My boyfriend is acting strange. I don't know what to believe.

Hi. I hope someone here can help me because I'm going insane.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 months. Even though it's not long, I feel a connection with him and I love him. We've had small fights but we always went back to normal. The last time we had a fight he told me: "I'm starting to get confused. Maybe it's better if I don't see you for a few days". I told him I can't live without him and he said he could not do that so everything went back to normal again.

Everything was fine for a week until Monday. We always meet after work and go somewhere before going home. Well, he was not at the place where we meet and he did not pick up his phone or anything. This is the first time he didn't meet me and he texted me at midnight saying that he had an accident with his bike (he rides the bike most of the time). I decided to believe in him, after all, accidents happen. But he told me that he loves me, not to worry and that everything is fine between us.

But on Tuesday and today he still did not meet me as we usually do and didn't even call me during lunch time (he always calls!) i felt so stupid waiting on him and hurt. I message him telling him to please tell me what's going on and why he's avoiding me. And asked him if he still wanted to talk to me. He continued saying everything is fine, sent me smiley faces as if nothing and told me that he will finally see me on Friday and explain me everything that is going on. I don't know what to do because I'm hurt and scared that on Friday he'll do the same thing and ignore me as he's been doing every day since Monday.

I just want an explanation of this behavior but I feel humiliated begging him to explain me what I did wrong or if he wants to be with me or not.

I can't just ignore everything because we had an amazing relationship and I can't pretend that nothing happened like he's doing. What should I do—

Since he's a Libra beg him for forgiveness and that you will change for the better. Relationship go through ruff spots and that can sway his scale judgement of you. Beg harder and show your loyalty by catering to his every need. Good luck getting the Libra.

You seem rather needy in your first post. It's been three months. You're acting as if this is a ten plus year marriage with kids and joint finances.

I'm my opinion, three months is NOT long in the dating world. It's long enough though to get to know someone we'll enough to know whether you want to keep dating someone. Three months is a good time to say yes or no. If it's yes then it is because you feel there is enough solid foundation to keep building on. Common goals, similar approach to life, mental and emotional connection, attraction grows stronger etc. You can see there may be a future between you. If it's no then it's because there's some things that are not matching or fitting together. Perhaps your constant arguments are showing you that you're not that compatible. If you're arguing on a weekly basis and you're only three months in then what will life be like for the next 40 years!

I don't think you're seeing the bigger picture. If this is how this guy deals with things, by not turning up when he said he would, by not calling when he said he would, by giving you excuses such as having an accident and then not sharing any more than that, by ignoring you, by moving the goal posts each day, by keeping you hanging on and holding a carrot out to you as if it's a game, by telling you all will be clear by Friday... Then ask yourself if this is a person who genuinely does love you (after three months??) and who has your best interests at heart? I don't think it is. If it isn't, then why would you want to be with someone like this?

Saying 'but I love him' and 'but we have a great connection' doesn't count. Those are one sided, subjective feelings. Your one sided, subjective feelings. Not his.

This three month time may have run its course. Your life will not end. You can simply thank him for his time and move on. If he wants to remsin with you then you both need to address the issues to see if you can work them out. If at six months nothing has changed then I'd consider that you're sinply not a match. Break up and find someone who will match with you.

I think you are sounding a bit needy too. It’s ok if he doesn’t want to see you after work. It sounds too much too soon, you need to give him space to be himself once in a while. His bike might have broken down, it might not have, but it’s really bad if he feels that he has to lie to you because he doesn’t want to disappoint you. I think you need to make plans for something else yourself, you don’t need to see him every day, you need a life outside of that. Give him time to miss you. If you keep chasing, demanding his attention, or if you start getting upset when you can’t see him, then it shows a lack of confidence on your part, and you will chase him out of your life.

So it’s Monday and results are in...

What was the verdict?

Geee...if someone told me we are meeting so I can tell you if you worth of my time...he would be waiting all Friday to have someone to tall to...

Whaaat? Don’t you see he is out?

He simply had change of heart and spent time with her and now sees that you are a history. Just not sure how to say it without having you in tears making him feel like an asshole...which in reality he has rights to make choices in his life for himself...respect people rights to change their mind!

Best of luck...❤️

Posted by Dianna

Just because you think that you can't live without someone doesn't mean that you should tell him. Some things are better left unsaid. Leave some mystery, keep him guessing a bit. If he doesn't call, pretend that you didn't even notice.

Yeah...sure...🤣