Open to love....

This is for both the men & women in the forum..When you have been hurt,deeply hurt in a past relationship & never want to experience that hurt again...do you find you date casually but never allow yourself to truly feel or develope feelings for the other person, do you purposely set your must have criteria in a mate so high,in hopes of no one ever coming close, have those invisible walls up so high so no one can get to the other side.. or would you consider it a learning experience of how to better handle situations in your next relationship..should you have a deep fear of loving after being deeply wounded & the right person come along would you not think twice about being in a commited relationship?...post your sign and your aftermath point of view...Me...well I choose to love as if I've never been hurt before =)I'm justa scorp girl =)

I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes. I'm a big girl, and life is too short for questions. When I love, it's with all of me. And I extend that outward so that whom I love is never in doubt.

Posted by venusianbull
I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes. I'm a big girl, and life is too short for questions. When I love, it's with all of me. And I extend that outward so that whom I love is never in doubt.

This too has been exactly how I have been, however after many short-lived and failed relationships I have found myself becoming more and more cautious. I dont particularly like it, but its true. My current has already dropped the "L" word on me and Im just not ready for that. I love very hard and Im not sure that I feel that way about him yet. I just want to be sure. I dont casually throw that word around and it actually has me feeling a little pressure. I do know that I wouldnt change loving my ex-husband but damn the pain that followed was sure a horrible feeling. I have found that I dont let my walls down as easily as I used to.

Leo - obviously. 🙂

I've been in 2 very LTR and was deeply hurt by both of them..but refuse to let that ruin what I have to share...I left both relationships after I attempted everything within my power to make them work...I left because I had to not because I wanted to..I did have a wall up for a 9:33:24 PM until this one man came along and had what it takes to let my guard down....he's slow...I'm waiting and if it don't work out I will not regret showing and sharing the gift of love at the extent I have to offer it

I'm still hung up on my parents hurting me. That give you and idea of how regressed I am? Lol

Sagittarius.

Posted by missscorp
This is for both the men & women in the forum..When you have been hurt,deeply hurt in a past relationship & never want to experience that hurt again...do you find you date casually but never allow yourself to truly feel or develope feelings for the other person, do you purposely set your must have criteria in a mate so high,in hopes of no one ever coming close, have those invisible walls up so high so no one can get to the other side.. or would you consider it a learning experience of how to better handle situations in your next relationship..should you have a deep fear of loving after being deeply wounded & the right person come along would you not think twice about being in a commited relationship?...post your sign and your aftermath point of view...Me...well I choose to love as if I've never been hurt before =)I'm justa scorp girl =)

well, I was hurt, backstabbed, cheated and all those "great" things we all dread in relationships. I learned to love again. The last time I was in a good place where I really was happy alone, than someone came along, and refused to leave for months, and just when I decided it's ok to let my guard down a few weeks passed and I was dumped...sooooo...on that note, since the last time it took me months to be able to trust again, I think the next time it will take years. Frankly, I don't care to have another relationship for years, or ever. I'm ok with that. I had them, had a couple really long term and not don't care to revisit that idea again.
This is not a learning experience I want to revisit. The only think I learned is that even after being hurt enormously, I am not bitter or angry and can, if I choose to, love again...but, again: what's the point?

I will think for a very, very, very long time before I commit myself again. The last one took my 6 months to accept that maybe it's ok to commit and I did. For nothing.

;/

gemini with scorp asc and venus in cancer... - yep, relationships are just not going to happen for a long time now.

Posted by missscorp
I've been in 2 very LTR and was deeply hurt by both of them..but refuse to let that ruin what I have to share...I left both relationships after I attempted everything within my power to make them work...I left because I had to not because I wanted to..I did have a wall up for a 9:33:24 PM until this one man came along and had what it takes to let my guard down....he's slow...I'm waiting and if it don't work out I will not regret showing and sharing the gift of love at the extent I have to offer it

well, the man that did have all the qualities I ever wanted, professed over and over and over and over that my wall can stay up and he will just park his lawn chair on it with a cooler and wait till I decide to come up and join him...well, the minute I did, he again professed all the crap girls like to hear and than a few weeks left...

that tells you something about having a wall up.

