FirstDecanTaurianWoman0428
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Online dating sites questions?
Thanks
I know a few people who have had luck with online dating and are both in committed relationships. The common denominator both women had was they where contacted first by their interest and they took their time getting to know their partner, both waited for commitment before sleeping with their interest. I would pay less attention to astrology and more to how I connect with the person, once you make a connection then do the synastry...lol. Btw, I sent you a pm.
yes, put up some natural pictures where you look you're best.. The "made up" to look elegantly natural pics attract quality types...; ) lol
Yea I put good pics...I am just wondering guys that's all...
Use pictures that are more candid and show you doing things you like to do and that you're having fun doing it.
Questions -
Ask about their childhood, how they grew up, etc (tells you how they feel about their family and if they grew up similar to you)
Ask if they could spend $ 100,000 in one store what store would they spend it in. (kinds fun and not boring)
Ask if they had 30 minutes free time, what would they do with it.
What is a typical Saturday or Sunday like for them? (would you mesh well together)
Stuff like that.
As far as swapping numbers, after several e-mails after you have found him to be consistent with things he said and you feel comfortable doing so.
Watch for inconsistencies in statements (words vs words, words vs profile), bad feelings about his family, does he follow through with what he says, does he have a job, see if his profile is accurate based on what he tells you later on, etc.
Questions -
Ask about their childhood, how they grew up, etc (tells you how they feel about their family and if they grew up similar to you)
Ask if they could spend $ 100,000 in one store what store would they spend it in. (kinds fun and not boring)
Ask if they had 30 minutes free time, what would they do with it.
What is a typical Saturday or Sunday like for them? (would you mesh well together)
Stuff like that.
As far as swapping numbers, after several e-mails after you have found him to be consistent with things he said and you feel comfortable doing so.
Watch for inconsistencies in statements (words vs words, words vs profile), bad feelings about his family, does he follow through with what he says, does he have a job, see if his profile is accurate based on what he tells you later on, etc.
Don't have a list of what you don't want on your profile. It comes across as negative and the wrong type of man will respond thinking he can be those things when he's not, or a player might respond because it feels like a challenge.
See this from redflag101.com
#1 —I??ll tell you later??
The —I??ll tell you later?? on Match.com has equivalents on other dating sites, such as OkCupid??s —??.?? Assume the worst about anything that says —I??ll tell you later.?? No one leaves —Smoker?? blank if they hate cigarettes. No one leaves —Drugs?? blank if they hate drugs. More importantly, if someone leaves their relationship status blank, they??re most likely in one, if not married. If they leave —children?? blank, they really have 3. End of discussion.
#2 They have a terrible username
Girls: If his username is something along the lines of —JackInYourBox?? has the word —cum?? in it, or ends in the number 69, stop right there. I don't care how cute he is. Even the most perverted guys I know wouldn't stoop that low.
Guys: If her username is —Marriage_Material??, —Looking4love?? or something else equally as desperate, she is delusional and going to cling to you like a boa constrictor. Don't go for it unless you like scrapbooks and those picture booths that predict what your children will look like.
#3 They have —a great sense of humor??
If someone actually has a great sense of humor, they will use their bio space to make you laugh, not tell you how funny they are. I??ve seen hilarious profiles. They never say, —I have a great sense of humor.?? They fucking prove it. Duh.
#4 They only have one picture??_ of their face
I don't care if their profile info says they are —athletic and toned?? — if they only have one picture, and it's only of their face, this person is overweight. If they are not overweight, there is probably something else horrendously wrong with their body that they don't want you to see. Either way, not worth finding out.
#5 They like —long walks on the beach??
This should be self-explanatory. Saying you —like long walks on the beach?? is the biggest clich? of all time, and yet somehow like 50% of people on dating websites will say this in their bio. There is nothing wrong with walking on the beach. In my opinion, if you don't like walking on the beach, there is something wrong with you. That being said, if you can't think of anything more original to say in your profile, you??re probably flat, uncreative, and boring.
