How Do You Get Someone Interested In You

I was asked this by a friend two days ago.
All i could say was:
"just be yourself and hope that they see the value of your worth, all you can be is yourself, Pretence will only fool for so long"
And stand up with confidence, that other person is just that!!
a person just like you, no better or worse, you are as good as he/she is.

Im not sure if that made sense LOL

ive never understood how some people put others on Pedastals just like gods!!
theyre just PEOPLE!
Nothing wrong with caring or loving someone, but no need to overdo it.

Made perfect sense Dogs... Now then more tips on how you get someone interested in you...ooh ooh...

1. Read every aspect of their charts and make all adjustments to your character into what you think they like
2. Join dxp or other forums and post a topic to get the FORMULA
3. Change your name to their name
4. Move in with them without their knowledge
5. Steal their phone book and tell everyone you're married
6. Kick their axx and make them see how much you're worth
7. When someone says, "You can't get someone interested in you - it's there or it isn't" - kick them and make them eat their words !

LOL you cant MAKE someone love you
all you can do is STALK them till they give in

Calthorpe ! that'll work too

Ghettobooty - there is one sure way to attract a Cappy
"Make Him Laugh" - a good sense of humour goes a long way with us Caps

Well, I have a lot of player guys as friends, and making them wait for sex WILL NOT make them fall in love (again, I'm talking about the guys I know). We've had many coversations about this, and all of them say that they will stay in it to get a "piece" because they are getting it from other places, so they can wait forever, but once they get it, then they are done. So that whole, three month, six month rule stuff doesn't work if you are trying to get a player. I will say though, that people should do what they, as adults, feel is appropriate. I, personally, don't prescribe by all of that rigamorole about length of time to wait, etc. It's never meant a hill of beans in any of my serious relationships, but I respect those people who feel that it does. To each his own; however, when dealing with players, they are a different breed, and they can spot that "wait game" a mile away, and don't care, cause they are getting it elsewhere. I caution my female friends about this, as I always tell them to be true to themselves, and what they feel. They shouldn't feel pressured to do anything they don't want to do, but on the flip side, if they WANT to do something, then they should. That's what being an adult in adult situatons is all about.

Is there any possible way to make a guy that believes that is a player fall in love with you?

You know, beat his game and make it from just sexual interest to love?

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The short answer Gemgal is "no." None of these guys fell in love with women who played games, etc. Out of about 20 plus men, all are in serious relationships; a few are married, and all, but two have cheated on their significant others (all of the married ones have cheated, I've said this before on a different thread). I'm not going to say once a player, always a player, but typically that's the case. The guys who got married cited these (some cited all reasons, some just one or two):
a. Getting older, and just didn't want to be alone (but still cheat)
b. The girl got pregnant so they wanted to "do the right thing" (they still cheat)
c. The girl "wore them down." (they definitely still cheat, cause they didn't want to get married in the first place).
d. One of my friends mothers was really sick, and this girl he was dating really supported him, so he married her (he has cheated on her too).
There are only like two guys who haven't cheated on their girlfriends (that I've had these discussions with), one is uber religious and the other actually really loves his girlfriend, and he was a player back in the day. The one thing he cited was that she had her own life outside of him, and that she would "check his a $ $ " if he got out of line with her. She has a good job, makes money and has a great friend and family network so he KNOWS she doesn't need him; she CHOOSES to be with him. She's gorgeous and has many men that would want to be with her, and my friend knows this. I asked him if he worries about her cheating on him, his response, "Naw, cause if she's gonna do it, she's gonna do it, but I give her everything I have to give. She KNOWS how much I want to be with her, and that above everything else, I respect and love her. I show her that everyday."
Hope this helps you.

USCT,

What's the point? There're still websites, topics and threads feeding the hope that you can make someone do this stuff...

Are we talking about training puppy dogs? no offence dogsbody 😉
You think people don't know what you're doing? 🙂

The good news for those that believe they can get people to do stuff is eventually, you wear the person out somehow, they give in but bid their time until they can continue their lives the way they want...somehow...probably without you.

Plus the games just turn people into something they are not - it is not a relationship - it's just a prolonged one-night-stand.

If people didnt play so many games, and were just honest and upfront, there'd be a lot more happy people !

You're right Zen....sad, but true. I know a lot of guys and sadly they tell me the truth. Most of the guys I've known since grade school, so over 15 years. They have no reason to lie to me. I just wish women believed in themselves more and didn't feel they were "defined" by being in a relationship. That's NOT to say that relationships are bad, they can be great, but BOTH people need to want to be there. Not because of emotional blackmail and the like. Sadly, I wish more people could see that.

