Let's talk about Romantic Relationships!

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LunarMaiden
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I'm single and suffering. 😢
Sometimes I feel like I am doomed to be a spinster.
So I want to live vicariously through those in one.

List how long you have been in your current relationship/ex-relationship.
What is your favorite aspect about your relationship?
Is it long-term or short-term?
What does the future have in store for you?
What kind of relationship is it? Fiery, easy going, passionate, sexless, romantic, etc.
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Well you won't find love on the internet. You must go out and not look for it.

I mean this. Love refuses to be found. It wants to either "just happen" or "you wake up one morning and you find yourself in a relationship."

I feel your pain. I really do but if there was a formula we would tell you.

Best advice go out expect nothing. Go out have a good time. Go out and avoid places that make you feel like your in a bad mood.

When you do this for a while something might happen but again this is not a formula its just some advice.
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Posted by miamivirgo
"you wake up one morning and you find yourself in a relationship."



I keep waking up and there's no one. Unless I am hooked up with the Invisible Woman, where are they? Are they some Incubus and just come to me at night?

@LunarMaiden. You are a sassy fire moon chick. It doesn't fare well for us in love so we might as well start hoarding cats (Where do you stand on this issue?)
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List how long you have been in your current relationship/ex-relationship.

3 years. And 3 years before that.

I call it the "3 years" curse.

What is your favorite aspect about your relationship?

The aspects my chart makes with my cat's chart.

Is it long-term or short-term?

Pretty sure it's long-term

What does the future have in store for you?

More cats

What kind of relationship is it? Fiery, easy going, passionate, sexless, romantic, etc.

Fiery, passionate, sexless.
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Posted by miamivirgo
Well you won't find love on the internet. You must go out and not look for it.

I mean this. Love refuses to be found. It wants to either "just happen" or "you wake up one morning and you find yourself in a relationship."

I feel your pain. I really do but if there was a formula we would tell you.

Best advice go out expect nothing. Go out have a good time. Go out and avoid places that make you feel like your in a bad mood.

When you do this for a while something might happen but again this is not a formula its just some advice.


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Posted by Theatrum
The last time I was in a legit romantic relationship I was 15 LOL. I've fallen a few times since than tho. It's always too messy to work out. I'm expecting better luck at some point.



Awww, you're still just a wee lamby! You'll have more, don't settle no matter how pressured or desperate you might feel, and keep your eyes open, it's always a new learning experience and forces you to grow.
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Posted by MoonArtist
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The last time I was in a legit romantic relationship I was 15 LOL. I've fallen a few times since than tho. It's always too messy to work out. I'm expecting better luck at some point.



Awww, you're still just a wee lamby! You'll have more, don't settle no matter how pressured or desperate you might feel, and keep your eyes open, it's always a new learning experience and forces you to grow.
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Haha aww, you're making me feel 5 talking like that! 😛

It's all good I don't feel desperate at all, thanks for the kind words though 🙂
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My husband and I have been together for 17 years.

My favorite aspect about the relationship: We're best friends AND lovers. When we're getting on each other's nerves, the "friendship" aspect of our relationship is what keeps us afloat.

What kind of relationship is it? Ours is passionate, fun, easy-going, communicative, highly sexual & romantic.

My advice to you: Everyone won't be "the one." You're still growing (hence the reason they say maturity and wisdom comes with/from experience) so don't beat up on yourself b/c you haven't made perfect decisions or correctly gaged someone every time.

The reason many people keep getting the same bad results every time is b/c they're not allowing enough time after a breakup to reflect & do the emotional homework to heal, identify where they messed up & develop tools to make sure not to end up in the same shoes again. People are afraid of truth + they're programmed to believe that bad results are always someone else's fault.

You can't change what you don't acknowledge, so look in the mirror, develop a higher self-awareness, and suddenly you'll notice how better your results are. Easier said than done, yes, but it works. These are the things that happy people/couples do. If you want what they have, follow their examples.

If not, you'll just keep sitting around feeling bad for yourself, being the victim & thinking everyone else is the problem, which is sad b/c had you just put on your big girl panties & did some self-reflecting & took responsibility for your part in disasters, you could've been happy & off into the sunset by now lol

So many great people can't find love b/c they are the ones standing in their own way of it. Self-awareness is the key in knowing what you want, properly spotting what you want & keeping what you want.
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Oh & stop validating your worth by your relationship status or by who wants you. 1st step.

No one deserves or wants the job of validating you or fixing your self-esteem issues. To be fair, the person out there that is right for you will want to get to know and commit to you as a complete person. Not 1/2 a person who's expecting them to make your issues of rejection, baggage, & lack of self-esteem to magically disappear. Too much work to put on someone else. Not fair. Those who expect others to sign up for those jobs usually end up single OR in a miserable relationship/marriage.

And if being single or ending up in a miserable relationship is the very thing you're trying to avoid, then you're gonna have to stop & rewrite the mentality that lead you to bad results in the 1st place.

