krysrenee7
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It's Cuddling season!
Hey, did it start last night? Cause I was cuddling and snuggling! 😉
lol! You're right. When it gets colder outside, people tend to stay IN the house more. And when people aren't "out" as much, testosterone/hormone levels start to calm down & people start remembering how much they miss love/commitment after all!
People start realizing how COLD their beds are at night & how it sucks to not have anyone there to warm them up!
People start remembering that the Holidays are near & that it'd be nice to have someone to spend time with and/or someone to cater to/show off to their families! When people think of the Holidays, they think of family, love & happiness, thus fall/winter is the PERFECT time to start considering that being in relationships aren't so bad after all!
People start noticing the TRUE beauty & creativity in others! After all, there's just something SO SEXY about seeing women looking JUST AS BEAUTIFUL in turtle knecks the way they did in bikinis! And there's just SOMETHING so incredibly SEXY about men who bring out their boots, scarves & best clothing!..
Oh how I love CUDDLING SEASON!
People start realizing how COLD their beds are at night & how it sucks to not have anyone there to warm them up!
People start remembering that the Holidays are near & that it'd be nice to have someone to spend time with and/or someone to cater to/show off to their families! When people think of the Holidays, they think of family, love & happiness, thus fall/winter is the PERFECT time to start considering that being in relationships aren't so bad after all!
People start noticing the TRUE beauty & creativity in others! After all, there's just something SO SEXY about seeing women looking JUST AS BEAUTIFUL in turtle knecks the way they did in bikinis! And there's just SOMETHING so incredibly SEXY about men who bring out their boots, scarves & best clothing!..
Oh how I love CUDDLING SEASON!
I agree, fall is the hook up season. most of mine is in the fall.
Yay for cuddling season!
Lol! You guys are nuts!
Fall/Winter SUCKS for those who are in BAD relationships or NOT in them at all. And no, people I'm not insinuating that life can't be just as great just b/c you're single during these times.
BUT, let's be honest, it does kind of suck to be the ONLY single 1 on Christmas when you're out at the mall watching men & women shopping for eachother! It does kind of suck to see couples/families loading up/driving past you with their smiley faces turned ALL the way UP! It does kind of suck on New Years when you don't have SOMEONE other than the same ole party friends to kiss/live it up with on New Years. And oh Lord, it ESPECIALLY sucks for single people when Valentine's Day comes around! Ugh
Fall/Winter SUCKS for those who are in BAD relationships or NOT in them at all. And no, people I'm not insinuating that life can't be just as great just b/c you're single during these times.
BUT, let's be honest, it does kind of suck to be the ONLY single 1 on Christmas when you're out at the mall watching men & women shopping for eachother! It does kind of suck to see couples/families loading up/driving past you with their smiley faces turned ALL the way UP! It does kind of suck on New Years when you don't have SOMEONE other than the same ole party friends to kiss/live it up with on New Years. And oh Lord, it ESPECIALLY sucks for single people when Valentine's Day comes around! Ugh
Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina
^^^^my favorite time of year until New Years too!!!!!!=)
Although, I don;t have anyone to cuddle with, but it's ok!!I can hug a tree ahahaha!
lol, hey what happen to the movies huh ?
Besides fall/winter being my favorite seasons b/c of it being "hook up" season, I actually LOVE this seasons b/c:
1. I love the clothes! I love the peacoats, the scarves, the sexy boots/heels, etc. Sure, when it's summer time out, people define "sexy" by which girl has the LEAST amount of clothing on! Oh booooooo! There's NO effort or creativity in that! I think women are at their BEST & CLASSIEST when they're all covered up & when they have to find ways to let their true beauty come out although they're all covered up!
It's easy to be sexy when you have on a string bikini & have everything hanging out everywhere! BUT, it's a whole 'nother challenge/thing to see women dressed to the NINE, letting their scarves, make up & hair tell the more TRUE/REAL story about who they are/their character! If women can look SEXY when they're covered up from head to toe, it makes the guys lust even harder, considering men secretely LOVE when women leave things to the imagination!
The only thing I hate about the fall/winter season? Ugh, I hate when it gets dark at like 5pm! The days seem to get shorter. It'll be 3pm but it'll look & FEEL like it's already 10! It throws everything off!
Not to mention, I live in a state where blizzards are the "norm." Idk about you guys, but I LOVE snow days!
1. I love the clothes! I love the peacoats, the scarves, the sexy boots/heels, etc. Sure, when it's summer time out, people define "sexy" by which girl has the LEAST amount of clothing on! Oh booooooo! There's NO effort or creativity in that! I think women are at their BEST & CLASSIEST when they're all covered up & when they have to find ways to let their true beauty come out although they're all covered up!
It's easy to be sexy when you have on a string bikini & have everything hanging out everywhere! BUT, it's a whole 'nother challenge/thing to see women dressed to the NINE, letting their scarves, make up & hair tell the more TRUE/REAL story about who they are/their character! If women can look SEXY when they're covered up from head to toe, it makes the guys lust even harder, considering men secretely LOVE when women leave things to the imagination!
