Understanding couples who befriend on facebook and

those who don't...


Sorry, just cannot figure this one out...

Why are some couples friends on facebooks and others who loathe or a petrified of their dates/SOs viewing their facebook wall?

Does anyone know what I am talking about? If yes, do offer some explanation if you will..

that sounds weird to me. i'm guessing the ones who aren't fb buddies are either hiding something or they want what little privacy they have left.

i'm friends with my man on FB and we live together. however, he better not go rummaging through my bag/purse or phone! for me, it's not that i have anything to hide from him. it's just a privacy thing i get weird about. he could care less if i went through his stuff/phone though. he knows that women tend to be overly-protective of their purses and i think it's strange as well because there is absolutely nothing in there to hide. i don't care if he sees a tampon because there's a whole box sitting next to the toilet paper by the toilet. it's seriously probably the worst thing he could see. everything else is like loose change, gum, a hair tie, etc. go figure.

It all depends on the nature of the relationship.

I do sometimes wonder why 2 people in a relationship would particularly want so much privacy on facebook. It's not wanting privacy on facebook that's the issue; it's moreso that how on EARTH can someone expect privacy on the WORLD WIDE WEB?!

I guess if some couples have had problems in the past b/c of facebook, maybe they figure that closing eachother off to eachother's pages would help/solve some of the problems.

Personally, I don't think a person should put ANYTHING online that they can't afford for another person to see. And if a person wants lots of privacy, I'd think they would at LEAST not mind their own partner that THEY CHOOSE & made the DECISION TO STAY WITH, seeing what's on eachother's facebook pages.

What I CANNOT stand are the couples who:
1. Breakup to make up every other day. 1 minute their profiles say "engaged"...2 days later, "It's complicated...3 hours later, "In a relationship."....1 minute later "SINGLE." Wtf?!
2. Go OVER-BOARD in expressing their love for their partners. It's 1 thing to tell the whole world how in love you are BUT it's completely unncessary to update a status every 5 minutes, that's talking about the same ole things! 2 people going HAM over eachother every 5 minutes on FB are the relationships I don't even take seriously. It's almost like a childish thing to do.
3. Argue or start fights with other people (out of jealousy or being nosy) on their partner's page. It's SO TACKY when I see a woman using her man's facebook page to confront another woman. How lame is it to ask, "How do you know my boyfriend?" to another woman on your boyfriend's page!? And all for the world to see!

It's amazing how people let facebook & all these social networking sites make/break their relationships. I mean sheeeeeeesh!

Me and my bf are friends on facebook, nothing really exciting happens on it. we don't really post on each other's walls like a lot of other couples seem to do. mostly because i see him all the time so there's no need for me to have to post on his wall.

what i don't understand is putting your relationship status as "it's complicated"...

anyway, i haven't really experienced any problems with being friends on facebook. i would definitely not be happy if he were to hide things from me on it. just seems suspicious. offline though, we respect each others privacy, he doesn't go through my stuff unless i've asked him to grab something and vice versa. although he does hand me his phone all the time because i like to play games on it lol.

Posted by TG
It's pretty odd to me why some people state their relationship status on fb i the first place. It's like asking for other people to intrude into your personal life. Let's say you brake up and have to change your status? Wouldn't everybody be going... "hmm... I wonder why those two aren't together anymore.. hehe" I mean it's pretty much like being having Big Brother watching you all the timem, isn't it? The whole thing is nothing but a spectacle.

Yeah fb is high fodder for drama and snoopers. I guess some people just get off on that

Posted by krysrenee7
It all depends on the nature of the relationship.

I do sometimes wonder why 2 people in a relationship would particularly want so much privacy on facebook. It's not wanting privacy on facebook that's the issue; it's moreso that how on EARTH can someone expect privacy on the WORLD WIDE WEB?!

I guess if some couples have had problems in the past b/c of facebook, maybe they figure that closing eachother off to eachother's pages would help/solve some of the problems.

