Complex Sag Man - advice please

Hi All

Just wanted some advice or words of encouragement really... I work with this saggi guy, and we met in unusual circumstances, and as a result of our meeting we are working together promoting his band, and im writing for a music magazine.

It sounds silly, but i thought that he was my soulmate... I followed the advice of Yasmin Boland, and wrote a love diary, listing the qualities of the man i wanted etc etc... and 2 months later, i met this man and he ticked every single one of these many boxes.

When we are together, there is this intense energy between us.. we are shy around each other, and it feels like this undercurrent of turbulence and passion.. it sounds strange, and ive never ever experiencedthis before..

Anyway, down to the facts.... ive just discovered that he has a partner who had a baby three days ago - this has rocked my world as he/ other band members didnt say anything to me.. not even mentioned it in conversation..

What does this all mean? Is he not my soulmate? Why was this kept secret?

The good thing to come out of it, is that this has lifted my head out of the clouds and reality has kicked in hard.

(PS.. I am obviously not going to pursue a man who is in a relationship with a child)

archer

thanks for your reply... no, he doesnt know about my feelings... ive not said it to him.. but there were other signs too, for ex his bandmates kept talking him up to me and dropping hints..

Archer - I realised the coincidence as you havea gemini male interested in you... I can relate to him, but also respect that you dont feel the same about him.. its a bitter pill to swallow, but we've all been there and he'll get over it, so dont worry about that... ive been keeping busy busy busy seeing friends :-/ Good luck with your situation :-) xX

wow, that brilliant archer, and glad that i gave you reassurance... from the gems POV, his ego is more at stake (espesh as a man) and that is why he is being persistent.. he needs that reassurance that he is an attractive man, and will not like to lose, hence the variety of tactics.. thats not a reflection on his feelings for you of course... its just rare (for gems??) to find someone who stimulates them on many levels, physically , intellectually, socially etc... we will overlook many suitable people who dont fulfill this.. so when we find it, we dont wanna let it go. also, i have to admit, there is something attractive about the unattainable.. we desire it more.

thanks for your insight, though i have to disagreee with the comment that he might not think im clever and dont run very deep... he's been observing me via his friends/band members, and i have revealed that side of my personality to him.... having said that, you may have a point, because i am nervous around him and extra-scatty, but as i verbally reminded him "i may be scatty, but im very switched really, and its a mistake to underestimate that/me".. sounds threatening, but not meant to be.

Thanks again hon xX

oops i meant switched-on