He comes back....for what?

A few weeks ago I made a decision to leave my boyfriend (cancer) because of issues that we had. He was lying basically about everything, I was crying just about every night, he never took what I felt into consideration. So I decided to change my telephone number and not talk to him; So he ended up calling one of my close friends pleading and asking her to have me call him. So I call and he says he's miserable without me, he can't think, he realize that he messed and he's willing to do any and everything to make things better, and that after all of this time he realize that he loves me. So I took him back, his words sound sincere now I was waiting for the actions to follow through.

Fast forward, it's now a week later; It's as if last week's conversation never occured. Now that he has a cell phone I though things would be better, WRONG. I haven't seen him since last week, he doesn't call me, when I call he doesn't answer. Now let me point out I was doing fine without him, yea I was feeling hurt but my mind was clear and I didn't have to worry about the things that are going on right now. I try talking to him when I do actually get a hold of him he laughs at me thinking that it's a joke. I asked him what was the point of coming back into my life if you're not willing to show and prove anything to me, no comment. I told him the year is almost over and I don't want to have to go through the same things again, so I asked him to give me one reason why I should stay with him, he tells me " I don't know". WOW, this really hurts me because I gave him a chance thinking that he was serious and we are going down the same road, and I am still the one hurting and wondering what's going to happen next. I am like the convenient girlfriend, all the other times I am nothing. I feel like crying as I type this. Help me, what shall I do?

Beautiful....YOU KNOW what to do. Are you happy with him? If the answer is yes, stay and enjoy your wonderful moments. If the answer is no, move on cuz he ain't gonna change and you have seen that already.

Here's my take on this...you know you are not happy with him (he is not honoring you)and this is what is hurting you - lack of respect. If you stay, you basically are telling him that it is okay for him to treat you the way he is...you are allowing him to. Actions speak louder than words...if this is not working for you....cut off contact, honor yourself moving on and enjoying your life.

What do you want? figure that out and then go do it.

I know these situations can be difficult at times - I wish you the best in keeping yourself happy. 😉

Thanks, I made the decision that I want to be happy and that means being without him. He doesn't respect me, and because I didn't make him work hard to get me back I made it easy for him and he felt his work was done. I can't take the pain, it's not worth it. When I broke up with a few weeks ago I was fine, I want to feel that feeling again and better.

🙂 I knew you knew what to do....you will once again feel happiness... You have it right now my friend.

Glad you were able to make your decision -

Yeah, you knew the answer. This guy begged for you to take him back, professed his love for you, but then couldn't back it up when it really counted. It's great you can move on and I wish you the best! Happy New Year.

Thank you guys for helping me out. I have to just take things a day at a time and work towards my own happiness with myself.I told him this: "Do what you do best, leave me alone, and don't try to contact my friends either. I don't want to see your face or hear your voice again. I am too good for you". That's that and I feel good about it.

stay strong beautiful 🙂

good for you .... takes a lot of courage to do the right thing

and here's to a better year 🙂

sounds like he didn't like being dumped and would tell you he'd do anything to make things work and then once he had you back, went to the same place you were at before you dumped him.

Hope you have a better 2007 🙂

Ironic, that I would read this thread now . . yesterday, on Christmas Day, one of my relatives confessed to a story so similiar, I would be questioning whether you are her, or not . . except . . she hasn't figured out yet, that it's to herself where her path lies . . she is waiting for him to come back to her with no respect to herself and speaks to us as though she has done something to warrant this kind of treatment.

Then, here's you . . who has the courage and the sense of self, respectively, who can forego the pain and move yourself in a better direction.

Rock on girl . . we're with you. 🙂

don't follow in P-Angel's rellies' footsteps...you deserve so much better!!! He isn't worth all the hurt.