Question for the Guys

OK- let's say I am 8 yrs older than you
look good (maybe hot), dont need your money, and told you that I enjoy being with you and we have great time.

You- are a Player. Know the talk, walk the walk. You like hanging with me.
Then one day, we have sex. And it is understood- that is what is would be.
Then, I realize-damn- I am catching feelings. Like love feelings, but I like things the way they are. And one day you say- I have loved you for some time now.
And I tell you, the games we played, I am done playing. Emotions are here. I want to be ok with the emotions and enjoy what we have. Understand? Then you start getting your feelings hurt and getting mad and pouty. You decide to hang up on me or give me the silent treatment. Infact, I bring up that the bounderies YOU set are the one you broke. So you step back a few days to get your feelings in order and you tell me- I started liking being with you too much. I am like what the F***?

The question is this- How am I to know what is going on with you? Are you still playing me? Or does being with a girl that you like alot and she respects you,listens to you,plays with you,interests are common and you cannot keep your hands off of when you are alone, and the sex is freaky in the sheetz mean anything to you? and how would I know if its just my sex or he has those feelings.
(there is no bad with us-we been hanging for 2 yrs and little over a yr intimate- but our time is limited because of schedules) Do you think of me as a goodtime girl or a girl that could catch your heart?

He is Libra and I am Sag

I understand what you are saying.

I am trying to avoid being HURT- thats right and I do back off.
He said in the beginning- NO EMOTIONS- I said OK'then he gets emotional.

I said I love you first and I do not say it alot. And we back away and go back and forth with the words.
He keeps saying look deep, you already know or watch the actions.
Yeah- actions, I would say he is crazy.

But he is a player. He has flirted in front of me. Then he says what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Like I make him jealous. Which I dont try to. He tries to.

I know our times our great. Just scared I am being played.
but- I am not looking for commitment- just want to have good time and not be serious in talking all the time.

I guess we dont ever really know someone elses intentions.
I guess- I will just go my day to day and go from there!

oh and that sounds stupid dont it-

Breat Bull- You are right in what you are saying. I am seriously "inlove" with this guy- but we cannot commit to each other. Like in Marriage. Been there and done that. Our relationship is very intense at times. But its weird, its like we enjoy each other so much- like love to be around/with each other- when we are it is very intense. Kinda like I have to fight my feelings.


Calthorpe- You said it best. He is exactly like that. Everything you described is like him.

I realize I am playing too- but I am needing to find out when the player has feelings. I guess you never really do. You just take your chances.

Yeah, you can not have a relationship without "emotions" with a libra. They are emotional people. He wouldn't be sleeping with you/ hanging around with you if he didn't have feelings for you. But if he willing to commit to you or not...that's a different story. If you have feelings go for it I guess but I have found out with a lot of sags it's pretty much only a "lust" thing with libra's. They fun for a hook up but sometimes not much less. But he may be your true love! I dunno, I'm just saying watch out🙂

"I am seriously "inlove" with this guy- but we cannot commit to each other" Yeah, that happens alot with libra and sag, the sag wants to have the love but wants to be free at the same time . And the libra is scared as shit cause the sag is back and forth all the time. WATCH OUT lol. Those scales. Can do damage. If you don't make up your mind they can go ape shit on your ass. Mine was like that. And they hold it against you for ever. If you really want to be with him than you need to make him feel secure. Because if you don't they tense up and distance a shit load and it's really hard to get them to trust you again. AND THE LAST THING YOU WANT TO DEAL WITH IS A TENSE SCARED LIBRA. Trust me..

Good comments- I have to think about them-

You all are hitting both of us dead on it-

I do not chase- (lol, but I tell him in jest that I would chase him and he says and he will let me tackle him)- I do not openly flirt- he will. My response- I leave. No drama, just excuse myself.

This thing about the "lust" is what scares me- he could be inlust. I could be too- BUT I miss him sometimes- so I know emotions are there.
And the idea that he can go a day or 2 without talking to me- pisses me off- however- I dont bring it up.
And thats right about being tied down- I am back and forth with him in ending/not ending it because of our schedules. But then when we see each other- it is so great. Just not enough. I dont want hurt his feelings and I know I do-

I am just thinking this way to much. He doesnt try to break up with me- he just drives me crazy because I cant see him like I want to. He is working or I am working- etc... He says I drive him crazy. He has no idea.
I want to just have a great time with him and hanging and stuff. He is too grounded. OMG- I sound like myself. (Sag)

oh and I have to play this back and forth game because I cannot let him think he has that much control over me.
Its not that I want to- it's that I feel if he has me that much that he will take me for granted. But dont get me wrong- I will walk- I have hurt before and will hurt again.

Sag89-
You think that the "lust" thing is what we feel for them or vice versa??
Do we tend to tire of them or them to us? I know they get bored and are usually always looking. However, we dont spend enough time to get bored with each other and besides I always have these ideas in my head to do with him and usually its on spur of moment but I get frustrated that I dont get to act out on them. Not because we dont want to but because we CANT. Our relationship is still very sexual in person. Not always but when we can.

and being the PLAYER- He has been in relationships and he has always cheated on them. Given the chance and dam, he would go for the chance. I know because he told me about this when I first met him. He said girls didnt trust him- well DUH!!
He asked why I thought he did it. I said I always thought that when a guy found the right one- he didnt want to do that anymore. He said he must of really loved this girl before because she was the only one who could make him mad and then he wanted to love all over her. I have never heard that. And I just play it off. I have told him if he wants someone else go for it. He says he dont and thats a dead horse. I just act like it doesnt bother me.