The only thing I hate about the fall/winter season? Ugh, I hate when it gets dark at like 5pm! The days seem to get shorter. It'll be 3pm but it'll look & FEEL like it's already 10! It throws everything off!
Not to mention, I live in a state where blizzards are the "norm." Idk about you guys, but I LOVE snow days!
Oh I completely agree. Once again, it's not to say being in a relationship is the most important thing in the world, BUT even those who are single AND content with being single can't help it every now & then to crave a little companionship during the holidays. It's only natural. After all, seeing others who appear to be in love is a good feeling; it affects my mood in a GOOD way when I see other people who appear to be in great/long-term relationships. Hell, that's alot better than seeing 2 couples fighting & mean-mugging eachother! lol
And yeah, I think even the UNHAPPY couples try to find a way to appear/try to be happy ATLEAST during the holidays! Even those couples who secretely hate eachother lol know how to "save face" when they're out in the public and/or surrounded by people who seem to be in good relationships. lol it's SO funny to see a couple who everybody knows is 2 SECONDS from breaking up, act all happy on Valentine's Day/Christmas only to go back to wanting to KILL eachother once the holiday season is over!
And yeah, I think even the UNHAPPY couples try to find a way to appear/try to be happy ATLEAST during the holidays! Even those couples who secretely hate eachother lol know how to "save face" when they're out in the public and/or surrounded by people who seem to be in good relationships. lol it's SO funny to see a couple who everybody knows is 2 SECONDS from breaking up, act all happy on Valentine's Day/Christmas only to go back to wanting to KILL eachother once the holiday season is over!
Posted by krysrenee7
BUT, let's be honest, it does kind of suck to be the ONLY single 1 on Christmas when you're out at the mall watching men & women shopping for eachother! It does kind of suck to see couples/families loading up/driving past you with their smiley faces turned ALL the way UP! It does kind of suck on New Years when you don't have SOMEONE other than the same ole party friends to kiss/live it up with on New Years. And oh Lord, it ESPECIALLY sucks for single people when Valentine's Day comes around! Ugh
So many love struck couples, so few things to throw at them...
This kind of stuff sucked immediately following the breakup but it doesn't bother me anymore. I wonder if the holidays will change that.
I still like cuddling though so even if I have no one to cuddle this year, I'll say it again. Yay for cuddling season!
Posted by CappyLuv30Posted by pigeonpie
I always got the impression people stay single or 'want some space to figure things out' in summer so they can slag it up a bit, then come winter get hooked up so they have someone for those short dark days and more Christmas presents.🙂
You know I've actually heard the opposite. My friend had a guy once break up with her the day before Thanksgiving and then no lie, on February 15th was calling her again. Talk about getting the hell outta dodge to avoid gift giving huh?click to expand
Haha, my ex's brithday is Jan 25, her father told be to do this years ago when I dated her in high school. He said to dump her after my birthday in late Sept and skip everything in the fall, x-mas, new years, her b-day, valentines... then to get back with her in late Feb... so shady.
Wow, It's 1 thing to break up with someone once the Holidays are OVER but it's another thing to purposely end the relationship all b/c the holidays STARTED! Ugh, what an Ahole! Ya know, people know that Christmas (& other Holidays) are on the SAME day every single year. EVERY SINGLE YEAR they know certain holidays are to be expected. So if a man/woman hates "gift giving," they should 1. Make their hatred for gift giving KNOWN to that person BEFORE they hook up or 2. Don't get into the relationship at all! That way, the person who "hates it" so much won't be seen as a cheap chickenshxt!
People are disturbing. The only reason I don't like the Holidays as much anymore is b/c people make it about money instead of the REAL sentimental values associated with the Holidays. I don't go bankcrupt during the Holidays trying to impress everyone by spending more than I make. I ALWAYS give my loved ones gifts, BUT some of them are homemade instead of bought from Macys.
People ruin it b/c they run around like chickens with their heads cut off, trying to spend all the money they have, only to stress themselves off; people like this turn THEMSELVES OFF from liking the Holidays! Pst, that's why I don't understand why so many guys dread valentine's day. Granted, there's always gonna be that "girlfriend" that only accepts jewelry on that day, but hell, most girls would be JUST AS appreciative if their man bought/made them flowers OR wrote out a nice poem or note. Ya know, stuff that is FREE! I always say, "Don't hate the Holiday. Hate the partner you're with for making you believe the only way to ENJOY it is to go broke in the process!"
People are disturbing. The only reason I don't like the Holidays as much anymore is b/c people make it about money instead of the REAL sentimental values associated with the Holidays. I don't go bankcrupt during the Holidays trying to impress everyone by spending more than I make. I ALWAYS give my loved ones gifts, BUT some of them are homemade instead of bought from Macys.
