dumbing things down

do u feel like you do this alot?

yes dumbing it down for other people. i feel like if i were really honest, id have no friends.

Growing up, I was a very quiet child. Teen years, very rebellious, poetic, and deep. A sharp tongue and loud. Now, I'm more of the, "you tell me about it, and IF I care enough, I'll find sources and get back to you on the topic." I wont argue, and hell, if I ever participate in a debate. Very rarely do I debate. Only only with those I have a good communication level with.

If I don't know something, I wont talk out of my ass. But if I do feel like expressing something, I'll make it VERY brief and in simple terms, because there's no better way in my opinion... If you don't get it, I'm just going to shrug my shoulders and wish I never brought it up.

Unfortunately, I have an air head of a best friend. Met in high school and it's been 7 years now. I love the girl, I'd give my life for her! But dear god, I don't think she even tries to understand the things I say to her. I'm not sure if she's gotten dumber throughout the years or if I had just never noticed. It's frustrating. What's more frustrating is that she will constantly repeat herself. Constantly! She can be so dramatic.

And no, I don't have many friends either, because once I realize I'm dealing with someone I can't communicate with, I build a distance they can never fill. I don't say much, but when I do, I hope that my words fall on understanding ears.

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Posted by DMV
yes dumbing it down for other people. i feel like if i were really honest, id have no friends.

that isnt dumbing it down its called tact... or social skills.. courtesy etc.

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So by dumbing it down... do you mean... like... beating around the bush? or being euphemistic?

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mmm u have some good points. yes maybe im too vauge in my speech which leads me to having to talk a different way. a way that i think is beneath me or unnecessary.

I would not consider it dumbing down at all. I tailor my conversations to my audience. Some people do not have the same knowledge base that I have and vise versa. For example, If I started talking about Sun square Moon to someone with zero interest in astrology....I might say my Sun and Moon make my wants and needs contrast....not dumbing it down just helping them understand. If someone started talking to me about the breast stroke and the back stroke and the butterfly and why and how they are all different I would be like um....ok.

I train people all day everyday some of them have high school diplomas and others have graduate degrees. Gotta talk to them all at the same time. Make it work...(Timmy Gunn)

Nope I don't dumb things down. I love being intellectually stimulated and challenged. I find that my fellow Merc in Sag peeps really understand me. When I bounce when one subject to another, they can keep up without me having to stop and explained that I switched gears and vice versa.

If it's an issue with communication style , I can pick up on that and I can deal with it. If you're a straight doofus, we can be cool if you're sweet people, but we will never be tight.

im def not talking about family. i grew up around 2 other saggis so the intellectual level was there.

i just am complaining about the people ive chosen to surround myself with. people who dont read, know bits and pieces of foreign languages. just cultured.

so when i say something and compare it to the mayan ruins, i have to take a step back and talk "fast and furious."

i also find that, im not really meant to talk that much. merc in scorp is just more about feeling what others have to say and then asking questions. long drawn out conversations i am no good at.

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Nope I don't dumb things down. I love being intellectually stimulated and challenged. I find that my fellow Merc in Sag peeps really understand me. When I bounce when one subject to another, they can keep up without me having to stop and explained that I switched gears and vice versa.

If it's an issue with communication style , I can pick up on that and I can deal with it. If you're a straight doofus, we can be cool if you're sweet people, but we will never be tight.

and then u have the straight doofus who have no comprehension of banter or euphemisms. i cant stand it when people use catch sayings wrong.

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yes dumbing it down for other people. i feel like if i were really honest, id have no friends.

that isnt dumbing it down its called tact... or social skills.. courtesy etc.

That has nothing to do with it.

If you are surrounding yourself with people, you have to dumb thngs down for and can't be yourself, then maybe you need to rethink you're circle of friends. Which is what she was referring to.

Now, if you are talking about going to a social gathering and you are having light hearted conversation with people you don't know so well, then that changes the dynamic and the way you carry yourself.

My question is, are you talking about close friends and family or just fly by night situations?

Thats not really the context of the issue as DMV described it though,she is talking about "lost in translation" type of coversation where two modes of communication mis eachother.

Sorry, but I didn't see much context in the OP or her last two posts. She spoke of her not having any friends if she really spoke her mind...the other stating she speaks vaguely to most. I can see where this is true because her op was vague as well.

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yeah i am vague. i would agree with that.

interesting, ive been accused of not saying "enough" too people.