K a few things lol

1. Lust. When I say that I mean on our side. We get bored. Libra's like relationships. You may think you would, but they will try to control you, cause your strong, minuplate you emotionally by always trying to have one on ya. Like dissapearing for a few days or little things like that. And you can't beat them on that. And that's because sags don't play games. They are real and above that. And they like woman that will be their bitch. Get jealous, throw a fit, cry it makes them feel loved and they need to see a woman act out cause most of them have really low self esteem. You sound like you don't try to make him jealous either? But he tries to get you? Yeah, cause he wants to have a huge reaction so it can boost his ego and make him feel cared about. They can't really deal with strong women. They only fall in love with women that are like that. Because they know it's safe. Cause bitch women are weak and usually don't have a life? See what I'm saying? You don't sound like a bitch woman to me.

2. It's hard cause sags have this nice idea of love and relationships where it's fun and games nice and free everyone having a good time. And you think you can see that with a libra because of their playfulness and their carefree spirt and you think, hey this guy gets me and finally someone who understands my freedom, not to emotional either, just right! But uh na honey. It's no pinic. Once they lock you down the games start, the flirting starts, their insurcity starts. And the only person that's gonna hurt/wear down. IS YOU.

3. It's totally up to you though. If you think you love him enough to put up with his bullshit than I'd say go for it! But I'm just warning ya this is how it can be. And don't ever change for a man. A man will come along that will understand you🙂

Damn girl- you described him to a "T"

He does all that crap. Makes me crazy. I have to step back and so I do. One thing you said- One time I said- you make me laugh when you get angry- sometimes its funny- he said MOST OF THE TIME IT IS NOT. He gets his feelings hurt easy. I dont mean to. But you are right on it- I try to keep it playful. Like I am serious about him but keep it playful. He gets pouty and backs away for a few days then he/ I come back around.

The only good thing I see is that my age-being alittle older makes it where I can be patient and understanding.

He is jealous. Although he swears he IS NOT. I like to reassure him that he is the one I want to please.
Will he be the kind of man to leave me for being this way or do they tend to have a hard time leaving us SAG's?

and are you saying that they only fall inlove with weak women?

And oh he has seen me show out. I done told him- dont do it- you will swear you met the devil.

He has told me that if we were exclusive he wouldnt want anyone but me. But I know he has cheated on past girls. So I wonder about his. He is a loner. He fits everything you would read about a LIBRA and maybe a narcissist.

LOL yeah. Yes, they do. So mine yelled and bitched at me about how he didn't want a relationship with me when I asked if maybe we should "try it" just simply try it and freaked out at me. So he lied to me and said yes and than like two days into it started acting like an asshole and was like uhh, whats up buddy? And we talked it over he said I corned him, blah, blah, blah, everything is your fault, you hurt me, I'm not ready for this blah blah just yelling at me. I WAS LIKE CALM THE FUCK DOWN. I don't care if you don't want to go steady whatever! It WAS JUST A GODDAMN IDEA, shit. (they take shit too seriously) and so than he didn't talked to me for a few days, I was like I'm not mad it's cool, just take it easy. And he sent me 3 txts tonight being like whats up? blah blah. I didn't answer any. I don't care anymore, I don't have anything against the guy, he's cool and a good hook up but like, THERE OVER EMOTIONAL and I think it's gay. Now I have been FWB with my libra for a year now. He asked me to be his gf 3 times through out this year and I said no each time. He keeps coming back over and over. Now the thing with these men is that they ALWAYS do that. Unless you cut the ties like I'm doing. And I don't even know if that will keep him away, all I can do is hope it will and go on with my life. I'm sure yours will do the same, but I think within time they get the idea. Goodluck with whatever you decided🙂

LOL -thats is too funny

Mine dont want to talk about feelings right.. Then I am like OK. I got love for ya but I am straight with that. Then he gonna go and get all pouty if I am not where he wants me. Like I am going to be a good girl and be what he wants when he wants. I tried to tell him my idea of "love" is that I love being with him or around- whatever. I said- just cause I said- dont mean I want to get married or anything- he said you would if I asked- I said NOPE.

Then he going to piss me off and I have to step away or he has to step away because I hurt his feelings. And then he going to be all sweet and throw that charm down on me and get me weak. BUT I have been noticing that he can be SPITEFUL. And I am having a hard time with figuring out if this is just a game (mind fuck) game- or if he is wrestling with his emotions.

You never know... I have found with a lot of libra's they have no idea who they are. Anyone who doesn't know that can have serious emotional, mental issues. I think that's really what mine had going on.. who knows. But what is it that you want from yours? I'm not understanding..

"Sure, you risk getting hurt. But you risk way more, not risking anything at all"

Terrific Answer :-)

That's good and all depressedangel, but the reality is that most people are looking out for themselves.

How long can you give to the person you love and have them take it for granted and give nothing in return before you accept that they're probably just using you until they find someone who they prefer more?

Lunacy.

It's everywhere I tell ya! This thread is from six years ago, and the density has thickened since!!


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Posted by LetltB
It's everywhere I tell ya! This thread is from six years ago, and the density has thickened since!!


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Which was why I bumped it to the top.
To show the newer people that it's nothing new. Indeed, the density has thickened, since.
In fact, right now, "Bluemoon" thread in the Sag forum is a worthy checkout.
Apparently, DMV started something back then and Bluemoon stood his or her ground.
Some sag kid thought to make a fashion statement. I disagreed.

"Bluemoon" lol...fond memories of that made up alter screename(s).