#6 Bathroom Pics
We all know bathroom mirror pics are lame and borderline creepy. However, consider this: if the person you??re talking to doesn't even have one pi
#1 —I??ll tell you later??
The —I??ll tell you later?? on Match.com has equivalents on other dating sites, such as OkCupid??s —??.?? Assume the worst about anything that says —I??ll tell you later.?? No one leaves —Smoker?? blank if they hate cigarettes. No one leaves —Drugs?? blank if they hate drugs. More importantly, if someone leaves their relationship status blank, they??re most likely in one, if not married. If they leave —children?? blank, they really have 3. End of discussion.
#2 They have a terrible username
Girls: If his username is something along the lines of —JackInYourBox?? has the word —cum?? in it, or ends in the number 69, stop right there. I don't care how cute he is. Even the most perverted guys I know wouldn't stoop that low.
Guys: If her username is —Marriage_Material??, —Looking4love?? or something else equally as desperate, she is delusional and going to cling to you like a boa constrictor. Don't go for it unless you like scrapbooks and those picture booths that predict what your children will look like.
#3 They have —a great sense of humor??
If someone actually has a great sense of humor, they will use their bio space to make you laugh, not tell you how funny they are. I??ve seen hilarious profiles. They never say, —I have a great sense of humor.?? They fucking prove it. Duh.
#4 They only have one picture??_ of their face
I don't care if their profile info says they are —athletic and toned?? — if they only have one picture, and it's only of their face, this person is overweight. If they are not overweight, there is probably something else horrendously wrong with their body that they don't want you to see. Either way, not worth finding out.
#5 They like —long walks on the beach??
This should be self-explanatory. Saying you —like long walks on the beach?? is the biggest clich? of all time, and yet somehow like 50% of people on dating websites will say this in their bio. There is nothing wrong with walking on the beach. In my opinion, if you don't like walking on the beach, there is something wrong with you. That being said, if you can't think of anything more original to say in your profile, you??re probably flat, uncreative, and boring.
#6 Bathroom Pics
We all know bathroom mirror pics are lame and borderline creepy. However, consider this: if the person you??re talking to doesn't even have one pi
#6 Bathroom Pics
We all know bathroom mirror pics are lame and borderline creepy. However, consider this: if the person you??re talking to doesn't even have one picture of themself out doing something fun with their friends, and thus had to resort to putting up 5 pictures that they took in their bathroom the same day they made their profile, they??re probably either not very fun, or don't have any friends. Most likely both.
#7 He lists his income??_ and it's really high
All I'm saying is if I made upwards of 500k a year I would leave my —income?? blank for sure. This guy is either lying to get you to sleep with him, or telling the truth to get you to sleep with him. Whichever is the case, he is not to be trusted.
#8 They are wearing clothes that went out of style 20 years ago
If he or she is wearing an outfit straight out of the 90s, the other people in their pictures look like they could be the the cast of the original 90210, and the pictures were clearly scanned onto the computer rather than taken with a digital camera, this person is lying about their age by two decades or more. The fact that people think what they are doing here isn't obvious kills me.
#9 They write like they are illiterate
Seriously, if you are too lazy to spend an extra minute or two spell-checking your profile and putting together proper sentences, you need to re-evaluate everything about your life. If your sentence lasts for like seven lines of text, it's too long. Taaaalking likeeee thiiiis is ridiculous. —Tryna?? and —plz?? are not words. Read a fucking book!
#10 They have a long list of —requirements?? for their potential match
You absolutely won't date someone unless they??ve had less than 5 sexual partners, can cook, have parents who are still together, don't drink, are blonde, etc, etc, etc for 20 lines? Guess what, the person you are describing doesn't date people who make ridiculous lists like this. Get over yourself.
