Got another on the line...

I think I have a new suitor (besides the Saggy grad student where I work that I made passing mention of in another post).

Other than Mr. Pisces, I'm not talking to any of the others anymore; although, I did speak to the Scorp earlier this week, he said he had been thinking about me and we should get together, he said 'maybe' wed, but he never firmed it up. I hear from Mr. Pisces at least once a day, sometimes I get a wake up call, a lunch time call AND and good night call all in the same day. But, he's still not asking me out.

So anyway, I digress...

This new one is a private attorney... but get this, he was the defense attorney in a case in which I was the victim. And he started hitting on me prior to us going before the judge (although, it was after his client signed the plea agreement - but, we still had to go before the judge).

I was shocked when he came over and started chit-chatting and joking with me after conferring with his client. Well, guess who I received a phone call from around 8 o'clock this evening? It didn't ring through so I didn't speak to him, but he left me a message that he would try again tomorrow.

Ah, I hold nothing against attorney's I give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

Posted by ianthefish
im sure thats what you said about that cop too ehh?

That lying son of a bitch!! I know the attorney is an attorney at least... (his client was involved with the theft of my purse and I spent hours in the court house with him 😄 ).

Posted by Shaks
I take back what I said that time.. I do want a hug from you, breasts in my face and all 🙂

What's with the change of heart my dear Shaks?? ::hugs:: Tight and close, breasts and all... oops, they slipped out LOL

Posted by ianthefish
to late i already corrupted her mind

HA... so it's all you're fault!!!

Ok, so Mr. Hot Sexy Confident Successful Attorney is on the line... what the hell am I to do with my Mr. Pisces I like so much and whom don't want to swim away when he gives me nothing to work with— AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHH

Yeah, gotta talk about him again because I'm feel like I'm going both upstream and downstream simultaneously!

I spoke to Mr. Pisces twice today for no real apparent reason... he called me, but to 0ask me out?? NOT! Like that's going to happen. The first time was just telling me that he had deliveries to make tonight, the second was in between deliveries *smh* yeah, ok, that's the same thing that you are doing every night!

What am I to do with this attorney when he asks me out... I don't like to juggle multiples unless, of course, it is simultaneously behind closed doors 😄 ) I don't know what to do w/ my Mr. Pisces!!!!

The last time I got together with him was for the shear simple purpose of cuddling with him all night long - ok, yeah, I apparently was a booty call (I did tell him I was horny, so me bad, yeah I was there in a heartbeat when he said come over), not that I didn't enjoy myself. That's neither here nor their though as...

He must thought I was sleeping (I was half asleep anyway) and he actually tells me that he likes me IN MY SLEEP... I just snuggled up closer. The next morning he was so all into me (no not sexually) just IDK, he came out of the shower and just walked in and wrapped his arms around me, embracing me for an extended period. Melted my heart and I couldn't help myself "what was that for?" I asked (all sweet, not sarcastic like). 'No reason' he responds. Then before I left he was kissing me and caressing me non-stop for at least 10 minutes. The man was already running late himself.

Aaargh what do I do with this man... what was that phrase I used before about those slippery fish?? (*whispers: 'wishy-washy').

Scorpio wants me to join him to watch the game on Sunday...

I'm exhausted and I haven't really even gone out with any of these guys.

Mr. Pisces is not giving me much to work with... or maybe he is and I'm impatient and want/need more direction and don't want to be sitting on my ass wasting my time not knowing if there is even a potential (yeah, I have told him that... I told him that I was not trying to pull him into a relationship, but that I felt like I was on a raft adrift in the ocean and that was not a comforting feeling to me! I also used the analogy that I was paddling water - he told me to swim I asked 'which direction' he couldn't give me an answer).

Why did he tell me he liked me when he thought I was sleeping— And why sometimes I feel something magical from him and other times like I'm just dust in the wind (so to speak).

So, if I meet up with Scorpio and/or go out with the Attorney and he finds out about either he'll most likely swim away as he will take it that I am not committed to him - yes?

But, I sit here in limbo. wtf does he expect me to do? He's always asking if I've cheated on him if I go out with my girlfriends but he's not taking me out and NO I'm not going over to his house for a booty call regularly, he's simply 'too busy' to see me as he puts it, but not too busy to call me multiple times a day.

