No contact between dates

Hello

I've been on two dates with a Sagittarius man. We met online, he asked me out straight away and we had a nice first date, just talking. Gave me a little hug at the end and said we should repeat it. Then no contact at all. Nothing. Five days later, he asked what am I up to and whether I'd like to hang out. I said ok, we again had a great conversation for a few hours. This time he tried to touch me very subtly, gently, sat next to me etc. There was lots of eye contact on first date, but even more on the second, it was almost constant. At the end of the second date, he gave me a rather long hug (no kissing or anything) and said that he again had a good time and lets do it again. I said yes, I had a great time too and agreed on repeating. I sent him a message the next evening, asking about his job, he replied and mentioned again he had a great night last night. I agreed. After that message there has been no contact at all for two days. I dont actually now what to text him, either. I'm kinda hoping he asks me out again this week. If not, I guess i'll ask him out the next week.

Not sure how to handle it. Is it ok to not have any communication between dates? I'm actually not that bothered, but maybe he is waiting for me to contact him? Or is it usual for saggies not to contact, not to want any contact? I kind of start liking him, but i'm not totally in butterflies-in-my-stomach-mode either. Would like to see him more and see where it gets us. But it's a bit strange situation for me, because I've used to communicate through texting, messenger a lot with guys i've been dating in the past. And it's weird that I do not even know what to say to him through text, but at the same time we had such wonderful and long conversations in person. With other guys, the situations were more the other way around - lots of conversations through texts, messenger, but not so much in person.

His sagittarius sun, cancer moon, cap mercury, aqua venus, scorpio mars.

Yes, I'm the same. I couldn't get access to my previous account, don't know what happened and I couldn't see my previous topic also, weird. So I did a new account. When I posted this topic, I couldn't see this one either. But now it seems everything is fine again. Don't know what happened.

Anyway, yes, still no contact from him.. We had our last date on Sunday evening. On Monday evening I asked about his job, he answered briefly, that everything went well, I said it's a good start for the week then, he said "and it was a good ending to the previous week as well" (I guess, it meant that "I had a great time with you yesterday"), I said well,what a coincidence, I had a great ending to the week too. And after that - silence. He has not responded. I have not had the courage to write him again, don't even know what to say to him...

Just hopin that he might ask me out in the weekend maybe? If not, I'll ask him the next week maybe? Or try to contact him briefly, asking how he's doing?

And yes, his definitely cancer Moon, I now his correct birthday, though not the exact time. But I've tried different hours, and all result in cancer Moon.

I'll play the part of the eternal optimist here and say that he may be making sure to give you your space. He could be afraid of smothering you, especially when the relationship is new and no one is sure of anything yet.

I know Cancer moon is mushy, but the combination of Cap Mercury and Aqua Venus could make him a little less likely to reach out too much early on. Also, Mars in Scorpio has stalker-ish tendencies (not necessarily a negative thing). In my experience, those folks are not direct when it comes to initiating relationships and spend a bit of time observing.

Posted by Sagberry
"If not, I'll ask him the next week maybe? Or try to contact him briefly, asking how he's doing?"

No.. astrology aside, he's the guy.. he needs to make the effort and he needs to be the first..

you initiated contact already and he didnt make efforts to even keep the convo longer..

No trust me on this.. dont ?

He doesn't do too much and it works for him though.

Well, ok, I'll think about what you all said.

However, I did contact him yesterday though (after 2 days of no contact), before I read your responses. Just sent him some information about a topic we dicussed on our last date and he had some questions I couldnt answer at that moment, some general stuff about economics and retirement age... Yes, not a topic you would think of discussing in the beginning of a potential romantic relationship, but.. I guess it was the safest topic to approach him without looking like clingy or desperate and at the same time show him I thought about our date and remembered what he had asked etc. So, he replied immidietely stating his opinion about the topic, I answered again, he asked another question, I wrote a long reply, and then again nothing. Yeah, I'm not sure I want to try again contacting him.

I'm not good at playing games and hard-to-get etc. If I like someone, I would like to see him, talk to him, get to know him. So I feel it's really hard for me to not ask him out if he does not do it (like - what if he is a bit shy and is not sure whether I like him and waits for me to do it?), moreover it is even more difficult for me to say "no" if he asks me out if I do not have anything else to do at the moment (of course, if I have other plans, I won't cancel those).

