do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
If one or both parents constantly lie to you
Posted by greylaternPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Yes. Humans primary learn though mimicy and some biological hardwiring.
If someone who is core to your pyschology development lies to you a lot, it will leave a impression on your pyche. Anything and everything does really that causes emotional effect on people. Positive or negative.
Hope is not lost nor are you damaged. Please don't fall into that mental out trap. Getting closer on this will help. Looking up why people lie and the ways they do it, will help you understand, if closer isn't possible though normal means. Just don't forget, them lieing is a reflection of themselves not the rest of the world or you.click to expand
my mother lies constantly.......
i think she may have borderline personality disorder
Posted by BumblebebePosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Not really. Kids are still their own person.click to expand
I'm basically asking if you think that the theory held in modern psychology that interactions with our primary caregivers inform the way we view the world and attachments to people is true?
not that since your parents are liars you will be a liar as well
just that you may most people lie
or that lying is a form of love and or normal/not a big deal..even when it harms you
or simply attract people who perpetually lie
Posted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Yes. Humans primary learn though mimicy and some biological hardwiring.
If someone who is core to your pyschology development lies to you a lot, it will leave a impression on your pyche. Anything and everything does really that causes emotional effect on people. Positive or negative.
Hope is not lost nor are you damaged. Please don't fall into that mental out trap. Getting closer on this will help. Looking up why people lie and the ways they do it, will help you understand, if closer isn't possible though normal means. Just don't forget, them lieing is a reflection of themselves not the rest of the world or you.
my mother lies constantly.......
i think she may have borderline personality disorder
Why does she lie?click to expand
I have no clue...she lies about a lot of things
big things ...small things....it doesn't matter
it's just how she relates to people
i used to blame her gemini moon
but in reality, maybe it's a symptom of mental illness
i know for a fact that my mother suffers from some disorder...as she is really unstable
i just can't tell what
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
I would expect that to have a direct correlation on trust, yes. Other people in a child's life matter too, but parents/guardians matter most.click to expand
yeah I really don't trust anyone
How could you not think that, when Santa Clause is the biggest lie they tell kids and then crush their little spirits in their childhood when they find out he was never alive putting presents under their childhood home tree.
Teaching on generation after another that it is in fact, ok to lie.
Teaching on generation after another that it is in fact, ok to lie.
Posted by saggurl88
How could you not think that, when Santa Clause is the biggest lie they tell kids and then crush their little spirits in their childhood when they find out he was never alive putting presents under their childhood home tree.
Teaching on generation after another that it is in fact, ok to lie.
lol that was the one thing my parents never lied to me about
Posted by BumblebebePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by BumblebebePosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Not really. Kids are still their own person.
I'm basically asking if you think that the theory held in modern psychology that interactions with our primary caregivers inform the way we view the world and attachments to people is true?
not that since your parents are liars you will be a liar as well
just that you may most people lie
or that lying is a form of love and or normal/not a big deal..even when it harms you
or simply attract people who perpetually lie
And I answered the question! I said NO. Jesus Christ hello?click to expand
goodbye
Posted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Yes. Humans primary learn though mimicy and some biological hardwiring.
If someone who is core to your pyschology development lies to you a lot, it will leave a impression on your pyche. Anything and everything does really that causes emotional effect on people. Positive or negative.
Hope is not lost nor are you damaged. Please don't fall into that mental out trap. Getting closer on this will help. Looking up why people lie and the ways they do it, will help you understand, if closer isn't possible though normal means. Just don't forget, them lieing is a reflection of themselves not the rest of the world or you.
my mother lies constantly.......
i think she may have borderline personality disorder
Why does she lie?
I have no clue...she lies about a lot of things
big things ...small things....it doesn't matter
it's just how she relates to people
i used to blame her gemini moon
but in reality, maybe it's a symptom of mental illness
i know for a fact that my mother suffers from some disorder...as she is really unstable
i just can't tell what
The thing about people with mental illness is that they believe thier own lies. They gaslight themselves as a form of self protection of the ego. It just snowballs over time. When they get older they might have moments of clarity and break down and thier illusions shatter. Even will even apologize to you and everyone. They can't handle the pain and the truth for long so they snap back eventually.
