How do you know you love someone? For sure?

Hello, was just pondering this the other day. As far as I can tell, I've only ever *really* loved somebody one time. (Maybe the others didn't get far enough to reach that point, or maybe just weren't meant to be).
I am wondering if I can love again in the same, or a similarly, intense and full-hearted way as I did that once?
How do you all define it when you love someone? (Not talking about a child or a parent, a best buddy even....but a partner).
I *knew* because of one thing. There were many things I felt - I thought about him all the time, every breath I took seemed because of him and for him, I knew he was treating me badly and was angry, but still loved him completely; I loved his attitude, his way of life, his walk and his voice. Even the bits I didn't *like*, I loved.
But the one thing that showed me beyond doubt was this time when he broke his arm. It sounds silly, but he had been painting (he was a decorator) someone's shed in a garden, miles away on a country road. He had been drinking (not good - it was one of his issues) and fell off the ladder (he insisted it wasn't the beer but the fact he'd been thinking about me). He broke his arm. He didn't know it was broken until the next morning, but when he told me how he had run round the garden in pain, laid down under a tree to try and make it feel better, - the feeling I had that I had not been there to help, to drive him home, to comfort him - to do SOMEthing to take the pain away (I'd have given him my own arm in exchange) was almost unbearable. He was all tough about it and didn't care too much, but I cried and cried after hearing what happened to him.
It was that feeling that I needed to be there and take his pain away, that made me so surprised, and told me beyond doubt that I loved this man.

Tell me how you knew you loved someone!

With simple words I love all about her, Im mean all indeed. I cant live without her.

When their all you can think of, and getting them is on the top of your 'to do' list, and your number one goal!

It can also be a strange intrigue with them, where you want to know more and more and more, until your head explodes with all the knowledge! 😛 lol

How about when their the most annoying person in the world, and your telling yourself that you need to get away from them. But you can't do, and your stuck, drawn to them for some strange reason, and you can't help feeling flustered in their presence no matter what you tell yourself.

when you realize that you'll let him have the last chicken wing... that's love right there.

Leave me alone (i?m lonely)

Go away
Give me a chance to miss you
Say goodbye
It?ll make me want to kiss you
I love you so
Much more when you?re not here
Watchin all the bad shows
Drinking all of my beer

I don?t believe Adam and Eve
Spent every goddamn day together
If you give me some room there will be room enough for two

Tonight
Leave me alone I?m lonely
Alone I?m lonely
I?m tired
Leave me alone I?m lonely
Alone I?m lonely tonight

I don?t wanna wake up with another
But I don?t wanna always wake up with you either
No you can?t hop into my shower
All I ask for is one ***kin? hour
You taste so sweet
But I can?t eat the same thing every day
Cuttin off the phone
Leave me the ***k alone
Tomorrow I?ll be beggin? you to come home

Tonight
Leave me alone I?m lonely
Alone I?m lonely
I?m tired
Leave me alone I?m lonely
Alone I?m lonely tonight

Go away
Come back
Go away
Come back
Why can?t I just have it both ways
Go away
Come back
Go away
Come back
I wish you knew the difference
Go away
Come back

Go away
Give me a chance to miss you
Say goodbye
It?ll make me want to kiss you
Go away
Give me a chance to miss you
Say goodbye
It?ll make me want to kiss you
Go away
Give me a chance to miss you
Say goodbye
It?ll make me want to kiss you

"I am wondering if I can love again in the same, or a similarly, intense and full-hearted way as I did that once?"

When I was 18, I fell in love as you describe. The feelings part are pretty much word for word... But, unfortunately, like you, the man I fell in love with had some issues and that included the way he treated me. After that relationship ended, I closed myself off, telling myself that people didn't need (and most didn't have) that kind of love. That a more "practical" love was far more realistic... It took me nearly seven years to get over that relationship and to return to a place where I would be capable of that kind of love again.

Will you ever love again with the same intensity? If you let yourself... But, it is a place to have to reach on your own. Will you ever love the same? No. Every person is different and the love you feel for them is always different, but not necessarily any more or any less... Do you have multiple brothers and sisters? If so, compare the love you feel for them. Is it the same? More than likely not, but all of the feelings are just as special. Romantic love, as different as it is, is not necessarily that different...

"How do you all define it when you love someone?"

When you care more about them than you care about yourself. When you love even the "bad" things about them as just being beautiful parts of the person you love. When you can't think about or want to be with anyone else. When they truly become a part of your life, not physically but emotionally. When you want to share everything good, bad, and just plain normal in your life with them, and you want them to do the same.

And, pretty much everything said above...

Yeah THAT'S love just as Alcheme described it....and with the right person, OMG it can be wonderful 🙂