Personally, I don't think a person should put ANYTHING online that they can't afford for another person to see. And if a person wants lots of privacy, I'd think they would at LEAST not mind their own partner that THEY CHOOSE & made the DECISION TO STAY WITH, seeing what's on eachother's facebook pages.

What I CANNOT stand are the couples who:
1. Breakup to make up every other day. 1 minute their profiles say "engaged"...2 days later, "It's complicated...3 hours later, "In a relationship."....1 minute later "SINGLE." Wtf?!
2. Go OVER-BOARD in expressing their love for their partners. It's 1 thing to tell the whole world how in love you are BUT it's completely unncessary to update a status every 5 minutes, that's talking about the same ole things! 2 people going HAM over eachother every 5 minutes on FB are the relationships I don't even take seriously. It's almost like a childish thing to do.
3. Argue or start fights with other people (out of jealousy or being nosy) on their partner's page. It's SO TACKY when I see a woman using her man's facebook page to confront another woman. How lame is it to ask, "How do you know my boyfriend?" to another woman on your boyfriend's page!? And all for the world to see!

It's amazing how people let facebook & all these social networking sites make/break their relationships. I mean sheeeeeeesh!

I agree a relationship is a very personal and private thing.. it's not to be played the way facebook allows.

Posted by ninjamu
that sounds weird to me. i'm guessing the ones who aren't fb buddies are either hiding something or they want what little privacy they have left.

Maybe its better to keep some mystery (?)

Posted by cancergem


what i don't understand is putting your relationship status as "it's complicated"...

Yeah, they're showing everyone their pain and tough love life...
I've seen "its complicated" with married people too..

the worst shocker is seeing
"single"
when they are married.. hahahah

Posted by TG
It's pretty odd to me why some people state their relationship status on fb i the first place. It's like asking for other people to intrude into your personal life. Let's say you brake up and have to change your status? Wouldn't everybody be going... "hmm... I wonder why those two aren't together anymore.. hehe" I mean it's pretty much like being having Big Brother watching you all the timem, isn't it? The whole thing is nothing but a spectacle.

Well technically ANYTHING you put on OR take off facebook leaves room for ANYONE to have certain levels of access into a person's life. I don't see anything wrong with telling the world you're in a relationship, especially if you're in the RIGHT relationship, that you DON'T plan on getting out of anytime soon.

What I can't stand are those who use facebook as a means to dictate their relationship. If 2 people keep breaking up only to make up, there's no point in putting "it's complicated" & then changing it back & forth to "In a relationship" a week later.

And hell, people are going to pry regardless! After all, most relationships actually don't last that long so it's not like people would necessarily be in SHOCK persay someone's relationship actually didn't work out. And if someone was "wondering" why me & my partner weren't together anymore, I'd tell them to MIND THEIR BUSINESS! There are people that literally sit & monitor other's "relationship" statuses, BUT if anything I'd be more likely to QUESTION the people who sit back & WAIT/WATCH for the breakup BEFORE I'd question the couple that broke up.

Some people, women especially use what they put on facebook as moreso of a CALL FOR ATTENTION. I'm talking about the women who immediately JUMP on facebook 2 minutes after they've been asked out, all so they can brag about how "lucky" they are to the whole world. There's nothing wrong with telling the world you have someone b/c it's not anyone's fault that OTHERS are automatically going to be nosy. That's something a couple can't control.

It's the couples that air all of their dirty laundry out on facebook whenever the relationship hits a rough patch that drive me insane! 1 minute, the woman says, "I love my man!" & a week later her status says, "All men suck!" Well in THAT case, stuff like that is an OPEN invite for people to speculate & pry. Even still, 2 people should keep most of their relationshi

Even then, people should keep most of their relationship (and what comes with it) in-house & as private as possible.

Telling the world you're "TAKEN" isn't a bad thing; there's nothing wrong with it. ESPECIALLY since folks nowadays are using facebook & these other networking sites for ONLINE DATING.

If a person can be HONEST about all the other things on their profile (birthday, hometown, religion, favorite quotes, etc.) I don't see why someone should LIE/HIDE the fact that they're in a relationship. Hell, if someone is THAT set on having the ultimate privacy, they should NOT create a profile for the WHOLE WIDE WEB/WORLD to see period.