I'm keeping mine in place, maybe adding some to foundations and some height as well.

(I'm not a happy camper lately)

Posted by venusianbull
I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes.

That's what I admire and respect about you, because I am the exact opposite in that respect. It takes a LOT for me to trust anyone, but when I do, I am a "ride or die biznatch" too...it just usually doesn't get that far! Mad props for those of you who can just jump back in the saddle; I am not mad atcha'.

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Posted by venusianbull
I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes. I'm a big girl, and life is too short for questions. When I love, it's with all of me. And I extend that outward so that whom I love is never in doubt.

This too has been exactly how I have been, however after many short-lived and failed relationships I have found myself becoming more and more cautious. I dont particularly like it, but its true. My current has already dropped the "L" word on me and Im just not ready for that. I love very hard and Im not sure that I feel that way about him yet. I just want to be sure. I dont casually throw that word around and it actually has me feeling a little pressure. I do know that I wouldnt change loving my ex-husband but damn the pain that followed was sure a horrible feeling. I have found that I dont let my walls down as easily as I used to.

Leo - obviously. 🙂

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(((Waves at LLLTBL))) Yeah, I love hard too; hence the reason I keep people far, far away from me, because once you are in, you are in and in that (notorious Taurus way), I am stubborn and it's difficult sometimes to let go; therefore, I just protect myself up front and really filter out a lot of riff raff.

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Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

Posted by venusianbull
I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes. I'm a big girl, and life is too short for questions. When I love, it's with all of me. And I extend that outward so that whom I love is never in doubt.

This too has been exactly how I have been, however after many short-lived and failed relationships I have found myself becoming more and more cautious. I dont particularly like it, but its true. My current has already dropped the "L" word on me and Im just not ready for that. I love very hard and Im not sure that I feel that way about him yet. I just want to be sure. I dont casually throw that word around and it actually has me feeling a little pressure. I do know that I wouldnt change loving my ex-husband but damn the pain that followed was sure a horrible feeling. I have found that I dont let my walls down as easily as I used to.

Leo - obviously. 🙂

(((Waves at LLLTBL))) Yeah, I love hard too; hence the reason I keep people far, far away from me, because once you are in, you are in and in that (notorious Taurus way), I am stubborn and it's difficult sometimes to let go; therefore, I just protect myself up front and really filter out a lot of riff raff.

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this exactly.

@Roamingfree - I'm not saying it's the right way to be, but it works for me...for now. Maybe one day I'll be walking down the street and a coconut will fall on my head and I will turn into one of those people who just leaps headfirst into a relationship in the "Jump first, ask questions later" type of way, but until that time; I'm chilling. I may be alone, but I am NEVER lonely...people have a misconception about that, and I gladly clear it up for them. I was in a relationship before that at the end I felt the most alone I ever did in my life. Now, I chill and just "do me" and I really have no complaints. It works for me 🙂

that's exactly how I was; than certain Libra walks in and I ended up being toast. Now, I'm working my way back to that same place. That attitude does work, there is fulfillment in it, and walking alone, really is not lonely...there are always people around that play very significant roles in our lives, we just need to see them and be content with feeling validated to be alone - I wonder how can someone be in a relationship if they are not able to be at peace with themselves, on their on time, with their own solitude? how do they know themselves?
I find I need my solitude at times, even while in relationship to center myself and remember exactly what makes me.

than you know what it means to finally let go and trust and than have that stepped on...

I was really crushed recently, but now— Now, I chose to draw 'em in close blow 'em and then give 'em the ole snowball move before I send 'em packing.

What's "Snowballing?"

yes, well, I reached that point too...after learning to trust again, which was preceded by so much work that it would suffice for psychology degree...
I still love him. I don't hate him. I wish him well. I hope all will work out for him. Should he make a move in my directions I would be probably extremely nervous and on edge, just because I am hurt now...I, as much as I would want things to fix themselves am actually in fear of lack of trust now in him.
I have been though a lot and I can honestly say, that this last one did the biggest number, because I have had so much work put in myself and after months of not trusting and putting everything off, I learned to let go and have faith again...just to be shafted a mere few weeks later...
Where is the reason in this?

No. I will not be looking for second chances.
My friends would laugh that for someone who does not resent men and sure have the mother off all walls around me...well...it just grew few feet in height and in girth...

