How do you feel
How do you feel
When you meet someone and they ask "what do you do"—_.
Are you employed or not?
Do you feel sensitive about your job or are you proud?
Do you find it prying?
Do you get the sense that your being judged about how much you make?
Or is it a flag that they are after your money?
Are you employed or not?
Do you feel sensitive about your job or are you proud?
Do you find it prying?
Do you get the sense that your being judged about how much you make?
Or is it a flag that they are after your money?
There was this guy on this gay dating site that I was just chatting to and he's been "winking" me all this time since I moved here so i thought, why not lets give him a go..
me - G'day how u going?
him - good mate yourself? I work in your area.
me - oh really? cool maybe u might wanna catch up for a drink or a coffee after work sometime.
him - nice hair, do you work?
me - not at the moment I'm looking for work
him - just wondering must be hard to survive without a job..
At this point I'm thinking "is he concerned that I'm going to make him pay for my coffee"? - "does he think if a free loader"?
I feel really self conscious now because I don't have a job and I wanna block him??_??_.If I met someone the last thing i could care about is their job??_.
I think I will block him though, he wasn't that hot either and he's a pharmacist??_..hows that! I can judge him because I think his job is boring.
me - G'day how u going?
him - good mate yourself? I work in your area.
me - oh really? cool maybe u might wanna catch up for a drink or a coffee after work sometime.
him - nice hair, do you work?
me - not at the moment I'm looking for work
him - just wondering must be hard to survive without a job..
At this point I'm thinking "is he concerned that I'm going to make him pay for my coffee"? - "does he think if a free loader"?
I feel really self conscious now because I don't have a job and I wanna block him??_??_.If I met someone the last thing i could care about is their job??_.
I think I will block him though, he wasn't that hot either and he's a pharmacist??_..hows that! I can judge him because I think his job is boring.
I agree with PVAF.
And, no, I don't like to be asked what I do for a living. I leave my job at work, and the very last thing I want to do in my free time is to have an extensive conversation about it (and people ALWAYS want to do that, for some reason).
I NEVER ask people what they do for a living, unless they make statements that make it obvious that I should ask.
And, no, I don't like to be asked what I do for a living. I leave my job at work, and the very last thing I want to do in my free time is to have an extensive conversation about it (and people ALWAYS want to do that, for some reason).
I NEVER ask people what they do for a living, unless they make statements that make it obvious that I should ask.
well i already said
- "its just a coffee bud and I'm more than happy to buy my own, its not like i'm asking you to pay my bills"
then I blocked him??_.so thats done and dusted
I guess the moral to this story is that I should get a job before I date
- "its just a coffee bud and I'm more than happy to buy my own, its not like i'm asking you to pay my bills"
then I blocked him??_.so thats done and dusted
I guess the moral to this story is that I should get a job before I date
Sad but true. Guess those few words can be taboo phrases when meeting someone new.
I'm not working 'right now'.
I'm unemployed.
I'm in between jobs.
Even though the person may be perfectly capable of carrying their own weight...how do they know you don't have duckies saved up?
I'm not working 'right now'.
I'm unemployed.
I'm in between jobs.
Even though the person may be perfectly capable of carrying their own weight...how do they know you don't have duckies saved up?
Well, I suppose I'm one of those who ask. Bad cappy trait! lol!!!
As a capricorn, I'm forever identifying myself with my job and I just assume other people do too. It's a way to find common ground. For instance, if someone works in healthcare, then we will have lots to talk about. Or if they work in a field I know nothing about, then I'd like to know what they love about it, tolerate about it, and I'd ask questions to learn more about it, thus learning more about them.
I feel if someone asks me questions about my job, they're interested in me, in what I do on a day to day basis, and if they question more to find out my feelings about it, or if I am passionate about it, then I feel like they're interested in getting to know me better.
It's not about finding out how much money someone makes. For instance, there are lawyers who make a LOT of money (but they have very little free time) and there are lawyers who are barely making ends meet. It's the same in every field.
I was unemployed for a little while after a layoff, but it didn't embarrass me to be asked. I'd just tell them my future is wide open and I'm excited about so many possibilities and let the passion flow through. Only people who feel embarrassed about being unemployed are going to be uncomfortable with the question when it comes up and if they are avoidant of answering, it makes me wonder if they have something to hide.