People ruin it b/c they run around like chickens with their heads cut off, trying to spend all the money they have, only to stress themselves off; people like this turn THEMSELVES OFF from liking the Holidays! Pst, that's why I don't understand why so many guys dread valentine's day. Granted, there's always gonna be that "girlfriend" that only accepts jewelry on that day, but hell, most girls would be JUST AS appreciative if their man bought/made them flowers OR wrote out a nice poem or note. Ya know, stuff that is FREE! I always say, "Don't hate the Holiday. Hate the partner you're with for making you believe the only way to ENJOY it is to go broke in the process!"
@Cappy: I agree. My feelings won't be crushed if someone doesn't buy me a gift. Keyword was BUY. I DO believe however in letting the Holidays be motivation to bring out certain traditions, like families/friends getting together, lots of laughter, lots of great dinners/cookouts/meals, etc. Hell, I think the simple things like my man & I cooking together in the kitchen & decorating the house with Christmas decorations is moreso something I'll remember vs. a present I'll probably take back or forget about 6 months from now!
If only men knew, sometimes us gals want a sweet & FREE love letter/poem, or for HIM to cook dinner, or for HIM to do some of the things I always do as just his way for showing thanx & appreciation. He doesn't have to swipe his credit card just to show that he loves/appreciates me. If he does, GREAT BUT that FREE poem is JUST AS touching as that $ 400 bracelet!
Homemade gifts are the BEST b/c people always put their all into them + creativity. It doesn't take much for someone to pull up to JC Penny's, go to the "Gifts" section, then take it back up to a cashier to swipe/pay for it. BUT, a love letter/poem takes more thought & comes from a more geniune place! Ha, I'd prefer my man throw down in the kitchen vs. a $ 100 meal at a restaurant ANY day!
If only men knew, sometimes us gals want a sweet & FREE love letter/poem, or for HIM to cook dinner, or for HIM to do some of the things I always do as just his way for showing thanx & appreciation. He doesn't have to swipe his credit card just to show that he loves/appreciates me. If he does, GREAT BUT that FREE poem is JUST AS touching as that $ 400 bracelet!
Homemade gifts are the BEST b/c people always put their all into them + creativity. It doesn't take much for someone to pull up to JC Penny's, go to the "Gifts" section, then take it back up to a cashier to swipe/pay for it. BUT, a love letter/poem takes more thought & comes from a more geniune place! Ha, I'd prefer my man throw down in the kitchen vs. a $ 100 meal at a restaurant ANY day!
Posted by CappyLuv30
Yeah for Vday I'm perfectly happy coming home to a bed full of rose pedals, dim lighting and wine. We can even order take-out. We should be celebrating out love everyday not just on 2/14....
AMEN! I always get so confused when men look like chickens with their heads cut off on Valentine's Day. It's like sheeeeeesh, you shouldn't be feeling THAT bad; after all, you should be showing appreciation & love to your partner EVERY day. Feb. 14 shouldn't be any different NOR should you feel that you have to become Donald Trump for a day just to show the same appreciation you SHOULD'VE been showing ALL YEAR ROUND ANYWAYS!
I see Vday as like an anniversary/reminder of love moreso than anything! It's a rememberance & celebration that you're in love, NOT the ONLY day of the year you should be buying/showing love to your partner! The guys I see on Vday who have this calm & happy demeanor get a HIGH-5 from me! They don't get all nervous or panicked on Vday b/c they know they've done their BEST at showing their partners their appreciation YEAR round; they don't let Vday intimidate them!
I saw 1 guy last year with tears in his eyes (on Vday)! His card kept declining while he was trying to purchase $ 250 worth of flowers for his girlfriend. I was thinking like, DUDE! Suck it up & go spend some of that energy & time on something homemade & that came from YOU, not Flowerama! If she's been with ya THIS long w/o $ 250 worth of flowers, there's a 99% chance she won't leave you this year either! I wanted to tap this guy on the shoulder so bad & tell him he could've used that same $ 250 & used it towards 100 things, but I didn't. I knew it'd go in 1 ear & out the other.
I don't do much "gift" giving with friends or gfs, and I believe the best gift to receive is time. I'd much rather have people come to my house and hang out all day eating my food than to get little stuff they bought for me. That's how I give gifts as well. I take people out some where, we have a party for them, it's about the time together... not getting a scarf or something.
For "Relationship Important Dates", such as birthdays, valentine's, anniversaries I do buy some stuff but the purchased item still isn't the gift. I've told the story before when my friends and I would set up an outdoor restaurant in the woods. We'd take turns bringing our girls out on whatever occasion (or just randomly). We'd cook dinners and get everything set up, then the guy would go pick up the girl and "take her somewhere". Or how this year for my ex, I had the neighbors come by and give her flowers and shout happy birthday. When she came back in I had a matching rose and the kids gave her chocolates. But, it's definitely NOT always a production like that. The random tuesday flower you bring them, the six month belated birthday card that doubles for a six month early shout out... that kind of stuff is where it's at.
