New Date, First Sex

OK, how do I put this ... Here we go ... How do you ladies feel about oral sex on the first date? I don't mean first date as in first time you go out, I mean first date as in the first time you end up in the bed together? I know most women don't feel comfortable with a man down there so soon, but I personally think it's quite arousing because it's sort of a taboo since just a couple of dates ago we were getting to know each other and now ... well, here we are ... and there I am.

Either way, I feel that a little touch of shyness and not knowing each other too well can sometimes be a nice spice. After all, that's what's so intriguing about meeting new people and potential partners - getting to know them in more intimate ways. Or maybe I'm just a perv ...

😢 Any specifik reason? Not that there needs to be one, just curious.

For me...
It is definately better to give than receive.

Though its weird! I like it more I guess one at a time / taking turns rather than sixty-nine

>Because I am not a clit girl... I like penetration...feeling the man inside me

LOL I'm totally with you on that! 😄

But there is a huge difference in doing it and talking about it. I just hope we won't be seeing or share of immature 35 y.o. virgins asking stupid questions to get something to jerk off to. I've seen my share of that on other forums.

But you never know, I would love a sex section, and the members here seem quite mature in their ways I think, so it might work out.

As long as individuals pose their questions in an adult way and are respectful to others, it may be beneficial (as well as slightly entertaining 😉).
I'm always interested in what men have to say about these subjects; especially like this thread. It was presented in an adult way, and was not disrespectful to anyone. As long as there are no references to animals and children, I could care less what people do in their own sexual world. Everybody has their own idea of what is acceptale and "normal" but what is "normal" to one person may not be to another. As this thread has shown, some people like certain things, and some people don't. IMO, when both people are respectful and want to please the other, then it's mutually satisfying. Also, there may be something that someone is not interested in doing with a casual person; versus if they are in a committed relationship, they may be more adventurous. I'm rambling now, lol.

BTW, in reference to your initial question, if the person knows what they are doing, then I'm all for it! LOL!

@GemGal: You crack me up!

@bijou2u - "I probably wouldn't let him stay down there for too long. Just enough to get a sense of his skills."

And for him to get a sense of ... hm, you 😉

OK, stop that this instant! Getting hot in here LOL

@bijou2u - "Frankly...oral sex is more intimate to me than just penetration sex."

Yeah, that's what makes it so hot I guess. But I totally understand, as I said in the beginning of this thread, many women don't feel comfortable because it's just too intimate. But there is nothing wrong with having something to look forward to either.


@USCTaurusGal: Goody 🙂 LOL

I won't be too comfortable, but I don't mind giving oral..so go figure lol

It's interesting to me how many women don't prefer to receive versus give. Out of EVERY guy I know; they don't mind giving, but they LOVE receiving. And with most girls I know only a handful like receiving or giving. They'd prefer neither— It's weird to me, not in a judgmental way, just weird. I also think it goes with womens overall insecurities about their bodies, which in turn makes them not enjoy the being the recipient. If I had a dollar for everytime I heard one of my girlfriends say: "I don't like it cause what if they don't like the way I -- smell; look down there; my thighs are too big; my stomachs not flat; etc" I wish more women could just relax more and enjoy it. That's just my opinion based on my friends and even stuff I've read on this board. I don't hear my male friends having even a third of the issues that women do. They MAY worry about "size" otherwise, it's like lotto to them - they are just happy to be "in" it! LOL

LOL "c'mon it's not so bad down there."
Well Keva, we'll just have to enjoy it for the rest of 'em 😉
Seriously though, I was like that when I was younger, but as I've gotten older I'm all good with "being taken care of."

I had one boyfriend who refused to give because his mother told him it was nasty-he did however like to receive. The mother of one of my ex's told me that oral sex was for animals. Maybe thats why her husband cheated on her and then left her, I'm assuming his mistress had no problem "going down".

USCTaurusGal, 95% of women dont feel comfortable with their bodies.
it might be 92% or 98% i forgot! 😆 i am a reliable source, LOL

@Conniefox - LOL, yeah, I think you're right. It makes me sad. One of my girlfriends is married with 3 kids and she HATES sex. She said it's only to have kids that she has it. Another one of my friends used to hate it, but as we've gotten older and she's relaxed and experienced more, she's liking it more. Most comments I hear from women is the fact that they just can't relax. I always say "take a shot of tequila and you'll be fine." It's in jest (sort of), but really I'm just saying they should relax and try not to THINK about it so much. Men, majorily speaking, enjoy sex! LOL!

"How do you ladies feel about oral sex"
either way, i dont mind it =) prior in bed together you must've spent generous of time together which i'm pretty sure the tension's already built up..oh yeah

If you are not familiar with your own body in terms of sexuality, which to me seems very common among women, you are not likely to enjoy sex. How can your partner know what you want if you don't know it yourself. In the end, it's about how well you know your own body and what gets you off. And as we know, men are easy to satisfy because they know how to satisfie themselves. That's why women are rarely accused of being bad lovers. After all, in order to make love to someone else you must first be familiar with your own equipment.

I don't think there is one man out there who's never experienced an orgasm, and if there is, well then he's a rare specimen. And how many women are there out there who have never experienced an orgasm and the hand of themselves, yet less a partner. Many I would say.