As a capricorn, I'm forever identifying myself with my job and I just assume other people do too. It's a way to find common ground. For instance, if someone works in healthcare, then we will have lots to talk about. Or if they work in a field I know nothing about, then I'd like to know what they love about it, tolerate about it, and I'd ask questions to learn more about it, thus learning more about them.
I feel if someone asks me questions about my job, they're interested in me, in what I do on a day to day basis, and if they question more to find out my feelings about it, or if I am passionate about it, then I feel like they're interested in getting to know me better.
It's not about finding out how much money someone makes. For instance, there are lawyers who make a LOT of money (but they have very little free time) and there are lawyers who are barely making ends meet. It's the same in every field.
I was unemployed for a little while after a layoff, but it didn't embarrass me to be asked. I'd just tell them my future is wide open and I'm excited about so many possibilities and let the passion flow through. Only people who feel embarrassed about being unemployed are going to be uncomfortable with the question when it comes up and if they are avoidant of answering, it makes me wonder if they have something to hide.
Ehhh, but I'm a cap. Our career is our life. I forget that not everyone is like this.
*shrugs*
*shrugs*
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
There was this guy on this gay dating site that I was just chatting to and he's been "winking" me all this time since I moved here so i thought, why not lets give him a go..
me - G'day how u going?
him - good mate yourself? I work in your area.
me - oh really? cool maybe u might wanna catch up for a drink or a coffee after work sometime.
him - nice hair, do you work?
me - not at the moment I'm looking for work
him - just wondering must be hard to survive without a job..
At this point I'm thinking "is he concerned that I'm going to make him pay for my coffee"? - "does he think if a free loader"?
I feel really self conscious now because I don't have a job and I wanna block him??_??_.If I met someone the last thing i could care about is their job??_.
I think I will block him though, he wasn't that hot either and he's a pharmacist??_..hows that! I can judge him because I think his job is boring.
Yeah, I see in that scenario, then maybe he was wondering what you were after. Maybe he has been taken advantage of before by someone wanting a free ride. ??
You just have to make it clear that you're not after that. Best if you don't ask him what he does.
Or maybe HE'S the one looking for a free ride—
I don't blame you for wanting to steer away from him.
Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
Sad but true. Guess those few words can be taboo phrases when meeting someone new.
I'm not working 'right now'.
I'm unemployed.
I'm in between jobs.
Even though the person may be perfectly capable of carrying their own weight...how do they know you don't have duckies saved up?
This is true. Sometimes they don't bother to find out more. Maybe you're one of those types who plan ahead and have six months of living expenses saved up like the financial guru's tell us to do. Or maybe you're living off of an inheritance and don't want to tell someone you just met about it.
I ask what a guy does for a living.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to know if he can provide for himself and you.
Yes, The_eleventh_sign_11, get a job. In fact get one that pays well.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to know if he can provide for himself and you.
Yes, The_eleventh_sign_11, get a job. In fact get one that pays well.
how do I feel?
I feel right for the first time in my life I am 7 months single and just getting over myex now even though its been like 6-7years since I went. The future looks bright to me for once in my life I am no longer being weighed down by other things. I have opportunities I dont know of yet but feel like i do have them and its only a matter of time before I can get on with what it is i really want to do. I have to figure that out and then go for it and then again its already in the pipeline so jsut waiting for the time to be right before I get to do what is already in the pipeline. I am still a headcase like still down and scatterbrained like that appears to be so but thats just how I am I have thought s going in and out all the time and its hard to keep up to them all and then sometimes the thoughts are quiet but i dont let them get to me I let them like pretty much everything else slide right by and then I can think of more important things that i would like to be doing etcetc. I am still very emotional and that will never change so for whoever that has read my diaries and is wondering if I am alright and is asking me via an indirect way by this post on this site to so call proetect themselves and try to expose jsut how 'fucked up' I 'really' am and dont understand that in the process of doing that you are only hurting yourself, I say to them I am always al(l)right. I dont have a problem with how I am to myself or others despite how I am, its you who has a problem with me and if there was ever a way to sort you out and your perception of me I would think of this very much so however i dont have any solutions to you perceptions maybe you could think of solutions to the many perceptions you have of me and help you self in living a life that is much nicer and kinder to youself than the one you hve now
