Sexual Incompatability?

so there is this tauri guy who broke up with his gf. He told her that he would take her back if she had sex with another guy and he watched. This isnt the first time he has said something like this to her. earlier, he told her that he wanted her to have sex with her ex and than have sex with him right afterwards. she has always said no, but he keeps bringing it up. she is an aries.

now, i initially called him a douche but then i thought back to this other tauri who was the same way. i matched his sex game, so he didnt come off to me as nuts. then there is this other tauri guy who told his wife (sign unknown) that he want to swing.

on the radio, Kandi Koated Nights. Dr. Ian Smith stated that women needed to be more accepting of a man's sexual appetite. if a man can honestly come up to her and tell her his needs sexually, she needs to be receptive and step up to the table.

but do you think the 1st tauri asking is out of line, minus him using it as a bargaining chip? Do you think that your partner should be free to tell you their sexual needs? if you partner told you their needs, would you consider satisfying their needs? or is your partner being a douche?

is this just a case of sexual incompatibility between the tauri and aries?

have u ever been with someone who you were just incompatible with sexually? what happened?

The radio guy is a douche saying women need to step up and satisfy the mans desire. What about hers and what she is comfortable with? Sure the guy can state desires and fantasy. Absolutely if your partner expresses this and you are okay with it, then do it. If you aren't, say so. You should be receptive enough that they can express themself freely without you calling them a freak, but there are lines I won't cross and I assume everyone has some of their own too.

The requests you mentioned are not ones i'd participate in. If my woman came and said she just fucked her ex in the other room and wanted me next, horny and excited are not the feelings that come to my mind. Some people swing and claim to be happy with it. Some people shit on each other and like it. Not everyone is gonna be into everything.

"is this just a case of sexual incompatibility between the tauri and aries?"

I don't know.

Did he want to watch this time too?

"he told her that he wanted her to have sex with her ex and than have sex with him right afterwards."

It sounds like he's unfulfilled in some way, but my thing what would he REALLY be getting off on? Watching her or watching him lol? I'd think most/more requests would be to watch two women, not your girl and another guy, but what do I know.

Posted by DG
Sounds like he might still be in the closet....ususally men want you to be with another woman.

Just sayin.

this is what I'm trying to say. this all just seems a bit odd to me.

Posted by capgirl75
I think you ladies need to open your minds. Just because he'd like to see her enjoy another male, does not mean that he is gay. Guys watch other men do ladies on pornos all the time. Only he wants it up close and personal.

Wouldn't be for me, I wouldn't trust a man who would share his own woman. But, to each his own.

My mind is all the way open to him being in the closet.

Your right though, it may not mean he's gay, but again, I personally find it odd.

Posted by DG
Sounds like he might still be in the closet....ususally men want you to be with another woman.

Just sayin.

interesting u would say that. both tauri men look like and one even acknowledged that he was bi.

i think the tauri is extremely freaky and aries is just vanilla. i would tell her about what i get from the sex shops and it was all over her head.

her tauri ex boyfriend just has different needs sexually.