Hey Dogs!

USCT,

It seems like it's the way it's always been - even before astrology or internet. Shocking as well, younger kids lurk through such boards looking for tips on the person they're crushing on 🙂

I work with only guys so go for weeks or months without female socialising - always have...

E.g. Last friday, we were heading out and 1 as usual was the only chick so I asked one of the guy's why his wife never wants to hang out and he says because one of the guys is cheating so she doesn't want to be around that. She's never been around guys all the time like that either.

It got me thinking, am I a bad person for hanging around these guys? I work with them, am friends with them, frankly the situation they describe at home seems way too much for even me to take in...do I do more to stop them cheating? do I even care? *shrugs*

Some have even gone as far as starting up a fresh new family elsewhere --- sheesh.

Sometimes I wonder if this emotional blackmail thing's the reason guys are so bitter about women coming into the Corporate world...another story for another day...

Anyway, each to his or her own - whatever makes you feel happy, right?

Yep Zen. You not associating with these men is not going to make them stop cheating; nor is your association with them in any way you "condoning" their acts. I'm assuming all of these people are adults, so they are going to do whatever they want regardless if you, or anyone else approves. I have always had a lot of male friends, so I've always been a part of their inner sanctum. I will say though that I thought my associating with them made me even more suspicious of the men I dated. I took a step back and found that some of the guys WERE sketchy and I needed to be suspicious. Plus my male friends will tell me to dump an unworthy guy quicker than anything.

I'm not equating cheating with players per se, but I know all these guys very well and they all were players at one point. Not necessarily all of them are today, but they all (majorily) cheat. And only a little more than half I mentioned are married; the remaining ones are in serious relationships (more than 2+ years) and as I previously stated, all (married or not) are cheating except 2, and that's over 20 guys.
Insofar as the "waiting for sex" game. I can't say what's going to work or not work for every woman, all I know is that in my relationships, it never was something that was thought about. I do what I want to do regardless of what the guys expectations are; however, I do know a LOAD of guys in general, who will "bide their time" like Zen said in order to get what they want, and then do the disappearing act. I'm not saying this is every case, I'm only speaking on what I've seen and discussed with my friends - male and female.

Also, I don't agree regarding my friendship with these people as "condoning" their actions. I'm not sleeping with them, and it's not my place or business to be involved in their personal affairs (pun intended). They are grown and will do what they want. That's just my point of view though, so we'll have to agree to disagree.

I generally lasso the one I want, tie him to the roof of my car and then lock him in the basement.

The first few months they're usually a bit distant and irritable, but they get over it after they taste my homemade mashed potatoes.

LOL! SeaSiren you sassy wench 😉

RElationships (according to John Gray) come into stages: Attraction, Uncertainty, Exclusivity, Intimacy and Engagement.

In reality, if anyone's going to go through these stages, they have to have that awakening by themselves...any actions to prod anyone into any of these stages will backfire as it's not their breakthrough, it's someone else's.

Whether in reality, people go through these stages by themselves in the course of their lives will never be known as the examples USCT's using, someone else has 'encouraged' the stages to happen...

From what I've witnessed, if you treat a man like shit they want you. The good ones they run over........hmmmm.

My possible theory --- you're treating them exactly like a guy --- guys treat each other like shyte but the love is there without the expression...the uber-feminine-niceties remind them of emotions and femininity --- they don't like that

"LOL! SeaSiren you sassy wench"

I think it comes from reading all those Stephan King books instead of V.C. Andrews when I was a teenager... 😛

LOL! OY, VC Andrews... "Flowers in The Attic" umm, I think that's more disturbing than any SK novel! 🙂

"Flowers in The Attic" umm, I think that's more disturbing than any SK novel!"

LOL OMG...then why aren't more women driving around with men strapped to their cars in large garment bags?! Or maybe they just have their brothers locked in the attic? = o

This IS making my approach sound like Mary Poppins. 🙂

LOL OMG...then why aren't more women driving around with men strapped to their cars in large garment bags?! Or maybe they just have their brothers locked in the attic? = o

This IS making my approach sound like Mary Poppins.

Haha...

It's the damned law SS !

Your Mary Poppins approach will be much more effective

"It's the damned law SS !"

Oh, pish-posh! As long as you use the proper tie-downs, you're golden. 🙂

don't know what to feel - disgusted or amused? 😕