For "Relationship Important Dates", such as birthdays, valentine's, anniversaries I do buy some stuff but the purchased item still isn't the gift. I've told the story before when my friends and I would set up an outdoor restaurant in the woods. We'd take turns bringing our girls out on whatever occasion (or just randomly). We'd cook dinners and get everything set up, then the guy would go pick up the girl and "take her somewhere". Or how this year for my ex, I had the neighbors come by and give her flowers and shout happy birthday. When she came back in I had a matching rose and the kids gave her chocolates. But, it's definitely NOT always a production like that. The random tuesday flower you bring them, the six month belated birthday card that doubles for a six month early shout out... that kind of stuff is where it's at.
@Librasid: BINGO! You said it perfectly. There's nothing really wrong with buying someone a gift IF your way of showing love/appreciation DOESN'T stop there.
Every chick has been given gifts on her birthday, anniversary & on Holidays. We're all USED to it; it's something most people grow to EXPECT. And we all know that the "thrill" or "excitment" of some things goes AWAY when we start expecting them. BUT, what MOST girls aren't expecting or used to are the little things like homemade dinners/cards, personally picked roses & all the other sweet stuff that her ex boyfriends/family members HAVEN'T thought of doing. She's MORE LIKELY to remember, keep AND cherish your homemade poem/letter/dinner moreso than an expensive or random scarf or bracelet.
2 years ago, my boyfriend made me a homemade love/appreciation card for Christmas. Instead of going to Hallmark & buying the most expensive card & only HOPING that the card expressed his feelings for him, he literally got a sheet of computer paper, hand wrote his feelings for me + he drew all the little animations himself. It was so cheesy, BUT it was homemade & from HIS heart, not Hallmark's! Sure, he had the money to buy me 100 Hallmark cards if he wanted to take the easy/traditional way out, BUT the fact that he took the time out to make my gift so personal, made it 10Xs more special AND memorable. THOSE small gestures are what counts!
Every chick has been given gifts on her birthday, anniversary & on Holidays. We're all USED to it; it's something most people grow to EXPECT. And we all know that the "thrill" or "excitment" of some things goes AWAY when we start expecting them. BUT, what MOST girls aren't expecting or used to are the little things like homemade dinners/cards, personally picked roses & all the other sweet stuff that her ex boyfriends/family members HAVEN'T thought of doing. She's MORE LIKELY to remember, keep AND cherish your homemade poem/letter/dinner moreso than an expensive or random scarf or bracelet.
2 years ago, my boyfriend made me a homemade love/appreciation card for Christmas. Instead of going to Hallmark & buying the most expensive card & only HOPING that the card expressed his feelings for him, he literally got a sheet of computer paper, hand wrote his feelings for me + he drew all the little animations himself. It was so cheesy, BUT it was homemade & from HIS heart, not Hallmark's! Sure, he had the money to buy me 100 Hallmark cards if he wanted to take the easy/traditional way out, BUT the fact that he took the time out to make my gift so personal, made it 10Xs more special AND memorable. THOSE small gestures are what counts!
I spoil peeps rotten, and I'm a shameless cuddler.
i don't know about that. here, it seems like people engage in a "relationship rush" during the warmer months. think spring fever. it seems to me that the summer is prime hunting season to score the game so one can eat and last through the winter.
Posted by krysrenee7
Lol! You guys are nuts!
Fall/Winter SUCKS for those who are in BAD relationships or NOT in them at all. And no, people I'm not insinuating that life can't be just as great just b/c you're single during these times.
BUT, let's be honest, it does kind of suck to be the ONLY single 1 on Christmas when you're out at the mall watching men & women shopping for eachother! It does kind of suck to see couples/families loading up/driving past you with their smiley faces turned ALL the way UP! It does kind of suck on New Years when you don't have SOMEONE other than the same ole party friends to kiss/live it up with on New Years. And oh Lord, it ESPECIALLY sucks for single people when Valentine's Day comes around! Ugh
Esspeciallllllly Valentine's Day!!!!!
I'm the only single one in my group of friends :/ it's lonely
Posted by ninjamu
i don't know about that. here, it seems like people engage in a "relationship rush" during the warmer months. think spring fever. it seems to me that the summer is prime hunting season to score the game so one can eat and last through the winter.
Very true. Just b/c people often pick this time/season to hook DOESN'T mean that the hook-ups/relationships are actually genuiene or long-lasting. It does seem like people tend to "rush" into relationships or get into them for temporary/short-term gain, moreso than geniunely wanting to be with that person REGARDLESS of the season. BUT, I don't think people care though that their relationships are rushed! For the girl/guy whose just looking for someone to fulfill his short-term cuddling need, ALL they care about is getting that need fulfilled. They don't necessarily consider how they'll feel about that person or the relationship once summer comes back & once the bikinis & muscles start coming out again!
@Diana: I agree! People often WRONGfully assume that just b/c someone craves companionship that it must mean they're not content with being single. That's NOT true. A person can be VERY content being single & yet still have their days/moments when they fantasize about what it'd be like to have companionship again. Craving companionship is NATURAL & is what makes us all human! Just b/c someone occasionally (& Valentines Day is the PERFECT example/occasion where this happens) craves companionship doesn't mean they are NOT happy with beiing single.