That is all beside the point. Why are asking?click to expand
you mean snap back and start lying again/being in denial about it?
Posted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Yes. Humans primary learn though mimicy and some biological hardwiring.
If someone who is core to your pyschology development lies to you a lot, it will leave a impression on your pyche. Anything and everything does really that causes emotional effect on people. Positive or negative.
Hope is not lost nor are you damaged. Please don't fall into that mental out trap. Getting closer on this will help. Looking up why people lie and the ways they do it, will help you understand, if closer isn't possible though normal means. Just don't forget, them lieing is a reflection of themselves not the rest of the world or you.
my mother lies constantly.......
i think she may have borderline personality disorder
Why does she lie?
I have no clue...she lies about a lot of things
big things ...small things....it doesn't matter
it's just how she relates to people
i used to blame her gemini moon
but in reality, maybe it's a symptom of mental illness
i know for a fact that my mother suffers from some disorder...as she is really unstable
i just can't tell what
The thing about people with mental illness is that they believe thier own lies. They gaslight themselves as a form of self protection of the ego. It just snowballs over time. When they get older they might have moments of clarity and break down and thier illusions shatter. Even will even apologize to you and everyone. They can't handle the pain and the truth for long so they snap back eventually.
That is all beside the point. Why are asking?click to expand
clarity.
if your own parents will lie to you, then of course other adults will. trust no one.
Posted by BumblebebePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by BumblebebePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by BumblebebePosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Not really. Kids are still their own person.
I'm basically asking if you think that the theory held in modern psychology that interactions with our primary caregivers inform the way we view the world and attachments to people is true?
not that since your parents are liars you will be a liar as well
just that you may most people lie
or that lying is a form of love and or normal/not a big deal..even when it harms you
or simply attract people who perpetually lie
And I answered the question! I said NO. Jesus Christ hello?
goodbye
Whatever.click to expand
LMAO
Posted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by greylaternPosted by Adreamuponwaking
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
Yes. Humans primary learn though mimicy and some biological hardwiring.
If someone who is core to your pyschology development lies to you a lot, it will leave a impression on your pyche. Anything and everything does really that causes emotional effect on people. Positive or negative.
Hope is not lost nor are you damaged. Please don't fall into that mental out trap. Getting closer on this will help. Looking up why people lie and the ways they do it, will help you understand, if closer isn't possible though normal means. Just don't forget, them lieing is a reflection of themselves not the rest of the world or you.
my mother lies constantly.......
i think she may have borderline personality disorder
Why does she lie?
I have no clue...she lies about a lot of things
big things ...small things....it doesn't matter
it's just how she relates to people
i used to blame her gemini moon
but in reality, maybe it's a symptom of mental illness
i know for a fact that my mother suffers from some disorder...as she is really unstable
i just can't tell what
The thing about people with mental illness is that they believe thier own lies. They gaslight themselves as a form of self protection of the ego. It just snowballs over time. When they get older they might have moments of clarity and break down and thier illusions shatter. Even will even apologize to you and everyone. They can't handle the pain and the truth for long so they snap back eventually.
That is all beside the point. Why are asking?
you mean snap back and start lying again/being in denial about it?
Yes. Seen this first hand a few times and I'm not the only one who has had this experience with a relative.
There is this movie momento. You should watch it.
The guy can't make long term memories, because of a injury and forgets everything when he sleeps. He is looking for his wife's killer which the police think he is the culprit. He uses notes to himself to keep track of what he has learned previously.It is also the same day he had the head injury. He remembers nothing about that day and can't hold memories after the fact.
"Spoiler alert."
At one point he finds out the truth and doesn't like what he hears. It's too painful. He did it. So he destroys the clues leading him to the truth and writes new ones.click to expand
i feel like people with strong Gemini placements do this and or again as already established people with mental illness
Posted by La_Madrina
if your own parents will lie to you, then of course other adults will. trust no one.
lol what's your sign?
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