When I'm in a relationship, I want others to know it; especially the men who might want to approach me for dating purposes. If a man approaches me ONLY bc he thinks I'm single & b/c my profile hides my relationship status, It'd be an extra waste of my time to have to write that man back, telling him about how I already have a man. Me telling the world up front that I'm "taken" saves me alot of time/work/energy, especially when it comes to others who might ONLY be approaching me b/c they think I'm single.

The same goes for wedding rings; Technically the 2 people who are married ALREADY KNOW they're married to eachother, thus wedding rings are moreso a language spoken to OTHERS; the rings are a message to others that "Hey, I'm taken." 2 people technically don't have to wear wedding rings to prove to EACHOTHER that they're married! Get my point?! BUT for MOST people, it IS important that the world know (just in case) that they are.

There is NO such thing as privacy on the WORLD WIDE WEB. So if someone is very private & would prefer for others not to have access to certain parts of their lives, that's perfectly FINE, BUT they'd be better off just NOT creating a facebook page to begin with.

And the way I see it, my REAL friends would probably know the REAL reason I'm either WITH or just BROKE UP with someone anyways, so I wouldn't even have the TIME to worry about what random people on my friend list would think. I don't live my life worrying about what "such & such" is going to think.

Eh, I think it's a Libra thang, fwiw.

The people I speak of are all Libra girls (which I just found out).. they dont like to mix fb with relationships.
And me too.. I dont add my babe in facebook.

I think privacy is important.

i really don't see the issue with the having the status up. i don't have random people i don't know so well on my facebook nor can they see anything i don't want them to see on it. i've never really had a problem with it

to each his/her own..

life is complicated.
farcebook makes it doubly so.

thats why i dont have a facebook...way to much drama ,,and i love being mysterious to people close to me..and it actually is a good way for anyone to see what your up too anytime..unless you block them but where theres a will..theres a way..when i was 16 i had an eating disorder so i had a fake my space along with like 10,0000.000 trillon other awesome girls and guys with the same prob..it really helped me,all better now🙂 but facebook and twitter1
.yall can all keep that..i luv this site because its like top secret when u wanna be..and everyone is giving me good vibes,always good to help others out too,i feel hppy when i start my day after a nice chat with yall😉

Posted by angelbunnydarlinglibra
thats why i dont have a facebook...way to much drama ,,and i love being mysterious to people close to me..and it actually is a good way for anyone to see what your up too anytime..unless you block them but where theres a will..theres a way..when i was 16 i had an eating disorder so i had a fake my space along with like 10,0000.000 trillon other awesome girls and guys with the same prob..it really helped me,all better now🙂 but facebook and twitter1
.yall can all keep that..i luv this site because its like top secret when u wanna be..and everyone is giving me good vibes,always good to help others out too,i feel hppy when i start my day after a nice chat with yall😉

Oh yeah.. I feel the same.

Posted by TG
It's pretty odd to me why some people state their relationship status on fb i the first place. It's like asking for other people to intrude into your personal life. Let's say you brake up and have to change your status? Wouldn't everybody be going... "hmm... I wonder why those two aren't together anymore.. hehe" I mean it's pretty much like being having Big Brother watching you all the timem, isn't it? The whole thing is nothing but a spectacle.

my thought exactly.its non of there nosey ass buiness!!

Posted by krysrenee7
It all depends on the nature of the relationship.

I do sometimes wonder why 2 people in a relationship would particularly want so much privacy on facebook. It's not wanting privacy on facebook that's the issue; it's moreso that how on EARTH can someone expect privacy on the WORLD WIDE WEB?!

I guess if some couples have had problems in the past b/c of facebook, maybe they figure that closing eachother off to eachother's pages would help/solve some of the problems.

Personally, I don't think a person should put ANYTHING online that they can't afford for another person to see. And if a person wants lots of privacy, I'd think they would at LEAST not mind their own partner that THEY CHOOSE & made the DECISION TO STAY WITH, seeing what's on eachother's facebook pages.

