Online all day (hourly) on WhatsApp.. could he be cheating? If so, how do I approach it?

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He is a man in his early 30s, lively, outgoing flirty, etc. been seeing him 5 months after meeting from online.. would send texts to me nearly every day (have totalled up to over 8,000 texts on WhatsApp now between us!) - we are quite light hearted, have friendly/flirty banter, etc.. He has a lot of gemini and sagittarius in his birth chart (yes I know, both very cheating prone/flighty signs), his actions matched his words, etc.

BUT since the last 2 weeks, things have been odd.. there's been (only 1 or 2) days when he hasn't been online at all (but I know that's because of crazy working hours so he was sleeping it off as I don't think he's been on dates all day long from morning till night lol)...no big issue.. but there's been a few days when he hasn't initiated any messages to me but when I initiate, he responds almost straight away and with the same enthusiasm as before.. I asked him why he had not said anything for 5 days to me and if he was angry at me.. he said no he wasn't and that I hadn't done anything wrong...I told him that 1 or 2 days of silence is not an issue as we all need our space occasionally but 5 days is odd.. he reassured me that he wasn't ignoring me on purpose and he had just been busy at a best friend's wedding abroad (which is true for sure as he's put wedding pics on fb).. I said what about the 2 days before.. he said his new job role doesn't give him much free time.. (although he's always been busy but still found time in the past to talk to me)..

The next day, he did initiate and seemed like he normally is, caring, responsive and lighthearted fun.. he got back to his home (1 hour flight) from the wedding weekend, yesterday night and all day today from about 9am to now (10.30pm) he has been online every 20 mins or so (across over 12 hours!) and no word from him at all.. I want to think he's just chatting to a mate or a new friend he made at the wedding but somehow I think it must be a girl... surely no guy chats to another guy for 12 hours straight..?

I remember the extreme enthusiasm of his texting frequency when we first met and they do say people who fall in love easily, fall out of it just as quickly.. We haven't had any huge rows and it's a fairly new relationship so I'd hate to think he was cheating already but I suppose a man with so much gemini/sagittarius in his chart, anything is possible..

I don't know how to approach the subject again without appearing needy/insecure/desperate for keeping track of his online times or like a total nag as he has implied he isn't cheating (but of course, most cheaters would say that...) but I can't not know either 😢...



We are kinda long distance-ish (about 2-3 hours away from each other by public transport or car) but that's been the case since the start.

Please do help

Thank you



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Posted by starwars
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are you scorpio

only scorpios ask these type of questions

my scorpio COLLEAGUE texted me the other day saying "It's 2am, who are you texting?"




A gurl? —
yep, but all the scorpios I know do that 😆
Generalizing is sign of stupidity!
the only sign of stupidity is gemini

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Word 'sign' have more definitions that astrological sign, stupid!!!

I am sure you have your moon or something's in Gemini.
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Posted by starwars
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by starwars
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by starwars
are you scorpio

only scorpios ask these type of questions

my scorpio COLLEAGUE texted me the other day saying "It's 2am, who are you texting?"




A gurl? —
yep, but all the scorpios I know do that 😆
Lmao

I can't stand some scorps. Those sneaky bytches. ?? Some are ok/nice tho. My scorp aunt is the most clueless scorp I know. She's nice. ☺☺


that sucks I love scorpios, ride or die all the ones I know are actually nice

I've only met 2 scorpios that I didn't like

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That's why you calling Scorpios 'trash'?

You are beyond stupid!
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Posted by starwars
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by starwars
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by starwars
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by starwars
are you scorpio

only scorpios ask these type of questions

my scorpio COLLEAGUE texted me the other day saying "It's 2am, who are you texting?"




A gurl? —
yep, but all the scorpios I know do that 😆
Generalizing is sign of stupidity!
the only sign of stupidity is gemini


Word 'sign' have more definitions that astrological sign, stupid!!!

I am sure you have your moon or something's in Gemini.


don't you say!

fuck no
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I am sure you've never dated but if you did he must had been a thug!
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You better forget about that dude, it seems to me you're investing way TOO MUCH TIME online etc., he's not worth it, he's playing you anyway. To have over 8000 texts in such a short time is insane, what else do you do?

I'm a 33 year old guy and I'm telling you the two of you aren't going anywhere. It's time for you to get serious and if you want a meaningful relationship DON'T look for it online. I go by,,,When the pain exceeds the pleasure it's time to move on. Good luck.
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You better forget about that dude, it seems to me you're investing way TOO MUCH TIME online etc., he's not worth it, he's playing you anyway. To have over 8000 texts in such a short time is insane, what else do you do?

I'm a 33 year old guy and I'm telling you the two of you aren't going anywhere. It's time for you to get serious and if you want a meaningful relationship DON'T look for it online. I go by,,,When the pain exceeds the pleasure it's time to move on. Good luck.
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Do you have to stay on the app all day, to know

that he's on the app all day?

That would be exhausting. ?
He's probably thinking the same thing about her since she's online all day as well

She needs something to occupy her time
...true because trust me...he's looking too

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Yep. He probably was checking on her the whole time