I wonder if I ever will love again.

I have gone into this relationship with open eyes and I remember telling myself that even if it does not work out - I will not be resentful, and will take the lesson learned that even after all that I have went through I am lucky to be able to put all aside and trust and love again.
I do not regret.
I do not resent.
But,
I will not venture that way again.
Not even if he would show up on my doorstep this week.

There comes a point in life, where relationships as such matter not so much, because what is important are dear friends who stood by us through out and family and kids.

No man will matter that much when there is other love in the air.
I am happy that I had relationships I experiences. The good and the bad.
Lessons were learned, and I can honestly say, that as much as I am heartbroken right now, I still remember that I am still exactly the same person with all the qualities before this last relationship, maybe even more right now.
There is inner peace to be found when you know that you have done nothing wrong and that you have always put your best foot forward.
Keeps one away from hate.
Even if the recent pain is acutely felt...

Posted by missscorp
do you purposely set your must have criteria in a mate so high,in hopes of no one ever coming close, have those invisible walls up so high so no one can get to the other side.. or would you consider it a learning experience of how to better handle situations in your next relationship

I think most people do a little bit of both. They go from 1 extreme to the other.

Right after a breakup/heartbreak, their heart's are either completely cold & closed (even if they don't realize it) as a result of the pain OR completely open to try again, simply b/c they cannot handle the stress & reality of being single, alone or dealing with the heartbreak. Sometimes people purposely move on too fast b/c finding another distraction is better than dealing with the pain from the person who REALLY has their heart.

Most people turn cold, THEN finally move on to allow the bad experience/breakup to serve as a learning experience later.

It's rare that I actually see people getting their heart broken 1 minute & then the next minute, going about love as if they'd never been hurt before.

To an extent, there's always that extra element of caution, fear, skepticism, or insecurity that develops each time after a heartbreak that carries over into new relationships. And I can't say that this is even necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes "learning" from mistakes means not being naive or too trusting the next time.

@roamingfree...now your free to roam...=) that's th best thing about love...it happens when you least expect it...when your not looking for it and its the last thing on your mind...sometimes we have to kiss a couple of frogs before our prince finds us...and sometimes we need to experience the rotten to know when the good has arrived...you have lots to look forward to...its the most exciting thing to some...its the excitement of the unknown....now if only I can see the excitement of the unknown maybe, just maybe I wouldn't be so damn uptight about it!! Hahaha! I'm learning as I go along! =)

bleh...
I did all that. I kissed a toad for 3 years who all did was abuse me, than I kissed a semi-frog for 3 years...broke it off myself, than spent 10 years with a frog of Aqua who cheated and lied constantly, than had a thingy with CaprArius - who back stabbed me till not end, than it was a one Libra for a couple months who was way off his scales, and ended up being my stalker, after that it was Cancer who was two timing me...really...than when I put all those behind me, put an enormous effort into rebuilding or rather coming back to the self I was and always loved, but learned that not all men are made of stinky socks&snakes...I was happy, really happy and than that darn last Libra comes along...so again I go in and slowly trust, and he's not leaving, has all the right points, even some that I don't care for...I fell face flat and now he called it off...

really...

I'm not going to hold my breath and at my age, in my situation, I want to say like Rhett Buttler said to Scarlett:
"frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn"
Whereas before it was always: "I'll think about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day"

I think the Scorpio and the Cancer in my chart both had about enough of any relations with men...

Know what I mean?

I'm chilling. I may be alone, but I am NEVER lonely...people have a misconception about that, and I gladly clear it up for them.. I chill and just "do me" and I really have no complaints. It works for me...OMG! Exactly my thoughts, exactly how I lived...I just did me...I enjoy my mee time and then this one guy came along and things changed a bit? I find wanted to now exchange a lot of my mee time to we time =) the walls come tumbling down with the right person....now if I can climb over theirs....hahaha!

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Posted by venusianbull
I agree with Bling, erm, but insert female bits for male.

No walls, no FEAR. I jump in with both feet, and deal with the fall out as it comes.