Even when I'm in a relationship, seeing other couples who appear to be happy & really enjoy eachother only make me want to love my partner even more! And ESPECIALLY since nowadays the world is filled with people in BAD relationships who walk around acting like they can't stand eachother! So if I, someone whose taken, often feel the affect of seeing other couples on certain holidays, a person whose single should DEF. be feeling those affects too!
I don't agree though with the people who ONLY want to be in a relationship b/c they saw couples out together. Yeah, it's okay to give that couple their credit for making committment seem FUN (instead of a burden), that doesn't mean that if YOU were to get into a relationship tomorrow that you'd experience the same level of happiness as them.
The Holidays is usually when people fall in love with the CONCEPT of having love moreso than the ACTUAL person themselves.
Even when I'm in a relationship, seeing other couples who appear to be happy & really enjoy eachother only make me want to love my partner even more! And ESPECIALLY since nowadays the world is filled with people in BAD relationships who walk around acting like they can't stand eachother! So if I, someone whose taken, often feel the affect of seeing other couples on certain holidays, a person whose single should DEF. be feeling those affects too!
I don't agree though with the people who ONLY want to be in a relationship b/c they saw couples out together. Yeah, it's okay to give that couple their credit for making committment seem FUN (instead of a burden), that doesn't mean that if YOU were to get into a relationship tomorrow that you'd experience the same level of happiness as them.
The Holidays is usually when people fall in love with the CONCEPT of having love moreso than the ACTUAL person themselves.
I love winter,but not because it's the cuddly season.AlikE ScorpioDreamer,i was always alone during the holidays,BE STORNG HUN,WE ROCK ,SINGLE OR NOT!! 😄
I personally like winter only because of the sexy clothing,the cute snowflakes making my day,the Christmas tree being so peaceful,and celebrating with my best friends New Year's and Christmas with a bottle of the best champagne.But yes,it hurts to see all your best friends being busy with their boyfriend while you're the only single girl in the group,but it's something I think I've gotten used to , I'm always happy for my girlfriends thought,and i'm also happy for my male friends to have someone to hold during the holidays. I as an aqua always have fun no matter what,I just go to the club and I dance along with the other single people every year. So,holidays are great for me to celebrate with friends.With family eh..long story,I grew up in a pretty dysfunctional family 🙂
I personally like winter only because of the sexy clothing,the cute snowflakes making my day,the Christmas tree being so peaceful,and celebrating with my best friends New Year's and Christmas with a bottle of the best champagne.But yes,it hurts to see all your best friends being busy with their boyfriend while you're the only single girl in the group,but it's something I think I've gotten used to , I'm always happy for my girlfriends thought,and i'm also happy for my male friends to have someone to hold during the holidays. I as an aqua always have fun no matter what,I just go to the club and I dance along with the other single people every year. So,holidays are great for me to celebrate with friends.With family eh..long story,I grew up in a pretty dysfunctional family 🙂
Posted by krysrenee7
@Diana: I agree! People often WRONGfully assume that just b/c someone craves companionship that it must mean they're not content with being single. That's NOT true. A person can be VERY content being single & yet still have their days/moments when they fantasize about what it'd be like to have companionship again. Craving companionship is NATURAL & is what makes us all human! Just b/c someone occasionally (& Valentines Day is the PERFECT example/occasion where this happens) craves companionship doesn't mean they are NOT happy with beiing single.
Even when I'm in a relationship, seeing other couples who appear to be happy & really enjoy eachother only make me want to love my partner even more! And ESPECIALLY since nowadays the world is filled with people in BAD relationships who walk around acting like they can't stand eachother! So if I, someone whose taken, often feel the affect of seeing other couples on certain holidays, a person whose single should DEF. be feeling those affects too!
I don't agree though with the people who ONLY want to be in a relationship b/c they saw couples out together. Yeah, it's okay to give that couple their credit for making committment seem FUN (instead of a burden), that doesn't mean that if YOU were to get into a relationship tomorrow that you'd experience the same level of happiness as them.
The Holidays is usually when people fall in love with the CONCEPT of having love moreso than the ACTUAL person themselves.
Yea, that's very true! I am happy single. When I see happy couples I get happy for them lol I can't help but smile or blush or just look their way in like an "aww" way. It's just sweet! But I don't see myself entering a relationship for the sake of being in one! To be like my friends. Though my friends are in long term relationships that developed in their own ways. One started off with friendship and the other was long and complicated but beautiful. And I guess I'm just waiting for mine to happen the way it will happen. During holidays like Valintine's day my best friends and I get eachother cards and chocolate too. It's about love right lol and we love eachother.