We all know bathroom mirror pics are lame and borderline creepy. However, consider this: if the person you??re talking to doesn't even have one picture of themself out doing something fun with their friends, and thus had to resort to putting up 5 pictures that they took in their bathroom the same day they made their profile, they??re probably either not very fun, or don't have any friends. Most likely both.
#7 He lists his income??_ and it's really high
All I'm saying is if I made upwards of 500k a year I would leave my —income?? blank for sure. This guy is either lying to get you to sleep with him, or telling the truth to get you to sleep with him. Whichever is the case, he is not to be trusted.
#8 They are wearing clothes that went out of style 20 years ago
If he or she is wearing an outfit straight out of the 90s, the other people in their pictures look like they could be the the cast of the original 90210, and the pictures were clearly scanned onto the computer rather than taken with a digital camera, this person is lying about their age by two decades or more. The fact that people think what they are doing here isn't obvious kills me.
#9 They write like they are illiterate
Seriously, if you are too lazy to spend an extra minute or two spell-checking your profile and putting together proper sentences, you need to re-evaluate everything about your life. If your sentence lasts for like seven lines of text, it's too long. Taaaalking likeeee thiiiis is ridiculous. —Tryna?? and —plz?? are not words. Read a fucking book!
#10 They have a long list of —requirements?? for their potential match
You absolutely won't date someone unless they??ve had less than 5 sexual partners, can cook, have parents who are still together, don't drink, are blonde, etc, etc, etc for 20 lines? Guess what, the person you are describing doesn't date people who make ridiculous lists like this. Get over yourself.
The short time I was on-line dating, I attracted Aquarius, Taurus and Virgo the most.
The way I go about this..(I like people who have interests and actually type stuff in their profiles).
I will let the conversation flow. Probably start it with some interest he has that I also share and take it from there. I don't have a set of questions. The only one I always make sure to ask is "Are you dating someone? Are you married?". Even then he could lie but at least I know I asked so if I find out he lied, I stop all contact.
If we both live in the same city I'll just suggest we take the conversation into real life over a coffee or something.
First dates for me are either early evening or during the day on weekends. Public places. Low key stuff.
I will let the conversation flow. Probably start it with some interest he has that I also share and take it from there. I don't have a set of questions. The only one I always make sure to ask is "Are you dating someone? Are you married?". Even then he could lie but at least I know I asked so if I find out he lied, I stop all contact.
If we both live in the same city I'll just suggest we take the conversation into real life over a coffee or something.
First dates for me are either early evening or during the day on weekends. Public places. Low key stuff.
Oh and I really don't expect much. For me it's friendly interaction first.
Posted by Damnata
Oh and I really don't expect much. For me it's friendly interaction first.
I think having that attitude is very important!
Posted by truecapPosted by Damnata
Oh and I really don't expect much. For me it's friendly interaction first.
I think having that attitude is very important!click to expand
I don't know but I never was that excited about the whole process of dating in general. Sounds very difficult lol.
So when things click I'm always overjoyed "YAY!". Aries moon smh.
How do you feel about cats? The answer to that question can be mighty revealing.
I have to hand it to people who feel online dating (guessing) is the way to go.
I'd rather be single for life than to go through such a fake, sometimes dangerous time consuming and 99.9% failure.
I'm the what you see (in person) is what you get. Body language/eye contact answers a shit ton of questions because it's live and it's real.
It's a waste time & energy typing, texting and guessing what's being communicated as the truth.
I personally do not know of anyone who successfully has landed a husband or wife through a dating site.
They advertise it...(a first name and last initial..lol gospel)
Anyway, not knocking those who do this. To me, it is not natural at all. If it's meant to be it's gonna happen without these dating sites. Usually in the REAL WORLD. 😉
I'd rather be single for life than to go through such a fake, sometimes dangerous time consuming and 99.9% failure.
I'm the what you see (in person) is what you get. Body language/eye contact answers a shit ton of questions because it's live and it's real.
It's a waste time & energy typing, texting and guessing what's being communicated as the truth.
