Whether a person lives with their parents or not could affect their dating prospects.

So at what age is it not socially acceptable to be living with parents?

Is it dependent on age or gender?

What about financial situations?

Or even health of the individuals involved?

Is it even fair to make a judgement without knowing the full story?

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in dating someone who lives/doesn't live with their parents?

I say it's a mix between age & economy in that country. Culture too.

At my age (soon to be 28)...most of my friends live with their parents.

It's either a small wage or they earn enough but feel it's more productive for them to pay utilities and rent to their parents than to a total stranger.

The stereotype makes them to be immature and spoiled and clingy. If anything, this is the more responsible approach here because in our culture you still should care about your parents even if you left home. So with people struggling with their wages..they are helping their parents.

Not a stigma in dating here at all. Maybe because the flipside is that they don't cling...where if dating turns serious..all of them would move on their own or with their partners. It's not like they are chaining themselves to their families or using that part to not get serious about dating and shutting their partner out.

I'm 33, and I have been living on my own since I was 19. I have always marched to my own drummer, and it came to a point where I said time to go. Now I have had stints where I got a roommate, and moved in with a girl (current situation) but for the most part, I have always had my own place.

As far as would I judge someone else for living at home? Depends. If the person is just leeching off the parents with no drive or goals set for themselves, then hell yeah. Now if the person is just living at home due to budgeting, and has clear cut goals and is directed, then I admire that.

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Posted by atearth
So at what age is it not socially acceptable to be living with parents?

Is it dependent on age or gender?

What about financial situations?

Or even health of the individuals involved?

Is it even fair to make a judgement without knowing the full story?

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in dating someone who lives/doesn't live with their parents?

I am an Indian and I really don't care if people judge me on what am about to say...

Well I don't live with my parent but I am totally dependent on them and not just financially... We live in different cities and I don't earn a dime.... I am a student..

My father do send me a big fat cheque every month.... I do ask for more money if in need...

I don't think he has any problem doing that cuz he has got deep pockets..

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Brahmin?

Posted by LynxSA
I'm 33, and I have been living on my own since I was 19. I have always marched to my own drummer, and it came to a point where I said time to go. Now I have had stints where I got a roommate, and moved in with a girl (current situation) but for the most part, I have always had my own place.

As far as would I judge someone else for living at home? Depends. If the person is just leeching off the parents with no drive or goals set for themselves, then hell yeah. Now if the person is just living at home due to budgeting, and has clear cut goals and is directed, then I admire that.

Exactly how I feel.

It's all a person to person basis.

Also in some cases it's admirable. Living at home to take care of an ailing parent. Renting a guest house space from the parentals or saving towards purchasing your own home.

If my home life had been a little bit more harmonious I probably would have stayed, saved, and would now be in the position to be making mortgage payments instead of rent payments each month.

Posted by tiziani
I think it's an American thing.

living with one's parents?

I've been on my own since I was 18. After my failed marriage my rebound was 4 years older than me. American guy (Virgo) who lived with his parents because he got his license taken away for drunk driving. I would visit him late at night and go up to his room. It was always awkward. I was always the one driving us to our dates but he would pay. Long story short it didn't last.

As long as the adult offspring are contributing in some way and make life better for their parents, I think it's great when families stay together for as long as they like. I have never bought into the Western mentality of "out at 18." I plan to keep my house open to my children for the rest of my life, and then I will leave the house to them.

Posted by LynxSA
I'm 33, and I have been living on my own since I was 19. I have always marched to my own drummer, and it came to a point where I said time to go. Now I have had stints where I got a roommate, and moved in with a girl (current situation) but for the most part, I have always had my own place.

As far as would I judge someone else for living at home? Depends. If the person is just leeching off the parents with no drive or goals set for themselves, then hell yeah. Now if the person is just living at home due to budgeting, and has clear cut goals and is directed, then I admire that.

Sounds like meh 😏 I get what you mean...