That's what I admire and respect about you, because I am the exact opposite in that respect. It takes a LOT for me to trust anyone, but when I do, I am a "ride or die biznatch" too...it just usually doesn't get that far! Mad props for those of you who can just jump back in the saddle; I am not mad atcha'.

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And THAT is what I admire about you. It takes time for me to heal, as it does anyone else..but I'll be damned if I allow a bad experience keep me back or hold me down. I close that door, and look for the window. LOL Analyzing self is always an interesting thing. I go hellbent for leather and at times I need to slap my own damned self in the back of the head, yeh?

Posted by roamingfree
bleh...
I did all that. I kissed a toad for 3 years who all did was abuse me, than I kissed a semi-frog for 3 years...broke it off myself, than spent 10 years with a frog of Aqua who cheated and lied constantly, than had a thingy with CaprArius - who back stabbed me till not end, than it was a one Libra for a couple months who was way off his scales, and ended up being my stalker, after that it was Cancer who was two timing me...really...than when I put all those behind me, put an enormous effort into rebuilding or rather coming back to the self I was and always loved, but learned that not all men are made of stinky socks&snakes...I was happy, really happy and than that darn last Libra comes along...so again I go in and slowly trust, and he's not leaving, has all the right points, even some that I don't care for...I fell face flat and now he called it off...

really...

I'm not going to hold my breath and at my age, in my situation, I want to say like Rhett Buttler said to Scarlett:
"frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn"
Whereas before it was always: "I'll think about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day"

I think the Scorpio and the Cancer in my chart both had about enough of any relations with men...

Know what I mean?

is it all over with your LDR Guy? I am very sad to read this....Mega RamHug

it's all done.
and thank you. It sucks.
I haven't heard from him and honestly...the more he prolongs it the more I am removed emotionally and the less prone I will be to say: "really? how do you expect me to pick up the pieces and fit them all together again, when half of them a pulverized"...

It's done. He means what he says. Always did. I have no reasons to suppose or hope otherwise.

Well, it is "me" time all over again...once I get around to end my own pity party...but, I think this one will last a bit. It just feels that way.

😢

well supposedly (according to another thread) it is better we loved and had our hearts stomped into a million pieces than never to have loved at all. Whatevuhhh.

hope he gets a nice bout of dysentry

whatevuhhh is right...how many times can I poke myself in the eye?
I hope he realizes his mistake and lives with the what if, should've, could've, didn't - I like that calamity better

that sick thing is that I am still thinking about it and going through this emotional stew and he is out and about and moved on with his life - that was his call, his decision, so it's natural that he has moved on and is not even giving this a second though, while I still sit moping around.
;/

Posted by missscorp
This is for both the men & women in the forum..When you have been hurt,deeply hurt in a past relationship & never want to experience that hurt again...do you find you date casually but never allow yourself to truly feel or develope feelings for the other person, do you purposely set your must have criteria in a mate so high,in hopes of no one ever coming close, have those invisible walls up so high so no one can get to the other side.. or would you consider it a learning experience of how to better handle situations in your next relationship..should you have a deep fear of loving after being deeply wounded & the right person come along would you not think twice about being in a commited relationship?...post your sign and your aftermath point of view...Me...well I choose to love as if I've never been hurt before =)I'm justa scorp girl =)

I did close myself off emotionally for about a year after my marriage broke up. I do believe I was afraid, but also needed some time to find myself. The men I dated often thought I wasn't "into" them when I really was. But the past few months, I have come to the conclusion that life is too short and any relationships that I have will become a learning experience/lesson for the future. I have opened up to a man from last year who I pushed away but he still hung on and waited for me. If things don't work out for the long term with him, at least I was lucky to have had him in my life.

^ I like that, both that he waited on you..and your feelings on things in general. That is the attitude I adopted after my divorce as well. Yes it hurts when things end, yes it sucks on a black hole level; but things do and will go on. And perhaps when things are called done it taught you something about yourself that you really needed to know. What you definitely do NOT want in your life. That yes it is what is wished for, but you don't NEED one to stand on your own two feet. It's about getting your self respect back, your pride and your love for the one person you depend on the most. The one you see in the mirror.
To wave on or deny love in ones life is steeped in fear. Fear of opening up, fear of being wounded, fearful of giving over control to another person. Yes control. To place that heart in someones hands and trust. For some it's like clenching dry sand. You make a fist..it all runs away, but if you are still with open hands it remains.
So yes, I'll be one of the crazy ones, the one firmly believing. The one barreling forward with guns blazing, no fear in me.
Because I tell you something else. I refuse to let someone trample me enough, sink me so low down, that it affects my happiness in future. To let it take away the sparkle in my eyes for someone special to me. And me for them. Oh indeed ( cover the kids eyes.. ) FUCK THAT.