I personally do not know of anyone who successfully has landed a husband or wife through a dating site.
They advertise it...(a first name and last initial..lol gospel)
Anyway, not knocking those who do this. To me, it is not natural at all. If it's meant to be it's gonna happen without these dating sites. Usually in the REAL WORLD. 😉
Posted by LetltB
I have to hand it to people who feel online dating (guessing) is the way to go.
I'd rather be single for life than to go through such a fake, sometimes dangerous time consuming and 99.9% failure.
I'm the what you see (in person) is what you get. Body language/eye contact answers a shit ton of questions because it's live and it's real.
It's a waste time & energy typing, texting and guessing what's being communicated as the truth.
I personally do not know of anyone who successfully has landed a husband or wife through a dating site.
They advertise it...(a first name and last initial..lol gospel)
Anyway, not knocking those who do this. To me, it is not natural at all. If it's meant to be it's gonna happen without these dating sites. Usually in the REAL WORLD. 😉
I know several couples that met on a dating site and have been happily married for years.
I connected with my aqua on a dating site, but we are from the same home town and already knew who each other were before we met up.
Think about what is important to YOU.
Not what's supposedly supposed to be important to your friends, family members or magazines.
Once you are clear about what's important to you, then ask questions that reflect those 'standards.'
Example: I know dating articles & friends tell you to dissect a person from head to toe, but if you're not really the kind of person that cares about material things, then for God sakes don't bring those questions into the mix as if the answer really matters at the end of the day, all b/c outsiders told you to consider those things important. If those things aren't really requirements, then save the non-requirement questions for later.
If you use slang in your texts, don't suddenly get all uppity when a man uses slang. Why? B/c you know good and damn well that the way they communicate when they're comfortable isn't really that big of a deal. But if you've got people in your ear telling you to pay close attention to grammar, you might actually lie to yourself about what bothers you, when the truth was that it bothers everyone else but you!
I say that b/c people who don't even care about religion or politics (example) will actually ask how the other person feels about those things. But why? B/c a magazine or dating article told you to or NOT to bring up those things? Why? B/c those questions were listed on "Questions to ask when dating' blogs? Blah.
Just be yourself & be true to what you want. And from there, ask questions that will likely get you answers about things that are important to YOU, not us, not your parents, not your nosy friends, or society.
Never date from someone else's point of view. The man or woman you date wants to fall in love with YOUR mind, heart & standards. Not everyone else's. There's no manual for dating, so you're better off just knowing what you want & asking for what you want. Those are the 2 factors that all happy people and couples have in common =)
Not what's supposedly supposed to be important to your friends, family members or magazines.
Once you are clear about what's important to you, then ask questions that reflect those 'standards.'
Example: I know dating articles & friends tell you to dissect a person from head to toe, but if you're not really the kind of person that cares about material things, then for God sakes don't bring those questions into the mix as if the answer really matters at the end of the day, all b/c outsiders told you to consider those things important. If those things aren't really requirements, then save the non-requirement questions for later.
If you use slang in your texts, don't suddenly get all uppity when a man uses slang. Why? B/c you know good and damn well that the way they communicate when they're comfortable isn't really that big of a deal. But if you've got people in your ear telling you to pay close attention to grammar, you might actually lie to yourself about what bothers you, when the truth was that it bothers everyone else but you!
I say that b/c people who don't even care about religion or politics (example) will actually ask how the other person feels about those things. But why? B/c a magazine or dating article told you to or NOT to bring up those things? Why? B/c those questions were listed on "Questions to ask when dating' blogs? Blah.
Just be yourself & be true to what you want. And from there, ask questions that will likely get you answers about things that are important to YOU, not us, not your parents, not your nosy friends, or society.
Never date from someone else's point of view. The man or woman you date wants to fall in love with YOUR mind, heart & standards. Not everyone else's. There's no manual for dating, so you're better off just knowing what you want & asking for what you want. Those are the 2 factors that all happy people and couples have in common =)
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