But yea lol like all humans I desire companionship. I desire it big time. But.. eh, nothing I can do about it besides date a bunch of loosers till I find MY looser lol
Posted by BeatrixBecks
I love winter,but not because it's the cuddly season.AlikE ScorpioDreamer,i was always alone during the holidays,BE STORNG HUN,WE ROCK ,SINGLE OR NOT!! 😄
I personally like winter only because of the sexy clothing,the cute snowflakes making my day,the Christmas tree being so peaceful,and celebrating with my best friends New Year's and Christmas with a bottle of the best champagne.But yes,it hurts to see all your best friends being busy with their boyfriend while you're the only single girl in the group,but it's something I think I've gotten used to , I'm always happy for my girlfriends thought,and i'm also happy for my male friends to have someone to hold during the holidays. I as an aqua always have fun no matter what,I just go to the club and I dance along with the other single people every year. So,holidays are great for me to celebrate with friends.With family eh..long story,I grew up in a pretty dysfunctional family 🙂
I agree! I LOVE the clothing! I'm addicted to scarves!
Plus, even when I'm in a relationship during the Holidays, I still make sure that I spend JUST AS MUCH time with my family & friends. Even on Valentine's Day, I STILL make sure to show my family & friends some love! Oh Lord, you don't even want me to start talking about New Years! Yeah, I've spent a few New Years with my boyfriend, BUT there's NOTHING like celebrating with your GIRLS man! Just like there's NOTHING like celebrating Thanksgiving with your FAMILY!
So whether a person is single OR not shouldn't mean that they should be necessarily ALONE during the holidays. Some people may not be cuddled up with their partner, BUT I get the same level of fun, laughter & satisfaction when I'm spending the Holidays with my friends, family & hell even neighbors the same way I'd be excited to spend it with my man!
When I think of what it means to "be alone," I think of it in LITERAL terms. Even if you're single, as long as you've still got family & friends to support you & bond with, there's NO such thing as being "alone." Yea yea I get it too that there's nothing like being HELD by your MAN vs. your grandma! lol but still....The Holidays are about appreciating what you HAVE moreso than what you DON'T have!
@Diana: BINGO! Yeah, it's funny to see girl's clicking up on Holidays. It's almost like, "Uh oh, that must be the SINGLEs group!" BUT, then again not really! I've spent plenty of Holidays with my friends and/or family even though I was in a relationship. Of course my man might get the bulk of my day on Valentine's Day, BUT you best believe that on that day, I'm ALSO showing some love to my single AND taken friends/family.
It's bad enough that people seek relationships just for the sake of being able to say, "I'm taken," but it's even WORSE during the fall/winter & Holiday season! You can sometimes LITERALLY see the "Someone wife me up!" signs on women's foreheads!
Plus, I tend to be MORE attracted to men in the fall/winter season. Yeah yeah yeah I love how men look at the beach when their muscles & awesome bodies are showing, BUT I ALSO love men in sweaters, boots & scarves too! It seems that men & women tap into their more CREATIVE side during this season moreso than they do any other season. The women that "got by" only b/c they wore next to nothing (bikinis, for example) will have to find a way to cover up & STILL grab attention in the winter time. Almost like it's a "challenge" b/c alot of things are left to the imagination when we're all covered up from head to toe!
Idk, I notice a WHOLE NEW LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE in women who are walking around KNOWING they look spendid when they're all covered up in the winter time vs. that very same woman only assuming she's sexy b/c she's got on the world's smallest swimsuit in the summer. There's def. a difference in confidence!
It's bad enough that people seek relationships just for the sake of being able to say, "I'm taken," but it's even WORSE during the fall/winter & Holiday season! You can sometimes LITERALLY see the "Someone wife me up!" signs on women's foreheads!
Plus, I tend to be MORE attracted to men in the fall/winter season. Yeah yeah yeah I love how men look at the beach when their muscles & awesome bodies are showing, BUT I ALSO love men in sweaters, boots & scarves too! It seems that men & women tap into their more CREATIVE side during this season moreso than they do any other season. The women that "got by" only b/c they wore next to nothing (bikinis, for example) will have to find a way to cover up & STILL grab attention in the winter time. Almost like it's a "challenge" b/c alot of things are left to the imagination when we're all covered up from head to toe!
Idk, I notice a WHOLE NEW LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE in women who are walking around KNOWING they look spendid when they're all covered up in the winter time vs. that very same woman only assuming she's sexy b/c she's got on the world's smallest swimsuit in the summer. There's def. a difference in confidence!
Plus, they say that alot of people (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) tend to tap back into their more NATURAL selves during the fall/winter season.
Hair colors often go from blonde back to brown or black (their NATURAL hair color). Women always bring out the BRIGHT clothing, makeup & hair in the summertime BUT in the winter town, alot of the clothing, makeup & hair tends to go back to more neutral & earth tone colors.
I remember last summer thinking that wooow, my friends look GREAT with those bright colors (blond, highlights, red, etc.) BUT, for some reason, I felt they were even MORE beautiful towards the fall/winter when they changed back into their natural hair color OR toned the "brightness" down a few notches! It seems that more women wear LESS makeup in the fall/winter. And when fall/winter gets here, it get super cold, thus it seems like women are NOT AS self-conscious about their weight or looks when they're all covered up & when the competition for whose the sexiest is no longer about who has on the LEAST amount of clothing! Maybe it's me, but it seems like self-confidence tends to RISE a few notches in the fall/winter
Only thing I hate about the Holidays is the 15 pounds we ALL gain from all that eating/cooking!