Open to love ......

@VB..."To wave on or deny love in ones life is steeped in fear. Fear of opening up, fear of being wounded, fearful of giving over control to another person. Yes control. To place that heart in someones hands and trust. For some it's like clenching dry sand. You make a fist..it all runs away, but if you are still with open hands it remains.
So yes, I'll be one of the crazy ones, the one firmly believing."

Yes!!

@P- Yes, we all have our idea what a relationship should be. Also, how your partner should act/say to show he is true. But I have changed ...I don't listen to what others tell me about my relationship anymore. What the books or advice columns say. I allowed him to take the reins and show me how he wants to be in a relationship "himself." I do not feel the urge/need to demand more of him anymore. But like VB said, he has become less like the sand in my hand, more of my rock that will always be there.

🙂

@roamingfree the past is just that..passed we must not alow what is done to affect what is to come...I think everything in life is a stepping stone to help assist us to get to that next level...where we truly belong..those men...you stepped on them for awhile and maybe they stepped too but they were all tools you will find you will use and depend on to make your one day relationship all the better! Seems to me as if they did you a favor...and that someone has moved on while you are still stuck speaks volumes of the type of person you are...I'm a lifer too! I spend a year...lost in myself..my thoughts after my LTR fell to pieces..I got to know me on a very personal level and fell in love with my mee time..people ask me all the time if I take happy pills, call me the happy police...I am high on life because for the first time in my life I know exactly what I want and fully intend to get it..in all areas of my life...so NOW I look back on memories of past and all I can do is smile =) I'm thankful I had him in my life & I'm thankful I left...had I not went thru such a hard,miserable, depressing time...I would not have had the oppty to come out on the other side where I know I belong...it took there...to get me here & I love it...no regrets...now if I can only get this one boy to come out of his shell and play more often! =)

@missscorp...I know, and thank you. but I did all that already. I did it. I had all that in place...and than along he came...
I just don't want to do this anymore.
What's the point?
I wasn't looking for anything when I met him. At all.
I kept him at arms reach for ever because I was happy and his presence in my life did not add to the validity of me as self.
I'm just tired with giving chances...
I don't regret. I don't harbor any animosity towards him...but, just wish I was not treated like this...where one day he's all hot and than for no reasons at all...he's off...
Just doesn't make sense, unless there are other reasons that he is not telling me what they are, but have crossed my mind naturally...
The whole point is that...I need to move on and I need to do it soon. I need to just make sense of it in my own way and than I will be free to...roam again

I'm hopeful. I'm not apocalyptic about it.

Posted by roamingfree

... I kissed a toad for 3 years who all did was abuse me ...

... than spent 10 years with a frog of Aqua who cheated and lied constantly ...

... had a thingy with CaprArius - who back stabbed me till not end ...

... it was a one Libra for a couple months who was way off his scales, and ended up being my stalker ...

... after that it was Cancer who was two timing me...

The people who come into your life do according to you.

You enjoyed every second of the relationships you had above, and are attempting to project onto us that you had no choice in your suffering because those men did that to you .. which is a lie.

You did it to yourself ... you are to blame for every one of those relationships, because they weren't done to you, they were done by you.

Roaming you are seriously gorgeous.
I know this is one of those stupid cliches that people crap on with when a relationship goes south, but it REALLY IS his loss. Loser. Next.



P-Angel, people choose how they treat others. Some of us choose to treat people the way we would like to be treated and some people choose to be obnoxious abusive bullies.

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Posted by roamingfree

... I kissed a toad for 3 years who all did was abuse me ...

... than spent 10 years with a frog of Aqua who cheated and lied constantly ...

... had a thingy with CaprArius - who back stabbed me till not end ...

