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when your partner is not over his/her ex
How to Handle a Partner Not Over Their Ex
Deciding whether to stay depends on your boundaries and feelings. It is important to communicate openly, assess your comfort level with their lingering feelings, and consider if their actions align with your relationship needs. Trust and honesty are key, but prioritize your emotional well-being when making this decision.
If there not over their ex chances are they cannot contribute to my demands fully. I'm to valuable to play second fiddle so chances are it would just be a FWB situation.
Hell no. This is actually a pet-peeve of mine. When men/women jump into another relationship WHEN THEY KNOW they're not over the ex. What kind of cornball does something like that? The individual that they're currently dating, 9 times out of 10 will be hurt somewhere down the line. It's not fair. How can you give your undivided attention to your new interest if you're still emotionally connected to your old interest? You can't. That's emotional baggage.
Now, becoming jealous or insecure if a SURE sign that it's time to exit because that alone means that TRUST and SECURITY (feeling safe) is out the window. NOT a great way to start out or end a relationship. It doesn't matter if they love you, when they're "loving" someone else too. It's simply UNFAIR to the new love interest.
Proceed with caution and use wisdom.
Never. Absolutely NEVER.
They can’t love you if the relationship is new. You are nothing but a rebound.
I would question their love for me if they aren’t over exes.
I love you...but I am not over my ex sound stupid. They love ex. They are trying to love you...not working yet...but they are trying.
Isn’t it emotional cheating?
Yes.
No.
lol Is this like yes-no-yes-no to all 4 questions?
I've been in your situation and it isn't nice for the new person but over time we built a good bond as I just let them slowly deal with it.
If you can be there for them and chill with it it can be ok. It's hard to forget someone you've loved but doesn't mean you want them back.
I think it's only certain people that can handle it
would you still be with them to help them get over their ex or would you end the relationship? especially if the relationship is fairly new and they tell you things that remind them of their ex often. would you feel jealous or insecure? even if they say that they love you and that they're never getting back with the other person, but they still admit to have feelings for the ex
Hell no. Don't go the mother Theresa route. 💀
I agree with sweetpea2977. I don't know if the thread is about you, but if it is do not accept less than you deserve. You are a
beautiful lion queen and should be treated as such. Do not take second place luv. Also, "you" can not help a person get over
his or her ex. The heart takes its own time to heal. "You" would only be a mere distraction 😢.
thank you for your advice < 3. its something im also working through this now, i'm giving him the space that he needs , and hopefully get space as well to think and move forward
I agree with sweetpea2977. I don't know if the thread is about you, but if it is do not accept less than you deserve. You are a
beautiful lion queen and should be treated as such. Do not take second place luv. Also, "you" can not help a person get over
his or her ex. The heart takes its own time to heal. "You" would only be a mere distraction 😢.
thank you for your advice < 3. its something im also working through this now, i'm giving him the space that he needs , and hopefully get space as well to think and move forward
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It's hard when you want them I do understand buy keep in touch make him laugh and make him feel happy to have you around. Maybe one day you'll be his new muse....
It's hard when you want them I do understand buy keep in touch make him laugh and make him feel happy to have you around. Maybe one day you'll be his new muse....
i told him that i didnt want to fight anymore and we have more days where we barely fight. everynight, there's this calming feelings and we tell each other that we love each other. there's alot of girls in his area/ even his ex still tries to contact him, but he chooses to spend majority of his time with me. thats how i know now, i don't have to worry
It's hard when you want them I do understand buy keep in touch make him laugh and make him feel happy to have you around. Maybe one day you'll be his new muse....
i told him that i didnt want to fight anymore and we have more days where we barely fight. everynight, there's this calming feelings and we tell each other that we love each other. there's alot of girls in his area/ even his ex still tries to contact him, but he chooses to spend majority of his time with me. thats how i know now, i don't have to worry
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Yes he chooses to be with you x
He's not your partner! This guy is still emotionally in a relationship with his ex.
If he were really your partner in a budding relationship, you should have his undivided attention while he tries to win YOU over and understand everything about YOU. This is the stage when he should be infatuated with YOU, not pine after his life with someone else. I've been in his shoes...the overall feeling was that I'm settling for less (even when he was superior to my ex in some ways). If you carry on, you'll be seen as the second best for a while, and worse afterwards.
Ask for a 6 months break for the sake of both of you, and see if you two are still willing to date after this time.
He's not your partner! This guy is still emotionally in a relationship with his ex.
If he were really your partner in a budding relationship, you should have his undivided attention while he tries to win YOU over and understand everything about YOU. This is the stage when he should be infatuated with YOU, not pine after his life with someone else. I've been in his shoes...the overall feeling was that I'm settling for less (even when he was superior to my ex in some ways). If you carry on, you'll be seen as the second best for a while, and worse afterwards.
Ask for a 6 months break for the sake of both of you, and see if you two are still willing to date after this time.
Interesting take on the situation.
Let me chime in.
Thinking I will never get over Scorpio I was quietly destroying myself one day at the time BUT I’ve always prayed for pain to go away...
When I’ve met my Aries - it was all an eye opener and I have...really felt better and thought we can work...
I had wrapped my Scorpio memories nicely and carefully and placed them in a beautiful box which I’ve closed but haven’t put lock and turned the key.
The main reason is that I’ve known him for a while decade and Aries was so new and wonderful...and I’ve used his as a shield in my battle against myself...
Year later I am still cherish my memories of a Scorpio and I’ll never be able to let it go. And if by grace of God or other powerful sources Scorpio will come back to me - there will be no questions that he will win!
That’s what I thought and I am still not sure.
However being with Aries is opening my eyes and giving me more material to work with and I think it’s working!
🙏🏻and I pray that one day I will Nevermind Scorpios memory and if he will be back I will smile and tell him I am putting a lock in that box and throwing keys away.
What I am saying that heart doesn’t heal itself in its own if thee isn’t work done to help it heal...it’ll bleed until it’ll hardened and get cold. Gotta keep it warm and busy. And no, Aries isn’t number 2! He doesn’t HAVE a number. He is the only one and it’s all depends on how we both is going to work on us.
You can be dumped from number one place into a dust and what difference will it make if minute ago you were IT and now you are nothing?
So what I am saying is stick your pride being assigned a number deep up your ass and let that new beginning happen or end up bitter hateful or sad pathetic person just because you wanted to keep your numbered place.
Naah...doesn’t work this way because hearts don’t heal on its own.
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would you still be with them to help them get over their ex or would you end the relationship? especially if the relationship is fairly new and they tell you things that remind them of their ex often. would you feel jealous or insecure? even if they say that they love you and that they're never getting back with the other person, but they still admit to have feelings for the ex