Hair colors often go from blonde back to brown or black (their NATURAL hair color). Women always bring out the BRIGHT clothing, makeup & hair in the summertime BUT in the winter town, alot of the clothing, makeup & hair tends to go back to more neutral & earth tone colors.
I remember last summer thinking that wooow, my friends look GREAT with those bright colors (blond, highlights, red, etc.) BUT, for some reason, I felt they were even MORE beautiful towards the fall/winter when they changed back into their natural hair color OR toned the "brightness" down a few notches! It seems that more women wear LESS makeup in the fall/winter. And when fall/winter gets here, it get super cold, thus it seems like women are NOT AS self-conscious about their weight or looks when they're all covered up & when the competition for whose the sexiest is no longer about who has on the LEAST amount of clothing! Maybe it's me, but it seems like self-confidence tends to RISE a few notches in the fall/winter
Only thing I hate about the Holidays is the 15 pounds we ALL gain from all that eating/cooking!
@Aquila: You're very content with yourself & your OWN damn company! Who cares that it's super cold sometimes at night?! Hell, that's what covers/quilts are for! Whose to say that I can't enjoy candles & music playing all b/c there's no one there with me?! Ha!
Sometimes it feels even BETTER & is more fulfilling when we cater to OURSELVES for once! It feels so good sometimes to have some "ME" time when I can surround myself around a beautiful & relaxing atmosphere WITHOUT my partner OR anyone else BUT ME!
People should learn what it means to be comfortable by themselves. You're only cheating YOURSELF if you can't learn how to enjoy your own place or life all b/c someone else isn't there to sit next you! I'll enjoy my Holiday, those candles & all the awesome music REGARDLESS! BUT some people can't! Sucks, but it's the reality for alot of people ;~(
Sometimes it feels even BETTER & is more fulfilling when we cater to OURSELVES for once! It feels so good sometimes to have some "ME" time when I can surround myself around a beautiful & relaxing atmosphere WITHOUT my partner OR anyone else BUT ME!
People should learn what it means to be comfortable by themselves. You're only cheating YOURSELF if you can't learn how to enjoy your own place or life all b/c someone else isn't there to sit next you! I'll enjoy my Holiday, those candles & all the awesome music REGARDLESS! BUT some people can't! Sucks, but it's the reality for alot of people ;~(
Posted by amethyst2002
I'm usually fine with being single, too. I just have a problem with it when I have my moments where I want to cuddle. Or have sex. That's a downer too. 😢
It's like that's all men are for anyway 😉
haha but yea, I get big time urges and it just sucks having no one during those moments, for even just kissing.
@Aquila: Perfectly said. I think being single has it's advantages & disadvantages just like being "taken" does. Either 1 has it's GREAT advantages. Problem is, there's this negative stigma on being single...people automatically ASSUME that if you're single it's b/c 1. You're bitter 2. Avoiding relationships b/c of some inner insecurity problem OR that 3. There must be something wrong with you. And that's NOT always the case. What ever happend to wanting to be/being single just b/c um...ya want to be!?
It's 1 thing to be single for an entire lifetime...yeah that might signalfy some inner issues. BUT, what is the big damn deal & problem people have when they see someone who chooses to be single for a CERTAIN amount of time/temporarily? It's like sheeeeesh, FORGIVE ME FOR LOVING MY SELF!!!!! There's nothing wrong with being taken/committed, BUT it's NO secret that SELF-LOVE has to be something you crave AND want too.
I love seeing my girls when they're single & for all the RIGHT reasons! I love seeing women who are single for the moment b/c they have NO reason to be committed unless they find someone worth committing to. I mean it's NOT like there's an unlimited supply of "Prince Charmings" walking around. I don't blaim the women who WON'T SETTLE for 2nd best, nor do I blaim the women who are single on PURPOSE since they might have some baggage or inner issues that need to be worked out.
Hell, half of the people in horrible relationships OR in relationships when yet they lack self-love should be envious of those who know how to be JUST AS HAPPY by themselves. That's why it's important to stay single for awhile after you've just gotten out of a bad/emotionally-draining relationship! Sure, we all want love to last, BUT I crave EVEN MORE to be with someone who doesn't have to pay for any past baggage & vice versa!
Half the people in relationships now NEED to be single lol. People are always in a hurry to blaim their partner's shortcoomings on WHY their relationships ISN'T doing so well, but I'd be willing to bet that more than HALF of the relationships that DON'T work out don't last b/c of 1 or both people's individual LACK of self-love. We were all born alone & we will all die alone! Being by ourselves is something we will ALL have to get used to, whether we like it or not!