(not that any of you care but the first time we went out it was dancing, the second time lunch, the third time the sports bar and the fourth, well, that was the booty call in which he was all over me the next morning in not a sexual way, it was more of a loving way if, you know what I mean).

Jason, that's my prob all together... I can't do it. Don't want to. Don't like it. But, at the same time sitting on the side lines is a bitch (excuse my language).

You would never leave a woman hanging like that right? That is why you are one of our favs Jason! We think you are the one of the greatest sweethearts of all time! *mwha*

Posted by ianthefish
i think your problem with pisces is that you havent fully opened yourself up... pisces sees this and withholds...

he will hold his ground until you come around..

maybe he thinks its your turn to make the move...

I have to agree with Ian. He can sense that you are closed off and probably knows that you are being indecisive... case in point... all the other suitors.

If he told you he liked you when he thought you were sleeping... that was his way of opening up to you without fear of rejection.

Be open with him. I know its frustrating, but the key is communication with a fish. Sometimes its hard because they communicate a bit differently than other signs, but if you listen and don't pick apart the small things, you can hear whats really going on. Actions speak louder than words and this is never more true than with a fish.

Good luck!

Thanks for your input guys.

It's not what he is doing that has me confused... it's what he isn't doing (wanting to see me more frequently).

I tried to set something up with him for this weekend... he told me that he didn't know what he was doing. The question in my mind is: "So, you don't know what your doing, that means you can't make plans with me?"

I feel second rate. In my mind 'doesn't know what he's doing' equates to 'I'm waiting to see if there is something better to do before I opt to see you'. And this seems to be the case from my perspective as the times we have gotten together have all been last minute.

Yes, there are signs that he likes me... but, by the same token, as I see it, if he did like me then he would make a concerted effort to make time for me in his busy life rather than last minute once every two weeks for a couple hrs.

Along those lines, I said to him last week... "you know what they say about men who don't make time for a woman? They're just not that into you!" So, he knows I'm irritated. I think it was the following night he asked me to come over.

Poopsie, your comments are taken at face value. Thank you.

I missed his calls tonight... he called at least a dozen times (literally! he exaggerated and even said it was more). My phone was on vibrate and I wasn't aware. So, he says to me, "I wanted to ask you to dinner tonight, but it's too late I'm already home and want to go to bed". It was 7:30pm when I actually spoke to him... ok, you're tired, I get it. But I cannot help feeling that his line about dinner was just that... a line! All because he couldn't reach me. I told him sorry, I'm not waiting by the phone for his call and I would have loved to have gone to dinner. Nope, missed my chance, as he put it. Asshole!

At the same time, we had a long conversation. It was a bubbly conversation, and he seemed so into me in the moment (and, yes, this was AFTER making his statements about being too tired for dinner). Why again does my heart melt when I talk to him? Why do I long to see him? Yeah, there are other suitors, but why is it him that I would prefer? He's not the most attractive of them... he's just the one I am, for whatever reason feeling a connection to.

My tag under my AV is so telling 'female from they abyss of confusion'. At least I know that much about myself 🙂

Oh, maybe it's just the fact that as a Cap I need to conquer what appears to be inconceivable to others... *sigh* 😢

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
lil you are trying to measure a gallon with a yardstick. 😢

?? in what respect...

Bella, you are asking me to do something that is difficult for me... yes, I know, water signs operate on a different plane than I do. *sigh* You know I need something to plant my feet on - direction! Which, for me, entails verbal affirmation. It gives me grounding and something to work with. I don't like to just 'drift' in the seas of uncertainty. But, I don't need to tell you that! You are telling me that if I want to persue this, then I need to let myself go and allow myself to just drift and come what may. 'Drift'?? and come what may? I have always made my own destiny!! I'm out of my element otherwise - leave fate up to fate? Fate is what I make it! I suppose this is why I am so aggressive under the circumstances! Uh, under all circumstances really!

