Do The Right People Really Find Each Other

Ive often wondered that!
Do you really end up with the person thats right for you?
It would be great to think that we do.
But with the fast paced world we live in, people coming and going etc etc
If you think about it, what really are the odds on "That" special person coming into your life?
And, how would you know?
You could walk into a cafe and your "Soulmate" could be stood right next to you, but youre too busy thinking about whats for dinner, to notice or say anything to them!!!!
Then youve missed your chance!
But then again, youd never know !!!!!!

Damn, i need sleep :-)

It appears to me that people go about life just as they are at this very second, and rarely put forth any effort in changing themselves. Then look for a person who is a perfect match to fit within our rigid definitions.

People have this misconception that a soulmate, or a Mr.Right, will just "fit" automatically within our expectations .. so we therefore disable ourselves from any kind of relationship growth.

We have this expectatin in place already, and then expect there to be another who will conform to it .. and if the other person doesn't then we say he isn't the right one, or our soulmate and move on.

The other person to whom you are trying to relate is unique also, they have their own set of values and expectations in a relationship .. there is no perfect match. To be perfectly matched with you would mean to clone yourself and be with you.

It seems that the majority of people just await for the perfect person to be presented to them .. and fail to comprehend that every person is right for you, and every person is wrong for you ... because there is no perfect match .. there is only relating to another who has their own definitions.

I am not a perfect person. My mate will not be a perfect person. But we will be perfect for each other.

I beleve that just as I was created there is someone out there who was created just for me. The bitch about life is that we arent guranteed to find that person.

Wow Bijou2u .....I really loved how you explained this. I think you are absolutely right.

Do The Right People Really Find Each Other?

I sure hope so 🙂

I think it depends on the Law of Attraction -- this concept has been explained to me but I'm still trying to master it 😄

there r no right people in the first place. if its abt zodiac match, yea they used to find each other during pre WW2 era. After that, it gets worse and worse. Number of long term relationships within right zodiac matches is inversely proportional to economic growth.

you find the right people, right when you need them......some stay forever apart of your life & some leave. I don't think you meet anyone by chance, it happens just the way it was suppose to & we as people try too hard on to hold on to those that were never meant to stay for long.

I think there are times you do find the right person.

For me- I have found that with change- sometimes that right person may be more than just one. Depending on where you are in life.
I have found someone I can spend the rest of my life with. But there have been other people in my life that I share many other things with and they are not replaceable.

"Do The Right People Really Find Each Other". Depends on what you define as Right at that point in time. Human relationships are transitionary just like human minds, and while one may have liked a brash and bold person a couple of years back, his/her views might have gone a sea change ever since. What feels right now may not feel right tomorrow...

if they have enough money

just kidding, Couldn't help myself!

LoL at Caper :-)
No, i wasnt nescessarily talking about Soulmates, just the "right" person as in a "Partner" to share your life with.
Just that "Connection" you enjoy the same things, the same things make you laugh, cry etc,
I know so many people who seemingly were the "Perfect Couples" but over time nearly all of them have split up!!
I know two people who were together for 17yrs, then one found someone else!! i cant get my head around that, "17yrs" youd think that you'd know if you werent compatable after 17yrs!!!! thats a long time.
And how can you just "Find Someone Else" after all that time—
Its Like we're all on this Merry-Go-Round that none of us can get off.

"merry go round that none of us can get off"

I like that.

I think its really different for everyone. I'm starting to believe that depending on where you are in life, spiritually, dictates what type of romantic life you will have.

you find the right people, right when you need them......some stay forever apart of your life & some leave. I don't think you meet anyone by chance, it happens just the way it was suppose to & we as people try too hard on to hold on to those that were never meant to stay for long.

Wow, that about sums it up Chocolate :-)

And thanks P-Angel, very well described, made me think about my own self. I suppose its all about compromise, give and take

"Do The Right People Really Find Each Other".

Yes when you are not looking

Do you think its possible then to overlook them? You know, if you really aren't looking?

you may not feel instant attraction...it may be someone you would never have thought of being with.......but real love doesnt happen overnight....its like a planted flower that grows and blossoms ....its a beautiful thing!

I feel it has everything to do with you being the right YOU for yourself and once you achieve that then you'll have no problem with excepting he/she that's right for you in your life.

Posted by CanTaur
you find the right people, right when you need them......some stay forever apart of your life & some leave. I don't think you meet anyone by chance, it happens just the way it was suppose to & we as people try too hard on to hold on to those that were never meant to stay for long.

This is how I feel, and it can be disappointing when you really want to take it further and it just isn't right.

Every single person I've been with was right, and felt right, at that time. Relationships change, because we all do.

If you don't want it to end, make sure you are doing your every day bit to keep it going. Then, when it (eventually) ends, at least you know you did the best you could and find peace with yourself.

*within yourself*

I do believe that the right person comes and usually when you least expect it. It just hits. Nothing is perfect of course, but it could still fit like a glove. Its still going to take work, but it just feels totally right. Feels like home.

I agree with kitty, that people also need to be open to it. Not shut out or bitter or picky as a mother fucker.

Posted by KittyKnitter
f i had judged him by his age(older), his status(not wealthy), his living circumstances(living with mom),his history(divorced) or his health(heart condition), i could have let any one of those things turn me from him and see me walking away from someone who i love with all my heart. he is my best friend. this relationship is my biggest challenge, he is Taurus and i am leo. we try to make the most of each day. some people never accept love because they are not really open to it. they want to be sure this is the one right away or they have a list so long no one could be all that.he says we are meant to meet everyone we meet. i couldn't agree more. i am glad i took a chance on the guy who can make me laugh, rub me the wrong way and yet make me cry with his sweetness. life and love is what you make it. i wouldn't trade one day with him for a chance with anyone else. i am better because of him.
he might not be who i thought i wanted or needed in my life, he is more.

you just spoke my mind!! status, life style ..etc. I met a leo guy online and im a taurus. I also wondered about soulmates and what is perfect to me.. I also just got out of a relationship and I was not ready to "get to know" any new people. I did not meet him yet (thinking about it still) but I can already tell that I want to give this a chance. Also failed relationships in life do teach us what we truly need, not "what we thought we needed".