I feel right for the first time in my life I am 7 months single and just getting over myex now even though its been like 6-7years since I went. The future looks bright to me for once in my life I am no longer being weighed down by other things. I have opportunities I dont know of yet but feel like i do have them and its only a matter of time before I can get on with what it is i really want to do. I have to figure that out and then go for it and then again its already in the pipeline so jsut waiting for the time to be right before I get to do what is already in the pipeline. I am still a headcase like still down and scatterbrained like that appears to be so but thats just how I am I have thought s going in and out all the time and its hard to keep up to them all and then sometimes the thoughts are quiet but i dont let them get to me I let them like pretty much everything else slide right by and then I can think of more important things that i would like to be doing etcetc. I am still very emotional and that will never change so for whoever that has read my diaries and is wondering if I am alright and is asking me via an indirect way by this post on this site to so call proetect themselves and try to expose jsut how 'fucked up' I 'really' am and dont understand that in the process of doing that you are only hurting yourself, I say to them I am always al(l)right. I dont have a problem with how I am to myself or others despite how I am, its you who has a problem with me and if there was ever a way to sort you out and your perception of me I would think of this very much so however i dont have any solutions to you perceptions maybe you could think of solutions to the many perceptions you have of me and help you self in living a life that is much nicer and kinder to youself than the one you hve now
scorpio moon overdrive 11th 😉
I tell people I'm a professional barwench and bringer of coffee! I even come with a mandatory monday bitchyrestingface!
I tell people I'm a professional barwench and bringer of coffee! I even come with a mandatory monday bitchyrestingface!
When you meet someone and they ask "what do you do"—_.
Are you employed or not?
Do you feel sensitive about your job or are you proud?
Do you find it prying?
Do you get the sense that your being judged about how much you make?
Or is it a flag that they are after your money?
In answer to the questions above I dont care what they think or what you or anyone else thinks, and if I ever get asked these questions from anyone theyd be prying and its usually got to do with the person whos out to get me as to why they are asking these questions and I say mind your own business and go away depends on my mood how about you asking me directly you self and instead of getting others to this?
Also brings me to why you have to change yourself and your perceptions bro
Also if you were honest, this whole post is directed at me it would be because you are wondering what i mean if i ask these questions and you got it wrong hence why i say to change your perceptions, I ask coz i want to know what another is doing and its not about wanting to know what another does for a living etcetc at all, so you lucked out on that and i am sorry to say maybe my curiousity gets the better of me and I have to know these things I mean so i can make better choices for not only myself but everyone else. Its just what I do and how I am so you must change your perceptions of me coz they arent how I am anyway. Well maybe you are right and your perceptions are spot on and I am the one trying to understand your perceptions of me. That could be a possiblity I wont rule out and yes you caught me on a good day so you are forgiven for lying to me about you being married etcetc and also forgotten I dont know who you are and I just felt like you was being real by being telling me all that stuff but realise now you wasnt and that I am an idiot for believing you in the first place but you have stuck by me from the divorce and I thank you for that and yeh even though you lied at first to me about you being married I cant be with a married person ad i am sorry if you got the wrong idea and you hurt me coz you lied to me and wasnt upfront and honest in how things are for you. I dont want anything from you and never have only a friend and an honest one at that and you couldnt even come to the plate and be that so why even go on here and post the shit you do to get back at me for what you really are like. If you told me you were married in the first place i wouldnt have liked you from
Are you employed or not?
Do you feel sensitive about your job or are you proud?
Do you find it prying?
Do you get the sense that your being judged about how much you make?
Or is it a flag that they are after your money?
In answer to the questions above I dont care what they think or what you or anyone else thinks, and if I ever get asked these questions from anyone theyd be prying and its usually got to do with the person whos out to get me as to why they are asking these questions and I say mind your own business and go away depends on my mood how about you asking me directly you self and instead of getting others to this?
