@ModernMyth360
14 Years
cheaters and their other girlfriends?
why do men cheat when they're in a good relationship!? what is the cause/??
People cheat when they are in what the other person might think is a good relationship for a number of reasons, they don't think its a good relationship and don't have the courage to leave it before looking elsewhere, they are in both relationship for the fun with no real emotions, they are immature... the list goes on but underlying it is it is not a good relationship.
Celt is right.
not a good relationship if both partys aren't happy in it.
Some men cheat because its like putting another notch in the pistola handle.
They chalk up getting layed by different women
they think it makes them more manly
It's not right, but it's usually when someone is unhappy and not getting something that they need out of the relationship, so they stray. Or the guy is a douche with THAT big of an ego. Pick one or the other. Same goes for women.
Why do men get so defensive over this and in turn their response is ultimately "WELL WOMEN DO IT TOO?" Grow up. Not denying women don't do the same things that men do, but it gets old seeing guys respond with that bullshit. "WELL YOU DO IT TOO!!" Talk about reverting to 5 year old arguments...
Posted by ModernMyth360
why do men cheat when they're in a good relationship!? what is the cause/??
What do you mean when you say a "good relationship"?
Did the person actually tell you they were in a good relationship, but still boinking elsewhere?
You may be looking at the facade THINKING it is a good relationship, but it is really 2 people in a crummy relationship who haven't got the cojones to get real, end it and get on with their lives and stop making everyone including themselves miserable.
*there are people in the world who aren't happy UNLESS they are miserable, or making other people miserable, but that would be a whole other thread.....
Posted by aquansidenout
I'm a woman and speaking from experience when I was young and immature I cheated when I wasn't sexually unfulfilled. I cheated when I was bored. I cheated just because I could. I cheated because of the adrenaline rush of possibly being caught. And I cheated for the variety. I was once the other woman. You name it. In the end cheating messes you up as a person because once you find someone you're truly seeing yourself with faithfully in the back of your mind you're afraid karma will come back and kick your ass.
In your case, karma will be carrying nun-chuks.
I cheated once, to see what the big deal was, you know the thrill of it all.
It was bullshit, i felt like shit and although i wasnt even deeply i love with the person i was with and i still felt shitty.
Being poor, living in the ghetto, getting kicked out of school and being thrown in a prison..... none of those things made me feel as low about myself as i felt the day i cheated. I didnt find the thrill in it. I didnt feel like I got over on someone.
I thought i would understand the excitement. I didnt.
Maybe it was because i cheated on someone who didnt deserve it?
Maybe its the fact that only 4% of people share my personality type?
Maybe witnessing my mom cheat on my stepdad, watching him suffer in silence, perhaps that blocks the excitement of cheating inside me?
Maybe its that i love harmony and having that "she might find out" cloud hanging over my head is not the way i want to live my life.
Sometimes women think the relationship is good when in reality its not, Sometimes his friends know more of how your relationship is going than the girlfriend/wife.
I think that question goes both ways..you should ask why people cheat period. I know women that have a good man loves her supports her gives her everything she wants,great sex and she still goes and cheats with one of his friends, and then if that man finds a woman and falls in love she is all mad and doesn't want to let him be happy..Really? Like I said that is a question for both man and women.
Posted by ModernMyth360
why do men cheat when they're in a good relationship!? what is the cause/??
good? good relationship?
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ .... there's the problem, right there.
A person cheats, while considering a relationship as being "good"
Posted by Maddy
People don't cheat when they're in a good relationship. Obviously something is missing in their relationship, otherwise they wouldn't go get it somewhere else.
I'm on Maddy's table. Ordering pitcher of margueritas🙂
People lie, people cheat. Get over it. More importantly, make better choices.
Cause can be 2 roots, I think.
root: boredom
greed
feeling stifled/ needing freedom
self empowerment
needing affirmations of attractiveness..
root: incompatibility with current partner
restlessness
excitement
not being heard
lack of intimacy
frustration
loneliness
It's not a good relationship
Or believe it or not the man is a fuckhead.
always end a relationship or tell them up front you fuck around.
Posted by ModernMyth360
why do men cheat when they're in a good relationship!? what is the cause/??
only one person is in a good relationship.
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why do men cheat when they're in a good relationship!? what is the cause/??