But yeah, I don't know. At the date he actually seemed really keen on me. He was friendly, but there were also all those signs - like sitting next to me in the middle of the date, very subtly touching my back or hand, putting his hand gently on my back a few times when walking (like guiding me away from obstacles on the way), a rather long hug at the end. I mean, he definetely did not look like he would just want to sleep with me - I guess he would have approached more strongly I guess? But it did not look like I-wanna-be-only-friends either due to the subtle touches and stuff.

But I actually think you're right. I'll wait and see and don't contact him again. If he is interested, then he eventually has to contact. If not, then yeah, no point in forcing someone.

Ok, so still no contact, he still has not answered my last reply to his question, which was 4 days ago. So I have mentally prepared myself that this it. And well maybe he is just this way, I'm not sure I would want any relationship if someone is so slow. Interest kind of fades away. I actually had another date with a guy, a week ago the night before the second date with the saggie. The other guy was not at all my type, so I figured I won't have a second date with him. However, he keeps pursuing me, in a nice and funny way, so as I was sitting home last night cursing the saggie, I decided to get my mind off things and gave the other guy another chance, just because he kept contacting me and showing interest. He was actually a bit different on the second date, seems rather cool guy. Not sure he is a relationship material, but I don't mind seeing him again. And with this guy I know, he has made it clear with his words and actions, that I will definitely see him again if I want to. So this shows to me that I really need contact between dates, it's necessary for me to keep the interest level up or increase it and gives me reassurance so I can be confident. The saggie does not meet those expectations unfortunately.

however. I'm a bit pissed off now too? like "seriously, no third date, no contact, really, dude? I'm not gonna let you get off the hook so easily". Lame, yeah, I know. I don't actually feel that I want to see him, I just want to.. Not let him get away so easily. Not a nice thing to do, I know and this basically means I'm putting myself through some further suffering, too. But I can't help it. I figured I want to contact him just to see whether he responds at all. But don't no actually what to say. So this is why I decided I will ask him out tonight. Not for a date, but to a event where I'm performing. He knows that I take belly dance classes. Tonight we are having our season final show, where we perform our new dances and there are other performers as well. So I'm gonna invite him there. I'm sure he won't come.

I know when I later think about it, I see that was the dumbest idea, but I can't help it. I promise you, I won't come here crying and whining later. I'll just come and tell you that it did not work out and then you can say "we told you do" ?

If you want consistency from a Sag, you're wasting your time

Don't do it.

If he didnt contact you, he is not interested. Or he is taking his time.

Either way, you will gain way more by not contacting him.

If he is not interested it will save you the embarrassment and will help start detaching. If you contact and he doesnt answer it will only build up frustration.

And if he is interested, he will eventually reach out, knowing that you dont freak out with him having some space.

I read her many ppl saying that it is by giving space that you get closer to a Sag. Ironic but I agree.

Good luck!

IamAries - yes, I thought the exact same thoughts. And I'm aware of the space thing. But then I thought the exact things Sagberry said.

So I asked him. Told him "hey, if you don't have any plans tonight but would like to have, then there is a small event of our studio." he asked rather quickly what time is it, told him, he said that he would come, but he has his football league game at the same time. (I checked by the way, they really had the game). So I said "it's even rather positive in the sense that I don't have to deal with an extra dose of performance excitement ?" (maybe stupid answer, but I tried to show him I'm cool). So then we even had a bit if small talk about our events. After my event I asked him how did their game went. He said they won and surprisingly even asked how I did. I congratulatied him and told I did rather well. And now of course there is the silence again ?

Ok, well. My ego did not get anything from it, because he fid have a good reason etc. But I'll guess I'll leave him be now. I won't write to him, and I won't ask him out again. Let him have his space. I guess if he had the issue that he waited for me to show initiative or interest, then I guess I did it now by asking him to the event. If that wasn't the case, I guess I fid not come on too strong to scare him away. I'll let him to decide now and meanwhile go on with my life.

I think you are wasting your time. I don't hang about if I can tell non interest.

Sounds he is just being polite or filling time in some way, It definitely sounds fishy that's for sure.

Do you really wanna be with someone who seems unwilling to communicate. Is he simple? hehe

That’s not a typical Sag, at least not from my experience .. he has very conflicting placements tho. That aqua Venus (I’m aqua Venus) & scorp Mars 😳 lol