Hate at first sight--It's not you... ok, it's you!

Have you ever experienced something like hate at first sight?

I have, and I feel bad about it. To this day I do not understand how it is possible to dislike someone when you have not even crossed a word with them. You are absolutely aware that you may not know that person at all, and that you do not have any arguments as to justify why you don't like them, but sometimes even at the slightest sound of someone's voice you know that you just don't want that person to be anywhere near or around you.

How is it possible to feel this way? Why?

Hmm, I have on sight disliked someone intensely. Been repulsed by their presence. Most definitely known I don't want someone around me. I figure there's a good reason for the reaction and pay attention to it. You know, like they might have a torture room in their basement, a *special play room* the police should know about..that they do unspeakable things to all manner of cute and cuddly. Perhaps their cheese slid off their cracker, or they're a vast well of emotional suckitude that bounces completely off the scale.
In any event, if my feelers go up and everything goes on high alert, I stay away from them.

Nope ... I never fall into that kind of delusion ... and that would go for the other end of the spectrum, as well.


Love is earned, as well as hate.



I've noticed that a lot of people who don't realize they are haters, actually are.

Idk about "hate" but I've def. met someone for the 1st time & knew immediately that I'd never like them, get along with them or that we'd never "mesh" well at all. Sometimes ya just "know."

I've never had outright contempt for someone that I didn't know though. Having rage or hate for someone you don't even know & without having a reason why sounds like a borderline jealousy/insecure problem though.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being able to tell up front that someone is just not your cup of tea. As long as you remember & are open to the idea that your own 1st impressions could be wrong, there's nothing wrong with trusting what your own judgement/instincts have picked up about a person.

Posted by krysrenee7
Idk about "hate" but I've def. met someone for the 1st time & knew immediately that I'd never like them, get along with them or that we'd never "mesh" well at all. Sometimes ya just "know."

I've never had outright contempt for someone that I didn't know though. Having rage or hate for someone you don't even know & without having a reason why sounds like a borderline jealousy/insecure problem though.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being able to tell up front that someone is just not your cup of tea. As long as you remember & are open to the idea that your own 1st impressions could be wrong, there's nothing wrong with trusting what your own judgement/instincts have picked up about a person.

Ok, I think the word 'hate' is too intense for what I was trying to say. I didn't mean it as: "I wish all the wrong things in the world happened to someone just because I don't like them". I meant it more as disliking someone.

It's more like krysrenee said it: The feeling that you will never like this person. It seems to be some sort of gut feeling like VB said, or your instinct being triggered by the vibes that you are picking up from someone. And yes, sometimes after you hang out with these people and learn more from them you realize there's actually a lot you have in common, and they become a very important of your life. But some other times, it just seems like chemistry is not there.

Posted by P-Angel
Nope ... I never fall into that kind of delusion ... and that would go for the other end of the spectrum, as well.


Love is earned, as well as hate.



I've noticed that a lot of people who don't realize they are haters, actually are.

Yes, sometimes it is easier to think that everything in life is black and white, and we forget about that gray area in which we live in.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
*Use one of the 'people hate in others what they see in themselves most' type idioms/phrases*

I know, I'm very aware of that. But believe me it's hard to see what it is you see in those people... Well not really, I think the hardest thing is to actually do something about that.

Posted by WynterBourne
Dunno. I just comfort myself with the thought that they probably hate me, as well. 😛

LOL

I don't recall hating someone else on sight, but I know I have seen any number of people look at me and go to instant hostility. I have often wondered if it was my smell, or some such thing.

I also seem to notice a trend that the people who do this instant hate thing tend to be the uptight, I am better than anyone else types. The appearance from my perspective is that they indeed feel they are superior to me, and that this has to be demonstrated immediately, and as forcefully as possible.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
*Use one of the 'people hate in others what they see in themselves most' type idioms/phrases*

this is usually the case. On more than one occassion I have been told the person that annoys me most, reminds other people of me.

How annoying!!!!! Lol

occasion has one s.

Sorry 🙂

Sure who doesn't?

I've never hated/disliked anyone by just looking at them. That would be dumb because I don't even know them. I am old enough, and have had enough life experience, to know that you can't judge everything off of first impressions. Even if I was super turned off during round 1, I still muster up the courage to go for another in case it was bad timing. Cautious but willing.

I have gotten bad, bad vibes from people by just looking at them before. You can read a lot about people by looking at their body language, their demeanor, and their behavior. We communicate more this way than by verbalizing. Like Krys said before as well, I have also known almost instantly that I wasn't going to be "friends" with certain people briefly after introduction but that's not to imply that I dislike them. I tend to feel neutral toward them. I may definitely have an opinion but they don't carry much weight in my thoughts.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Sure who doesn't?

ugh.