... it was a one Libra for a couple months who was way off his scales, and ended up being my stalker ...

... after that it was Cancer who was two timing me...

The people who come into your life do according to you.

You enjoyed every second of the relationships you had above, and are attempting to project onto us that you had no choice in your suffering because those men did that to you .. which is a lie.

You did it to yourself ... you are to blame for every one of those relationships, because they weren't done to you, they were done by you.

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yeah...ummm...you can read it as you chose, but I don't recall saying: "those a-holes did this and this and this..." in the way that you portray...so you can take that back with yourself.

I unlike you do not harbor hate...nor do I play the ever famous blame game most people do.
It was my choice to be with people.
I think to pass judgements as "you did this to yourself" is the worse generalizing, and harmful to people with less knowledge of themselves. Before you pass judgement, be careful to know ALL circumstances, or you will be taken for a fool who bases assumptions on a few words...

Honestly...it is true...you are one angry woman...wonder if it's the menopause that does it to you...I don't think you always harbored such sinister and biting nature...with disregard for others while you blow your own pseudo-psychological toot only you can hear...

Seriously woman, if you only LISTEN a little more, you may just proclaim your opinions where others would listen gladly. Your wealth of amassed observation is wast, but your tongue runs away with you with emotional maturity of a Capuchin monkey...


sad.
I'm sorry you have such sourness in yourself.
I could never stand to be so full of venom.
probably why I can wake up in the morning, even during crisis and actually look in the mirror and feel good about who I am, instead of beating myself over the head with a stick like you MUST surely do...

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Roaming you are seriously gorgeous.
I know this is one of those stupid cliches that people crap on with when a relationship goes south, but it REALLY IS his loss. Loser. Next.

thank you. 🙂
I can blame his reactions on being just back from Iraq for 2 weeks and post-deployment funk settling in.
Deployments are hard on these guys. It's an emotional rollercoaster for all involved. I can honestly say I wish for him to get his bearings, get his life together and find balance.

I do not harbor any animosity. People come into our lives for reason, not everyone is meant to stay, all we can do is learn from it and hopefully pick out more than one positive lesson from each relationship.

I am aware of deployments etc. Thanks.

You are obviously more zen than I about the whole "...People come into our lives for reason, not everyone is meant to stay, all we can do is learn from it and hopefully pick out more than one positive lesson from each relationship...." thing.

In my case my deployee made a concerted effort to come into my life so I am happy for him to stay, follow through the whole 9 yards and for us to live happily ever after. I figure there was no point in him coming in to my life for any other reason.

If people are going to just wander in and then out of my life they should have the courtesy to let me know when they first arrive instead of working their way into my heart just to stomp on it later......I don't do this to people and don't like it being done to me. This seems fair to me.

Keep smiling and I hope every day is getting better and better for you xxxxx

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
I am aware of deployments etc. Thanks.

You are obviously more zen than I about the whole "...People come into our lives for reason, not everyone is meant to stay, all we can do is learn from it and hopefully pick out more than one positive lesson from each relationship...." thing.

In my case my deployee made a concerted effort to come into my life so I am happy for him to stay, follow through the whole 9 yards and for us to live happily ever after. I figure there was no point in him coming in to my life for any other reason.

If people are going to just wander in and then out of my life they should have the courtesy to let me know when they first arrive instead of working their way into my heart just to stomp on it later......I don't do this to people and don't like it being done to me. This seems fair to me.

Keep smiling and I hope every day is getting better and better for you xxxxx

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I'm trying. It's annoying. I can't stand when I can't make sense of things like that. 😢
and I agree with you - I do think they should have the courtesy of giving me heads up - especially since I am not the one who pushed for anything...
I'm trying to keep the gawd damn zen...but I tell you, it's a beotch at times...(craps, there go two dollars into the potty mouth jar)...
Your take is fair - I have no clue why he made that choice. It's been 6 days and it beats me...but, I guess that's ok, it's better now than later when I am more emotionally involved.

I was with someone else before and went through full 15 months of deployment with him and we survived in one piece, the break up came much, much later out of something stupid he did that was not forgivable at that time. He's in Afghan now and we talk - but only as friends.
This Libra of mine though...I can't make sense of it 😢 probably never will.