Can't keep doing what you're doing & expect to get different results. If your mentality or strategy for love isn't working for you, change it. Don't defend something that doesn't work. Don't be so afraid to not lean onto your own understanding sometimes.

Sometimes the difference b/w great results & horrible results is actually very small or simple. People over complicate things by being in denial or refusing to accept and stomach the fact that they've been going about love/life all wrong. Pride and ego will kill you. Sometimes literally lol
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Posted by miamivirgo
Well you won't find love on the internet. You must go out and not look for it.

I mean this. Love refuses to be found. It wants to either "just happen" or "you wake up one morning and you find yourself in a relationship."

I feel your pain. I really do but if there was a formula we would tell you.

Best advice go out expect nothing. Go out have a good time. Go out and avoid places that make you feel like your in a bad mood.

When you do this for a while something might happen but again this is not a formula its just some advice.



Thank you, I appreciate the advice. And great timing.
I will go out this Friday to see a Blues band and I can't wait.
I may be alone, I did invite a co-worker and might invite another. We shall see.
🙂
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Posted by miamivirgo
"you wake up one morning and you find yourself in a relationship."



I keep waking up and there's no one. Unless I am hooked up with the Invisible Woman, where are they? Are they some Incubus and just come to me at night?

@LunarMaiden. You are a sassy fire moon chick. It doesn't fare well for us in love so we might as well start hoarding cats (Where do you stand on this issue?)
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Well I already have one cat and thinking about getting another one.
I really don't want to be a cat lady who talks about the guys she had brief romances with.
Trying to stay positive and get out and meet people.
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All of her strengths are my weaknesses and vice versa



What are her weaknesses? Serious question.



She can't cook for starters...
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That's obviously not important to men, because so many of them end up in long-term relationship with these non-cooking women.

There is a relationship self-help book that says a women rarely cook for her man as she is not his mother and you don't want him thinking of you that way. Go to moms house for special dinners instead.
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Posted by size zero superhero
Can't seek satisfaction on own terms = probably won't find it in a relationship

(Bet you didn't expect to hear that from a Libra. 100% serious tho)





I expect Libras to have wisdom with regards to relationships because they are usually always in one. 😉

I have had satisfaction on my own, but there comes a time when you just want to share it with someone.
Part of my frustration now is being in a new town and trying to find the things I want to do. I have found a few things that I can't wait to try. I'm sure I will be happy and satisfied doing them.

Why do people think that single people should just be happy 24/7 and not desire to be in a relationship and never feel lonely.
Is this not human nature to feel all the bumps and curves of life and want companionship?
I feel that it's disingenuous to suppress this desire, even if I am making changes.

I certainly wasn't expecting to share any of this. But it's okay, maybe I can find help here. 🙂

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The reason many people keep getting the same bad results every time is b/c they're not allowing enough time after a breakup to reflect & do the emotional homework to heal, identify where they messed up & develop tools to make sure not to end up in the same shoes again. People are afraid of truth + they're programmed to believe that bad results are always someone else's fault.

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If not, you'll just keep sitting around feeling bad for yourself, being the victim & thinking everyone else is the problem, which is sad b/c had you just put on your big girl panties & did some self-reflecting & took responsibility for your part in disasters, you could've been happy & off into the sunset by now lol

So many great people can't find love b/c they are the ones standing in their own way of it. Self-awareness is the key in knowing what you want, properly spotting what you want & keeping what you want.
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Oh I know I am the key factor in my single-hood.
I definitely give more than enough time between breakups.
I have done my share of accepting responsibility and reflecting.
Conquering my fears seems to be the biggest challenge.
Thank you for the advice 🙂
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Men marry women every single day. Half of those women whom they feel are perfect for them may not be able to cook that great or at all.

Although I've never heard of a man being turned OFF by a woman who could cook lol let's not make "cooking" a requirement in dating. Hell, even if she can cook, that doesn't mean she's gonna cook for your azz!! lol

@Lunar: There's nothing wrong with wanting companionship. Everybody experiences some form of loneliness for some reason or another in their life. However, when being single gets to the point that it starts to mess with your self-esteem, psyche & worth, that's when people will tell you to pause, calm down & not let it affect you so much that you may subconsciously become desperate (1 or 2 desperate people who come together rarely last).

I think people are questioning you b/c you used words like "miserable," to describe your current state of being, which of course insinuates that you're allowing a relationship status to affect all of you, which is NOT healthy. You've cleared up that you're not THAT miserable lol but I just wanted to bring that to the surface b/c many people won't even admit that they're becoming desperate out of ego/pride/denial even if it's true
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List how long you have been in your current relationship/ex-relationship.
My last real relationship has been over a year ago although at times it does not feel that way. I have ran into a few woman along the way... but nothing of per-say final.

What is your favorite aspect about your relationship?
My favorite aspect about my past relationship was the honestly she showed me...

