess just observing his home and how his kids act are a big factor for me. I cant be in a place that is all messy and disorganized. Manners as well is important, if you cant respect personal space, and even if that person is very much rude and you play with that rudeness then you will be categorized.

im so picky....

Oh yeah I am an animal lover so I get that one..

Ambition is good.

I am reserving 1-2 kids depending on the baby momma drama and if you are divorce.. if your separated no go...

Last ex(divorced) I've had , had ex mommy drama.. The two kids(different moms) are dramatic. The worst is the jealousy of the moms when their kids stop calling them mom and their closer to their dad's new partner. So yeah know the details.

Posted by phohawk

5. capricorn

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1. Princess complex
2. Capricorn / hates kids
3. Overly materialistic
4. Hates travelling
5. Have double standards