Also brings me to why you have to change yourself and your perceptions bro
Also if you were honest, this whole post is directed at me it would be because you are wondering what i mean if i ask these questions and you got it wrong hence why i say to change your perceptions, I ask coz i want to know what another is doing and its not about wanting to know what another does for a living etcetc at all, so you lucked out on that and i am sorry to say maybe my curiousity gets the better of me and I have to know these things I mean so i can make better choices for not only myself but everyone else. Its just what I do and how I am so you must change your perceptions of me coz they arent how I am anyway. Well maybe you are right and your perceptions are spot on and I am the one trying to understand your perceptions of me. That could be a possiblity I wont rule out and yes you caught me on a good day so you are forgiven for lying to me about you being married etcetc and also forgotten I dont know who you are and I just felt like you was being real by being telling me all that stuff but realise now you wasnt and that I am an idiot for believing you in the first place but you have stuck by me from the divorce and I thank you for that and yeh even though you lied at first to me about you being married I cant be with a married person ad i am sorry if you got the wrong idea and you hurt me coz you lied to me and wasnt upfront and honest in how things are for you. I dont want anything from you and never have only a friend and an honest one at that and you couldnt even come to the plate and be that so why even go on here and post the shit you do to get back at me for what you really are like. If you told me you were married in the first place i wouldnt have liked you from
If you told me you were married in the first place i wouldnt have liked you from the start and i wouldnt hate you like i do now and I wouldnt have feelings like i do for you but that could be because of other things an i am getting the two mixed up hence why ineed time alone by myself to sort myself out so I can think clearer and not get confused as to whether or not you are married or not or if you do actually like, love, hate, miss me or anything else for that matter. I really need to be single and be with other guys not just one so I can grow and find the one thats for me eventually i see thins differently from most people and just because I do doesnt ean I am a nutcase i may veyr well be but I know I am not I am different yet still just like everybody else so i dont understand why you are like how you are and trying to get to know me via other people when maybe tyou you could just say lets get on with it unless you cant for some reason unknown to me and instead of me pressuring you to do so i am going to let that go and not stress about why you wont do that but instead worry about sorting myself out which is what I would like to do and i need to do ths coz it is important not only ro myself but to everyone else as well. I like many different people all at the same time and i cant be with another coz that will restrict me and how I am unless they are like me and understand that and then maybe but still its preferable to stay by oneself coz you can do what you want then and not have to answer to a nagging other person who only tells you how to live your life etctec i wont stand for that at all so its best for both of us to stay single and live life to the fullest also how you goign to feel when I like someone else which i am findig myself that I do all the time and that I have to deal with this my own way i dont think its right to be with someone and like other people at the same time its not right by you and its not right by myself so I cant see myself doing that to you or anyone else, for me its wrong so I cant do it. So i am sorry if you got the misunderstanding that I wanted more than jsut friends maybe in the beginning but i know what I am like and its not right by you or me to be with someone when you like others and thats why i dont want to be with you coz i dont want jealousy and all that also I have to sort myself out to and feel that having someone else will not allow that to happen for me. Besides you are married and I wont be with a married g
Besides you are married and I wont be with a married guy at all. Ok yeh friends definately but plz only if you honest I wont stand for frineds who arent and in all seriously you are an honest guy in your own way and I am sorry for getting angry at you and for all that I have said you keep on expressing it out that be my penance for being angry at you for lying to me about how you really are but now that i am not angry and understand I can move on and get on with my life and again I apologise for any inconvenience I have had caused you via you not being honest with to being with. BYE.
Also there is no reason for you and i to be together at all really before and now so in actuality you by being lying to me created the whole drama so you could get angry at someone you targeted for your inner rage to project onto so you could get rid of me coz I never died in the first place like you wanted me to. And this haas been going on for how long? 20 odd years or so? FARCK!! I am going now see you later and good luck with your life. BYE.
Also there is no reason for you and i to be together at all really before and now so in actuality you by being lying to me created the whole drama so you could get angry at someone you targeted for your inner rage to project onto so you could get rid of me coz I never died in the first place like you wanted me to. And this haas been going on for how long? 20 odd years or so? FARCK!! I am going now see you later and good luck with your life. BYE.
It's a way of establishing if there are things in common and yes with some people they also need to know whether you are working or not. So much unemployment out there and so many people that have never held down a job or even have the desire to. This situation I think is your own insecurities that are holding you back, he may have been just throwing it out there like a weather question but you are defensive and feeling threatened and with that you may never get to know.
How do you feel about yourself not yet finding employment? It's hard out there with 300 applicants applying for 1 advertised job! Because this question will come up every time, whether it's on a dating site or in RL situations.
How do you feel about yourself not yet finding employment? It's hard out there with 300 applicants applying for 1 advertised job! Because this question will come up every time, whether it's on a dating site or in RL situations.
mfwb55 - if you thought I wasn't going to read all that because it made no sense, then jokes on you!