Currently, he apparently IS swimming MY WAY, but the tide of my uncertainty is keeping me away. *smh* I'll be honest with you all, we discuss (if that's what you want to call it) 'us' every other day. Yes, it is me asking for direction, asking for affirmation, asking for clarity as to where I stand. And, you all already know, it goes no where. He has told me he understands my position, that he knows I need direction, and understands that I don't want another failure, but he doesn't know where he is at yet. He's also expressed explicitly his discontent with MY need for purpose in what is happening between us. At the same time, he still calls, still laughs with me, still busts up on me and sill calls me hon. In other words, I have not stirred the waters enough for him to swim away... but he is feeling quite a few ripples. If I keep on I know what the end result will be.

Thinking back on the analogy I used about treading water... I told Mr. Pisces that I was uncomfortable w/ just treading water and he told me to swim then. I asked which direction but he didn't answer. So, was he implying that if I can't tread water for the time being I should just swim away?... am I reading that right or just reading too much into it?

I feel like I try to analyze and rationalize everything to the umpteenth time (oh really?? That's cause I do... duh).

I want and need purpose and direction in everything I do... why undertake something if there is no meaningful end to what is trying to be accomplished?? Why try at all?? *sigh*

Hope! Love! Happiness! (and in that order!)

Life is short...

Maybe I should take up meditation or even medication (that would be cheaper)... DXP is much more fun and intuitive though!!

Guess who called me this evening to take me to dinner? He actually gave me three hrs notice too (wow)...

The way it actually went down is, he said he wasn't going to OH tonight and I asked him if he wanted me to cook him dinner in that case. His response: "No, I want take you to dinner".


He should be here anytime, I'll let you guys know how it goes 🙂

Well, we actually had a nice sit down dinner... he had said something about sitting at the bar, but then opted for a table despite the fact we had to wait. Their was a game on up at the bar and we could see it but he paid little mind to it and focused more on me.

He seemed a little distant after dinner though, I asked if he was glad that I had went with him and he looked at me real funny, laughed and asked why I would even ask and 'of course'.

We were headed toward my house so I figured he was just bringing me home - despite his response to my Q I thought he really wasn't feeling me and was just going to drop me off (if I hadn't stayed at his house on previous occasions this would not have seemed odd). But, then he asked me if I wanted to drop my leftovers off at my place for my son. Me: 'and go home with you??' He repeated his question, so I took that as a yes.

It wasn't for a booty call though, he wanted to watch TV and cuddle with me (which really was my preference anyway). We fell asleep on the couch together. Later he commented on how nice it was to cuddle with me. Hmmm... (of course, I still question and analyze every little thing in my mind - it's a curse!)

We did breakfast, but he didn't cook for me this time, we made it together. When I thanked him for breakfast, he thanked me right back. So, I'm presuming he enjoyed how that worked out. (see, I even analyzed why he thanked me - I can't just take it for what it is, I have to process why he said it)

At the moment, I do feel a certain sense of peace with things the way they are...

Posted by Jason2213
I don't think I could date around like that. 😢

My heart can't multi task.

"One at a time" is all it knows.

Aw, to be young and innocent again. When love could conquer anything. (I mean that sincerely not sarcastically BTW) Jason, when you get older working screwed up fulltime shifts, you may change your mind on that.

When you are on your own supporting yourself (not in college) the chances of meeting a girl who's schedule is compatible is pretty scarce.

You'll be lucky at all to see the girl once a week even. See, I refuse to commit to someone I only see once a week. Hell, I might as well be single at that point. Cause text messaging and phone calls are not what sustains a relationship. Its the actual time you spend TOGETHER.

Knowing my work schedule (which I have no choice in BTW) is screwed up, I always tell women we can only be FTF (Friends That F-ck)nothing more. And I explain why. Usually they understand and are cool with it.

So Lildol, I applaud you for not putting your eggs in one basket. Date around, you're only young once. Never let standard social conditioning regarding women in dating dictate your life.

Jason, you seem like a really cool guy. But please dont take dating so seriously. You are only 18. Focus on your dreams, school, whatever it is. Treat dating as a fun hobby on the side. You've got the rest of your 20's for it.

This isnt criticism Jason, just something looking back now at 28, I wished someone told me at 18. Youth is prescious and doesnt last forever.