What I CANNOT stand are the couples who:
1. Breakup to make up every other day. 1 minute their profiles say "engaged"...2 days later, "It's complicated...3 hours later, "In a relationship."....1 minute later "SINGLE." Wtf?!
2. Go OVER-BOARD in expressing their love for their partners. It's 1 thing to tell the whole world how in love you are BUT it's completely unncessary to update a status every 5 minutes, that's talking about the same ole things! 2 people going HAM over eachother every 5 minutes on FB are the relationships I don't even take seriously. It's almost like a childish thing to do.
3. Argue or start fights with other people (out of jealousy or being nosy) on their partner's page. It's SO TACKY when I see a woman using her man's facebook page to confront another woman. How lame is it to ask, "How do you know my boyfriend?" to another woman on your boyfriend's page!? And all for the world to see!

It's amazing how people let facebook & all these social networking sites make/break their relationships. I mean sheeeeeeesh!

sooooooo stupid!! its like get a life,i refuse to date a man that has facebook!! its like bitch!!my face is here right now!! in person!!

Posted by spica
Eh, I think it's a Libra thang, fwiw.

The people I speak of are all Libra girls (which I just found out).. they dont like to mix fb with relationships.
And me too.. I dont add my babe in facebook.

I think privacy is important.

Im a Libra and i put EVERYTHING on facebook. I am not one of them weirdo's who has every tom dick and harry i met at the park on my face book. I have the select few family and friends on it (around 100 people) who i dont mind knowing about my life.

I have seen facebook cause issues i find it funny "why is that ho writing on your wall, and why is there a kiss?!" people are far to paranoid!! if there was something going on wouldnt the girl would text him, or contact him in some other way that she knew the person he is "in a relationship with" wouldnt see? I might ask a guy who a girl is on his wall if i didnt know her, but only out of curiosity, no accusations.

I always want people to know my relationship status, a lot of my ex's are on my facebook and i want them to know when i am single so they can take me out! haha. I have had the "complicated relationship" status once as well, i would explain but its complicated! lol

libra sun thats normal,i agree,i think it is sooo retarted when you display your partner and your status and let evryone know constanly.its like if a couple is truly happy ,you dont need to display that to people ,ya know?its not there buisness ,that gives them a right to bog you down with 20,000 questions like..so omg your f b says your single wha happend?or omg !!you guys saw a bird today at 10pm and ate a strawberry waffle cone!!omg thats soooooo cooolll i have nothing better to do!!wow sorry had to vent ,let the rage outta the cage haha but just normal facebook with close famiy and your friends is cool for some people ,my best friend has it 🙂

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Posted by spica
Eh, I think it's a Libra thang, fwiw.

The people I speak of are all Libra girls (which I just found out).. they dont like to mix fb with relationships.
And me too.. I dont add my babe in facebook.

I think privacy is important.

Im a Libra and i put EVERYTHING on facebook. I am not one of them weirdo's who has every tom dick and harry i met at the park on my face book. I have the select few family and friends on it (around 100 people) who i dont mind knowing about my life.

I have seen facebook cause issues i find it funny "why is that ho writing on your wall, and why is there a kiss?!" people are far to paranoid!! if there was something going on wouldnt the girl would text him, or contact him in some other way that she knew the person he is "in a relationship with" wouldnt see? I might ask a guy who a girl is on his wall if i didnt know her, but only out of curiosity, no accusations.

I always want people to know my relationship status, a lot of my ex's are on my facebook and i want them to know when i am single so they can take me out! haha. I have had the "complicated relationship" status once as well, i would explain but its complicated! lol

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and plus your 10 years younger than me libra sun,i found that at my age ,i get a lot of jealous biaaatchs tryin to look at my man,oh hell no..i dk ..not for me though.i think thats perfect for you ,to let certain guys no your single and stuff...mabye im just getting old.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Air signs can get so confused about the most insignificant bullshit. They truly think everything in life OUGHT to make logical sense, just look at what the OP asks LOL.

Maybe your illogical statement counts for something here?