Yeh I guess I'm a bit pissed off that I'm not working and am a bludger ??_I've applied for a lot of jobs since Ive been here and didn't get any and its not like I'm under qualified!!!??_.
Yeh I guess I'm a bit pissed off that I'm not working and am a bludger ??_I've applied for a lot of jobs since Ive been here and didn't get any and its not like I'm under qualified!!!??_.
Ok heres what went down??_..I didn't end up blocking him and continued to chat because I'm stupid
He gave me his number and I started msging him on my phone so he asks for a pic and I send a photo of me smiling
and he replies with ??
and i say - did u not receive it? sorry my phone is shit
he replies - what type of phone do you have?
me - a little nokia phone-- (I busted my iPhone)
him - want to see your body
me - I dont take body pics they weird me out and I feel awkward
him - but I want to see you body??_do you have FaceTime?
me - I'm gonna go now I'm not gonna FaceTime you because I'm not gonna give you a show . I offered to meet up for coffee but you seem so caught up in my job status, my type of phone and my body that we probably wouldn't have much to talk about if we met??_..I don't care if u want to see my body I don't know you and I don't owe you anything.
then I wrote I'm not gonna txt him anymore then he writes..
geeze you do not need to b that upset I did not mean to upset you anyways nice to chat with you enjoy the rest of your night.
Now he makes me out to be the psycho because I wrote a long txt outlining how I feel and how out of line he is??_I fucking hate people!!!
He gave me his number and I started msging him on my phone so he asks for a pic and I send a photo of me smiling
and he replies with ??
and i say - did u not receive it? sorry my phone is shit
he replies - what type of phone do you have?
me - a little nokia phone-- (I busted my iPhone)
him - want to see your body
me - I dont take body pics they weird me out and I feel awkward
him - but I want to see you body??_do you have FaceTime?
me - I'm gonna go now I'm not gonna FaceTime you because I'm not gonna give you a show . I offered to meet up for coffee but you seem so caught up in my job status, my type of phone and my body that we probably wouldn't have much to talk about if we met??_..I don't care if u want to see my body I don't know you and I don't owe you anything.
then I wrote I'm not gonna txt him anymore then he writes..
geeze you do not need to b that upset I did not mean to upset you anyways nice to chat with you enjoy the rest of your night.
Now he makes me out to be the psycho because I wrote a long txt outlining how I feel and how out of line he is??_I fucking hate people!!!
Seems to me that a lot of gay men are promiscuous and expect you to put out immediately...don't get me wrong, it's not an attack on you or gays but just hearing things in general it seems that way and you are well within your rights to have standards and uphold them.
I've been on dating sites and only one person asked me to send a pic and he was very graphic in his profile too, he was blocked immediately.
Back to your original post, also seems like your instincts on this one was spot on!
I've been on dating sites and only one person asked me to send a pic and he was very graphic in his profile too, he was blocked immediately.
Back to your original post, also seems like your instincts on this one was spot on!
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Ok heres what went down??_..I didn't end up blocking him and continued to chat because I'm stupid
He gave me his number and I started msging him on my phone so he asks for a pic and I send a photo of me smiling...
him - want to see your body...
Shoulda said you first buddy! Haha bit seriously - you were in the right!
On the internetz no one knows who's really a monkey, no one at all-
I'm not familiar with that behavior, because I don't like society so much.
When I hear that, I just turn back and go to the gym 🙂
All I need is myself.
Belongings and material success are not useful after you die, It's pretty obvious.
People don't realize this because most of them are such less evolved humans.
But pride, honor and courage will follow your soul beyond death.
(As it's written in many ancient books, like the Kybalion ) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kybalion
Knowledge will set you free my friends.
Oh... but knowledge may also enslave you, It's not meant for everyone.
So don't believe, comprehend. 🙂
Good Luck.
When I hear that, I just turn back and go to the gym 🙂
All I need is myself.
Belongings and material success are not useful after you die, It's pretty obvious.
People don't realize this because most of them are such less evolved humans.
But pride, honor and courage will follow your soul beyond death.
(As it's written in many ancient books, like the Kybalion ) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kybalion
Knowledge will set you free my friends.
Oh... but knowledge may also enslave you, It's not meant for everyone.
So don't believe, comprehend. 🙂
Good Luck.
wow charlie your awesome thanks!
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