Pick ONE!

You can only pick ONE. Which is better: Being single (assuming you're single by choice & are happy) or being in a relationship (assuming the relationship is actually a good one)??

Yeah yeah I know, there are perks & advantages/disadvantages to BOTH but if you had to choose 1, which state of affairs would you rather be in?

2-5 years ago, I probably would've never asked this question, considering most of the women on the planet would rather have a companion & be happy than be alone. BUT all these new studies/data are coming out & it's showing that as of 2008-2009 women are actually much more happy (or just as happy) & content with being single than they are in good relationship. Studies show that actually MEN are the ones who crave commitment moreso than women do!

Relationship. Hands down, no hesitation whatsoever.

Me too! I'm a firm believer in the saying, "There's no point in having all the wealth, independence, self-esteem, good qualities, etc. in the world if you have no one to share it all with!"

Much rather be with someone. I like to have someone to share my world with. Someone to lean on when I need support. Someone to make smile, to make laugh.

Single too.

Whilst there is a few things I miss terribly about having a partner, I like the single life better. Complete freedom to move and do as I please.

But a girl cant get by without her Dad for when the going gets tough!

Thats great if you have that QS, trouble is ME really, when I am in a relationship I feel and do all the things that I feel are necessary. The role of an obedient wife, it's who I am and who I don't like being tbh. It's what my momma taught me and I feel I will always be like that so yes much happier with myself NOT in a relationship.

Yes, you're deeply disturbed 😛

A relationship that has no upfront expectations.

I get both arguments.

I get that being in a relationship (even a happy one) is like having a full time job. Even if things are peachy great, it still takes work.

Some people may think that's a bad thing, but I actually don't. The same things you can give to your man are the same qualities/things you can give to your family/friends/co-workers. I don't actually see what the big problem/harm is in being dedicated to someone or something. It's the same dedication you'd give to your family, friends or career/job, so what's the difference?

If you're in the RIGHT relationship, freedom won't be something you have to worry about. If you love yourself enough to be happy while you're single, I don't see how people get alot of anxiety when it's time to get committed. Hell, if you still love yourself & be true to yourself & what you want, none of that should change just b/c you get in a relationship. The only thing that changes is that you now have someone to share with it.

There's no such thing as going through life with no one to answer to. We all either have jobs, kids, friends, family, etc. all of which we answer to on a regular basis. We're being held to certain expectations regardless, whether we're single or not & whether we realize that or not. It's just a part of life & not something to necessarily love but then again not necessarily hate either

"If you're in the RIGHT relationship, freedom won't be something you have to worry about. If you love yourself enough to be happy while you're single, I don't see how people get alot of anxiety when it's time to get committed. Hell, if you still love yourself & be true to yourself & what you want, none of that should change just b/c you get in a relationship. The only thing that changes is that you now have someone to share with it."

That's all I need to know, it's just that simple.