I've never been a woman, but please, don't come knocking at my door saying that some women simply can't have an orgasm. That's the biggest BS in the history of mankind. If you are healthy, you can have an orgasm. It is however puzzling that some women never get that far. I'm dying to know why!

I sadly agree Enfant, but there are so many societal, religious, etc issues that plague women and sexuality as a whole. I'm not a sex therapist, etc, but I'm still stupefied by how many women believe masturbation is a bad thing and/or have never done it for whatever reason. It's true in relationships as a whole, if you don't know what makes you happy, how can you BE happy. When I was in highschool I took a personal guidance class. The first thing our teacher told us 10th graders, was to get to KNOW our bodies. Take a mirror and LOOK at your body, as well as touch, etc. Her main point was, if you don't touch, look, explore, you'll never know if something is wrong. Hence the reason self breast exams are so important to women, but so many women are afraid to touch themselves. Again, it's just sad to me 😢

^^exactly UC. There are unfortunatley so many issues women are societally forced to think about, that it does get in the way (so to speak) of the act itself. I totally agree that women are "socialized" NOT to have sex; whereas men are encouraged. Also, I also firmly believe that foreplay begins outside of the actual act/bedroom. I'll tell a guy in a minute. "You have to f*#k my mind before my body." It's an art, but there are some skilled men out ther 😉. I'm very comfortable in my sexuality, and I just wish more women could be too. That's not an encouragement for women to sleep around or do anything they don't want to do though. I respect those who are "saving themselves" for marriage or whatever they deem is right by their moral standards. I just hope that when they do "it" they can at least enjoy "it."

I like getting oral, but I don't love it. I prefer giving than receiving. I've only been able to cum through oral sex (I am starting to doubt that its possible to climax through vaginal penetration alone), but I still prefer to have intercourse or give a blowjob even if I won't get an orgasm.
To me, oral feels incredible (physically) but kind of awkward from an emotional standpoint. Get what I mean? First of all, All women will feel a little self conscious when a guy goes down (they're not sure if the guy will like the way they look, smell, and taste) and second of all, it feels wrong receiving. A lot of guys don't like to do it, so I always feel like I don't want the guy to do it (even if he truly likes to) because I'll feel like he's just doing it as a chore. I wouldn't want someone to do it unless they truly enjoy it, otherwise I'll be turned off. Also, Men are usually dominant in bed and it somehow feels wrong to have them do that. It feels like when they do it I'm in control, and I don't like that.

And it can get kind of boring just laying on your back and have him in between your legs... I know most girls love "foreplay" but I am not that big on it. I love getting straight to the point. Its always exciting, and I can never wait until I can just let loose and get "nasty". I like being f*cked hard in all sorts of different positions. I also love love love sucking cock. So yes, I'd take intercourse and giving head over receiving oral.
Its hard to explain, but I'm sure most women can relate.

Oh wait, I did not answer the question.

It depends on the guy and our chemistry. With most men I'd say that I'd prefer it if he did NOT go down on me during our first encounter. I don't know if I'd be comfortable. Besides, When I have sex with a new guy, usually it starts off with me giving him head and then vaginal intercourse. And sometimes it starts with a blowjob and it doesn't go past that... But I don't mind because I love giving head and am fine with doing just that sometimes.

@prettymissmaria: --I know most girls love "foreplay" but I am not that big on it. I love getting straight to the point.--

Yeah I hear ya. Many "wise" women talk about the importance of foreplay. But I don't know if it is some sort of porn-trauma going on among young adults today, but most women I've been with don't much care for foreplay. To them, foreplay is flirting ... you know, before your clothes are off. But I think foreplay is much more common in relationships, when that first thrill is gone and you actually have to do more than just look at eachother to get to a point where you can have sex. So I believe that foreplay is overrated in 'sex education' because it seems to suggest that women are not as capable as men. But I personally love foreplay, even when it comes to casual partners, only sometimes I have to save it for after the sex LOL Yes, all people are different, that's the beauty of it.




@GemGal: -- I love the dominant guy in bed. I am still searching for him, the guy that would know what he is doing and not feeling all that nervous of what I am going to say. --

OK, I'm gonna go down on you now whether you feel like it or not. All you can do is keep your mouth shut and pray for a good time, which you're certanly gonna get! LOL

I don't know what I meant by "keep your mouth shut", you can make little noises if you want to ...

"I don't know what I meant by "keep your mouth shut", you can make little noises if you want to ..."

Wow, only little noises— LMAO!

Well she's into dominance, and when Mr. Leo says 'little noses', Mr. Leo means it. Otherwise Mr. Leo will have some spanking to do.

*my, my Enfant, you are the naughty Mr. Leo aren't you 😉 *

Who, me?

No, I'm really a nice guy. Really ... 😉

Leo's in respect to the sexual chemistry (for me) are mmmmmmmm grrrreat! LOL!

Is it mating season already?

@GemGal: -- I never tried a leo... Let's see...hmmmm --

Well then you are pratically a virgin 😉 I never tried a Gemini either, by the way. Had a crush on one though, she flirted with me ... a lot! Didn't work out, she had a boyfriend and her friends said they would tell him if she went and did anything stupid. Some friends, huh?