Unsure what to do

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scorpvenus100
@scorpvenus100
8 Years

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Hi all im here as i dont want to go on at my family about this issue and would like a strangers perspective on a situation.

Ok in April this year i met someone and for the first 3 weeks was ok, no issues and we started seeing each other. The first instance is when he went off grid and got drunk ( he drinks a lot and drives sometimes) and called me up and told me he was going back to see his ex in German with his kids etc. But then next day denied it. For the next 3 month after he would blow off work and get drunk then give me abuse verbally, say he was going back to his ex. Every issue like sex i dont want to always do it, and then ill hear how she would. If im tired for work as he demands all my time, then his ex could do it fine. A guy looked at me once in a bar and he had a go at me accusing me of sleeping with him and if any male freinds from my whole 36 years of existence says hi or waves he goes mental. He threw a fit when i wanted to replace my 19 year old car saying i wanted to pull. Im not allowed facebook or any social media or he threatens to sign up and chat to other women. Every time he goads for argument will bring up a ex from his past. He doesnt see any of his kids or pays for them, as he blew off work for over a month and got drunk, he is now no money, no car as no tax and insurance or MOT and i cannot afford to keep buying him food and lending him money. Keeps making grand gestures about when he gets paid but he gets drunk and blows off work, and now his parents want him out of their house as he doesnt work and drinks and starts fights with them and argues with them a lot. If he had money now if he had gone to work last few months hed be pissed. He blew his rent, car money, insurance on drink in a week, then guilt trips me he cant eat even though his mum bought him food.

Now the issue i got is i am not allowed free time to go see family (i live there normally) and if i want to i get ultimatums about them or me, he is trying to force me to live with him again using his ex as a reason why im weird because she moved in within weeks. He is also pressuring me to have a baby and keeps telling me my time is running out. I am 36. He has 4 kids 2 different mums and left them with the kids and didnt pay a thing or be a proper dad for years and for some reason the older ones hate him. The toddlers are too young but also never seen him. Im also not allowed a evening off. I work sometimes 13 hour days and things are not being done at home, and i am feeling trapped. Im not allowed Facebook or friends. If i dont sign into messenger because im working then automatically its over, then he back tracks and sometimes demand i beg. Which i never do. He ripped into me Sunday for seeing my dad for 2 hours and said i was a looser basically as i didn't have kids. I didn't want them till this age as i want to be stable mature and be able to provide for the child.

If he had his way i would have to be with him 24/7 or be accused of cheating. Is it wrong i feel id be better off without him? i dont want to make quick decision that could be all me? Today i want time off to rest as work is long this week and again ive been dumped. I just wanted the evening to myself for once.
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Tina
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Posted by scorpvenus100
Lol no i am not a masochist, But i have cut all contact and told my family last night what had been going on and they will support me. Ive changed my numbers and hidden online profiles. If he comes to the house ill call the police so yea. Im free and i will never put up with that again 🙂

Thank you to all who replied
Sounds good.

Situation seemed too messy. Good that you got yourself out of it. Good luck with whatever you plan to do further?