Is it long-term or short-term?
It was a short term i guess because it ended but it lasted about a year and 1/2

What does the future have in store for you?

I thought that this is the most interesting thing going on with me. I don't feel a drive as much as I used to find a gf or lover... knowing it will come when the time is right. The problems normally comes because I have mutual respect for each energy out there... and if they are a good looking girl/smart/good heart it is hard to say no... I can't think of you like that just a person but the path you have and the way it will effect people... The problem now these days and what I realized... is I have fallen for my long terms at sight... Then I realized they where people in my karmact path that I could influence because of this bond or connection. In reality I am very good at reading people and understand people at a much more accelerated rate then what would be considered normal... give me 5 mins I have told people they did not know about there best friend in of over 10 years...

I can tell you that when I realized I could do this I learned at the same time in a harsh way not to abuse it... Because if you are not going to be with someone... someone else normally will and if they are a good person and have a good heart is is only selfish to hold them back... It becomes hard to remain a line... even more so if they seem to like who you are so much... sure I some stars shine brighter and you enjoy looking at them more or talking to them more... and so on... I can say now... most women wonder why I am the way I am at the yoga studio I go to... but simply I understand that now that sexual relations can confuse and mess with peoples path... so I tread lightly...

Hardish becomes if they ask me straight out... are you and I fated... to be... if they know I chart... if I care how can I not be honest...

That being said... saturn return in Scorpio... kinda not so good for sex at this time in my life... I am betting because my Pluto... Mars... saturn interation with my Pisces moon conj. venus... that
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saturn interation with my Pisces moon conj. venus... that trins or interacts with these things is the cause of all of this. Which deals with Sex... Moon the mind... and Venus love...

The last psychic I saw said that it is not abusing a relationship if something is mutual it is all good... Even soul mates must part... It is the the coming and going into someones life that matters... You should never try to leave some one badly... Most of all if you know a karmactic lover is on there way... if you are to involved you have to push them away no matter how hard because you know it is best for them... and to manipulate paths that much is just wrong.

I say this knowing my next karactic relationship is shortly on its way... Knowing it will not be my last but there is a reason I crossed their path... I will try to leave this one better and not worse and not be so short sited...


What kind of relationship is it? Fiery, easy going, passionate, sexless, romantic, etc.

When I am with someone that I respect and relate to their values personally... it is magic... I can mold to them... and understand their perspectives even if I don't agree or know they are wrong.

This next relationship... will be short... and so the next 3 or 4 for the looks...

What really has me thinking is in about 4 years... when i meet someone that will be my end all I think... It makes me wonder... will I be looking at myself... or something that is simply not describable... This has me going... as at times I could swear I have flashes... 2 or 3 kids... 1 girl 1 boy or 2 boys... the girl will most likely be baby or middle child... Flashes of my sons... At times I feel like I can almost see her... I know she has long beautiful straight black/brownish hair... skin that smells of flowers...

PM
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1 year

She tends to excel where I fail and I exceed where she fails. She makes me feel complete. Also, sex. Oh god the sex is amazing!!! Her eyes and smile are such that Aphrodite herself would hide her face in shame at the beauty being displayed. I would do anything to make her smile just once. I feel like I'm more of a man with her.

Long term

I want to move her in with me. I would like kids and marriage.

It's very fiery, very passionate. When we're happy it's the picture perfect heaven. When we fight, we ignite in passion. When we have sex, it's all encompassing. Loving, lustful, romantic, and dirty.
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Posted by Damnata
Posted by Shruikan
Her eyes and smile are such that Aphrodite herself would hide her face in shame at the beauty being displayed.



You're either drunk/high or not a Scorpio with that comment 😐

Stop getting into Libra Men turf.
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lmao!! this is the first time i ever read a scorpio guy talk like that. that's venusian territory.

not even my gay cousins with libra mars talk like this. 😛

just teasin' ya, shruikan. it's just funny.
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ok fuck. i'll be truthful. My husband did write something for me... a short verse...
and i was like...dammnnn.

then later, after we're married, i asked him, you no write me beautiful verses....

'that's so i can get into your panties!!'

lmao!! i fucking love his sarcastic humour. 😄



i love aries men i swear.

on my first date with my ex we reached a narrow alley and him, being the gentleman that he was, allowed me to walk in front of him.

"oh you're such a gentleman"
"i wanted to.."
"check my ass? gotcha!"
"..."

bless their hearts.
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ok fuck. i'll be truthful. My husband did write something for me... a short verse...
and i was like...dammnnn.

then later, after we're married, i asked him, you no write me beautiful verses....

'that's so i can get into your panties!!'

lmao!! i fucking love his sarcastic humour. 😄



i love aries men i swear.

on my first date with my ex we reached a narrow alley and him, being the gentleman that he was, allowed me to walk in front of him.

"oh you're such a gentleman"
"i wanted to.."
"check my ass? gotcha!"
"..."

bless their hearts.
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hm you're on to those mars men aren't you?