Ackward if you are having sex and that one person is Loud af and enjoying a good hard pounding. Haha nope.

Posted by LittlePieces62
I know of someone who's son still lives at home and they took in his gf as well because of some issues with her family. She studies he works they are both 22. He contributes by giving money.

Nothing wrong with having kids still live at home until they are ready.

This is extremely common in the Hispanic community. Like my girl's brother, when he got married, his wife moved in, and she was preggy. They lived with momma/poppa bear for 2 yrs before they bought their own place.

Again, it all depends on the reasoning, and if there is an end goal in place.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ackward if you are having sex and that one person is Loud af and enjoying a good hard pounding. Haha nope.

O_O

is that....firstdecantaurian??

for a minute there, I thought someone used your account. lol

Posted by atearth
So at what age is it not socially acceptable to be living with parents?

Is it dependent on age or gender?

What about financial situations?

Or even health of the individuals involved?

Is it even fair to make a judgement without knowing the full story?

What advantages/disadvantages do you see in dating someone who lives/doesn't live with their parents?

I don't thnk it has any bearing on the success of your dating experience.

your parents could have a huge house and you have the other part of the house where you can invite guests. lol and don't pay much, save a lot of money too.

just as long as you keep the rules. Parents have rules. like no smoking inside the house (that's our rule,)

I couldn't date someone my age living with their parent(s) unless there is a good reason. If it just because he wants to... No sir, moving on.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ackward if you are having sex and that one person is Loud af and enjoying a good hard pounding. Haha nope.

O_O

is that....firstdecantaurian??

for a minute there, I thought someone used your account. lol

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Hm yeah I have about 5 avi now. I switch up every now and then. Lol I'm still here.

You know the whole thing about screwing in your parents house.

My mom was horrible and an alcoholic and she would always be like invite your friends over anytime. Even guys I was interested in. I was soooo scared to bring anyone over to meet her. Because one minute she is cool as hell, the next she is a monster degrading me, and talking shit, and just would belittle me. I didn't want that to happen while friends were over so it never happened. My brother has his guy friend over a couple times.

She was cool with it but once alcoholic beverages was consumed she would use that against him sometimes belittling him because he is a gay. And throw gay bad comments towards him. I'm like smdh. I got to leave her and get my own. I'm still nervous and scared to introduce anyone guy to her at all.

My folks had a rule in their house. If at 18 you're not in college (which they won't pay for), then you're working. If you're working and living at home, you're payin' rent. No free rides. My dad was old school, pull yourself up by the bootstraps. Not born American.

I went to college on partial scholarship, and because my parents made too much for me to get a college loan, they covered the rest. Quit school and got a job, lived eith them, paid them rent. Went back to school at 23 and lived at home, worked, and paid them rent. At 25 they kicked me out with a check to cover my living expenses (what my job wouldn't cover) until I graduated. Graduated, got a better job, and 3 years later bought my own house.

When I was younger it was expected by most of us that you'd be out of your parents' house after college or sooner. I knew lots of kids who went out and made their way as soon as they were out of high school.

I don't really understand the desire to live with parents as an adult. Or to have parents supporting you when you can reasonably support yourself. I don't place any good/bad judgement to those situations because every family has different expectations. It's just never been part of my worldview. A lot of this (not accounting for cultural reasons) seems to have happened after the economic collapse. Lots of formerly independent adults in their 30's and over having to move back in with mom and dad after losing everything. I guess it made being in your 20's and living with the 'rents not look so bad.

I moved outta home SO fast, so did a lot of my friends.

I think living with milk carton furniture and eating 2minute noodles was more appealing then not having my own place or having to tiptoe around parents or pay board.

If I'm paying board I may as well go all out and pay rent and bills - poor AF but MAN it was worth it 😆

Mind you, there are huge advantages to living at home- I don't begrudge anyone who wants to save money for travel or buy a home in this economy, if your 'rents are down with that I have no judgement to pass.