Initiating sex

Ive been called a Party Starter. I like to initiate sex with a guy but i really get turned on when guys take the lead and initiate sex. The first time i have sex with a guy, theres this feeling i get in my loins and i always wondered if my partner gets those feelings. kinda like "should I go for it or not?" after the first sexual romp, i more times then not initiate sex. but i feel like sex is better if the guy initiates it. its kind of like i know 100% that im turning him on, which turns me on. I like the caveman mentality.

do you ever feel wierd about initiating sex? ever been shot down? are you the Party Starter? Do guys like girls who initiate?

I initiate most of the time after a relationship is established. I don't feel weird about it but I would like him to initiate it more often. I usually tend to have the higher sex drive though so it's understandable. I have been shot down once or twice for legitimate reasons (i.e. need to leave for work in 5 minutes; no time).

Posted by ninjamu
I initiate most of the time after a relationship is established. I don't feel weird about it but I would like him to initiate it more often. I usually tend to have the higher sex drive though so it's understandable. I have been shot down once or twice for legitimate reasons (i.e. need to leave for work in 5 minutes; no time).

when you were shot down, were you upset?

Posted by CapGal
I'll initiate when I see it in his eyes he wants me, otherwise I tease and tease until he's unable to resist....LOL. A guy taking too stong a lead can be a real turn off for me😢

im a venus in capricorn. as long as he isnt being a whore/slutty in his approach its not a turn off for me. is it the same way for you?

Posted by QuietSt0rm

I get that same feeling in my loins LMAO It's like a magnetic pull, right? Wooo weeeee. I still get that after being with my cap for 3 years 😄

yeah. its like a wierd feeling. the feeling of being on the brink of having sexual intercourse.

i can tell you liek it....all those smiley faces. thats cool that you guys are that comfortable with each other. i love that.

Posted by DMV

Posted by ninjamu
I initiate most of the time after a relationship is established. I don't feel weird about it but I would like him to initiate it more often. I usually tend to have the higher sex drive though so it's understandable. I have been shot down once or twice for legitimate reasons (i.e. need to leave for work in 5 minutes; no time).

when you were shot down, were you upset?

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There was a bit of a let-down at first but I got over it quickly. It's not like I couldn't get it later.

i hate it when i get turned down. i like fly into a rage or something. especially if were dating....i would never tell him no, so he cant tell me no. once im told no....i feel very differently about the person. i feel like their not really committed to me.

Hey, I don't like being told "no" either but I just know it's not the end of the world. I WILL get it later so I don't sweat it.

Posted by QuietSt0rm
I like when the man initiates, but after my periods I always get pretty feisty and will grab his hand (or something else) and initiate sex.

If I miss him.. I'm pretty much gonna jump him. I do like the caveman approach very much, but sometimes, I just can't help it. 😛

Like if I'm doing the dishes, come up behind me and pull my hips toward his, or take me up against the wall. Even if I'm not in the mood initially, aggression will take me there because it makes me feel like he wants it THAT BAD that he's so turned on, which turns me on.

Yes. Please daddy, may I have some more?

I like to initiate sex but I absolutely love when my partner gets agressive. Dammit, push me against a wall and rip my panties off, tell me what you want to do to me before you do it. If I initiate sex and am turned down I get really pissed, to the point where I won't even want to have it with the person for a while. I like a person that will take what they want and do it like it's the best they have ever had. Such a turn on!

Posted by DMV
do you ever feel wierd about initiating sex? ever been shot down? are you the Party Starter? Do guys like girls who initiate?

Depends on the guy & the chemistry (or lack thereof) that we have.

If he's my man (new relationship or not), I won't mind initiating sex at all b/c there's a huge chance that before we even had sex, he could see how aggressive I am sexually. Once I'm in a relationship, my fear of rejection is overshadowed by the intense chemistry I'm feeling (I wouldn't be in a relationship anyways if I didn't feel I could be myself, be completely open and/or go get what I want)

If my man is having a rough week or if I can tell sex isn't so heavy on his mind, I might initiate things on purpose just to surprise him or take him away from his current "troubles" =P There's nothing like seducing your man when he's LEAST expecting it! And especially if he's used to being the 1 to take control or initiate everything.

I've been shot down only once, but that's b/c my husband wasn't feeling too good. I underestimated his "symptoms" & thought he was over-exaggerating about having problems in his side, so I went ahead & initiated sex anyways only to later get turned down. Was it an ego killer? Well of course, but my understanding side overshadowed the rejection I was feeling.

Some guys can be so nervous about initiating sex for the 1st time b/c they fear the sex (on their part) not being good, not living up to a woman's expectations OR offending her by initiating sex 1st. In these cases, I think a man can appreciate a woman taking control & taking the lead.

I think whoever has the highest sex drive should probably initiate sex the most often. Of course both people should take turns going back & forth initiating sex, but hey, that's not always how it happens :/

Posted by CappyyLuv30

Posted by DMV
i hate it when i get turned down. i like fly into a rage or something. especially if were dating....i would never tell him no, so he cant tell me no. once im told no....i feel very differently about the person. i feel like their not really committed to me.

OMG you know I've actually felt this way before. I don't take 'no' for an answer for pretty much anything and I would never say no to sex from a significant other. Blasphemy.

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can we be friends?

yes! why would you turn down your mate?

Posted by QuietSt0rm
The hottest thing is when they wake you up by pulling your panties off you and pulling your hips toward them in one swift motion. *fanning self*

I

touchdown!

i was dating this taurus and we went shopping for a dress for me. he followed me into the dressing room and as i was changing, he grabbed my hips, bent me over, pulled up my skirt, and had his way. in a dressing room at a major department store. HOT!

Posted by CappyyLuv30

Posted by DMV
i was dating this taurus and we went shopping for a dress for me. he followed me into the dressing room and as i was changing, he grabbed my hips, bent me over, pulled up my skirt, and had his way. in a dressing room at a major department store. HOT!

I got a scolding at VS for doing this. Bitches. It's a lingerie store! Thought you guys promoted sex??

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*big grin* Taurus, huh?

Posted by CapGal

Posted by CappyyLuv30

Posted by DMV
i was dating this taurus and we went shopping for a dress for me. he followed me into the dressing room and as i was changing, he grabbed my hips, bent me over, pulled up my skirt, and had his way. in a dressing room at a major department store. HOT!

I got a scolding at VS for doing this. Bitches. It's a lingerie store! Thought you guys promoted sex??

Freaks! No wonder I behave like Monk when in public space eeewww

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i wave my flag proudly.

Posted by Skykomish

Posted by CappyyLuv30

Posted by DMV
i was dating this taurus and we went shopping for a dress for me. he followed me into the dressing room and as i was changing, he grabbed my hips, bent me over, pulled up my skirt, and had his way. in a dressing room at a major department store. HOT!

I got a scolding at VS for doing this. Bitches. It's a lingerie store! Thought you guys promoted sex??

*big grin* Taurus, huh?

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can you believe it?

yep i remember!

I just sit on the bar stool and lick my eyebrows sooner or later I get offers.