Relationships should be contracts ....

.... for a specific period of time.

Dating is different, I'm not talking about that.

People, usually women, tend to be confused on where they stand once they've dated a guy for a while and she desperately wants him to love her .. and she rarely realizes any feelings he actually has because she's too fearful of being hurt.

In having relationship contracts, this would ease that confusion in her .. the two would enter into a contract for a period of time ... a year, two years, three?

Two seems good ... after about 18 months if two people aren't going to make it, then it becomes to be obvious at this point. Then once the contract is over, the two can walk away without any obligations to supporting the others feelings, and would provide the utter closure that so many women struggle in finding, due to her overwhelming emotions.

Conditions can be established in this contract for everything .... birth control, finances, extended family involvement .. the whole nine.

If the two people are still digging each other after two years, then they can opt to renew the contract. I'm not talking about a marriage contract .. at the end of a relationship contract, the two people can walk away.

Say a child is concieved, while the contract stated that it was the woman's responsibily to provide for birth control .. then they guy would be able to walk away after the contract without any obligation to her or the child if chose not to because the woman broke the terms of the contract by getting pregnant.

It would resolve most of this boo-hooing around this place because the woman's feelings got hurt and she has no clue how to suffer herself.

I know a couple who renew their marriage vows every couple of years as a form of contract to stay together for the term of the next contract - they say it works for them as subconciously they look ahead for 2 years only and it keeps them alive and invested in the relationship, knowing it isn't necessarily going to stretch into their full lives - I think they will be together forever, they have been married for 12 years now and together for 6 prior to that.

Your example of the pregnancy/child though, in my opinion, shouldn't be a part of this - well the part about the parent walking away with no obligation. It wouldn't be the childs fault that it was conceived in this way and its rights to both its parents shouldn't be removed by virtue of the fact that a fully aware adult decided to break a contract. Also, birth control can fail, so in essence in that situation the woman wouldn't be breaking the contract. I think each individual is responsible for their own reproductive capabilities and if either party didn't want a child then they should take steps to try to prevent it. A contract around what would happen in the event of a pregnancy (regardless of how it came about) could be drawn up but without the ability for one parent to walk away from a child who had no part in the decision.

Regarding the comments about conception during the contract time-frame .. if the two people wish to include this in the contract then they can .. that's the purpose of the contract.

They could put a clause in there regarding the child, if concieved, to provide for the child if necessary ... the whole point in referencing that was to say the person gets to walk away.

so many people (again usually women *sigh*) ... get pregnant for purposes of holding this hostage so she can trap a man. If the contract calls for no children, then that is exactly what should take place.

I don't really buy the accidental pregnancy bullshit, actually ... I know tons of people who actively participate in honoring their intentions and prevent pregancies because that was the decision made. The only people I know who got accidently pregnant were the people who live recklessly anyway, and are irresponsible in their lives.

I agree with you, VGM, that a lot of people (usually women) enter into relationships that they shouldn't be in ... and that is the reason for the contract.

Another angle, if it's in the contract that the two have to remain faithful to each other and one of them cheats? Then that person can be sued for breach of contract. Now, wouldn't that make these people grow up and stop start taking their bodies more seriously.

Posted by P-Angel

Now, wouldn't that make these people grow up and stop start taking their bodies more seriously.

One of these days, I'm gonna learn to scan my posts before posting ...... ^^^ omit the word "stop"

So by that token when a mens balls begin to sag he should be excused from a relationship as well. Or when they start getting that lil' ol' fart pancake arse.

LOL 🙂 Which would make perfect sense..in something perfectly shallow and unfounded in anything worth hanging onto.

Not really, because abusive behaviour could part of the contract.

Terms can (should) be broken down into the fine details, to account for anything/all thing the two parties wish to address.

This way two people are coming together with positive thought patterns, rather than just blind passion. Though blind passion feels good, it's, well ... blind.

It would make people grow up, and realize that to have a trusting relationship that works .. takes work, involves taking each other seriously.

Most of all this pettiness would vanish ... because these people (mainly women) wouldn't be able to play their little attention games with men, and the men wouldn't be able to trick the woman's feeling to get to her vagina

Posted by Rockthenerds

Posted by venusianbull
LOL 🙂 Which would make perfect sense..in something perfectly shallow and unfounded in anything worth hanging onto.

hanging on to balls?...dont they get more elastic with age.... hell you could sling shot your way anywhere your heart desires...who needs gas anyway..

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The gas is right next to the coin purse.

So basically one should "marry" before entering a relationship?

Hmm... I think that would work for people who are done having fun and want security above everything else. Sounds like a good idea if you're 40 something and still single.

LOLOLOL Oh aye, I want to pimp my walker and make sure I cruise the Geritol/diaper area in style .

^ LMAO With a BANGIN' sound system in the back.

^ LOL 🙂 Fair play. Gold digger is a gold digger. It is my deepest hope to have a little meat and veg with my bag of 'welcome to your Golden Years' rice. That and to never fall victim to poly trousers and a pilled up jumper/seasonal broach combo. 😉

That is some idea there. Can't say it does not make sense. It would be neat to see how it works.
I do disagree that women are usually the ones who are confused. It tends to be 50/50.
What is beneficial about contracts is they are straight forward. There are no secrets.
This is probably the bottom line of what relationships should be. Straight forward so no one gets hurt. Men can be hurt too.

Agreed.

The beauty of it is that there are no secrets .. if two people (who are obviously attracted to each other) can manage through the contract period, and still be crazy about each other, eventhough all thier chips have been put on the table .... then the outcome would be an awesome relationship that started with trusting each other to adhere to each others terms of relating.

It works its called communication people dont grasp the concept thats why there relationships work 99% of the time.

Posted by Rockthenerds
why don't you motherfuckers just stop bitching and lying. Then maybe you'll end up with someone who isnt a bitch or a liar...why don't you make a contract with yourself..

Turn off? More like the Dumbest shit I've ever heard...

That's what's up.
I love it.

Posted by ArticleL
It works its called communication people dont grasp the concept thats why there relationships work 99% of the time.

That and realizing that relationships are not Burger King...you can't have it your way always. Communication, acceptance, componise

panacea
one can start a contracts pharmacy
contracts for pain
contracts for gain

there are some contracts one needs a prescription for.

maybe god can issue the dosage.

Posted by P-Angel
Regarding the comments about conception during the contract time-frame .. if the two people wish to include this in the contract then they can .. that's the purpose of the contract.

They could put a clause in there regarding the child, if concieved, to provide for the child if necessary ... the whole point in referencing that was to say the person gets to walk away.

so many people (again usually women *sigh*) ... get pregnant for purposes of holding this hostage so she can trap a man. If the contract calls for no children, then that is exactly what should take place.

I don't really buy the accidental pregnancy bullshit, actually ... I know tons of people who actively participate in honoring their intentions and prevent pregancies because that was the decision made. The only people I know who got accidently pregnant were the people who live recklessly anyway, and are irresponsible in their lives.

I agree with you, VGM, that a lot of people (usually women) enter into relationships that they shouldn't be in ... and that is the reason for the contract.

Another angle, if it's in the contract that the two have to remain faithful to each other and one of them cheats? Then that person can be sued for breach of contract. Now, wouldn't that make these people grow up and stop start taking their bodies more seriously.

Who in their right mind would get pregnant just to keep a man? If it is broke before, a baby certainly won't fix it.

Who is the Surprise Motherfucker dude?

Or, is this a joke that flew over my head?