I have no Libra experience, but am told they can be strange.
Of course some folk say that about Aries but we really aren't!!!

Keep the zen thing going...good things just around the corner I am sure.

I am always amazed at the couples that get thru a deployment and then break up later, it's bizzarre - you think you have gone thru the hard stuff then - whammo! It happens a lot, but it doesn't help to know that when it is happening to you.

What sign is Afghan boy? Neat that you are still friends.
They still need our support even though they are doofusses!!


FREEDOM ISN'T FREE

he's the Cap/Aqua from above...we talk, because he asked for support while going off last summer...I think he's back in a bit.
It's more of a: don't stress, keep your head low and get your rest.
I don't give him gf grief and he does not give me bf grief lol, so we talk.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

P-Angel, people choose how they treat others. Some of us choose to treat people the way we would like to be treated and some people choose to be obnoxious abusive bullies.

Yes, people do choose how they treat others ... they also choose how they treat themselves.

Curious, in the first sentence, are you implying that if a guy chooses to treat a girl abusively for 3 years, then that's ok for the woman to stay because it's his choice to treat her badly?

Both of those sentences is implying that it's up to the other person as to how you are to be treated ... and that's a set up for yourself.

Posted by roamingfree

... I kissed a toad for 3 years who all did was abuse me ...

... than spent 10 years with a frog of Aqua who cheated and lied constantly ...

... had a thingy with CaprArius - who back stabbed me till not end ...

... it was a one Libra for a couple months who was way off his scales, and ended up being my stalker ...

... after that it was Cancer who was two timing me...

The people who come into your life do according to you.

You enjoyed every second of the relationships you had above, and are attempting to project onto us that you had no choice in your suffering because those men did that to you .. which is a lie.

You did it to yourself ... you are to blame for every one of those relationships, because they weren't done to you, they were done by you.




It's a pity that your mind is so deficient that you cannot comprehend what I said, and I won't re-word for your mind to get. A person either possesses the ability to reason, or they don't.

When you grow up, perhaps you might actually want to better yourself so you can enjoy loving relationships, instead of the ones you've attracted to yourself thus far.


Or, maybe not ... maybe you will rinse and repeat your whole life with crappy men because you just can't bare to hear to that it's your choice.



I will be happy to build you to sand pile for you to plug your head, if the one you've been using isn't working.

Oh, you're a Gemini .. I just looked at your profile.



Nevermind .... that explains why you're stupid about life and relationships.



Carry on, then ......

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

P-Angel, people choose how they treat others. Some of us choose to treat people the way we would like to be treated and some people choose to be obnoxious abusive bullies.

Yes, people do choose how they treat others ... they also choose how they treat themselves.

Curious, in the first sentence, are you implying that if a guy chooses to treat a girl abusively for 3 years, then that's ok for the woman to stay because it's his choice to treat her badly?

Both of those sentences is implying that it's up to the other person as to how you are to be treated ... and that's a set up for yourself.

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I doubt that is what is implied...

Posted by P-Angel
Oh, you're a Gemini .. I just looked at your profile.



Nevermind .... that explains why you're stupid about life and relationships.



Carry on, then ......

ok, and so in that tone...you really a effed up in the head...lmao...
well, I bet you are one of those menopausal huffing puffing scream bloody murder at your SO or anyone walking by you mofo...

yay...now, I will wonder why I would waste my time on you...

you know...there is a bucket in the corner - you are welcome to crawl right back into it...I'll help you into it...I am helpful with a big ol' smile

xx

take this lovin' you obviously need it desperately...

I know...I just want to get along....waaaaaaa
can't we all just get along.....waaaaaa


craps!
didn't work. oh well


and yes, block it is...does she never have anything good to say? like ever?

Occasionally she says something midly enlightening, but then again even a broken clock is right twice a day. Don't worry though just block her and if she really, really wants to say something to you she'll use one of her alternate accounts.

Ironic that we support the guys that go off to war to fight for her right to say whatevuhhh and she sits there shooting us down.



**implying that P-Angel is lucky to live where she does

What an evil lil' mouse!haha!!to actually participate in a forum where people come together for points of views, opinions, chat...and some to obviously lash out and show all how miserable they truly are inside themself— Wow!