It's 1 thing to be single for an entire lifetime...yeah that might signalfy some inner issues. BUT, what is the big damn deal & problem people have when they see someone who chooses to be single for a CERTAIN amount of time/temporarily? It's like sheeeeesh, FORGIVE ME FOR LOVING MY SELF!!!!! There's nothing wrong with being taken/committed, BUT it's NO secret that SELF-LOVE has to be something you crave AND want too.
I love seeing my girls when they're single & for all the RIGHT reasons! I love seeing women who are single for the moment b/c they have NO reason to be committed unless they find someone worth committing to. I mean it's NOT like there's an unlimited supply of "Prince Charmings" walking around. I don't blaim the women who WON'T SETTLE for 2nd best, nor do I blaim the women who are single on PURPOSE since they might have some baggage or inner issues that need to be worked out.
Hell, half of the people in horrible relationships OR in relationships when yet they lack self-love should be envious of those who know how to be JUST AS HAPPY by themselves. That's why it's important to stay single for awhile after you've just gotten out of a bad/emotionally-draining relationship! Sure, we all want love to last, BUT I crave EVEN MORE to be with someone who doesn't have to pay for any past baggage & vice versa!
Half the people in relationships now NEED to be single lol. People are always in a hurry to blaim their partner's shortcoomings on WHY their relationships ISN'T doing so well, but I'd be willing to bet that more than HALF of the relationships that DON'T work out don't last b/c of 1 or both people's individual LACK of self-love. We were all born alone & we will all die alone! Being by ourselves is something we will ALL have to get used to, whether we like it or not!
@Aquila: Perfectly said. I think being single has it's advantages & disadvantages just like being "taken" does. Either 1 has it's GREAT advantages. Problem is, there's this negative stigma on being single...people automatically ASSUME that if you're single it's b/c 1. You're bitter 2. Avoiding relationships b/c of some inner insecurity problem OR that 3. There must be something wrong with you. And that's NOT always the case. What ever happend to wanting to be/being single just b/c um...ya want to be!?
It's 1 thing to be single for an entire lifetime...yeah that might signalfy some inner issues. BUT, what is the big damn deal & problem people have when they see someone who chooses to be single for a CERTAIN amount of time/temporarily? It's like sheeeeesh, FORGIVE ME FOR LOVING MY SELF!!!!! There's nothing wrong with being taken/committed, BUT it's NO secret that SELF-LOVE has to be something you crave AND want too.
I love seeing my girls when they're single & for all the RIGHT reasons! I love seeing women who are single for the moment b/c they have NO reason to be committed unless they find someone worth committing to. I mean it's NOT like there's an unlimited supply of "Prince Charmings" walking around. I don't blaim the women who WON'T SETTLE for 2nd best, nor do I blaim the women who are single on PURPOSE since they might have some baggage or inner issues that need to be worked out.
Hell, half of the people in horrible relationships OR in relationships when yet they lack self-love should be envious of those who know how to be JUST AS HAPPY by themselves. That's why it's important to stay single for awhile after you've just gotten out of a bad/emotionally-draining relationship! Sure, we all want love to last, BUT I crave EVEN MORE to be with someone who doesn't have to pay for any past baggage & vice versa!
Half the people in relationships now NEED to be single lol. People are always in a hurry to blaim their partner's shortcoomings on WHY their relationships ISN'T doing so well, but I'd be willing to bet that more than HALF of the relationships that DON'T work out don't last b/c of 1 or both people's individual LACK of self-love. We were all born alone & we will all die alone! Being by ourselves is something we will ALL have to get used to, whether we like it or not
It's 1 thing to be single for an entire lifetime...yeah that might signalfy some inner issues. BUT, what is the big damn deal & problem people have when they see someone who chooses to be single for a CERTAIN amount of time/temporarily? It's like sheeeeesh, FORGIVE ME FOR LOVING MY SELF!!!!! There's nothing wrong with being taken/committed, BUT it's NO secret that SELF-LOVE has to be something you crave AND want too.
I love seeing my girls when they're single & for all the RIGHT reasons! I love seeing women who are single for the moment b/c they have NO reason to be committed unless they find someone worth committing to. I mean it's NOT like there's an unlimited supply of "Prince Charmings" walking around. I don't blaim the women who WON'T SETTLE for 2nd best, nor do I blaim the women who are single on PURPOSE since they might have some baggage or inner issues that need to be worked out.
Hell, half of the people in horrible relationships OR in relationships when yet they lack self-love should be envious of those who know how to be JUST AS HAPPY by themselves. That's why it's important to stay single for awhile after you've just gotten out of a bad/emotionally-draining relationship! Sure, we all want love to last, BUT I crave EVEN MORE to be with someone who doesn't have to pay for any past baggage & vice versa!
Half the people in relationships now NEED to be single lol. People are always in a hurry to blaim their partner's shortcoomings on WHY their relationships ISN'T doing so well, but I'd be willing to bet that more than HALF of the relationships that DON'T work out don't last b/c of 1 or both people's individual LACK of self-love. We were all born alone & we will all die alone! Being by ourselves is something we will ALL have to get used to, whether we like it or not
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