Put on the spot!

after getting home from the shops to a messy house I was cleaning it when there was a knock at the door. My neighbour's wife had come over...anyway she said that she had something to ask and was feeling awkward. Things rushing through my mind...then she asks if I was going up the road again and I said no. So she says, I need a drink!

I'm standing there not knowing what to say as we have only been neighbours that say hi and bye and nice weather etc, except her husband that chatters non stop and stops you from doing any work outside. The type that you try not to talk to because even if the house is on fire you can't get away from him to put it out!!!! Plus they are Dutch and it's hard to understand what they are saying because of their accent...

I'm like do you want me to go down the road for you, as she said her husband had gone out and she says can I buy a bottle or 2 off you? Was the weirdest thing and I didn't have time to think about it til after she went with 2 bottles in hand and asking me not to tell her husband. She also left $ 30, way too much for the bottles she took!

So after she left and I return to the kitchen to find the money, I start to think about what had just happened. He (Rudy) had told me that they don't drink and that they had heaps of bottles of wine given to them. When they were building their home I had allowed them to freely use my water and power for the workers when they needed it and they tried giving me money. I told them I didn't want their money but I loved wine so if they wanted to get me something just a nice bottle would do. That's when I remember he said that they didn't drink. I always felt conscious when putting the empties out. My partner loves his nightly beers and we really do sound like alchies when putting out the recycle bin 🙂

She was explaining herself as to why she felt she needed a drink, problems with the kids splitting up (they are older in their 70's) and I know she is having health problems as Rudy has told me that. I was thinking, she's probably in pain and wanting it as a relief, not that that helps but hey I don't have severe back problems and pain relief is a personal thing.

But the more I thought about it and how she was acting I started thinking...is she an alcoholic, maybe recovering or just isn't allowed to drink for whatever reason! OMG what have I gotten myself into? What happens the next time she comes around. I did say I wouldn't tell her husband! Geez I hate things like this!

I hate being put on the spot. I feel embarrassed for her and now feel I have to hide from her so she doesn't come again and ask for more!

I'm thinking next time Rudy talks to me I might ask him why he doesn't drink. His son was a drinker and he always talks like it's evil...maybe there is more to his story. I thought he was just old school because he is a bit of a chauvinist and comments about me doing all the physical work around my home and how it's not bad seeing as I'm a woman....I wonder if he is just a control freak or she really does have a problem!

But aside from all that, I'm sure there will be a knock on the door in future and i will have to say to her. I can't give you anymore alcohol and once again feel embarrassed to be in this situation.

Guess I will only have to bite the bullet and say No once!

No I don't pick up any religion, and they don't attend church on Sundays. When he mentions alcohol, in the way he puts it just makes it sound evil or wrong. This is my assumption from the talks we have had. When he does talk to me as I said it is very hard to understand a lot of what he is saying and he talks about a lot of things over a short time. He bought or gave me wine on 2 occasions so I don't think he is completely anti. But they aren't allowed alcohol in their house is what she told me yesterday....I'm leaning more to the fact that she may have had a problem with it, this only makes me feel worst!

Or maybe he has the problem.


Either way, I wouldnt get involved, and by you even denying her alcohol because of the assumptions you've made is getting too involved. Instead of saying you can't give her any next time, just tell her you have none to give/sell.

She's involved me by putting me in the position where I have to lie to one or the other, something I'm not comfortable with. This is the reason why I don't openly friend my neighbors. I like my piece of paradise.
Where I can be totally comfortable.

Posted by sweethearts
She's involved me by putting me in the position where I have to lie to one or the other, something I'm not comfortable with. This is the reason why I don't openly friend my neighbors. I like my piece of paradise.
Where I can be totally comfortable.

Sometimes we stumble into a situation just by being there lol. It happens to me all the time. Tough to call. Try to avoid them if possible. Can't make everybody happy all the time. 🙂

One of them has a problem that's for sure...just wish they hadn't made it mine!

She's seen my cabinet as she came into the house ( I invited her) it holds 20 bottles and top shelf liquor in the cupboard...it's always full or at least half because it looks good that way. Haha, maybe I have a problem too 😛

I'm the worst liar in the world but I'll be ready to make up a whole lot next time I get a knock at the door!